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Starting a relationship with someone met through here.

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

My question is has anyone on here started a relationship with anyone they've met through here? That's for any type of relationship.

How was it, or is it?

Did you keep your single profiles and start a couples or have both?

Do you see other people separately, always meet others together or stopped meeting while together?

Would you stop using the site or use it differently?

Other questions, anyone can ask.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

There are dozens of examples, some disappear from the site, some stay and play as they ever did, some stay and play differently.

Not sure how helpful this is!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I will elaborate, I've met someone recently and we both got on really great. We have kept in touch everyday since. We have discussed starting a relationship together.

It's now got to the point where they'd love me to move in with them and see how things go. I don't have anything for me where I live as I'm currently looking for work and moving 40 miles away to another place I think will be good for me.

They know this and said they'd support me until I find some work in the area. They have their own business and said I'd be OK living with them. Said I could help with the business in the meantime if I wanted to.

I have been thinking about this for days now and thinking of giving it a try. I do need a change of scenery and really like the person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There are dozens of examples, some disappear from the site, some stay and play as they ever did, some stay and play differently.

Not sure how helpful this is!

Helpful enough, bit of everything really.

I asked because of something that's currently happening to me.

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By *epper123Woman over a year ago

London

I met my partner on here. I no longer meet guys alone, only women and to be honest, we mostly meet socially now as we have a fair few good friends on here. We both have single profiles, as there is the option to meet as singles, but for me, only with women as this profile makes clear. He has my permission to meet and play alone, but has not so far. He has no problems with me meeting another woman or guy, but I have no interest in meeting men alone .. although we have met a few bi men and cds /TVs together and we have a couples profile. We live together now too and have a very open and honest relationship and do everything together. I think we can be open as we met as swinggers. I would say go for it, what have you got to lose?

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

My advice in your situation is to have a backup plan in case it doesn't work out.

Because I've known people in that situation, and in the worst case scenario you can be suddenly homeless in an area you don't know well, and tied to a job.

That said, good luck with it, hope the plan is never needed!

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By *epper123Woman over a year ago

London

"My advice in your situation is to have a backup plan in case it doesn't work out.

Because I've known people in that situation, and in the worst case scenario you can be suddenly homeless in an area you don't know well, and tied to a job.

Should have added perhaps that we lived fifteen minutes away anyway and he still has somewhere to go if I kick him out .... well, you know what I mean ... so it is a little different, granted

That said, good luck with it, hope the plan is never needed!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My advice in your situation is to have a backup plan in case it doesn't work out.

Because I've known people in that situation, and in the worst case scenario you can be suddenly homeless in an area you don't know well, and tied to a job.

Should have added perhaps that we lived fifteen minutes away anyway and he still has somewhere to go if I kick him out .... well, you know what I mean ... so it is a little different, granted

That said, good luck with it, hope the plan is never needed!"

My backup is to just move back into my parents as that's where I still am at 32

One of the reasons still being at home is why I think it would be a good thing. Their trying to convince me its a good thing to move out as well. I think it is.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Sounds like you're considering the next step because it's convenient for you not because you're madly in love and don't want to be apart. Just my tuppence but if it's the former then unlikely to work in the long term. Good luck with whatever you decide x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

is it a real relationship or a timewaster???

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I met my partner on here. I no longer meet guys alone, only women and to be honest, we mostly meet socially now as we have a fair few good friends on here. We both have single profiles, as there is the option to meet as singles, but for me, only with women as this profile makes clear. He has my permission to meet and play alone, but has not so far. He has no problems with me meeting another woman or guy, but I have no interest in meeting men alone .. although we have met a few bi men and cds /TVs together and we have a couples profile. We live together now too and have a very open and honest relationship and do everything together. I think we can be open as we met as swinggers. I would say go for it, what have you got to lose? "

That's a good thing you've spoken about it after becoming a couple. That's one area that we haven't spoken much about. I think they want us to be together and not meet anyone while we are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you see this as a way out then it's for the wrong reason ' if you both have shitloads in common & are truly in love and both of you are honest towards one another then it's bound to work .

All the best .

Black cop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will elaborate, I've met someone recently and we both got on really great. We have kept in touch everyday since. We have discussed starting a relationship together.

I have been thinking about this for days now and thinking of giving it a try. I do need a change of scenery and really like the person. "

I have been made promises before from people on here, (assuming she is on Fab) that is? I would just say, make sure you know each other well before you commit, as unfortunately, in my experience people change their minds after leading you up the garden path. Good luck whatever you decide to do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need to ask yourself the question if you're both going to have singles or even couples profiles ... Would either of you get jealous seeing the other having sex with someone else?

Having been down this road before, I would advise you to think very carefully

Mine ended up in tears and a very dismal court case... I hope yours doesn't

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I will elaborate, I've met someone recently and we both got on really great. We have kept in touch everyday since. We have discussed starting a relationship together.

I have been thinking about this for days now and thinking of giving it a try. I do need a change of scenery and really like the person.

Thought I'd point out it was a guy. He wants me to move in asap. I'm saying I can't for a while and need to think about this. It does seem one sided at the moment from him. I liked him and enjoyed spending all day and night, plus most of the next day before going home. Now I'm being asked to move in and become his partner. Everything he has is also mine he's telling me. Tells me he hasn't felt the way he does about someone since his partner passed away 8yrs ago. He's offered to support me in anything I do in the future and will help me in anyway. Said I can leave anytime if it's not working.

So I'm thinking that he feels desperate or just lonely and wants someone in his life. If I gave it a try could I grow to love him. If I don't try it will I have missed out on something good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You need to ask yourself the question if you're both going to have singles or even couples profiles ... Would either of you get jealous seeing the other having sex with someone else?

Having been down this road before, I would advise you to think very carefully

Mine ended up in tears and a very dismal court case... I hope yours doesn't "

I have asked myself that and I don't think I'd be comfortable with it and them neither.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you see this as a way out then it's for the wrong reason ' if you both have shitloads in common & are truly in love and both of you are honest towards one another then it's bound to work .

All the best .

Black cop

I don't see it as a way out, I'm very reluctant to move just because it could be a way out. I want to for the right reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will elaborate, I've met someone recently and we both got on really great. We have kept in touch everyday since. We have discussed starting a relationship together.

I have been thinking about this for days now and thinking of giving it a try. I do need a change of scenery and really like the person.

So I'm thinking that he feels desperate or just lonely and wants someone in his life. If I gave it a try could I grow to love him. If I don't try it will I have missed out on something good."
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I apologise for my assumption that it was a female, I didnt look at your profile, which would have stopped that assumption. Maybe ask him if hes lonely and just looking for someone in his life, ask yourself and maybe him the other questions you have posted here. Again , good luck, hope it works out for you whatever happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" I apologise for my assumption that it was a female, I didnt look at your profile, which would have stopped that assumption. Maybe ask him if hes lonely and just looking for someone in his life, ask yourself and maybe him the other questions you have posted here. Again , good luck, hope it works out for you whatever happens "

No apologies needed, I should of stated that from the start. He has told me he's lonely, he said he has is own business, lots of friends but no one special in his life. I feel drawn to him like I want to give it a go and see. Think I'll make the right decision eventually as we chat everyday.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How well do you know him? Have you only met him once?

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Maybe have a week living with them with no commitment to anything further and see how you feel.

Things can feel very different after a few days together.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Sorry to be bluntly honest but The phrase "if I give it a go I may grow to love him" says it all, he's more invested in this than you obviously are and I'm not having that on that one phrase but all your posts, plus I assume you've only met in person once, if that's so it's way too big of a step way to fast

You asked for opinions that's mine do with it as you see fit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will elaborate, I've met someone recently and we both got on really great. We have kept in touch everyday since. We have discussed starting a relationship together.

I have been thinking about this for days now and thinking of giving it a try. I do need a change of scenery and really like the person. "

Yes but do you like them enough to give everything up that you have now ie your own place and a job

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple over a year ago

North West

"Maybe have a week living with them with no commitment to anything further and see how you feel.

Things can feel very different after a few days together.

As Glitterbabe says, try a week with the understanding you're definitely going back home for at least a week afterwards.

Liking or even loving someone is one thing, living with them is something else entirely. You may find you annoy the shit out of each other after a week.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be bluntly honest but The phrase "if I give it a go I may grow to love him" says it all, he's more invested in this than you obviously are and I'm not having that on that one phrase but all your posts, plus I assume you've only met in person once, if that's so it's way too big of a step way to fast

You asked for opinions that's mine do with it as you see fit "

I think _urvymama is absolutely right.

Be cautious and trust your instincts.

You need to know if this person wants an exclusive relationship - if you still want to swing you might end up feeling that he is possessive and clingy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the reply's and I will be giving it plenty of thought about what i do.

I do feel like giving it a week or two and see how it goes. If it doesn't feel right I will go back home. I don't have a job so could look around the area. He's offered me a job himself running his hotel but that's something I know nothing about. He says he wants to concentrate on building his new club.

I will certainly not be moving in the next few weeks but keep chatting to him in the meantime. I don't want to make a decision I regret.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My question is has anyone on here started a relationship with anyone they've met through here? That's for any type of relationship.

How was it, or is it?

Did you keep your single profiles and start a couples or have both?

Do you see other people separately, always meet others together or stopped meeting while together?

Would you stop using the site or use it differently?