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To Veri or Not to Veri
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I dont like to hurt meets feelings...
But ive found myself saying to meets is it ok if we dont veri...
Ive found previous meets get a little annoyed if I have other meets ...
But these other meets are meeting other people which doesnt upset me....
Im on fab im not going to be monogomus to any one person....
Its starting to get a little mind boogling 
Does anyone else feel a little uncomfortable about getting veris...?
I love giving them, just not receiving them  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
The first time a chap ever tasks me for enjoying meets and getting verified would be the last time. I'm not in a relationship with anyone so they can just put up with it.
Don't ever let anyone dictate how you run your profile or how you choose to meet on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont like to hurt meets feelings...
But ive found myself saying to meets is it ok if we dont veri...
Ive found previous meets get a little annoyed if I have other meets ...
But these other meets are meeting other people which doesnt upset me....
Im on fab im not going to be monogomus to any one person....
Its starting to get a little mind boogling
Does anyone else feel a little uncomfortable about getting veris...?
I love giving them, just not receiving them "
I wonder if I should give veris, especially if it's a different kind of meet to previously, but I kinda go on the opinion of, if they don't verify me, I don't verify them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont like to hurt meets feelings...
But ive found myself saying to meets is it ok if we dont veri...
Ive found previous meets get a little annoyed if I have other meets ...
But these other meets are meeting other people which doesnt upset me....
Im on fab im not going to be monogomus to any one person....
Its starting to get a little mind boogling
Does anyone else feel a little uncomfortable about getting veris...?
I love giving them, just not receiving them "
I always verify newbies , and always single guys we meet even if no play etc etc
Couples and women and men we verify. If they collect verifications
Other than that it depends some like them some don't , we don't display ours as we don't meet from here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just dont want to offend anyone...
But seems to happen ...
If I chatted and meet soneone its because im attracted to them, but I dont want marry them ffs !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or "I don't want/need a veri" but then go on to display veris from other meets, At first it did have me wondering why,
But it's their profile they can do what they want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dont want to offend anyone...
But seems to happen ...
If I chatted and meet soneone its because im attracted to them, but I dont want marry them ffs !! "
Surely that's their problem, not yours duck. You can't please everyone all the time, so just do what you decide you want to do, and if someone has a problem, they've shown they're not worth your time |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
Hastings |
I like to veri people I've met,even I its jst a social jst to show that they ate genuine nice people,if I've met for a good time I sometimes go into detail
I have met people that haven't veri'd me after saying they would that hurts a little sometimes,one said they didn't wanna veri me because it was between me and them despite them showing the veri o wrote them on their page so a little hurtful but I've learned that at the end of the day I had a good time and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we've had people rather annoyed that we moved on from our initial tentative steps in swinging with them to playing with other people and hosting at a club, why they have been annoyed is beyond us but some still seem to check out our profile every time we display a new veri!!! One couple got most annoyed and blocked us x |
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I will verify anyone I've had a good time with (though, there is one I haven't, not because I had a bad time, quite the opposite, it's a different situation as I've known him longer), but I won't certify anyone I've had anything but a good time with.
I don't want anyone to be able to use a less than stellar meet as a veri, by just showing the summary, and not the words I write. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find myself that many men on fab DO feel unhappy when I mention I have other meets but hey come on...why shouldn't I meet a few different guys??? Besides many of my meets have been social meets and I happy to verify each one. I personally would be reluctant to meet a guy with no verifications. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find myself that many men on fab DO feel unhappy when I mention I have other meets but hey come on...why shouldn't I meet a few different guys??? Besides many of my meets have been social meets and I happy to verify each one. I personally would be reluctant to meet a guy with no verifications."
See thats the point, if your meeting on Fab, your not a saint !!
But when you meet a man all of a sudden they want you to sprout white wings and a halo !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like the verifications because what I do is private, what I feel is even more private, I don't like comparisons between me and someone else, and a little jealousy is all too easy when you get to know someone more than as a random fuck.
Verifications are great for new people. But I'm not a kitchen appliance; I don't need a review and a rating. And I'm not low on confidence, so I don't need a gushing over-the-top verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A good veri(not to detailed, charming and well constructed) can be lovely. My last social hasn't logged on fab since we met, 2 weeks ago!? I wonder if it's rude to ask for a veri swap if she ever comes back!?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hide all my veris unless someone says I'm fake, then I display them for fifteen minutes.
Who I meet is my business and no one else's.
A man once said to me, 'your veris are all people who fuck everything, you're obviously not picky so why not meet me?'
How bloody insulting. To everyone involved.
Xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide all my veris unless someone says I'm fake, then I display them for fifteen minutes.
Who I meet is my business and no one else's.
A man once said to me, 'your veris are all people who fuck everything, you're obviously not picky so why not meet me?'
How bloody insulting. To everyone involved.
Xxxx"
As a single woman your damned if you do and damned if you dont !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hide all my veris unless someone says I'm fake, then I display them for fifteen minutes.
Who I meet is my business and no one else's.
A man once said to me, 'your veris are all people who fuck everything, you're obviously not picky so why not meet me?'
How bloody insulting. To everyone involved.
Xxxx
As a single woman your damned if you do and damned if you dont !!! "
Unfortunately so, hopefully things get better for you in the future |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wonder if I should give veris, especially if it's a different kind of meet to previously, but I kinda go on the opinion of, if they don't verify me, I don't verify them"
Your meets might think the exact same, 'he's not verified me/us so I/we won't verify him' so you both lose out on a verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There seems to be a lot of jealousy, possessiveness and attempts at control for a swingers site!!!
OP, you shouldn't let men dictate how you run your fab life. You don't owe anyone an explanation, you don't need anyone's permission, nobody owns you.
Meet who you wanna meet and verify who you want to verify.
Sounds like your ex-meets have other issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, you might have to grow a little tougher on here. Your profile, your rules, your game. It's not about hurting their feelings, it's about you standing up for what you want, how they chose to react to that is their business. |
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