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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Afternoon,
What acts do you guys reserve only for your partner and does this change if your swinging with different sexes?
For example, our limits of what I will do with a female are different to a male, and although I love seeing R with another woman, we have decided that this wouldn't extend to anal.
I believe some couples don't kiss their swing partners and this was something that I was just unsure whether I would be comfortable seeing R do... not an issue for us now though, nothing more sexy than seeing my sexy man enjoying another, especially the intimacy of kissing.
Curious to hear what others thoughts and limits are, there is another post on here about DP where a lot of couples also seem to reserve anal for partners only which had me wondering
Rach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing, really. I think everything I do with Marc is special simply because it's with him.
It seems somewhat artificial to me to set boundaries of specific acts that can and can't happen with others when, in my opinion, an experience with another person/couple is about everyone involved, and since we never play separately Marc is always there.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing.
I *will not* keep things "special" for just one person.
Bareback is the only thing we reserve for each other
Wd40 x"
Ah bareback.... ofc. Wouldn't dream of that with swing partners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing.
I *will not* keep things "special" for just one person.
Bareback is the only thing we reserve for each other
Wd40 x
Ah bareback.... ofc. Wouldn't dream of that with swing partners "
Yeah, if I had a partner, that would be the one that I'd suggest... If they don't mention it first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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V here.
Other than bareback which is a given, I don't think I'd do anything new or unrealised fantasy stuff without A. So if there was something we have on our list of to-dos I wouldn't do it elsewhere as a first.
V xx
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We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings. |
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings. "
 Seems de rigueur on the forums to justify choices/preferences etc. |
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings.
Seems de rigueur on the forums to justify choices/preferences etc."
It does doesn't it and then for people to question those justifications. I'm often mildly surprised by the lack of tolerance for other people's preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing.
I *will not* keep things "special" for just one person."
We don't reserve anything just for us. Sex with swingers is just sex- a fun physical act. Sex together is deeper, more intimate, despite the acts themselves being the same. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"Nothing, really. I think everything I do with Marc is special simply because it's with him.
It seems somewhat artificial to me to set boundaries of specific acts that can and can't happen with others when, in my opinion, an experience with another person/couple is about everyone involved, and since we never play separately Marc is always there.
-Courtney"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing.
I *will not* keep things "special" for just one person.
Bareback is the only thing we reserve for each other
Wd40 x"
My god! You found another use for WD40 the miracle aerosol? ohhh I seee! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings. "
This is the same as us. We reserve lots of things just for us. We have been told we are too tame to be 'swingers' by one couple but quite frankly we don't care. We respect other peoples choices and boundaries and wouldn't want to meet those that wouldn't offer us the same courtesy.
B xx |
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings.
This is the same as us. We reserve lots of things just for us. We have been told we are too tame to be 'swingers' by one couple but quite frankly we don't care. We respect other peoples choices and boundaries and wouldn't want to meet those that wouldn't offer us the same courtesy.
B xx"
the only thing I really struggle with on here is the inability of many to accept that just because people have a different way of meeting or playing than them it doesn't mean they're wrong and it isn't a personal attack on the way they do things. |
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"V here.
Other than bareback which is a given, I don't think I'd do anything new or unrealised fantasy stuff without A. So if there was something we have on our list of to-dos I wouldn't do it elsewhere as a first.
V xx
Same for us
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings.
This is the same as us. We reserve lots of things just for us. We have been told we are too tame to be 'swingers' by one couple but quite frankly we don't care. We respect other peoples choices and boundaries and wouldn't want to meet those that wouldn't offer us the same courtesy.
B xx
the only thing I really struggle with on here is the inability of many to accept that just because people have a different way of meeting or playing than them it doesn't mean they're wrong and it isn't a personal attack on the way they do things."
Exactly. It would be a much nicer/easier experience all round if people could understand this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings.
This is the same as us. We reserve lots of things just for us. We have been told we are too tame to be 'swingers' by one couple but quite frankly we don't care. We respect other peoples choices and boundaries and wouldn't want to meet those that wouldn't offer us the same courtesy.
B xx
the only thing I really struggle with on here is the inability of many to accept that just because people have a different way of meeting or playing than them it doesn't mean they're wrong and it isn't a personal attack on the way they do things.
Exactly. It would be a much nicer/easier experience all round if people could understand this. "
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"Afternoon,
What acts do you guys reserve only for your partner and does this change if your swinging with different sexes?
For example, our limits of what I will do with a female are different to a male, and although I love seeing R with another woman, we have decided that this wouldn't extend to anal.
I believe some couples don't kiss their swing partners and this was something that I was just unsure whether I would be comfortable seeing R do... not an issue for us now though, nothing more sexy than seeing my sexy man enjoying another, especially the intimacy of kissing.
Curious to hear what others thoughts and limits are, there is another post on here about DP where a lot of couples also seem to reserve anal for partners only which had me wondering
Rach x"
Def bareback for each other safe sex a must . We never kissed swing partners just tried and both felt comfortable . We both wouldn't do anal giving or receiving |
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings.
Seems de rigueur on the forums to justify choices/preferences etc.
It does doesn't it and then for people to question those justifications. I'm often mildly surprised by the lack of tolerance for other people's preference."
I'm no longer surprised by the lack of tolerance. I'm surprised people feel they need to justify, to the point of apologising in some cases for their preferences.
Why, I don't know! |
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"We have things we reserve for each other only but we never justify our reasons, if the people we're meeting are unhappy with our boundaries or we with theirs we will go our separate ways with no hard feelings.
This is the same as us. We reserve lots of things just for us. We have been told we are too tame to be 'swingers' by one couple but quite frankly we don't care. We respect other peoples choices and boundaries and wouldn't want to meet those that wouldn't offer us the same courtesy.
B xx
the only thing I really struggle with on here is the inability of many to accept that just because people have a different way of meeting or playing than them it doesn't mean they're wrong and it isn't a personal attack on the way they do things."
I'm in total agreement with you again. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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When I was with my long term swinging partner it was bareback and falling in love. Sadly he fell for some new girl and we split. Swinging for me is about physical pleasure and not getting romantically involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A slightly related tangent because I'm curious...
If you reserve cuddling for just your partner, does that mean that you don't cuddle your platonic friends either?
I don't know how I'd manage that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Afternoon,
What acts do you guys reserve only for your partner and does this change if your swinging with different sexes?
For example, our limits of what I will do with a female are different to a male, and although I love seeing R with another woman, we have decided that this wouldn't extend to anal.
I believe some couples don't kiss their swing partners and this was something that I was just unsure whether I would be comfortable seeing R do... not an issue for us now though, nothing more sexy than seeing my sexy man enjoying another, especially the intimacy of kissing.
Curious to hear what others thoughts and limits are, there is another post on here about DP where a lot of couples also seem to reserve anal for partners only which had me wondering
Rach x"
Why not anal? It's just another hole, and I don't feel having sex anally is more special than vaginerly (is that even a word  ) 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bareback, anal and cuddling for us... First one obvious.. 2nd is just for me receiving... As I can't with just anyone .. cuddling is just because its something I would just do with Mr... He loves cuddles but does respect my views on it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Afternoon,
What acts do you guys reserve only for your partner and does this change if your swinging with different sexes?
For example, our limits of what I will do with a female are different to a male, and although I love seeing R with another woman, we have decided that this wouldn't extend to anal.
I believe some couples don't kiss their swing partners and this was something that I was just unsure whether I would be comfortable seeing R do... not an issue for us now though, nothing more sexy than seeing my sexy man enjoying another, especially the intimacy of kissing.
Curious to hear what others thoughts and limits are, there is another post on here about DP where a lot of couples also seem to reserve anal for partners only which had me wondering
Rach x
Why not anal? It's just another hole, and I don't feel having sex anally is more special than vaginerly (is that even a word )
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One of the biggest turn ons for us N having her arse used and pleasured by several men, and being left with that nice red and sore look |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Afternoon,
What acts do you guys reserve only for your partner and does this change if your swinging with different sexes?
For example, our limits of what I will do with a female are different to a male, and although I love seeing R with another woman, we have decided that this wouldn't extend to anal.
I believe some couples don't kiss their swing partners and this was something that I was just unsure whether I would be comfortable seeing R do... not an issue for us now though, nothing more sexy than seeing my sexy man enjoying another, especially the intimacy of kissing.
Curious to hear what others thoughts and limits are, there is another post on here about DP where a lot of couples also seem to reserve anal for partners only which had me wondering
Rach x
Why not anal? It's just another hole, and I don't feel having sex anally is more special than vaginerly (is that even a word )
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Not sure why but something we both said straight off. I don't view anal the same as vaginally outside the swinging lifestyle, it's something I've only done with select partners. |
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