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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks. "
I would simply say that I knew there was a bloody good reason for our decision not to do socials  |
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks.
Check to see if we were free at the same time.
How would you react?"
I would understand that life has a habit of getting in the way and ask them to let me know when they are free and hope to be able to co-ordinate something at that time. |
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over a year ago
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There is always time, its not like everyone are busy 24/7, unlike me that's free everyday lol, but yeah I prob would ask why and yeah keep in touch via text and if they don't reply and stuff, my interest would stop with them pretty quick. |
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I would have no problems at all with it. They have commitments, so do I . Just arrange a fun meet when both schedules allow .Can use time to tease each other and build up some more sexual tension. ..mmmmmmmm! !!  |
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"There is always time, its not like everyone are busy 24/7, unlike me that's free everyday lol, but yeah I prob would ask why and yeah keep in touch via text and if they don't reply and stuff, my interest would stop with them pretty quick."
But there isn't always time...if travel time has to be factored in and if people lead busy lives as it is... |
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"I would have no problems at all with it. They have commitments, so do I . Just arrange a fun meet when both schedules allow .Can use time to tease each other and build up some more sexual tension. ..mmmmmmmm! !! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would have no problems at all with it. They have commitments, so do I . Just arrange a fun meet when both schedules allow .Can use time to tease each other and build up some more sexual tension. ..mmmmmmmm! !!
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I'd rarely chat a lot to someone that I'm already gonna meet..because in the meantime, I'll be arranging other meets before I meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is always time, its not like everyone are busy 24/7, unlike me that's free everyday lol, but yeah I prob would ask why and yeah keep in touch via text and if they don't reply and stuff, my interest would stop with them pretty quick.
But there isn't always time...if travel time has to be factored in and if people lead busy lives as it is..."
That's right and I guess it depends as well how far your travelling to x. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definetly no problem for me to wait to arrange a meet. I have one man that by the time we meet will have been a few months since we first talked. Arranging a time to suit both sides takes time sometimes... That's life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think any different as we all fab as part time I hope and have full time life/job/family that get priority... So I would understand and see if they're free next few weeks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is always time, its not like everyone are busy 24/7, unlike me that's free everyday lol, but yeah I prob would ask why and yeah keep in touch via text and if they don't reply and stuff, my interest would stop with them pretty quick."
There isn't always time for us... We have a young child, both work full time and one has a two hour commute either way. Weekeds are generally ok (assuming we get childcare and we don't have other commitments ... Birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, parties, holidays etc). Can't believe how busy we are most of the time!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That could be me!
Im a busy working single mum, with school summer holidays haven't had even 5 mins to myself.
Some men are understanding others not so, their loss as Im worth waiting for!!
As someone else said it it happens it happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life gets in the way, no big deal. The unfortunate problem arises because I struggle to keep in touch. I always figure people have their own lives to live and don't need me cluttering it up, so I'm unlikely to initiate conversation |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Often the way for me. I don't have much free time, and often between finding someone that I like chatting to on here, to getting time for a social to then another meet can be months.
I do chat regularly but prefer nothing naughty (flirty is fine)
Thankfully most people understand that there is a life beyond fab! |
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"Often the way for me. I don't have much free time, and often between finding someone that I like chatting to on here, to getting time for a social to then another meet can be months.
I do chat regularly but prefer nothing naughty (flirty is fine)
Thankfully most people understand that there is a life beyond fab!"
Sadly some people don't...perhaps one would be lucky to escape those people should they make themselves know! |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"Often the way for me. I don't have much free time, and often between finding someone that I like chatting to on here, to getting time for a social to then another meet can be months.
I do chat regularly but prefer nothing naughty (flirty is fine)
Thankfully most people understand that there is a life beyond fab!
Sadly some people don't...perhaps one would be lucky to escape those people should they make themselves know! "
I'm upfront about it as soon as I start chatting - and let people know my life outwith fab takes precedence. If thy choose to go no further, then thats fine.
Also if they get pushy about meeting, then I remind them once and then the next time is a block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is always time, its not like everyone are busy 24/7, unlike me that's free everyday lol, but yeah I prob would ask why and yeah keep in touch via text and if they don't reply and stuff, my interest would stop with them pretty quick."
there isn't always time if you have children. 6 weeks summer holidays and no childcare makes it very difficult to meet for a few weeks
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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"Wouldn't care one way or the other.
We either get together at some point or we don't."
Same for us. If you have met and fancy them, i assume you'll fancy them in a week or a month or 6 months right? Anyway its not as though you are monogamous to each other and cant play elsewhere until he is free. |
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks.
Spend a few weeks enjoying the anticipation.  "
Indeed. If only people thought like that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks. "
My life's a bit mental at the moment, depends on how much you like them I guess, if you're not happy with it, move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From experience it seems like the longer you wait the less likely it is to happen as one of the parties loses interest, especially as we tend to meet as and when we feel like it rather than planning weeks ahead, so we'd probably just move on to someone else we liked.
If it eventually did happen then we'd see it as a bonus lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks. "
We had a great social meet with a couple and couldn't get a mutual date in our diaries for almost 3 months. So we booked it in and had an absolutely fabulous meet with them 3 months later...
It works well on some occasions... |
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks.
We had a great social meet with a couple and couldn't get a mutual date in our diaries for almost 3 months. So we booked it in and had an absolutely fabulous meet with them 3 months later...
It works well on some occasions..."
I guess it's all down to attitudes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks. "
well it might be true... just tell him/her/them that I hope they will get back to you when he/she/they can... if they don't you'll know he/she/they bullshitted you |
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"If you had met someone socially but they said couldn't fit a play meet in for a while? I.e. A number of weeks.
well it might be true... just tell him/her/them that I hope they will get back to you when he/she/they can... if they don't you'll know he/she/they bullshitted you "
I love how people seem to be thinking that this has happened to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't do socials partly to avoid situations like this. I May not be able to meet again for another couple of months and with some people it takes us ages to get a time when we are both free. |
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"I don't do socials partly to avoid situations like this. I May not be able to meet again for another couple of months and with some people it takes us ages to get a time when we are both free. "
Fair enough.
Personally I can't fuck someone without there being chemistry...which I establish by having a social. I've done it before and left totally unsatisfied so I refuse to do it again. |
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"I don't do socials partly to avoid situations like this. I May not be able to meet again for another couple of months and with some people it takes us ages to get a time when we are both free.
Fair enough.
Personally I can't fuck someone without there being chemistry...which I establish by having a social. I've done it before and left totally unsatisfied so I refuse to do it again. "
I can't fuck someone with no chemistry either. |
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"I don't do socials partly to avoid situations like this. I May not be able to meet again for another couple of months and with some people it takes us ages to get a time when we are both free.
Fair enough.
Personally I can't fuck someone without there being chemistry...which I establish by having a social. I've done it before and left totally unsatisfied so I refuse to do it again.
I can't fuck someone with no chemistry either. "
How do you know if you will have chemistry if you've never met?
I don't know until i've spent some time with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't do socials partly to avoid situations like this. I May not be able to meet again for another couple of months and with some people it takes us ages to get a time when we are both free.
Fair enough.
Personally I can't fuck someone without there being chemistry...which I establish by having a social. I've done it before and left totally unsatisfied so I refuse to do it again.
I can't fuck someone with no chemistry either.
How do you know if you will have chemistry if you've never met?
I don't know until i've spent some time with them. "
I'm pretty good at telling through the communication we have prior to meeting. I've been wrong once in 3 years. |
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"I don't do socials partly to avoid situations like this. I May not be able to meet again for another couple of months and with some people it takes us ages to get a time when we are both free.
Fair enough.
Personally I can't fuck someone without there being chemistry...which I establish by having a social. I've done it before and left totally unsatisfied so I refuse to do it again.
I can't fuck someone with no chemistry either.
How do you know if you will have chemistry if you've never met?
I don't know until i've spent some time with them.
I'm pretty good at telling through the communication we have prior to meeting. I've been wrong once in 3 years."
Furry muff...my once in 4 years (although it was probably only 1 year then) is enough to have put me off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't do socials partly to avoid situations like this. I May not be able to meet again for another couple of months and with some people it takes us ages to get a time when we are both free.
Fair enough.
Personally I can't fuck someone without there being chemistry...which I establish by having a social. I've done it before and left totally unsatisfied so I refuse to do it again.
I can't fuck someone with no chemistry either.
How do you know if you will have chemistry if you've never met?
I don't know until i've spent some time with them.
I'm pretty good at telling through the communication we have prior to meeting. I've been wrong once in 3 years.
Furry muff...my once in 4 years (although it was probably only 1 year then) is enough to have put me off!"
My once was when I rushed into meeting and didn't follow my usual method. I was feeling spontaneous and it didn't pay off....luckily I hardly ever get the chance to be spontaneous now and I have someone I can met with should the mood grab me |
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