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"jo i think the woman should come first because most importantly you need to please the women then you can go yourself when shes happy "
I agree,but what about when us girls are playing? I love to make the lady I'm with come before I do, then come and come again! Z |
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"jo i think the woman should come first because most importantly you need to please the women then you can go yourself when shes happy
I agree,but what about when us girls are playing? I love to make the lady I'm with come before I do, then come and come again! Z"
interesting point ... toss a coin or somethings ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can enjoy sex without cumming, so the question would be do men enjoy sex without cumming, on another note, sometimes when I have a real extreme orgasm I cant tolerate being touched down below until it eases off and could imagine some other women might be the same. |
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well from our point of _iew,i can come more than once in a night,(male here),and that helps us alot in our trists,but on alot of occassions i tend to wait till the very end when both women have orgasmed and i can enjoy the glow of pleasure from them |
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interesting point ... toss a coin or somethings ?
where did that extra s come from 
damn fingers lol "
Sounds OK if you read in in the voice of that Meerkat.. Simples?!
Anyway, everyone know that man and woman should always cum in perfect unison. The planets align, waves crash over the sea shore, hours of foreplay and tantric sex come to a head.. then you both roll over and fall asleep, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think women should come first, though I agree that I get quite sensitive after I come so I do need my bits left alone for a few minutes to recover.
But I do think a man should be a gentleman and ensure the lady has a good time first before he lets go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i love threads like this where all the guys give it all the...i never cum first rubbish, when in real life lets be honest most men dont give a monkeys if the women cums or not, most dont even hang round long enough after they have cum to know if they did or not lol
*runs and hides behind sofa* |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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"i love threads like this where all the guys give it all the...i never cum first rubbish, when in real life lets be honest most men dont give a monkeys if the women cums or not, most dont even hang round long enough after they have cum to know if they did or not lol
*runs and hides behind sofa* "
What complete nonsense!!!
Everyone knows the female orgasm is a myth  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i love threads like this where all the guys give it all the...i never cum first rubbish, when in real life lets be honest most men dont give a monkeys if the women cums or not, most dont even hang round long enough after they have cum to know if they did or not lol
*runs and hides behind sofa*
What complete nonsense!!!
Everyone knows the female orgasm is a myth "
no its true, we just hold it back to make you lot work for longer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It should be the woman 1st but that's not always the case and that's fine as long as it's not all the time or the guy carries on using fingers and tongue till the woman has cum to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Normally you would say the woman given you guys can come multiple times a lot easiar than us men.
that said, with my girlfriend, I like to make her cum through oral a few times and dependent on what mood I might take her roughly and cum first but given I can stay quite hard for some time afterwards, she then loves to ride me a few times having a small then a large orgasm on me gushing and drenching me..
I think it all depends on mood, and persons really. after all, everyone is different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i love threads like this where all the guys give it all the...i never cum first rubbish, when in real life lets be honest most men dont give a monkeys if the women cums or not, most dont even hang round long enough after they have cum to know if they did or not lol
*runs and hides behind sofa* "
Bullshit. We're not all like that. You speak possibly for the guys you've met but that doesnt include me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i love threads like this where all the guys give it all the...i never cum first rubbish, when in real life lets be honest most men dont give a monkeys if the women cums or not, most dont even hang round long enough after they have cum to know if they did or not lol
*runs and hides behind sofa*
Bullshit. We're not all like that. You speak possibly for the guys you've met but that doesnt include me."
oh im sorry i forgot humor wasnt allowed in swinging  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"oooohhhh get the claws and gloves out.
FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT.
sod who cums first, I want to see who goes down in the first.
;)"
now now its about cumming but you can go down it helps lol. xx jo |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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Bullshit. We're not all like that. You speak possibly for the guys you've met but that doesnt include me."
Mate, I'm sure you're perfect, but I was thinking the same as NN - the thread is of a type that some males choose to use as a means of highlighting how considerate/well hung/non-pushy they are.
Or what a great sense of humour they have.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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exactly SDM...
that's why I said ME.
they get 11 strokes, maybe 12 on a good day, then a dribble.
then tea and biscuits.
more than that and they are just needy.
self centred people do my tits in.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I did bite and i'm sorry. No i'm not perfect as someone said. I just read it as a 'dig' at guys again.
Sorry"
nooo it was a joke, i love single guys i only meet single guys im not going to have a dig at them lol
it was just ment tongue in cheek thats why i put the hiding behind the sofa bit after to show it was light hearted
but if you all want to fight it out lets get naked and see whos wins |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think women should come first, though I agree that I get quite sensitive after I come so I do need my bits left alone for a few minutes to recover.
But I do think a man should be a gentleman and ensure the lady has a good time first before he lets go "
Thats what I always think at the start of a session , has worked on quite a few occasions but still would say men always come first.Again it depends on the women if she is very sensitive and you keep hitting the right spots then a woman can cum in as much time as a man .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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but if you all want to fight it out lets get naked and see whos wins "
I'm all for a game of tag team wrestling, i'm always last to get picked though..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can enjoy sex without cumming, so the question would be do men enjoy sex without cumming, on another note, sometimes when I have a real extreme orgasm I cant tolerate being touched down below until it eases off and could imagine some other women might be the same. "
must admit i'm a one hit wonder but i can have mini cum's for a good while , so i can atchieve 'almost orgasm' then hold till we both are spent , then its my turn to actually cum , so yes i can get pleasure from not cumming , any takers , lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can enjoy sex without cumming, so the question would be do men enjoy sex without cumming, on another note, sometimes when I have a real extreme orgasm I cant tolerate being touched down below until it eases off and could imagine some other women might be the same.
must admit i'm a one hit wonder but i can have mini cum's for a good while , so i can atchieve 'almost orgasm' then hold till we both are spent , then its my turn to actually cum , so yes i can get pleasure from not cumming , any takers , lol"
opps sorry to the spelling police , just read through what i typed |
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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago
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In a contest to see who comes last during intercourse, I'm always the loser. I try to ensure my partners gets as much pleasure as I can give with my tongue and accoutrements. Doesn't always result in her coming, but its a lot of fun trying. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"i love threads like this where all the guys give it all the...i never cum first rubbish, when in real life lets be honest most men dont give a monkeys if the women cums or not, most dont even hang round long enough after they have cum to know if they did or not lol
*runs and hides behind sofa* "
Bump for the...er...latecomers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am competitive - If I ran a 100mtrs and came first id get a medal and would be classed as best in my field - So I can only assume by coming first I am good at it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am competitive - If I ran a 100mtrs and came first id get a medal and would be classed as best in my field - So I can only assume by coming first I am good at it "
as long as after a rest you can again x i am ok with a man doing that x jo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd always strive to make the woman cum several times before penetration.
There's no guarantee that a woman can cum through penetration but there's a good chance that the guy will.
A woman's pleasure always comes foremost with me, after all, my pleasure is a foregone conclusion. R
XX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am competitive - If I ran a 100mtrs and came first id get a medal and would be classed as best in my field - So I can only assume by coming first I am good at it as long as after a rest you can again x i am ok with a man doing that x jo"
yeah just a little rest though - Not like I need to lay down in a darkened room or anything |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd always strive to make the woman cum several times before penetration.
There's no guarantee that a woman can cum through penetration but there's a good chance that the guy will.
A woman's pleasure always comes foremost with me, after all, my pleasure is a foregone conclusion. R wow your my sort of man you really are x
XX"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the man shud make the woman cum first so shes fully turned on before sex and if you are fully turned on i am shure the woman will return the favoure to the man who has taken the time to make her cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that whoever cums first should, ummm, cum first!
It's not a race and the play doesn't have to end as soon as someone has cum so it really doesn't matter in my opinion. |
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Maybe Im odd ( dont all agree at once ! ) but I dont like cumming together.. i love to enjoy the other person's orgasm and I can't do that if I'm having my own . If it happens it does, but i don't chase it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe Im odd ( dont all agree at once ! ) but I dont like cumming together.. i love to enjoy the other person's orgasm and I can't do that if I'm having my own . If it happens it does, but i don't chase it "
I agree with you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I quite like the guy to cum first... as long as he's a repeater and I get a few afterwards."
yes i am ok with men like this x some of the best sex ever have been with men like this for me. xx jo
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if he and she can both come repeatedly then it doesn't really matter... but if its the once for both of you then defiantly the woman.... these men tend to loose interest once their bit is done lol
I like my man to be ready to burst when i come not thinking whats for dinner lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Now i dont at times always cum that easy i do with oral. But can with having sex but take a time as i have lots of little O s before my big one ,, thats why i dont care if he cum and cum again i am in haven xx if he cum so fast and very little oral and thats it a bit of a let down ... so i like a repeter a man i can turn on and keep going xx jo xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as both cum and are well satisfied does it matter the order?
You could argue this a number of ways, and each scenario could be different!
Be rude not to cum first sometimes, but thankfully I can repeat, otherwise I could be in a world of trouble with certain ladies I know hehe
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Generally women first, but when seeing someone (rather than planned swing dates) there are those quickies just before you go out.
Or the nights when it was me first, simply because she was in charge, last GF used to like us to switch around. Thank god I never bought her a large strap-on, just a sensible sized one.
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When it's just the two of us he can usually wait until I've cum, but when we're swinging he always cums first, but can then keep going until his woman gets there. When I'm with a lover, as long as I get there myself I don't care what order it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i love threads like this where all the guys give it all the...i never cum first rubbish, when in real life lets be honest most men dont give a monkeys if the women cums or not, most dont even hang round long enough after they have cum to know if they did or not lol
*runs and hides behind sofa* "
Awe - poor you! Maybe you're just not meeting the right guys, you know, the kind and considerate type who love to please! I find it a massive turn on the make a girl cum. The more she climaxes the better it is - hehe! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love to go down first, it is like a starter before the main course and I always try to make sure the woman cums first, maybe I have met some greedy women, but there is nothing I love more than making a woman cum before me and will use all my bits to make sure she does. And I don't have Panda Syndrome, got to be foreplay love making and afterplay |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what about foreplay ? who should cum first ? .. May be both together and then play on ,,,
i love that cumming together its just rear i find xx"
Why is it rear ,,you sould be able to help and control each other until you both cant wait any longer. Unless you are being naughty and racing each other ,,, thats fun ,,,  |
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Women have the advantage over most men in that they can usually cum many times, while once most of us guys have shot our load we are not much good for a while - so let the woman come first (and as often as she can or wants to) then indulge yourself - I am particularly bad at reviving so have learnt to make myself last for quite a while.
I often get invited along to group sessions as ah extra male to help the other guys out during "recovery time".
Quite a bonus consequential upon male failings ....... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I mean the original question.To suggest there is a right way or a wrong way of doing anything that applies to everyone...is just ridiculous! "
well everyone if diffrent thats the thing i like about it here xx |
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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago
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interesting point ... toss a coin or somethings ?
where did that extra s come from
damn fingers lol
Sounds OK if you read in in the voice of that Meerkat.. Simples?!
Anyway, everyone know that man and woman should always cum in perfect unison. The planets align, waves crash over the sea shore, hours of foreplay and tantric sex come to a head.. then you both roll over and fall asleep, right?"
Thats exactly what we do.
guess we are perfecy
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always insist on a lady coming before I do. I consider it the height of bad manners not to for starters,as usually before sexual contact even takes place a woman will take longer to become aroused, so by the time fun is being had her needs must be satisfied! Plus in a somewhat selfish manner I find a blushing woman who is flush with fresh arousal an even sweeter joy to enter... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have given this matter further thought and I conclude....
I think the ugliest person should cum first… so the attractive one can do a runner without feeling guilty."
hahahahahaha! |
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When wearing a condom, I find that the loss of sensation allows me to last for quite some time, which is great as it means that the lady usually comes first.
Some ladies dont cum no matter how long you last, and some can come lots of times, so I guess it depends on a number of factors.
Ideally, I like to see the lady cum first, but on the very rare occassion that I "arrive" before her, I do like to carry on playing, seeing her having fun tends to make me hard again, and off we go lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to make the female cum first through foreplay, then I lay back and fall asleep as she sorts me out.
Kidding, but hell sometimes it has been like 1-2 hours foreplay... I think I got lock jaw! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think Joseph and then the Three Wise Men.
I really think the bible says Three Wide Men.......os wise...... c'mon .... three ?? easier to win the lottery |
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