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By *P2903 OP Couple
over a year ago
Rotherham |
Are we just unlucky, or expecting too much?
We usually receive roughly 2 to 3 messages a day some days higher some days none. The problem we have is they are nearly always one liners such as "fancy a meet tonight" or "I'm a genuine guy wanna chat"
I can honestly say we have maybe received 5 or 6 messages on here that we consider to be "good". I know what constitutes a good message is personal opinion but all we're looking for is someone who has actually read our profile and not just sent a copy and paste message that they sent to everyone.
Are we being too picky or is this what we should expect?
-K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're not being too picky. You can look for whatever you want in a message. It will represent the type of person you want to meet.
We have had some good meets off of one-liners, but generally we dislike them because they don't get us interested and engaged in a conversation. You should look for what you want.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a tricky one. We prefer a good well thought out message but we understand that often any message will be ignored if the person is not our type. We know one liners are more of a invitation to chat further |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can sort of understand why guys in particular do this as so many messages get ignored or deleted I don't blame them for not wanting to waste time writing an epic personalised message every time
Yet when I get the same copy and pasted messages from the same people over and over again I think do you even have a clue that you've messaged me umpteen times before? (I know they don't)
I have no expectations really,some messages from really good profiles may grab my attention regardless of their content  |
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By *P2903 OP Couple
over a year ago
Rotherham |
"I can sort of understand why guys in particular do this as so many messages get ignored or deleted I don't blame them for not wanting to waste time writing an epic personalised message every time "
That's a very good point didn't really think of it that way. I suppose because we only send a few messages we spend a lot of time reading the profile and trying to put that across in the message.If your sending quite a few it could be time consuming x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To each their own what they expect from a message. For us, if it has pics we're happy really (unless it is a 'wanna fuck' type message).
We take any message to really mean 'hey I like your profile, if you like mine let's talk' sort of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet when I get the same copy and pasted messages from the same people over and over again I think do you even have a clue that you've messaged me umpteen times before? (I know they don't)"
Had some of those types, we block when that happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always read profiles , half of them have no info at all though, and some of those still demand thoughtful messages. I've also written quite a few long ones that have been deleted without reply. So have some sympathy for us, we can't win! |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"It is a tricky one. We prefer a good well thought out message but we understand that often any message will be ignored if the person is not our type. We know one liners are more of a invitation to chat further "
We see it in a very similar way. You can write a fabulous message, and it might get a conversation going, but it we dont fancy you from your pictures, you're not going to change our minds with your words.
And conversely, we will be more than happy to overlook a one liner if we fancy the look of you, and can string a sentence together in your subsequent messages.
But that's just us, other people play different ways and look for different things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can sort of understand why guys in particular do this as so many messages get ignored or deleted I don't blame them for not wanting to waste time writing an epic personalised message every time
That's a very good point didn't really think of it that way. I suppose because we only send a few messages we spend a lot of time reading the profile and trying to put that across in the message.If your sending quite a few it could be time consuming x"
We wouldn't subscribe to this view. Copy and paste messages are a lazy 'spray n pray' numbers game. You have a good profile that gives plenty of opportunity for a message sender to think up something thoughtful to write. Stick it out and you'll get some good messages. Or, go out and do the hunting yourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we just unlucky, or expecting too much?
We usually receive roughly 2 to 3 messages a day some days higher some days none. The problem we have is they are nearly always one liners such as "fancy a meet tonight" or "I'm a genuine guy wanna chat"
I can honestly say we have maybe received 5 or 6 messages on here that we consider to be "good". I know what constitutes a good message is personal opinion but all we're looking for is someone who has actually read our profile and not just sent a copy and paste message that they sent to everyone.
Are we being too picky or is this what we should expect?
-K"
I always make an effort of sending a message but it does get annoying when you get fuck all back  |
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I ignore/delete the following kind of messages:
Wanna meet tonight?
Can you let my man fuck you?
Can I eat a creampie from you?
Can I be your slave?
I try to reply to all others even if it's a sorry no thanks.
Cut and paste merchants normally get blocked.
Someone who had obviously read my profile and written a message tailored for just me will always get a reply. Tbh I often feel really bad if I have to send them a 'thanks but no thanks' after all the time they've taken but if I don't fancy them nothing can change that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a tricky one. We prefer a good well thought out message but we understand that often any message will be ignored if the person is not our type. We know one liners are more of a invitation to chat further "
This is precisely why I gave up. Doesn't matter what I put. Had more interaction via the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (he) do enjoy responding to those who seem to forget it's a couple they're messaging, "actually mate I'd rather you didn't wank on my tits" (or similar - that bears no resemblance to an actual message sent or received). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I must admit, I asked for help from the forum once, and the general consensus was patience, and continue as you are, so I'm now highly selective with whom I message and only really tend to say if I'm willing to meet or if I'm going to a club. Anything more is bonus and if nothing rises I'll perv profiles or watch porn. No point crying over spillt jizz |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit, I asked for help from the forum once, and the general consensus was patience, and continue as you are, so I'm now highly selective with whom I message and only really tend to say if I'm willing to meet or if I'm going to a club. Anything more is bonus and if nothing rises I'll perv profiles or watch porn. No point crying over spillt jizz"
By the way, inject your own grammar, mine sucks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit, I asked for help from the forum once, and the general consensus was patience
Bet a million quid I know who said to be patient...  "
Hahaha, OK, give me a million quid and I'm in |
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"Block everyone and go looking for the people you want to meet. Simple."
this has always been what I've done and as I don't send out hundreds in a day or week, I'm not disappointed if I don't get a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit, I asked for help from the forum once, and the general consensus was patience
Bet a million quid I know who said to be patient...
Hahaha, OK, give me a million quid and I'm in"
I plan on being a multi billionaire in about 4 more incarnations, will cut you a cheque then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit, I asked for help from the forum once, and the general consensus was patience
Bet a million quid I know who said to be patient...
Hahaha, OK, give me a million quid and I'm in
I plan on being a multi billionaire in about 4 more incarnations, will cut you a cheque then"
I'll be near the end of my twelfth regeneration then, at least I'll have something to show for it |
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"I had a good one the other day, simply said:
"Breed me"
Which has brevity, I suppose
Points for originality though  "
Oh no, there was one in actual sentences from a guy who wanted me to drop everything, bring a funnel, a load of cum I saved in the freezer (like WTF?) and then, well...
I'll leave the rest to your imagination.
THAT was original. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't expect much from a first message. I wouldn't want to be a single guy on here. For me it's mainly in the profile. If something grabs my attention then I'll respond to the message. If the conversation subsequently lacks then it won't go any further, but i certainly don't blame guys who don't put a lot of effort into a first message. |
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
London |
A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi"."
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work  excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi".
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength. "
Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a good one the other day, simply said:
"Breed me"
Which has brevity, I suppose
Points for originality though
Oh no, there was one in actual sentences from a guy who wanted me to drop everything, bring a funnel, a load of cum I saved in the freezer (like WTF?) and then, well...
I'll leave the rest to your imagination.
THAT was original."
Did it defrost on the way there or .... |
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I find a well thought out individual message tends to get a better response and results. Length of the message will partly depend on how much the other person has on their profile. Some people don't give much of an idea of what they want. |
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
London |
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In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength. "
But won't I be banned from the Fab website for breaking four golden rules?
1. Not deleting an unoriginal message.
2. Not deleting a one word message.
3. Not blocking the sender of such an atrocious message.
4. Not demanding and expectating to be sent a unique message.
Because I'm worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi".
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength.
Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it"
It's worked with me that way before. So yes it can work. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I sometimes get a quick hi type message. I might check out the profile and if it takes my fancy reply back, or send a thanks but no thanks.  I'll occasionally get a lovely, well written message and do the same except I feel a bit wrong just sending a 'no thanks' reply as they have clearly spent time on it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi".
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength.
Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it
It's worked with me that way before. So yes it can work. "
Absolutely with me too. But then i don't count because I'm not one of fabs most desirables. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi".
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength.
Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it
It's worked with me that way before. So yes it can work. "
Ah ce l'avie, just as I was beginning to think I was getting the hang of it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi".
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength.
Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it
It's worked with me that way before. So yes it can work.
Absolutely with me too. But then i don't count because I'm not one of fabs most desirables. "
Me neither, thank fuck!
(Is it really desirable to have an ego larger than the sun?) |
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
London |
"Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it"
Alot of the people (women or couples mostly) on Fab who say they can't find what they want here.
Are often the same folk who'll delete an opening message because they expect it to be at least fifteen words minimum and only fourteen words were written. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi".
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength.
Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it
It's worked with me that way before. So yes it can work.
Absolutely with me too. But then i don't count because I'm not one of fabs most desirables. "
I can see why you might think that, but I find your profile and pictures quite desirable, especially because you're upfront with everything, so your opinion does count |
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By *ob55Man
over a year ago
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When I write to someone I always say why I've written and refer to something in their profile that attracted me.
I then explain something about myself that fits in with what they are looking for
Do I get an answer? 99% of the time not at all.
So I can understand the temptation to just cut and paste messages |
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I would completely agree, I'd say that only about one in five first messages are more than a single short sentence. We will generally look at the profile though and respond accordingly.
I we write a decent reply and then their second message is just as brief as the first, then we tend to loose interest rather quickly.
Cal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady sent me a message saying, "Hi".
I could have deleted her unoriginal one word message.
But instead I replied and asked how her day was"
(An unoriginal response)
She told me she'd just finished work and was on her way home, browsing fab.
Next thing you know we were engaged in a good, easy flowing chat.
We arranged to meet, met and enjoyed ourselves.
And it all began with an unoriginal, "Hi".
In my mind, and for me, that is exactly how it should work excellent to see that others are on the same wavelength.
Sorry to sound skeptical here, but how likely is that to work the other way around? The guy just typing hi I mean. It's nice to hear that it can work, and I'm glad you had a good time, but I feel ladies are more likely to get a response from it
It's worked with me that way before. So yes it can work. "
We much prefer a message to just express an interest . First thing we do is check th epics , quick read of profile and veris , and if all good we meet .
Works perfectly for us .
If when we meet there's no connection we happily chat a while and let them down gently . But more often than not it works out really well for all parties . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I very often think that it doesn't matter how much is written in a message, many people delete because of the avatar or pics that attached to the message, never mind actually reading it!
If I send a first message, I try to work something of their profile into it and then go onto describe what I can do for them and my experience. More often than not, by the time I have sent it and maybe looked a moment later to see if it has been read, it's been deleted. Seemingly very quickly, so I suspect because of avatar. Which is fine, but as others have said, you do wonder sometimes whether time spent on a message is worth it? Having said all that, that is now what I have come to expect, so apart from the lost time, its no big deal. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
We understand that people don't want to write essays just for it to be ignored or deleted so are happy with a one liner to begin with. What annoys us are those who once you start up a conversation persist in sending one liners we quickly lose interested and stop replying. |
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By *ob55Man
over a year ago
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There is a couple who in their profile bemoan the lack of manners on Fab
I wrote and agreed with them it probably took 10 minutes to write it with vakud reasoning etc
It got deleted with 30 seconds and that's not a moan its a fact
But it did strike me as rather ironic |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We understand that people don't want to write essays just for it to be ignored or deleted so are happy with a one liner to begin with. What annoys us are those who once you start up a conversation persist in sending one liners we quickly lose interested and stop replying."
Totally with you on this.
As long as the one liner shows that the fella has read and understood my profile (or at least partly understood, I don't mind questions) and includes photos of him that aren't just of his cock, I don't mind.
If the one liners continue though I end up having nothing to reply to ... |
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"There is a couple who in their profile bemoan the lack of manners on Fab
I wrote and agreed with them it probably took 10 minutes to write it with vakud reasoning etc
It got deleted with 30 seconds and that's not a moan its a fact
But it did strike me as rather ironic"
Whilst I know about the hundreds on one liners I get here that are totally inappropriate and have never convinced me of anything, plus the random friend requests, I can see it from your side too. My partner, on his single male profile, often writes nice messages and compliments, even though he has no intention of meeting that person ... almost always blanked. Then they try to contact us on our couple profile .... manners cost nothing. I do try to reply to everything, but by now I think I may have enough people blocked to have gotten rid of those who don't float my boat ... |
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"Are we just unlucky, or expecting too much?
We usually receive roughly 2 to 3 messages a day some days higher some days none. The problem we have is they are nearly always one liners such as "fancy a meet tonight" or "I'm a genuine guy wanna chat"
I can honestly say we have maybe received 5 or 6 messages on here that we consider to be "good". I know what constitutes a good message is personal opinion but all we're looking for is someone who has actually read our profile and not just sent a copy and paste message that they sent to everyone.
Are we being too picky or is this what we should expect?
-K"
It's a tricky one and each individual profile is going to have their own experience depending on how you've configured your profile and indeed how you've written your profile. And even this isn't foolproof but more about minimising the type of contact you want.
To be honest, like the initial responder stated, we have had some good meets off minimal fab conversation or they have portrayed themselves as well as we may have liked. But have to appreciate that not everyone is a Wordsworth. It's then making a call, which can be interesting photos, credible verifications that demonstrate their personality far better in person, or sometimes pure gut feeling.
You're profile is clear, which is good but note you have it open to the masses and that will inevitably result in a mixture of responses. Some I sympathise with as some people lose faith and then "go fishing" and play the numbers game. Others just pure can't be bothered and then even some who write well but will still not get any response.
Ultimately it is simply down to whether they appeal to you and maybe no levels of words will matter.
As a single male on here, I did have a lot of success simply because I did make the effort of reading the profile, then responding with a personal message with effort, loaded with originality, creativity and respect to make it unique and appealing to the readers.
But to answer your question, expect the multiple levels of communication you are experiencing and yes be picky. After all, it is about your needs ultimately and if you can make that happen with likeminded people with mutual respect, then you're on to a winner.
If you're not having much luck, then I would say review your options, reconfigure & rewrite your fab profile and maybe occasionally let your hair down, remove the lead and try something a little bit different from the norm (within near boundaries and safe of course without entirely compromising your reasons for entering the swinging lifestyle).
Good luck and I'm sure we'll cross paths at xtasia one day xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has been a lot of complaints about one liners and cut and paste messages, but from reading through this thread it seems the consensus is people either get so many messages they delete most. Or they look at the profile and base any response in that.
So it's probably not worth finely crafting an opening message after all |
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"There has been a lot of complaints about one liners and cut and paste messages, but from reading through this thread it seems the consensus is people either get so many messages they delete most. Or they look at the profile and base any response in that.
So it's probably not worth finely crafting an opening message after all "
It all goes hand in hand. And process of elimination is that a good individual message, complemented by a good profile write up, coupled with credible verifications is going to stand you in a better position than the opposite.
We certainly look for effort, and if they are also physically appealing to us, then we're most likely to take things further.
Nevertheless, we inevitably do our best to respond to every message we receive, even on ridiculous days where it could be 50 plus! |
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"There has been a lot of complaints about one liners and cut and paste messages, but from reading through this thread it seems the consensus is people either get so many messages they delete most. Or they look at the profile and base any response in that.
So it's probably not worth finely crafting an opening message after all "
My take on that is that if you've already made a reasonable effort with the profile, then an equal amount of effort crafting and tailoring the message will confirm any favourable impressions, and give you a much better chance of a reply.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There has been a lot of complaints about one liners and cut and paste messages, but from reading through this thread it seems the consensus is people either get so many messages they delete most. Or they look at the profile and base any response in that.
So it's probably not worth finely crafting an opening message after all "
The ones that whine about it the most are usually the ones that won't use mail filters because they love the ego boost they get from their bulging inbox. They are the real time wasters. On here just to take the piss out of other people while making themselves feel superior.
They won't ever send a message to other people first because they feel it's beneath them. So people should really be thankful that those types don't reply as they aren't worth meeting. |
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There is a lot of effort expended on each side. Guys have to send a lot of messages (well if they are ugly like me) and girls/couples have to sift through a large amount of messages. |
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"There is a lot of effort expended on each side. Guys have to send a lot of messages (well if they are ugly like me) and girls/couples have to sift through a large amount of messages. "
I don't think looks are the be all. Important of course to many.
But of course effort is required from both sides. If it's one sided, then for us, it's not going to work.
We ultimately meet couples and single fems. We look for respect from the couple and single fem towards Lizzie, towards Jordan and, if a couple, between each other.
That's a starting foundation for us to know if it's going to work or not.
Then if effort is not distributed from all parties, then we have to make a call. |
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"Are we just unlucky, or expecting too much?
We usually receive roughly 2 to 3 messages a day some days higher some days none. The problem we have is they are nearly always one liners such as "fancy a meet tonight" or "I'm a genuine guy wanna chat"
I can honestly say we have maybe received 5 or 6 messages on here that we consider to be "good". I know what constitutes a good message is personal opinion but all we're looking for is someone who has actually read our profile and not just sent a copy and paste message that they sent to everyone.
Are we being too picky or is this what we should expect?
-K"
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
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"The ones that whine about it the most are usually the ones that won't use mail filters because they love the ego boost they get from their bulging inbox. They are the real time wasters. On here just to take the piss out of other people while making themselves feel superior.
They won't ever send a message to other people first because they feel it's beneath them. So people should really be thankful that those types don't reply as they aren't worth meeting. "
You're damn right. |
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"I had a good one the other day, simply said:
"Breed me"
Which has brevity, I suppose
Points for originality though
Oh no, there was one in actual sentences from a guy who wanted me to drop everything, bring a funnel, a load of cum I saved in the freezer (like WTF?) and then, well...
I'll leave the rest to your imagination.
THAT was original."
Can't believe people put that much effort into getting their rocks off |
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We've had some great messages from guys who've read profile and sell themselves in a polite, intelligent manner. But most are of the 1-line variety and probably sent in a scattergun approach. But we seriously appreciate when someone puts effort in |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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God try and be a single female!
The one I had the other day was along the lines of:
Want to be fucked tonight
That was it, no ? no nothing, then tried to back pedal after pointing out the errors of their ways, they don't seem to grasp that you can never make a 2nd good impression after a bad one!
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"God try and be a single female!
The one I had the other day was along the lines of:
Want to be fucked tonight
That was it, no ? no nothing, then tried to back pedal after pointing out the errors of their ways, they don't seem to grasp that you can never make a 2nd good impression after a bad one!
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very true, and sadly not as obvious to people as it should be! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi, I'm new to these forums and already enjoying the convos in here rather than the rooms or trying to crack the message code ha. I spend quite a lot of time writing messages, pulling info from profiles and even checked out other males profiles to see what I'm missing as I get little response and/or no profile views. I think first come, first served happens quite a bit and luck
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I've just realised that if I was gonna open with a one liner, it'd probably be a random word or boo because I think hi is too mainstream, and I'm a total hipster |
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"it's very very rare we send out messages as we have been rejected soooo many times in the past"
A shame to hear that but hopefully if you filter the ones you do receive you'll get a fair few worth having! |
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It's hard trying to get messages seen let alone read lol
But normally after reading a profile I write alittle about me then something I relate to in There pro.
And it does get hard trying to remember who hasn't seen messages and have replied a polite no lol |
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I know some people do send a one liner hoping to get somewhere, but how can you get anything from that.
If they can't engage with you in a message, or at they very least get your interest. What will they be like on a meeting 'Get naked and say come on then'.
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"It's hard trying to get messages seen let alone read lol
But normally after reading a profile I write alittle about me then something I relate to in There pro.
And it does get hard trying to remember who hasn't seen messages and have replied a polite no lol"
There is a "private notes" section you can add that against each profile for your own sanity and not to accidentally contact a profile that's already declined. |
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"It's hard trying to get messages seen let alone read lol
But normally after reading a profile I write alittle about me then something I relate to in There pro.
And it does get hard trying to remember who hasn't seen messages and have replied a polite no lol
There is a "private notes" section you can add that against each profile for your own sanity and not to accidentally contact a profile that's already declined. "
Cheers will look up now |
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