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How do you ask your partener if she is interested in swinging???
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"well you know i love you lots .......fancy sharing the love? "blimey double take, thought u were propositioning me then  | |||
"'Hello Love, ever thought about having sex with saomeone else? You know, wife swapping etc?' No?...*cough*...me neither!"  | |||
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"guess you don't play games or discuss fantasies then?" That's how it all started with us and now our fantasies are played for real we just need to find some new fantasies now  | |||
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"Its all in the title" original poster appears to have fallen into the quagmire. tch another one | |||
"why are you feeling my tits in this car at 11pm in the middle of no where. why are you flashing the interior light? who the fuck are they? deal done......." I nearly fell off my chair laughing  | |||
"why are you feeling my tits in this car at 11pm in the middle of no where. why are you flashing the interior light? who the fuck are they? deal done....... I nearly fell off my chair laughing "my work here is done........ | |||
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"take a trip to amsterdamm sex museum then a show red light district then watch a 3 sum movie wow she enjoying herself a long term girfriend went with ne day ans said her friend carol had a 3 sum i said wow rally do you want one like the one we saw in the movie the othr night went a sex club club paridise asked a sex shop ower wer there was one and had a fab time went for a nice meal afterwards wow did we really do that !!! element of suprise might help but don't force it ignore the jokes its always a difficult subject to discuss really " Especially if English is your second language.  | |||
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"well you know i love you lots .......fancy sharing the love?
blimey double take, thought u were propositioning me then "Ooooo! Can I watch! | |||
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"Guys n Gals, The piss takes / jokes, although funny, are really not helpful in a situation where one wants to explore this side of a couples sexuality, and one has no effing idea where to start. The OP is clearly seeking help on how to raise the subject in order to join the ‘enlightened society’ that you are honoured members of that us mere mortals aspire to. Take the piss all you want, but when you have been with someone for a number of years and have a special bond, how the hell do you raise the subject of , “ Look Hunny, I want to stay with you, but the thought of you / me fucking someone else whilst you’re there really does it for me...” No matter how you slice it, unless you are clear that you are into swinging from day 1, it will always be a shock and a potential relationship breaker. So, all you piss takers, and you know who you are, why not regale us with the stories of how YOU brought the subject up. Of course, all those relationships that ended in failure as a result will no doubt NOT be represented! In summary – YOU HAVE ALL HAD TO RAISE THIS ISSUE – and you all have dealt with is successfully, don’t give the OP shit because they are bold enough to be asking advice, isn’t what THIS FORUM is for? Tell your story, one may well resonate with the OP and they may well be meeting with you one day. Apologies to those who have provided a genuine, helpful advice, but after watching a number of threads over the last few weeks, I am getting getting sick and effing tired of the abuse that new people on the scene get from the those (typically the same small minded individuals who haunt this place) who think they have a divine right to judge others when they have no idea of personal circumstances – and yes, if you look me up there is a bloody long thread on my issue, but I do not give a damn.... it taught me not to bother asking you lot anything as only those who speak in private have anything constructive to say. The public responses are more to do with points scoring and the posters own egos than providing advice on what are difficult issues (see apology above to those who actually respect this Forum for what it should be) Ok, gauntlet laid, bring it on, but do us all a favour, keep it private, or start a new effing thread of you reaaly want to go to town on me. Altrernatively, why not actually help the OP and respond privately about how it worked for you, that would be the mature option. Anyone wishing to have a go at the person who had a go at those who had a go at the OP - can you even work that one out! " I didn't read all this but it's not altogether relevant as virtually all the couples here entered into swinging either together or were totslly honest from the outset that they were swingers - to start doing it behind your partners back, join a swingers site THEN try to bring up the subject is a totally different and dishonest scenario. Just my point of _iew of course. Z | |||
"Guys n Gals, The piss takes / jokes, although funny, are really not helpful in a situation where one wants to explore this side of a couples sexuality, and one has no effing idea where to start. The OP is clearly seeking help on how to raise the subject in order to join the ‘enlightened society’ that you are honoured members of that us mere mortals aspire to. Take the piss all you want, but when you have been with someone for a number of years and have a special bond, how the hell do you raise the subject of , “ Look Hunny, I want to stay with you, but the thought of you / me fucking someone else whilst you’re there really does it for me...” No matter how you slice it, unless you are clear that you are into swinging from day 1, it will always be a shock and a potential relationship breaker. So, all you piss takers, and you know who you are, why not regale us with the stories of how YOU brought the subject up. Of course, all those relationships that ended in failure as a result will no doubt NOT be represented! In summary – YOU HAVE ALL HAD TO RAISE THIS ISSUE – and you all have dealt with is successfully, don’t give the OP shit because they are bold enough to be asking advice, isn’t what THIS FORUM is for? Tell your story, one may well resonate with the OP and they may well be meeting with you one day. Apologies to those who have provided a genuine, helpful advice, but after watching a number of threads over the last few weeks, I am getting getting sick and effing tired of the abuse that new people on the scene get from the those (typically the same small minded individuals who haunt this place) who think they have a divine right to judge others when they have no idea of personal circumstances – and yes, if you look me up there is a bloody long thread on my issue, but I do not give a damn.... it taught me not to bother asking you lot anything as only those who speak in private have anything constructive to say. The public responses are more to do with points scoring and the posters own egos than providing advice on what are difficult issues (see apology above to those who actually respect this Forum for what it should be) Ok, gauntlet laid, bring it on, but do us all a favour, keep it private, or start a new effing thread of you reaaly want to go to town on me. Altrernatively, why not actually help the OP and respond privately about how it worked for you, that would be the mature option. Anyone wishing to have a go at the person who had a go at those who had a go at the OP - can you even work that one out! " You say the OP is 'clearly seeking help'... really? Is he? That's not clear to me. Asking a question and seeking help are not always the same thing. Why would it be clear to any of us that a 'single man' asking this question was genuinely seeking help? | |||
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"But just in case.... to answer the title.... If you have an established relationship and don’t already discuss sex to any degree because your partner doesn’t want to discuss it, even when it’s just about the two of you… you don’t… you need to get this bit sorted first. If you have a partner who just goes through the motions and isn’t really interested in sex… you don’t… you need to get to the bottom of this bit first. If you have a relationship where there are ‘trust issues’… you don’t… you get this sorted first. If you are not prepared to go at your partner’s pace and wait for them to be ready… you don’t… you need to stop being a selfish prick and learn to do things for both of you. If you are not prepared to put your partner’s feelings before your own desires to get your leg over another bit of skirt… you don’t…. see previous advice. If you are not that interested in meeting couples and think it’s an easy way for you to shag more women without the hassle of doing it behind her back… and a chance to get her in your fantasy ffm… you don’t… unless you are prepared for the fact she will be inundated with offers from other men, LOTS of other men and may not be interested in meeting other women. If you think anyone here will have a greater understanding of your partner and what sort of conversations you could have with her, without pissing her off… you don’t…. because you obviously know fuck all about her. " Not like you to be so fwuffy wuffy and fuzzy Polo!!! | |||
"Guys n Gals, The piss takes / jokes, although funny, are really not helpful in a situation where one wants to explore this side of a couples sexuality, and one has no effing idea where to start. The OP is clearly seeking help on how to raise the subject in order to join the ‘enlightened society’ that you are honoured members of that us mere mortals aspire to. Take the piss all you want, but when you have been with someone for a number of years and have a special bond, how the hell do you raise the subject of , “ Look Hunny, I want to stay with you, but the thought of you / me fucking someone else whilst you’re there really does it for me...” No matter how you slice it, unless you are clear that you are into swinging from day 1, it will always be a shock and a potential relationship breaker. So, all you piss takers, and you know who you are, why not regale us with the stories of how YOU brought the subject up. Of course, all those relationships that ended in failure as a result will no doubt NOT be represented! In summary – YOU HAVE ALL HAD TO RAISE THIS ISSUE – and you all have dealt with is successfully, don’t give the OP shit because they are bold enough to be asking advice, isn’t what THIS FORUM is for? Tell your story, one may well resonate with the OP and they may well be meeting with you one day. Apologies to those who have provided a genuine, helpful advice, but after watching a number of threads over the last few weeks, I am getting getting sick and effing tired of the abuse that new people on the scene get from the those (typically the same small minded individuals who haunt this place) who think they have a divine right to judge others when they have no idea of personal circumstances – and yes, if you look me up there is a bloody long thread on my issue, but I do not give a damn.... it taught me not to bother asking you lot anything as only those who speak in private have anything constructive to say. The public responses are more to do with points scoring and the posters own egos than providing advice on what are difficult issues (see apology above to those who actually respect this Forum for what it should be) Ok, gauntlet laid, bring it on, but do us all a favour, keep it private, or start a new effing thread of you reaaly want to go to town on me. Altrernatively, why not actually help the OP and respond privately about how it worked for you, that would be the mature option. Anyone wishing to have a go at the person who had a go at those who had a go at the OP - can you even work that one out! " no offence... but a lot of that is total tosh in this situation for the reason that zoe said... i n the fact that shouldn't you be having that conversation FIRST before signing yourself up as a single bloke and jumping headlong onto a swinging site in fact I'd love to be a fly on the wall for this conversation.... "oh by the way the love of my life... I have been on this site as a single guy and been looking at meeting people behind your back for several months now.... but now I have decided that I would like to try it with you!" So.... hmmmmm..... how do you think this would go down... in fact.... lets ask you that if the situation was reversed and you were on the other end of this chat now... how would you feel..... and thats not me being moralistic, thats just the reality of the situation now! in fact the person who should know his partner best is him! if he doesn't know her well enough to know what her reaction is likely to be then what is the point in the first place.... in fact... can i be there when that chat goes down... I even promise to bring popcorn!!!  (yes that last bit was sarcasm!) | |||
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