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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Why do ladies and couples even in their 50's ban males in their 40's from contacting them? I'm a big fan of a more mature lady etc but find a large % are not available to show my wit and charms LOL. I get it with people in their 20's but 40's really? It's not half annoying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they like older guys?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are you bad-mouthing people's personal preferences?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because they can.

Why worry about someone whose criteria you don't match?

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Maybe some do, bad mouthing? Where?

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

I'm not worried? I'm simply asking a question as the 10 year difference doesn't seem to be in place for say 25y/o to 35 y/o. Not bad mouthing and not worried wowzers chill ya bean peps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a young guy it can disheartening sometimes but I understand it may just be a physical thing.

I personally find older women very attractive, as well as more intellectually stimulating too. So seeing the age range yellow message is always a shame.

Each to their own though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do ladies and couples even in their 50's ban males in their 40's from contacting them? I'm a big fan of a more mature lady etc but find a large % are not available to show my wit and charms LOL. I get it with people in their 20's but 40's really? It's not half annoying

I guess that they just generally don't find anyone out of their age range attractive and prefer to mail anyone who they do find attractive (out of this age range) theirselves. Just my two penny worth

T x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because they don't want to have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not worried? I'm simply asking a question as the 10 year difference doesn't seem to be in place for say 25y/o to 35 y/o. Not bad mouthing and not worried wowzers chill ya bean peps"

I'm perfectly chilled.

People have their preferences for the ages of people they meet. Why? I don't know them so have no idea. The simplest answer is that those people have an attraction for people of a set age. We have the same thing for our own reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's there choice who there looking for, I want a rich 99 year old granny but I'm out of there age range

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a side note. Any older women have a thing fot younger guys? X

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

A naughty.

It's really simply an observation that there is a clear higher % in that range than there is in others. So it's a difference, and I would like to know why in that age range in comparison to others. As everything put forward as a reason why it could be can be said in all the varying age ranges but isn't.... phew got that out lol I not at all worried or 'mouthing off'?? as someone else here strangely said. Peace and love to all xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a side note. Any older women have a thing fot younger guys? X"

Yes, but not those with cock avatars and endless profile cock pics.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a side note. Any older women have a thing fot younger guys? X

Yes, but not those with cock avatars and endless profile cock pics."

I see x I always find it difficult to pick the right profile pic. Half the women seem to like them, and again in your case half the women don't x I almost wish you could have two and let people choose as an option x

Thx for replying though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What gets me is people looking at your profile then they send you a wink and when you look at there profile your either too young or too old for them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A naughty.

"Why do ladies and couples even in their 50's ban males in their 40's from contacting them? I get it with people in their 20's but 40's really? It's not half annoying".

This reads like a criticism or a complaint. Not an observation or "love to all".

Suggesting that it's understandable for younger people to be choosy or have preferences, but not for older people also doesn't sit very well with the" peace and love for all".

That may be why people aren't in universal agreement with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What gets me is people looking at your profile then they send you a wink and when you look at there profile your either too young or too old for them"

Winks can be sent by accident.

Alternatively, it could just mean they like the profile.

A wink doesn't necessarily mean a meet is on offer

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Maybe you're TOO OLD....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you're TOO OLD....

With pictures like yours i certainly hope I am not too old

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because they're uninterested in your wit, charms or anything else you think you have to offer...

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Janey and Monkey.

That may have been a good answer except for the fact they can't see that wit and charm as they have blocked the age range. Nice try though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What gets me is people looking at your profile then they send you a wink and when you look at there profile your either too young or too old for them

Winks can be sent by accident.

Alternatively, it could just mean they like the profile.

A wink doesn't necessarily mean a meet is on offer "

I know but I always reply to any winks to say thanks for taking the time to look

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Two Thing.

'This reads like a criticism or a complaint. Not an observation'

No you mean that that's how you read it not how I wrote it. It's your opinion but one of us knows exactly how it was written while the other can only express an opinion of how he thought it was written. and that person is you not me.

'Suggesting that it's understandable for younger people to be choosy or have preferences, but not for older people also doesn't sit very well with the'

Oh dear, where did I say that? I simply didn't you just made that up, why God know, chip on the old shoulder? Or just like attacking people in chat rooms? What next your mates gonna join in lol, I was told it was bit of a click on here. I used an age range of 25-35 as an example but could have just as easily said 55-65, again where yo came to this conclusion was in your opinion and that's great for you.

They may also be people who understand what I'm saying and like yourself clearly those who don't, then like yourself wish to make something out of it, why? Only you can answer because if I do I'm being a bit like yourself and that Sir I'm most definitely not

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By *ich54Man over a year ago

Near Tewkesbury

Well I find those about my age more attractive, do not ask why, not to say a youngt lady or couple would not necessarily interest me.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

CalandNitaFind.

Again that cannot be the case as the blocking starts at an age then goes all the way down, not upwards as is say the ranges on the page.

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

And just to help you more it is also understandable somebody in their 70's wouldn't be in GENERAL wanting to meet someone in their teens. Of course like the other way round they do exists. I;m talking of age range difference of 10-15 years

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

@Abrite

Use the quote & reply button, makes it a lot easier to follow.

Okay I'm not really too sure what you want to know.

I'm 48, I don't want to meet 10 years older so I've set my filter to 52. On the younger scale it's down @ 28, which in hindsight is a tad low..;-) so it's all to do with personal preference as frustrating as it may seem at times.

Also because I'm in the forums a lot the age range allows people from here to contact me.

Not sure if that answers your question!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have spoken to a lot of women who would otherwise block me because they see me in here and say hi.

So even with a block set you still end up meeting those people.

Oh and classy lady... Just wow!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Okay, I'm just trying to point out why people may not be agreeing with you: You are coming across not in the way that you hope. And now you are just arguing when people are pointing this out.

Good luck in your ventures.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

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You have preferences for people over 30 op, pot, kettle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"CalandNitaFind.

Again that cannot be the case as the blocking starts at an age then goes all the way down, not upwards as is say the ranges on the page.

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on"

Click on the reply-quote button when you want to comment on what someone has said, saves typing their names

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suppose the answer is that they set their age range around who they want to meet?

I'm sure we are missing out on some great meets because we cut our range off at 40. But we are prepared to live with it at the moment.

That's not to say they don't adopt our tactic of flouting their own age range if they see someone they like and approach them themselves.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't use filters either!

I'm just cheerily being polite to everyone who bothers to send me a message. I don't really find it too much trouble.

I can't even remember what my age preferences are. I should really check that cause no offence but I'm not looking to get naughty with a 99 year old. Or indeed an 18 year old for that matter!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a boundary on younger men of 35 years of age.

That's my decision , as is whether I want to even acknowledge any messages .

Luck of the draw on here....

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"@Abrite

Use the quote & reply button, makes it a lot easier to follow.

Okay I'm not really too sure what you want to know.

Also because I'm in the forums a lot the age range allows people from here to contact me.

Not sure if that answers your question!"

I don't really want to know anything It's just an observation, I'm putting it out there that when looking at pages many at 55 will have blocked those in the early 40's yet the same isn't in place for say 55-60 or 20-35 (not having a go at any age lol)In fact I don;t think there is a simple answer as nobody will agree as each case is different. I'm just stating what I have found and because I don't find (again in general) younger ladies anywhere near as sexually attractive as I do those older. So the blocking puts me at a disadvantage, but don't worry I'll soldier on LMAO. But again for those who seemingly love to attack people on here because that's who they are, it's not a major problem I'll get by

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"CalandNitaFind.

Again that cannot be the case as the blocking starts at an age then goes all the way down, not upwards as is say the ranges on the page.

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Click on the reply-quote button when you want to comment on what someone has said, saves typing their names"

Ive been clicking on reply in forum, it just slinging them anywhere lol

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

Maybe, because they want to??

Let's be honest, no one should have to adjust their choices to suit other people, should they?

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

You have preferences for people over 30 op, pot, kettle

You seem to be confusing what I'm saying. There will always been some like myself but the range group I am pointing out is very high. I thought I'd do a lil survey and the evidence was high. Sorry but that pot is actually kissing the kettle all over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"@Abrite

Use the quote & reply button, makes it a lot easier to follow.

Okay I'm not really too sure what you want to know.

Also because I'm in the forums a lot the age range allows people from here to contact me.

Not sure if that answers your question!

I suppose because I mainly message men i haven't encountered any type of filter.

I have noticed an age filter with women & couples who post in the forums tho when I've gone to PM an answer to a question instead of posting it in public. I haven't looked at the age differential tho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In some instances, its not just about the age range you simply want to sleep with, but also those you may want to socialise with (and yes it does happen outside of sex). We don't want to sleep with people anywhere near our children's age range, likewise we most likely wouldn't share interests with those quite a bit older than us.

Bear in mind this is a filter that people use on a website with 1000s of users: when in a club it can be an entirely different scenario

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Okay, I'm just trying to point out why people may not be agreeing with you: You are coming across not in the way that you hope. And now you are just arguing when people are pointing this out.

Good luck in your ventures. "

Well fair enough but maybe you should try a bit more tack, maybe realize what you're saying is an opinion and not fact. Thank but I don't need luck

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"In some instances, its not just about the age range you simply want to sleep with, but also those you may want to socialise with (and yes it does happen outside of sex). We don't want to sleep with people anywhere near our children's age range, likewise we most likely wouldn't share interests with those quite a bit older than us.

Bear in mind this is a filter that people use on a website with 1000s of users: when in a club it can be an entirely different scenario"

You guys win the prize up to now! Very good answer. I guess it's that some are from an earlier time and maybe liked to stay there let say. So If I was a 90's lover and they were late 70's (or whatever u get the jist) then how much would be in common? I think you have come up with an reason for some but definitely not the majority

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Bear in mind this is a filter that people use on a website with 1000s of users: when in a club it can be an entirely different scenario

May I just point out I am more than versed in 60's, 70's and 80's music and culture so please don't ban me because of that lol

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

Bear in mind this is a filter that people use on a website with 1000s of users: when in a club it can be an entirely different scenario

Just curious here, but does there actually need to be a reason for people's personal choices?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And just to help you more it is also understandable somebody in their 70's wouldn't be in GENERAL wanting to meet someone in their teens. Of course like the other way round they do exists. I;m talking of age range difference of 10-15 years "

Your profile only goes to 11years below your stated age, so why mention 10-15 year difference.

It is people preference. They are looking for something particular rather than anything just like yourself. For example you aren't looking for guys because that is your sexual preference... just like age, weight, clolour or creed for others. If they don't want to meet you, why on earth would you want to meet them???

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"@Abrite

Use the quote & reply button, makes it a lot easier to follow.

Okay I'm not really too sure what you want to know.

Also because I'm in the forums a lot the age range allows people from here to contact me.

Not sure if that answers your question!

I suppose because I mainly message men i haven't encountered any type of filter.

Hmmm, could men be less fussy than women? No never, that can't be right? lol. I get what you're saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bear in mind this is a filter that people use on a website with 1000s of users: when in a club it can be an entirely different scenario

Well if I'd known there was a prize I would have upped my game answer wise!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No we ban you because you're a single guy, not your taste in music...

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Your profile only goes to 11years below your stated age, so why mention 10-15 year difference.

I can't answer everyone but you not quite getting what I'm mean I feel, and that's probably my fault. My age range maybe goes up to 99 but to be fair and I'm sure their are some lovely 99 y/o's out there but I not to sure I would lol. Those who I have seen mention color it's a funny thing I seen girls being attacked for saying no say black men, but there are many who actually say 'only black men' this scenario seems to be far more except-able surely both are preferences?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"@Abrite

Use the quote & reply button, makes it a lot easier to follow.

Okay I'm not really too sure what you want to know.

Also because I'm in the forums a lot the age range allows people from here to contact me.

Not sure if that answers your question!

The blocking doesn't put you at a disadvantage, your age does and the fact that they don't wish to meet you, you could say the same for us about not wishing to meet single men, your apparent "charm" doesn't change the fact that I have no interest in being fucked by a random bloke, no filter necessary, it ain't going to happen

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"No we ban you because you're a single guy, not your taste in music...

But I not talking about those who have already blocked single men!I happy you've banned me just because I single though and it's nothing personal

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"@Abrite

Use the quote & reply button, makes it a lot easier to follow.

Okay I'm not really too sure what you want to know.

Also because I'm in the forums a lot the age range allows people from here to contact me.

Not sure if that answers your question!

That's your answer, which is correct for you but doesn't explain why this age group seems to have a higher rate than others. That's what I saying nothing to do with me or you as lovely as you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont worry about it. Being in the age range is half the battle won lol.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

'Just curious here, but does there actually need to be a reason for people's personal choices?'

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

'Your profile only goes to 11years below your stated age, so why mention 10-15 year difference'

Hey if you're going to visit at least like a pic or something! (joking before I get attacked)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, I'm just trying to point out why people may not be agreeing with you: You are coming across not in the way that you hope. And now you are just arguing when people are pointing this out.

Good luck in your ventures.

Well fair enough but maybe you should try a bit more tack, maybe realize what you're saying is an opinion and not fact. Thank but I don't need luck

When you are asking about other people how do you intend to obtain facts? All we have is opinion gained through experience. We don't often conduct scientific research. If we did we'd probably get criticism for experimenting on dumn animals. And as for tact, again, I'm not the one critical of others' choices and preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just one of them things and people's personal choice ...... I am too old for some but I still have my moments with others x I just smile and keep looking x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, I'm just trying to point out why people may not be agreeing with you: You are coming across not in the way that you hope. And now you are just arguing when people are pointing this out.

Good luck in your ventures.

Well fair enough but maybe you should try a bit more tack, maybe realize what you're saying is an opinion and not fact. Thank but I don't need luck

*dumb. #irony

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"'Your profile only goes to 11years below your stated age, so why mention 10-15 year difference'

Hey if you're going to visit at least like a pic or something! (joking before I get attacked)"

Not an attack, but if there was a pic we liked, then we would.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Okay, I'm just trying to point out why people may not be agreeing with you: You are coming across not in the way that you hope. And now you are just arguing when people are pointing this out.

Good luck in your ventures.

Well fair enough but maybe you should try a bit more tack, maybe realize what you're saying is an opinion and not fact. Thank but I don't need luck

I think you're reading far too much into this to say the least! For you we'll say it was a rhetorical question if it helps.

A single person cannot answer for the group even though many have tried here like the lady who said 'I won't have sex with random men' others will.But to be fair I never asked for 'facts' did I? There can be opinion only, even if you get NASA down here. So lets say for the sake of argument it was rhetorical. Hopefully you're happy with that, if not frankly my dear I couldn't give a damn. Oh and again instead of simply saying 'you're criticizing peoples choices' point out these criticisms. I simply wonder why this age groups and not as much others do. I mean I have explained this time and time again here. you clearly have issues, comical but it's becoming a bit of a bore. As for 'Dumb, irony' wtf? never did I say it was fact, then again you probably think irony is when you have 'ten thousand spoons when all you need is a knife' that's not irony lol

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"'Your profile only goes to 11years below your stated age, so why mention 10-15 year difference'

Hey if you're going to visit at least like a pic or something! (joking before I get attacked)

Not an attack, but if there was a pic we liked, then we would.

Don't worry, it's mutual. No offense taken just our opinions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We can only answer this for ourselves so background :-

1. There is a 7 year age gap between us (Clare is 36, Neil is 43).

2. We got together when we were 20 & 27 respectively.

3. Clares parents are 10 & 12 years older than Neil.

4. Clare's youngest sibling is 6 years younger than Neil so was still in school when we got together.

If you're still with all that, Clare doesn't want to play with anyone around her parents ages and Neil doesn't want to play with anyone younger than the age of Clare's youngest sibling or their friends. We may have used different age ranges as singles, but, we're not, we're a couple.

Thinking about it we may have even set different age ranges for Males and Females if the option was available.

Like we said above, this is only our reasoning and is bound to be different to others, which is fine, we're all entitled to have our own opinions and make our own choices.

Probably doesn't answer the original question but may give an insight into how some of us may come up with our age ranges?

Neil & Clare

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on"

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

You have your preferences, other people have theirs. Nobody has to justify them to you. If someone is blocking messages from your age group, or your gender, or whatever, it's because they don't want messages from you. They aren't interested in you. I realise that's simply an unbelievable concept for you, but that's how it is.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Okay, I'm just trying to point out why people may not be agreeing with you: You are coming across not in the way that you hope. And now you are just arguing when people are pointing this out.

Good luck in your ventures.

Well fair enough but maybe you should try a bit more tack, maybe realize what you're saying is an opinion and not fact. Thank but I don't need luck

You might now.

I think TT was spot on. It's you coming across badly. Entitled behaviour is never viewed favourably.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"'Just curious here, but does there actually need to be a reason for people's personal choices?'

Survey and questionnaire? Good luck with that.

Let's see the detailed stats of how many profiles you've reviewed in each age range and actual evidence of your claim the percentage is higher in one group. Since we apparently need to be scientific and justify everything.

And of course we're talking about individuals. You've asked why a group of people - a large group at that, only a fraction of whom will even use the fora - behave in a certain way. Nobody can answer that; they can only speak for themselves.

I've noted you saying several times, in response to reasons others have given, 'well, that applies to you, but not everybody'.

Well, yes, rather obviously! No reply will apply to everybody and no one person can answer the question why a group of people do something. They all have their own, perfectly legitimate reasons.

They don't want messages from you. They don't care that it annoys you. I don't care that it annoys you. I doubt anyone on this thread cares it annoys you. The site of doesn't revolve around what you want. Get over it.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"'Just curious here, but does there actually need to be a reason for people's personal choices?'

Survey and questionnaire? Good luck with that.

I've noted you saying several times, in response to reasons others have given, 'well, that applies to you, but not everybody'.

Well, yes, rather obviously! No reply will apply to everybody and no one person can answer the question why a group of people do something. They all have their own, perfectly legitimate reasons.

Game, set, and match!

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It was the blatant lie that he'd had a message from someone and couldn't reply because of age filters that irritated.

Can we say "Busted!"

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

It was the blatant lie that he'd had a message from someone and couldn't reply because of age filters that irritated.

Can we say "Busted!""

Yes indeed!

The very same word that was used recently when the charmer who stole my profile text was exposed in the forum

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"We can only answer this for ourselves so background :-

1. There is a 7 year age gap between us (Clare is 36, Neil is 43).

2. We got together when we were 20 & 27 respectively.

3. Clares parents are 10 & 12 years older than Neil.

4. Clare's youngest sibling is 6 years younger than Neil so was still in school when we got together.

Thinking about it we may have even set different age ranges for Males and Females if the option was available.

Like we said above, this is only our reasoning and is bound to be different to others, which is fine, we're all entitled to have our own opinions and make our own choices.

Probably doesn't answer the original question but may give an insight into how some of us may come up with our age ranges?

Neil & Clare

Well again I don't think there is an answer generally but individually there is and yours makes sense. A tad complicated but yeah

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way."

I'm telling you lil miss aggressive I couldn't give two xxxxs what you think lol. Maybe it was put on after the message I don't know we ain't all experts like but you seem mighty upset calm yaself down. Tou that bell ends TT's mate are you the one who keeps coming mouthing off? Funny u seem only u 2 seem so upset isn't it? If you bother to read what been said maybe the both of you might have the faintest idea of what was actually being said. I'll leave you to attempt your pathetic bulling with ya pal

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

guys in their 40s can mail me

I'm well awear that's nothing to get excited over I'm just saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is what I recon:

Mostly all women got age ranges but most men don't got any.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way.

Pardon? That made no sense at all. If you rewrite it in English it may help.

I did get the bit about the age block, at least. As I already said, if someone messages or winks you, the message filters they have on no longer apply to you. That's if the filter is put on before or after they message you. Your claim that you couldn't respond to a message due to an age filter is not possible and is, therefore, a lie.

I'll assume that random ranting means you have no way to support your spurious claim.

Goodness, I wonder why people react badly when some entitled bloke, who really should know better at his age, starts moaning about other people's preferences because they don't suit him. And yes, the last part of your OP was a childish whine, not a question.

You're making yourself look ridiculous by questioning anyone else's preferences when you clearly have preferences of your own.

People have answered and you've dismissed it as not explaining the actions of the group, when anyone with half a brain will realise that the group is made up of individuals who will all have their own reasons for not wanting to receive messages from certain people/groups.

Get a grip.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way.

He's a bit miffed he was caught out and shown to be a liar.

Apparently he's also unused to the concept of someone a person barely knows agreeing with them. Apparently only his friends agree with him, so he thinks that's how the rest of the world works.

OP, when you make sense and raise valid points, people tend to agree, whether or not they are your mates.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

You sound like you are the other half annoyed now.

This hasn't worked out the way you planned we guess.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way.

Pardon? That made no sense at all. If you rewrite it in English it may help.

I'll assume that random ranting means you have no way to support your spurious claim.

You're making yourself look ridiculous by questioning anyone else's preferences when you clearly have preferences of your own.

Get a grip.

Listen go and sell your bitterness elsewhere, I don't know what ya problem is and I don't care. Be civil to people they'll be civil right back, sling mug and it'll get slung back. Now go on and get on with your bullying elsewhere with the rest of your click"

I don't see a clique here. I'm standing on my own two feet telling you that some people don't want messages from people your age, it's a perfectly valid preference, whether or not it irks you, and you need to grow up and get over it.

You do know what my problem is because I've told you. It's your entitled attitude and believing you have a right to question and criticise other people's preferences. You don't.

You haven't been very civil to several people on this thread, so you really don't have any moral high ground there.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

You sound like you are the other half annoyed now.

This hasn't worked out the way you planned we guess."

No, some decent people with ideas why and then some who seem to think they can be pricks, just the same as life off here I guess. no problem

Apparently she caught me lying? Looks like she went and got a bit of the Miss Marples about her lol. I assure you i wasn't lying, I mean if it was a giant point even but I just mention something that happened, maybe like many people on here if you don't get back in a day or two ya blocked? Who knows what happened but I couldn't get back fact even though apparently she know better lol. The lying bit? Hmmm why? What's the need? It Just looks like she goes round with here lil gang giving it out, good on her if that's what she likes doesn't bother me, now it looks like she's move on to 'English' my word! So yeah Worked out fine I'm having a jolly old time on a boring Tuesday night

How about you?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You sound like you are the other half annoyed now.

This hasn't worked out the way you planned we guess.

No, some decent people with ideas why and then some who seem to think they can be pricks, just the same as life off here I guess. no problem

The site doesn't work the way you claim things happened. Most site users know that so nobody needed to turn detective.

Your lie was obvious and you're just having even more of a strop now because you got found out.

And which "gang" exactly are you referring to? I'm still not seeing one. Just me, pointing out your fib.

All the outrage and accusations you can come up with don't change that it is not possible for an age filter to prevent you from replying to someone who has messaged you.

You can even read it for yourself in the information on the mail filters page.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've just come back to this and he's still at it!

The reason more than one person is pointing this stuff out to you is that you're making yourself look silly (for the reasons listed above), not because we are all besties (or beasties as my autocorrect wanted to say!) who have it in for you. They aren't, or certainly weren't, personal attacks at you, even if you perceived them to be.

You are continuing to make yourself look daft. Give it a rest, let the thread die and come back tomorrow.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

OP I've got just the thing for you, and for some others on the thread. If you go to Browse, there is a little button next to the age ranges section that you can click on that says "I match their age requirements too".

If you click that, you will only ever see people that are looking for people your age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP I've got just the thing for you, and for some others on the thread. If you go to Browse, there is a little button next to the age ranges section that you can click on that says "I match their age requirements too".

If you click that, you will only ever see people that are looking for people your age.

You do know that you've just joined the clique against him now, don't you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Right then, that's been settled........not

Fancy a fuck anyone?

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way.

Pardon? That made no sense at all. If you rewrite it in English it may help.

I'll assume that random ranting means you have no way to support your spurious claim.

You're making yourself look ridiculous by questioning anyone else's preferences when you clearly have preferences of your own.

Get a grip.

You do know what my problem is because I've told you. It's your entitled attitude and believing you have a right to question and criticise other people's preferences. You don't.

You haven't been very civil to several people on this thread, so you really don't have any moral high ground there."

Above is my post, an observation put as lets say a rhetorical question as there really isn't an answer. So just a me a bit bored and wondering about it, not being aggressive, not being critical like you seem to say or calling people 'liars', sounds like someone I know here that little lot!

I asked your pal TT as you call him where am I 'criticizing' as well. So lets look there is a question 'Why do ladies and couples even in their 50's ban males in their 40's from contacting them?' No criticism there it's clearly slightly lighthearted annoyance to me but no criticism of anyone just a fact.

The next sentence is 'I'm a big fan of a more mature lady etc but find a large % are not available to show my wit and charms LOL.' No criticism there either, just my preferences again with a lol to show I'm being lighthearted.

Final sentence 'I get it with people in their 20's but 40's really? It's not half annoying' Again not raging not really arsed just bored. Who is being criticized? I'm saying I don't get why this is the case in this age range and group. If their is anyone 'criticizing' and being plain old offensive it's you! Remember I'm a liar not at all offensive

I'm off to bed now work in the morn but please continue 'criticize' me, oh this is fun isn't it

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

If you click that, you will only ever see people that are looking for people your age.

I'll give it ago, thanks!

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"I've just come back to this and he's still at it!

You are continuing to make yourself look daft. Give it a rest, let the thread die and come back tomorrow. "

Surely ur still at it then no? Strange

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial."

Bonkers eh? And nobody took me up on my offer of diffusion

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial."

Nah just a good old argument can't beat it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial."

I had another look at my opening comment to see what got him so riled for 10 hours. And nope, still looks like I was explaining why his choice of language was resulting in people disagreeing with him.

How awful of me

I've not seen a post like this since the last school holidays.

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

"blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial.

How awful of me

I've not seen a post like this since the last school holidays."

And funny enough, it is school holidays again.

Must be the warm weather, it plays havoc with some folk.

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By *otlerCouple over a year ago

Newbury

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Any age ,depends on the guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial.

Bonkers eh? And nobody took me up on my offer of diffusion

They should have ~ takes more than one to keep the arguement going on & on & on........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial.

Bonkers eh? And nobody took me up on my offer of diffusion

They should have ~ takes more than one to keep the arguement going on & on & on........"

I'd actually left it 8 hours (I've just checked!) and he was still having a go at me for trying to explain why the first 10-20 responses were not agreeing with him.

So, usually I'd agree with you. On this occasion the OP managed pretty well on his own.

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

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. I assume because if is showing consideration for other members . It ensures that members do not contact other members who do not wish to meet them.. It seems perfectly reasonable to me . Would you prefer to receive a load of rejection emails ?

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

Bear in mind this is a filter that people use on a website with 1000s of users: when in a club it can be an entirely different scenario

Just curious here, but does there actually need to be a reason for people's personal choices?"
. It is a free society and you make your own choices . You do not have to justify them to anyone ..

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Erm I'm not in any clique, but I must reiterate what was said above.. If a person messages you, you can reply even if they block your sex, or someone of your age afterwards. The only way you can't is if they have blocked YOU.

Quite frankly I can't understand why anyone would do that to the OP.. He seems charming

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"'Just curious here, but does there actually need to be a reason for people's personal choices?'

It isn't about individuals though is it? I talking of a age range not personal choices. More seem to do this in the range I'm saying so we need a survey and questionnaire and even then have to take into account many variables to find the answer. It's a crazy old World isn't it "
. I thought members set various filters which specify the age ranges that they are willing to meet. Why would we need a survey and what would it achieve . I prefer to fish in the age range that seek members my age and not worry about who excludes me . Why should this bother me ?.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Erm I'm not in any clique, but I must reiterate what was said above.. If a person messages you, you can reply even if they block your sex, or someone of your age afterwards. The only way you can't is if they have blocked YOU.

Quite frankly I can't understand why anyone would do that to the OP.. He seems charming :-

You realise you're in my "gang" now?

Like I need a gang anyway

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

LOUD NOISES!!!!!

What film

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Any age ,depends on the guy."

It's not a ban as such its just a restriction nothing to do with the 'guy whoever that maybe. Seem to be more prevalent in the age group ive said just understand why

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any age ,depends on the guy.

It's not a ban as such its just a restriction nothing to do with the 'guy whoever that maybe. Seem to be more prevalent in the age group ive said just understand why"

Have you thought of asking Sydney university?

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Quite frankly I can't understand why anyone would do that to the OP.. He seems charming :-

You realise you're in my "gang" now?

Like I need a gang anyway

Aw I've never been in a gang before!

I don't think I'm articulate enough to be in any kind of forum clique/click/gang

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By *njoscplCouple over a year ago

Manchester

OMG

I see what you're saying Al. Like a bunch of hyenas with the taste of blood. Keep it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"blimey what a difference a few hours make. Must be a slow evening in the forums for people to get so riled by something so trivial.

Bonkers eh? And nobody took me up on my offer of diffusion

They should have ~ takes more than one to keep the arguement going on & on & on........

I'd actually left it 8 hours (I've just checked!) and he was still having a go at me for trying to explain why the first 10-20 responses were not agreeing with him.

So, usually I'd agree with you. On this occasion the OP managed pretty well on his own. "

My comment wasn't aimed at any one individual.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"OMG

I see what you're saying Al. Like a bunch of hyenas with the taste of blood. Keep it!"

LOL told you, it happens on practically every post you put on here. One group or another always has a go looking for approval from their online buddies backing each others attacks. The funny thing is they're like the ghosts from The Sixth Sense, they don't even know they're doing it! 'I see dead people' hahahaha That's what you get here nothing more a bunch of pleb after bullying probably missing it from their School days. Any way still got the bet to sort

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Any age ,depends on the guy.

It's not a ban as such its just a restriction nothing to do with the 'guy whoever that maybe. Seem to be more prevalent in the age group ive said just understand why

Have you thought of asking Sydney university? "

You know that's not a bad idea, I believe they may have the data!

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Any age ,depends on the guy.

It's not a ban as such its just a restriction nothing to do with the 'guy whoever that maybe. Seem to be more prevalent in the age group ive said just understand why

Have you thought of asking Sydney university?

You know that's not a bad idea, I believe they may have the data!"

P.S that's in jest just before it taken seriously lol

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

Quite frankly I can't understand why anyone would do that to the OP.. He seems charming

Well yes I am to those that are civil and don't come and give it out for no apparent reason other than wanting a kick off. Go and look at their first posts then look at others who have been civil.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yeah because more than one person disagreeing with someone else is definitely a gang and is bullying

OP my comments to you are my own and I don't need anyone to back me up to say what I think. Anyone who knows anything about me on here knows that!

It's actually you that seems to have wheeled in a buddy to back you up!

Those people who play the victim and claim they are being bullied by gangs after they say something contentious (and, even better, try to justify their point by making stuff up) are actually the ones trying to manipulate others into not disagreeing with them. It's a pretty weak way to deal with disagreement and just shows you can't actually support your own point.

If you can't take people disagreeing with you, don't post, especially not contentious and highly spurious stuff, on a public forum. And don't make stuff up to try to make your moan seem legitimate. And if you do, don't be surprised when you get caught out.

Some people don't want messages from people in your age group. You seem to think this is unfair because you don't get a chance to prove how wonderful you are to them. They don't care. They don't want to hear from you or anyone else they have filtered out.

Just accept it and get over it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah because more than one person disagreeing with someone else is definitely a gang and is bullying

OP my comments to you are my own and I don't need anyone to back me up to say what I think. Anyone who knows anything about me on here knows that!

It's actually you that seems to have wheeled in a buddy to back you up!

Just accept it and get over it."

Though I fear your comment will fall on deaf ears

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Yeah because more than one person disagreeing with someone else is definitely a gang and is bullying

OP my comments to you are my own and I don't need anyone to back me up to say what I think. Anyone who knows anything about me on here knows that!

It's actually you that seems to have wheeled in a buddy to back you up!

Just accept it and get over it.

Though I fear your comment will fall on deaf ears

Well it is his right to be able to demonstrate his wit and charm to anyone he wants to, whether or not they want to hear from him.

I'll never understand why some get so distraught or annoyed that some people have preferences that don't include them. Surely it makes sense to concentrate one's energy on finding the people that are interested rather than whining about those that aren't.

And to those who can't take being disagreed with, any disagreement is always an attack, a clique, ganging up and bullying. I guess that since they take someone not wanting to hear from them so badly, it's not a surprise they also can't deal with anyone disagreeing with them.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Yeah because more than one person disagreeing with someone else is definitely a gang and is bullying

OP my comments to you are my own and I don't need anyone to back me up to say what I think. Anyone who knows anything about me on here knows that!

It's actually you that seems to have wheeled in a buddy to back you up!

Just accept it and get over it.

Though I fear your comment will fall on deaf ears

By the way, you are also now in my gang. Your membership and gang magazine are in the post.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Yeah because more than one person disagreeing with someone else is definitely a gang and is bullying

OP my comments to you are my own and I don't need anyone to back me up to say what I think. Anyone who knows anything about me on here knows that!

It's actually you that seems to have wheeled in a buddy to back you up!

Just accept it and get over it."

Sorry but more than one saying 'look at this' or 'see what he said' is clearly trying to form a group by trying to bringing others on side haven't you and others been doing that?

No where did I criticize TT or anyone until he came on his first post doing just that to me, what should I sheepishly so 'oh your right'? lol.

No where did I call you a bullshiter or show any aggression towards you until you did to me, that's a fact and it's what happens in life I'm afraid try walking up to someone in the St and listen them and just say 'bullshit you're a lair' see what happens LOL.

Any way I don't think there's much point you won't take any of it in just keep being offended for some reason with a post that's nothing to do with you. So go and bounce off ya new pals and crack on!

P.S half the shit you're writing I'm not reading but if you'd like an answer, maybe answer who was being criticized by me in the heading then put a few points you'd like to be addressed and I maybe get on it for you! Oh not like 'who are you to say what peoples preferences are' isn't one as that's what you're saying I said not what I said, you just seem to think that lol. Have fun xxx

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By *njoscplCouple over a year ago

Manchester

Still going

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Oh dear goodness. OP you really need to work on that fragile little ego of yours. This place will cause you endless annoyance and anguish otherwise.

It may surprise you but I pointed out you'd lied because you made stuff up that cannot be true.

Telling porkies is a perfectly justifiable reason for telling someone they're telling porkies. There's no need for you to have said it to me first. And yes, I'd be equally happy to tell anyone on the street clearly telling lies that they are making that stuff up.

I am endlessly amazed at just how hurt some people can get because some other people they don't even know don't want to get messages from them. That's actually, fundamentally, what all this is about.

Seriously, just get over it. They don't want to hear from you, however great and charming you think you are.

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

Funny enough I had a message of somebody and couldn't reply because of the blocking, some people it seems don't even know they put it on

Bullshit! If someone messages, you or even winks at you, the mail filter preventing you from messaging is lifted.

Stop making up stories to try to justify your whining that people you think should be willing to at least talk about meeting you, don't want to.

Put on your big boy pants and stop acting like a cry baby because you're not getting all your own way.

Don't know about anyone else, but we found this a bit aggressive and borderline abusive.

Maybe sometimes we are all guilty of not really looking at what we are saying in the heat of the moment.

Problem is, on a Forum like this, those words are here for all to see.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Oh and show me where I said "look at this" or "see what he said". (That's you making stuff up again)

I addressed you and your comments.

I don't care if I'm the only one who disagrees with you. I'm not, but that's beside the point.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Oh dear goodness. OP you really need to work on that fragile little ego of yours. This place will cause you endless annoyance and anguish otherwise.

It may surprise you but I pointed out you'd lied because you made stuff up that cannot be true.

I am endlessly amazed at just how hurt some people can get because some other people they don't even know don't want to get messages from them. That's actually, fundamentally, what all this is about.

Seriously, just get over it. They don't want to hear from you, however great and charming you think you are."

You seem very confused I'm not hurt! lol WTF I'm having a great time, does it make you happy to think you're bothering me lol Keep it coming I love rude arrogant (go check the first 3 or 4 posts you put up without reply for backing this) pricks male or female doesn't bother me any case, I'm about to win!! LMAO

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Still going

Yeah LOL and u better get that purse out!

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

"You seem very confused I'm not hurt! lol WTF I'm having a great time, does it make you happy to think you're bothering me lol Keep it coming I love rude arrogant (go check the first 3 or 4 posts you put up without reply for backing this) pricks male or female doesn't bother me any case, I'm about to win!! LMAO"

About to win?

How?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Oh dear goodness. OP you really need to work on that fragile little ego of yours. This place will cause you endless annoyance and anguish otherwise.

It may surprise you but I pointed out you'd lied because you made stuff up that cannot be true.

I am endlessly amazed at just how hurt some people can get because some other people they don't even know don't want to get messages from them. That's actually, fundamentally, what all this is about.

Seriously, just get over it. They don't want to hear from you, however great and charming you think you are.

I hope winning is worth having made yourself look daft.

You're not hurt but you posted a thread about how annoying it is that people you are attracted to don't want messages from you or other people your age.

Yes, I can see how you totally aren't hurt or annoyed, except for the bit in the OP that says you're annoyed and how in posts throughout the thread you've complained you're disadvantaged and it's not fair and such.

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By *brite OP Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Oh dear goodness. OP you really need to work on that fragile little ego of yours. This place will cause you endless annoyance and anguish otherwise.

It may surprise you but I pointed out you'd lied because you made stuff up that cannot be true.

I am endlessly amazed at just how hurt some people can get because some other people they don't even know don't want to get messages from them. That's actually, fundamentally, what all this is about.

Seriously, just get over it. They don't want to hear from you, however great and charming you think you are.

I hope winning is worth having made yourself look daft.

You're not hurt but you posted a thread about how annoying it is that people you are attracted to don't want messages from you or other people your age.

Well I posted a question, one I know won't be answer as it can't really.

I haven't complained any where that's your perception I simply wonder why this was the case with this age group.

I even threw in a lol to show the lightheartedness of the comment as I have done all they way through. I cant help it if you think I'm hurt can I all I can do is laugh at you and keep to the game plan.

I love the way you just dismiss any criticism of your behavior here, I mean of course you couldn't of come on and said 'op if you were messaged then it's open to message back' oh no it had to be unpleasant and aggressive didn't it? Because if you did I had said 'is that right? Maybe they blocked as I read it but didn't get back for a few days'

You are aggressive and a bully, you have said things like 'he' said instead of 'you' this is addressing other people trying to bring them on side, forming a 'gang if you like using a kind of herding mentality and sure enough those others who'd misinterpreted the question and how it was asked join in with comments.

Again no where am I saying 'boo hoo poor me' Or it's not fair' that is what you are saying that I'm saying, I not saying people can't have preferences either. I treated it how it was meant all along a lighthearted post, but I knew what would happen and it has! Thanks for backing me

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"It's not half annoying" is a complaint. You posted that you are disadvantaged, which is a complaint. You have complained.

You posted a thread questioning people's preferences when you clearly have preferences of your own.

Of course people were going to tell you that you don't have a right to question their preferences.

You made stuff up, so you shouldn't be surprised it was pointed out that you made stuff up.

If this is what you "expected", it happened because you engineered it to happen by moaning about other people's preferences.

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

Funny enough OP, you talk about aggression, we honestly felt that the comments we referred to earlier that you made yesterday were of an aggressive and abusive nature.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"you have said things like 'he' said instead of 'you' this is addressing other people trying to bring them on side"

Nope, that was me agreeing with people who were also disagreeing with you.

I didn't need to bring them onside, they were already telling you they disagreed with you.

You were the one that started taking offence at being disagreed with.

And moaning that something annoys you is still a complaint, not a question!

Still, you clearly can't see your own posts for what they are so I'll leave you to your entitlement and delusions.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Again no where am I saying 'boo hoo poor me' Or it's not fair'"

As I've already pointed out, where you complained it's annoying and where you claimed you are "disadvantaged" by other people's preferences, for starters!

Disadvantaged means you think you are treated unfairly!

You keep asking questions I've already answered and failing to address points and questions others address to you.

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

OP, got to ask this.

Did you post this for a bet or a dare?

It seems that this arguement is over a whole lot of nothing.

You posted saying that you were half annoyed at the choices other people make on here.

The replies you received were that other people's choices are purely theirs, just as you have made your own personal choices on your profile.

We are sure you agree that everyone is entitled to their own choices and others should respect those choices not get annoyed by them, so where has all this other stuff come from?

You think others can't make their own choices?

We just don't get this half-annoyed bit to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let me attempt a step by step explanation one more time:

OP, by your third post in this thread you were questioning why people thought you were complaining and/or mouthing off. Their words and your words, not mine.

I posted an explanation as to why what you said could have been construed as complaining and why it didn't sound like your "peace of love to all" sentiment.

Since then you have now spent over 24 hours abusing and criticising and playground-style name calling and sniping.

This has resulted in an escalation of more people thinking and saying that what you are saying is wrong, bullshit or rude.

From my personal perspective I can't see how what I said could be construed by an adult as an attack. Hence why I have been responding to you saying I am attacking you.

Your comments are making you look like a child. And the more you make the worse it gets. Hence why I also (again trying to help) suggested you let the thread die... Only to discover 8 hours later you were still having snipey little playground-style name calling.

Once more, good luck.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

It was the blatant lie that he'd had a message from someone and couldn't reply because of age filters that irritated.

Can we say "Busted!""

To be fair, there has been issues with this before on the site and Admin ask people to mail them if they find it a problem.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It was the blatant lie that he'd had a message from someone and couldn't reply because of age filters that irritated.

Can we say "Busted!"

To be fair, there has been issues with this before on the site and Admin ask people to mail them if they find it a problem."

That's hardly the OP being discriminated against and disadvantaged like he's trying to claim though.

It looks just like the standard case of someone taking issue with other people having preferences that exclude them.

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By *akedwife12Couple over a year ago

Midlands

It was the blatant lie that he'd had a message from someone and couldn't reply because of age filters that irritated.

Can we say "Busted!"

To be fair, there has been issues with this before on the site and Admin ask people to mail them if they find it a problem.

That's hardly the OP being discriminated against and disadvantaged like he's trying to claim though.

It looks just like the standard case of someone taking issue with other people having preferences that exclude them."

To be fair, that is how we see it as well.

Or maybe he HAS done this for a dare!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

at reading the rest. Sometimes it is better to step away from the keyboard.

If you can't debate without being civil or getting personal about other users, then please don't post.

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