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argh why do people do it!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why let it wind you up? It's just the Internet.
I'll say what I always say on these threads - I regularly get large amounts of messages in one day. This site is part of my chill time, the one time I don't have to feel obligated to do things I don't want to. So why would I spend time writing to guys I don't fancy - even if they tick all my boxes on paper.
A little odd if you've already become friends perhaps, but no point getting wound up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Need to stand out from the crowd.There is a lot of soldiers on here so keep poking your head in front and eventually you'll get ya head blown off 
Respect if you save us others though !
If you sat in the corner of a club and sulked may be some one would take pity and talk to ya but most would prob just put a boot in.
You've got it in coming I reckon lol.
Next !
"Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with me"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been there too, plus have chatted and got on very well with one lady and twice arranged a meet which suited us both and both times she has come back with an excuse she cant meet....at least she only wasted my time on here and not in person |
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By *emjoCouple
over a year ago
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We see someone not replying as the same as completely ignoring you if you spoke to them at a party.
On another site there was a button to send a standard no thanks message which you'd think would be a great idea. Most didn't even use the button. It's just plain rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why Im gonna do tomorrow is type out a response to this and save it on my computer and then ill cut and paste it in every day, because there is a thread on this same topic every single hour of the day |
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"We see someone not replying as the same as completely ignoring you if you spoke to them at a party.
On another site there was a button to send a standard no thanks message which you'd think would be a great idea. Most didn't even use the button. It's just plain rude."
It's not the same at all by any stretch of the imagination! I say that I only reply positively to those that are of interest to me as I can get 2 messages a minute when i am looking to meet (and not many less when i'm not) so to send a no thanks is too much hassle as most of the time you get a 'why' and it goes on from there! Do you ring all the companies who send you junk mail to say thanks but no thanks? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ahhh the life of a single guy on fabs!
Don't worry. you're not alone and someone will pop along. If you feel they're being rude, do you really want get to know someone like that? Block 'em and move on. |
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"ahhh the life of a single guy on fabs!
Don't worry. you're not alone and someone will pop along. If you feel they're being rude, do you really want get to know someone like that? Block 'em and move on."
lol - great advice - block some one who isn't interested in meeting you anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you might laugh but I've lost count of women who add you just to ogle your private photos every week and toy with the idea of sending you a message. I don't mind women doing that but have the decency to drop a message in my inbox. And you thought it was only single guys who are pervs!  |
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"you might laugh but I've lost count of women who add you just to ogle your private photos every week and toy with the idea of sending you a message. I don't mind women doing that but have the decency to drop a message in my inbox. And you thought it was only single guys who are pervs! "
Laugh? I'm hysterical here! The 'ladies' perving your pics are probably blokes anyway! I never add any one as a friend, we message - we arrange to meet - we meet - we ********* - we go our separate ways! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well then blocking them not such a bad idea after all then eh!
I like how you do things but the reality is not everyone is like you and I appreciate that. Sadly, that's what the problem is. There's no right or wrong way to do things. So if you have a certain way of doing things, stick by it to avoid confusion. Fair enough right? |
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"Well then blocking them not such a bad idea after all then eh!
I like how you do things but the reality is not everyone is like you and I appreciate that. Sadly, that's what the problem is. There's no right or wrong way to do things. So if you have a certain way of doing things, stick by it to avoid confusion. Fair enough right?"
Yeah, you're right, some people really don't meet and just like the idea, I don't block people any more - I have 1 blocked profile and it's a couple! |
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"Nice profile by the way!  "
Thank you, I've just had a peek at yours and you do seem to be a tad miffed! It's a pity as there are loads of very genuine people on this site, in fact it's probably the best at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm walking up and down, with my hands in my pockets, head down, whistling and kicking snow.
Aw good for you, at least you're happy. I like special people."
Thank you...I am quite happy to accept that as a compliment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, I am! Sadly, I've been messed about a bit and it's annoying. Like our soldier, you think it's going somewhere and then nothing. I'm not gonna pester people either because but single guys already have a bad enough. I have my preferences too so I move on. To be honest, it's lot different for women but that's cool. Fabs is just worried about people's safety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you might laugh but I've lost count of women who add you just to ogle your private photos every week and toy with the idea of sending you a message. I don't mind women doing that but have the decency to drop a message in my inbox. And you thought it was only single guys who are pervs! "
Okay i admit it, i perved  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why Im gonna do tomorrow is type out a response to this and save it on my computer and then ill cut and paste it in every day, because there is a thread on this same topic every single hour of the day "
Good...I can then just *nod in agreement*! |
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By *nlyme1Man
over a year ago
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"Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with me"
Honest mate, dont worry about it. It happens to the best of us. But I would say its totally rude and impolite, more so, you matched their criteria... I suppose some people are on here for attention, which is rather sad in my opinion. I treat people how I like to be treated. All the best though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been there too, plus have chatted and got on very well with one lady and twice arranged a meet which suited us both and both times she has come back with an excuse she cant meet....at least she only wasted my time on here and not in person"
But then you got to meet me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with me"
these threads remind me of the BBC,full of repeats.gets a bit boring after a while.have the forums really ran there course?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...these threads remind me of the BBC,full of repeats.gets a bit boring after a while.have the forums really ran there course? "
The BBC is full of repeats... Once in a while an interesting subject returns... Mainly I watch other channels...
Has the BBC had its day?? |
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I watched the Apprentice tonight on BBC iPlayer - in HD too... it was great to see Alan's slick haircut in high definition!
People moan about the BBC but when you're selective about what you watch and how much time you spend in front of the telly, it's easy to find great stuff to watch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with me"
You are right. Civility costs nothing and even if you don't click, there is nothing wrong with being friendly. You never know, situations change. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...these threads remind me of the BBC,full of repeats.gets a bit boring after a while.have the forums really ran there course?
The BBC is full of repeats... Once in a while an interesting subject returns... Mainly I watch other channels...
Has the BBC had its day??"
The BBC is only full of repeats if you have already watched em. Try listening to music, a good book????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...these threads remind me of the BBC,full of repeats.gets a bit boring after a while.have the forums really ran there course?
The BBC is full of repeats... Once in a while an interesting subject returns... Mainly I watch other channels...
Has the BBC had its day??
The BBC is only full of repeats if you have already watched em. Try listening to music, a good book?????"
the thread is what i was commenting on and not the BBC.then again its the same old posters with the same old drivel.a book beckons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...these threads remind me of the BBC,full of repeats.gets a bit boring after a while.have the forums really ran there course?
The BBC is full of repeats... Once in a while an interesting subject returns... Mainly I watch other channels...
Has the BBC had its day??
The BBC is only full of repeats if you have already watched em. Try listening to music, a good book?????the thread is what i was commenting on and not the BBC.then again its the same old posters with the same old drivel.a book beckons."
yep we are a right ol bunch o repeaters |
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"Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with methese threads remind me of the BBC,full of repeats.gets a bit boring after a while.have the forums really ran there course? "
Start your own original thread? Just an idea rather than making such a non contributary comment? Sorry this is ressurecting an old thread - haven't been here for a while! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with me"
Get used to it!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need a thicker skin!
I think my best chance of getting a foot in the door-so to speak-is by going to a nearby swingers club and meeting people there.
I know there are a few on here that go so perhaps I may get verified by playing there... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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or a funny idea crossed my mind, guys go on strike and don't reply to any messages for a set week. We could set up a picket line and everything.
Although we'd be broken quite easily by flashing of a bit of boob |
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"Ooh it winds me up so much when you message someone a perfectly nice message, including a face pic if they ask for it, and you meet every bit of their criteria, even become 'friends' on here, and then they read it and either never reply, or just delete it! it's so rude! I always make an effort to reply, or at least say I'm not interested (well never said that yet) lol.
sorry rant over now just had to let it out. do many others find this or is there just something wrong with me"
You are absolutely right....as long as your message was polite and genuine...if the recipient does not bother to acknowledge it at all they are being discourteous; pure and simple.
Many people on here confuse their 'preferences' with good manners sadly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because they can. And it's not personal, they don't know you, it's just a 'number's game'...."
Indeed.It's supply and demand.
I guess most females and couples get bombarded with too many messages to keep up with.
Your mail may have got read when they were pissed off or not paying attention.
Even if they miss a good one,thery know they'll get another... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep we do get bombarded and unless someones in my age range, looks range and ticks all my boxes then sadly they will deleted. There's nothing rude in it, just take it as I'm not interested in you and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep we do get bombarded and unless someones in my age range, looks range and ticks all my boxes then sadly they will deleted. There's nothing rude in it, just take it as I'm not interested in you and move on"
I think the OP meant that if you 'tick all the boxes' on your profile,age etc and have taken the time to read your profile and put some effort,sent a good message,then it's rude not to send a no thanks even if you're not interested...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep we do get bombarded and unless someones in my age range, looks range and ticks all my boxes then sadly they will deleted. There's nothing rude in it, just take it as I'm not interested in you and move on
I think the OP meant that if you 'tick all the boxes' on your profile,age etc and have taken the time to read your profile and put some effort,sent a good message,then it's rude not to send a no thanks even if you're not interested...
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But someone may tick all the boxes but you may still not like the look for them or the message they sent,so they should take a deleted message as a no thankyou. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep we do get bombarded and unless someones in my age range, looks range and ticks all my boxes then sadly they will deleted. There's nothing rude in it, just take it as I'm not interested in you and move on
I think the OP meant that if you 'tick all the boxes' on your profile,age etc and have taken the time to read your profile and put some effort,sent a good message,then it's rude not to send a no thanks even if you're not interested...
But someone may tick all the boxes but you may still not like the look for them or the message they sent,so they should take a deleted message as a no thankyou."
The thing is most of the couples/females complain about getting 'fancy a shag' messages or messages from people who don't read their profile and don't fit what they
are after.
They just simply delete those messages-which can be very dispiriting if you've read on a profile something along the lines of please read profile and put in BOLLOCKS as the title so we know you've read it,and we'll get back to you...
I'm not saying people shouldn't do what they want,but perhaps a little consideration would ease the wheels a little...
And maybe we wouldn't get so many single males making threads about timewasters and not getting meets etc...
Of course,what do females/couples care?
They get hundreds of messages a day so don't have to be nice.
Supply and demand... |
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Yep. Jade Goody's mum could put up a profile (complete with pics) and she'd still get a hundred messages a day being told she is gorgeous, sexy, would love to shag her etc
Is it any wonder some ladies start to believe their own hype... |
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By *otswbabeCouple
over a year ago
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Be grateful that these rude people are not wasting any more of your time and have let you know that they are not for you. You're right, its bad manners but not the worst on site! Can't quite work up a tear or rock uk corner... sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get "well crafted" messages all the time, but when I look at the profile they're about 5ft 3 or can't accommodate!
As my profile states if you don't meet what I'm looking for I wont reply, I don't think I'm rude at all to delete without responding.
If, however, someone has written a nice mail, meets my criteria, but I don't find them sexually attractive I will send them a thanks, no thanks letter. In fairness it will be followed by a "thanks for replying and good luck" but there's also the "I meet your criteria why won't you meet me?" types.
Why some people can't accept they'll NEVER appeal to everyone is beyong me. Hey ho! |
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