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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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First ever post, so please be gentle....
Has Fab (or similar sites) changed the way you think of men?
All men, in your daily life?
I think it's made me feel a bit distrustful and cynical towards all males, now.
Or am I being weird? |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Ok.
Wrong place for 'serious'.
I'll stick to 'Tits Out Tuesday' in future!!
My bad."
You only posted it a few minutes ago! Give people time to see and read it..
No, my opinion of men hasn't changed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's had the opposite effect on me. I'm still shy and still don't chat people up but know now if I did I wouldn't get looked at like an idiot for trying. If that makes any sense?"
But isn't that a change in how you see yourself, rather than men?
Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people's fab experience can vary greatly depending on what they are looking for and how they go about finding it.
Fab hasn't changed my point of view re men's behaviour, it's opened my eyes to some women's behaviour though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people's fab experience can vary greatly depending on what they are looking for and how they go about finding it.
Fab hasn't changed my point of view re men's behaviour, it's opened my eyes to some women's behaviour though!"
 Probably confirmed my view of men and women rather than changed it. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"It's had the opposite effect on me. I'm still shy and still don't chat people up but know now if I did I wouldn't get looked at like an idiot for trying. If that makes any sense?
But isn't that a change in how you see yourself, rather than men?
Xxx"
Partly. But it's also assuming that men would have taken the piss before. This may be because all my mates are blokes and taking the piss constantly is something we just do. But I've realised that this isn't necessarily the case and Fab has been part of me realising that men aren't all like the men I already know and are comfortable with and also that they're not all scary and unapproachable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's had the opposite effect on me. I'm still shy and still don't chat people up but know now if I did I wouldn't get looked at like an idiot for trying. If that makes any sense?
But isn't that a change in how you see yourself, rather than men?
Xxx
Partly. But it's also assuming that men would have taken the piss before. This may be because all my mates are blokes and taking the piss constantly is something we just do. But I've realised that this isn't necessarily the case and Fab has been part of me realising that men aren't all like the men I already know and are comfortable with and also that they're not all scary and unapproachable."
Ah! That makes great sense. I agree.
I HAVE become a lot more confident in approaching and speaking to men. It used to terrify me!
But I've had so much vile, suggestive, smutty, rude crap on here, that I tend to think of them as one-track minded chancers, now.
Maybe I was just naive about the way things are, before?
Food for thought, indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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But the way they're lovely until they hear 'no'.
You go from being beautiful and sexy, to being an old, fat, ugly slag who is shit in bed.
This literally happens to me every day, on here.
(Unless I'm really just an old fat ugly slag, and they're just being sincere. Eek!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just wonder if the men I see in day to day life whether I know them or not are on sites like this!!"
I agree. I guess men (and women) are on this site pretty much as I've expected them to be. However, now I look around and wonder who else is on a site like this one. I bet people on the street would never suspect me, so now I suspect the least likely people  
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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago
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Yes in good and bad ways
Fab has made me understand that there are men who genuinely don't fancy the waif like slim tiny women that we see in the media - that's been nice to get my head round
Fab has also made me realise that men will tell you anything for a fuck. I know there are men who message me on here who wouldn't look at me twice in the street |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes in good and bad ways
Fab has made me understand that there are men who genuinely don't fancy the waif like slim tiny women that we see in the media - that's been nice to get my head round
Fab has also made me realise that men will tell you anything for a fuck. I know there are men who message me on here who wouldn't look at me twice in the street "
What a wonderful reply.
How true.
It sums up exactly how I feel.
Thank you. Xxx |
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"Yes in good and bad ways
Fab has made me understand that there are men who genuinely don't fancy the waif like slim tiny women that we see in the media - that's been nice to get my head round
Fab has also made me realise that men will tell you anything for a fuck. I know there are men who message me on here who wouldn't look at me twice in the street "
I agree with this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But the way they're lovely until they hear 'no'.
You go from being beautiful and sexy, to being an old, fat, ugly slag who is shit in bed.
This literally happens to me every day, on here.
(Unless I'm really just an old fat ugly slag, and they're just being sincere. Eek!)"
If there are guys on here saying that to you they must be mad or fakes or just twats. Sometimes a mans behaviour causes me to question myself. I pride myself on having manners in everything I do but I know a fair few who should be shot into space and removed from civilisation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not men I know in my real life because they're not trying to get in my knickers. They treat me like a real person.
On here, yes, I just think 99% of men will say anything for a fuck & most of it is absolute bollocks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"But the way they're lovely until they hear 'no'.
You go from being beautiful and sexy, to being an old, fat, ugly slag who is shit in bed.
This literally happens to me every day, on here.
(Unless I'm really just an old fat ugly slag, and they're just being sincere. Eek!)
If there are guys on here saying that to you they must be mad or fakes or just twats. Sometimes a mans behaviour causes me to question myself. I pride myself on having manners in everything I do but I know a fair few who should be shot into space and removed from civilisation. "
Bless you. I thought they were aberrations, too. Until it happened day in, day out. For seven months!
Great to hear it's not an intrinsic male behaviour! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not men I know in my real life because they're not trying to get in my knickers. They treat me like a real person.
On here, yes, I just think 99% of men will say anything for a fuck & most of it is absolute bollocks."
You mean I'm not rally the sexiest woman he (as in that guy who messaged me and has not even seen my face) has ever seen? 
Thanks Miss I...
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not men I know in my real life because they're not trying to get in my knickers. They treat me like a real person.
On here, yes, I just think 99% of men will say anything for a fuck & most of it is absolute bollocks.
You mean I'm not rally the sexiest woman he (as in that guy who messaged me and has not even seen my face) has ever seen?
Thanks Miss I...
-Courtney"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes in good and bad ways
Fab has made me understand that there are men who genuinely don't fancy the waif like slim tiny women that we see in the media - that's been nice to get my head round
Fab has also made me realise that men will tell you anything for a fuck. I know there are men who message me on here who wouldn't look at me twice in the street
What a wonderful reply.
How true.
It sums up exactly how I feel.
Thank you. Xxx"
Totally agree with this....and yes it is funny how a polite "no thank you" turns you from "hey gorgeous" to " ugly fat slag".....just keep smiling |
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I prefer male company, and know some real filthy bastards .
What has changed is the type of man I invite to my home. If they can't accommodate I don't care what the reason, I don't ask for one, they don't come to mine.
It didn't use to matter, but after one of my regular playmates, whilst lying in my bed baulked at the suggestion of meeting at his next time as my daughter would be home from uni with "I don't invite people I've met off the Internet into my home, it's not a knocking shop!"
Well, my selection process changed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First ever post, so please be gentle....
Has Fab (or similar sites) changed the way you think of men?
All men, in your daily life?
I think it's made me feel a bit distrustful and cynical towards all males, now.
Or am I being weird?"
You are not definitely 
I'm in similar mode of thinking at the moment, this is entertainment site for men, a great material to wank over genuine pretty ladies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was happy to meet men when I first joined here, but it was so much of a hassle I stopped bothering. There are some lovely blokes on here, but I'd just be happy to go for a few pints with them and forget about anything else. |
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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago
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"I prefer male company, and know some real filthy bastards .
What has changed is the type of man I invite to my home. If they can't accommodate I don't care what the reason, I don't ask for one, they don't come to mine.
It didn't use to matter, but after one of my regular playmates, whilst lying in my bed baulked at the suggestion of meeting at his next time as my daughter would be home from uni with "I don't invite people I've met off the Internet into my home, it's not a knocking shop!"
Well, my selection process changed. "
That's lovely!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But the way they're lovely until they hear 'no'.
You go from being beautiful and sexy, to being an old, fat, ugly slag who is shit in bed.
This literally happens to me every day, on here.
(Unless I'm really just an old fat ugly slag, and they're just being sincere. Eek!)"
Unfortunately, there seems to be a great number of 'men' who really can't handle rejection.
I really don't understand what they hope to achieve by sending an abusive, hurtful and rude response when you have turned them down.
Surely all they are doing is confirming why you were right to reject them in the first place.
I can't think of anyone (us men included) who would change their mind after receiving such an abusive message.
It's not like you're going to respond with 'You know, you're absolutely right. How silly of me. I have absolutely no self worth and therefore have no right to turn down someone of your magnificence'
Muppets.
Real men. Proper men. Decent men, are mature enough to accept that they will not appeal to everyone.
Ignore the boys and focus your attention on Men!
Welcome to the forums Cleo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's had the opposite effect on me. I'm still shy and still don't chat people up but know now if I did I wouldn't get looked at like an idiot for trying. If that makes any sense?
But isn't that a change in how you see yourself, rather than men?
Xxx
Partly. But it's also assuming that men would have taken the piss before. This may be because all my mates are blokes and taking the piss constantly is something we just do. But I've realised that this isn't necessarily the case and Fab has been part of me realising that men aren't all like the men I already know and are comfortable with and also that they're not all scary and unapproachable.
Ah! That makes great sense. I agree.
I HAVE become a lot more confident in approaching and speaking to men. It used to terrify me!
But I've had so much vile, suggestive, smutty, rude crap on here, that I tend to think of them as one-track minded chancers, now.
Maybe I was just naive about the way things are, before?
Food for thought, indeed! "
Is that they way they are or are they merely reacting to what they see?
I'd think their comments to a half naked woman on a sex site would be very different to comments to a fully dressed woman in the street.
I mean no disrespect by this. Hope you understand what I mean.
And yes of course people should be respectful. But still... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes in good and bad ways
Fab has made me understand that there are men who genuinely don't fancy the waif like slim tiny women that we see in the media - that's been nice to get my head round
Fab has also made me realise that men will tell you anything for a fuck. I know there are men who message me on here who wouldn't look at me twice in the street "
I agree with the first point.
But only half agree with the second. Some men are genuinely attracted to larger or older women (for example) but they won't 'admit' it to their mates for fear of them taking the piss. I think that's society's fault, not really the men's fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But the way they're lovely until they hear 'no'.
You go from being beautiful and sexy, to being an old, fat, ugly slag who is shit in bed.
This literally happens to me every day, on here.
(Unless I'm really just an old fat ugly slag, and they're just being sincere. Eek!)
Unfortunately, there seems to be a great number of 'men' who really can't handle rejection.
I really don't understand what they hope to achieve by sending an abusive, hurtful and rude response when you have turned them down.
Surely all they are doing is confirming why you were right to reject them in the first place.
I can't think of anyone (us men included) who would change their mind after receiving such an abusive message.
It's not like you're going to respond with 'You know, you're absolutely right. How silly of me. I have absolutely no self worth and therefore have no right to turn down someone of your magnificence'
Muppets.
Real men. Proper men. Decent men, are mature enough to accept that they will not appeal to everyone.
Ignore the boys and focus your attention on Men!
Welcome to the forums Cleo."
Very well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe THIER crass bullish behavior is an attempt to get attention probably after trying every other type of approach the gentle the funny the sexy etc to eventually they run out of any more options for THIER tiny brains and think I know maybe she likes rude this beautiful model like Almost too perfect woman she will probably like rude and suggestive and after eight months of dented egos and having not given in to any of them and met anyone because let's face it anyone who has met the woman in those photos would be shouting from the rooftops look who I gave a veri. They revert to base emotions and are rude as fuck or think well it's just a guy pretending to be a girl getting a kick on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not made me think about men any differently but made me look at them differently...now I look and think oh yes i would fuck him or oh no.  "
This is me too
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First ever post, so please be gentle....
Has Fab (or similar sites) changed the way you think of men?
All men, in your daily life?
I think it's made me feel a bit distrustful and cynical towards all males, now.
Or am I being weird?"
joining fab has made me realise how people use others for their own needs without a care what the other person wants |
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First ever post, so please be gentle....
Has Fab (or similar sites) changed the way you think of men?
All men, in your daily life?
I think it's made me feel a bit distrustful and cynical towards all males, now.
Or am I being weird?
joining fab has made me realise how people use others for their own needs without a care what the other person wants"
This both men, women and the odd couple! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First ever post, so please be gentle....
Has Fab (or similar sites) changed the way you think of men?
All men, in your daily life?
I think it's made me feel a bit distrustful and cynical towards all males, now.
Or am I being weird?
joining fab has made me realise how people use others for their own needs without a care what the other person wants
This both men, women and the odd couple!"
its a mixture not just one type |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's had the opposite effect on me. I'm still shy and still don't chat people up but know now if I did I wouldn't get looked at like an idiot for trying. If that makes any sense?
But isn't that a change in how you see yourself, rather than men?
Xxx
Partly. But it's also assuming that men would have taken the piss before. This may be because all my mates are blokes and taking the piss constantly is something we just do. But I've realised that this isn't necessarily the case and Fab has been part of me realising that men aren't all like the men I already know and are comfortable with and also that they're not all scary and unapproachable.
Ah! That makes great sense. I agree.
I HAVE become a lot more confident in approaching and speaking to men. It used to terrify me!
But I've had so much vile, suggestive, smutty, rude crap on here, that I tend to think of them as one-track minded chancers, now.
Maybe I was just naive about the way things are, before?
Food for thought, indeed! "
I've become very cynical about men since I started on this lifestyle 5 years ago
I take it that they're all the same until they prove me wrong, and so far haven't been proved wrong.
Friends on here means nothing in the outside world
It's all about sex, don't read anything into it, and just get out of it what you need to give you a glorious sex life, but not atthe expense of your standards |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Hmm. As an aside, in response to the remarks that I'm 'fake' or a man with fake photos, I've just displayed some of my verifications on my profile.
Just saying. I HAVE had meets.....
Random, I know, but I hate being badly thought of.
Disastrous trait to have, on this site, I realise! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's had the opposite effect on me. I'm still shy and still don't chat people up but know now if I did I wouldn't get looked at like an idiot for trying. If that makes any sense?
But isn't that a change in how you see yourself, rather than men?
Xxx
Partly. But it's also assuming that men would have taken the piss before. This may be because all my mates are blokes and taking the piss constantly is something we just do. But I've realised that this isn't necessarily the case and Fab has been part of me realising that men aren't all like the men I already know and are comfortable with and also that they're not all scary and unapproachable.
Ah! That makes great sense. I agree.
I HAVE become a lot more confident in approaching and speaking to men. It used to terrify me!
But I've had so much vile, suggestive, smutty, rude crap on here, that I tend to think of them as one-track minded chancers, now.
Maybe I was just naive about the way things are, before?
Food for thought, indeed!
Is that they way they are or are they merely reacting to what they see?
I'd think their comments to a half naked woman on a sex site would be very different to comments to a fully dressed woman in the street.
I mean no disrespect by this. Hope you understand what I mean.
And yes of course people should be respectful. But still... "
Being insulting and vile is justified because I'm naked?
Ok. I see where you're coming from.
I'm not horrible to naked people. So maybe I really AM a weirdo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't look at the mantlepiece while you are stoking the fire.........that's my education of men here....trouble is I have to find the mantlepiece attractive, to let him Stoke my fire...... |
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
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A man or woman who behaves disrespectfully on here, should apologise for their own behaviour.
Other men or women, do not need to apologise on their behalf.
Judge the individual not the collective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is always gonna be un trustworthy women and men,I don't think this site is any different than real life. Unfortunately just steer clear of the crap and rejoice and enjoy the good xx;) |
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First ever post, so please be gentle....
Has Fab (or similar sites) changed the way you think of men?
All men, in your daily life?
I think it's made me feel a bit distrustful and cynical towards all males, now.
Or am I being weird?"
I was always cynic also no change there
No seriously it hasn't changed my views.
Though I have found that I catch myself looking at attractive people and thinking... "Wonder if they swing", in a hopeful sort of way... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hmm. As an aside, in response to the remarks that I'm 'fake' or a man with fake photos, I've just displayed some of my verifications on my profile.
Just saying. I HAVE had meets.....
Random, I know, but I hate being badly thought of.
Disastrous trait to have, on this site, I realise!"
I don't like being badly thought of either but I've learnt to reign that trait in a little since being on here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cleo having looked at your profile, I imagine the guys that are ass holes prob are not your type and they become as holes because they don't get anywhere. Blokes on this site should be able to take a bit of rejection and move on.
Hang in there sister, you look great |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's had the opposite effect on me. I'm still shy and still don't chat people up but know now if I did I wouldn't get looked at like an idiot for trying. If that makes any sense?
But isn't that a change in how you see yourself, rather than men?
Xxx
Partly. But it's also assuming that men would have taken the piss before. This may be because all my mates are blokes and taking the piss constantly is something we just do. But I've realised that this isn't necessarily the case and Fab has been part of me realising that men aren't all like the men I already know and are comfortable with and also that they're not all scary and unapproachable.
Ah! That makes great sense. I agree.
I HAVE become a lot more confident in approaching and speaking to men. It used to terrify me!
But I've had so much vile, suggestive, smutty, rude crap on here, that I tend to think of them as one-track minded chancers, now.
Maybe I was just naive about the way things are, before?
Food for thought, indeed!
Is that they way they are or are they merely reacting to what they see?
I'd think their comments to a half naked woman on a sex site would be very different to comments to a fully dressed woman in the street.
I mean no disrespect by this. Hope you understand what I mean.
And yes of course people should be respectful. But still...
Being insulting and vile is justified because I'm naked?
Ok. I see where you're coming from.
I'm not horrible to naked people. So maybe I really AM a weirdo!"
No that's not what I meant. sorry |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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From speaking to female friends I have made though Fabs, my eyes have been opened to just how ridiculous/awful/desperate my gender can be.
Which seems to make life a lot easier for those of us who are none of the above.
Thanks, reprobates! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"[THREAD APPROVED]
Forgive my ignorance.....
Is that a good thing?
[IGNORANCE APPROVED]
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CRYPTIC 'APPROVAL' POSTS ......not understood.
It's late. Sorry.
Maybe I'll understand in the morning? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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FAB is the same as real life...
You,ll meet nice genuine men and you will meet shits...
And the same for the fellas...
They will meet great women and some shitty women...
FAB is about sexy fun dont think to much into it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"FAB is the same as real life...
You,ll meet nice genuine men and you will meet shits...
And the same for the fellas...
They will meet great women and some shitty women...
FAB is about sexy fun dont think to much into it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say that I rarely get abuse when I say I'm not interested in a guy who has messaged me.
Most are very polite & their mums would be very proud of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately you seem to have encountered a small percentage of small minded idiots. You are free to choose who you wish to meet and as one man said they should take the rejection on the chin and move on.
I think this site opens a lot of people eyes in general be they male or female and sometimes this is for the greater good and sometimes not. I sometimes catch myself thinking from time to time do I ever see people that are on the site in my day to day visits and I have no idea who they are or them know who I am.
Thanks for the first post |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First ever post, so please be gentle....
Has Fab (or similar sites) changed the way you think of men?
All men, in your daily life?
I think it's made me feel a bit distrustful and cynical towards all males, now.
Or am I being weird?"
No just confirmed all I knew lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately you seem to have encountered a small percentage of small minded idiots. You are free to choose who you wish to meet and as one man said they should take the rejection on the chin and move on.
I think this site opens a lot of people eyes in general be they male or female and sometimes this is for the greater good and sometimes not. I sometimes catch myself thinking from time to time do I ever see people that are on the site in my day to day visits and I have no idea who they are or them know who I am.
Thanks for the first post "
How about this:
Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
This is something that's intrigued me since day one, so it seemed a good time to ask!
(Overly verbose birds are the last thing anyone wants last thing at night, so I apologise for being wordy. It's a failing of mine.)
Seriously be grateful to know what people think.
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't think it's going to be a perfect representation for a few reasons.
Chiefly, it's that swinging seems to mainly be something that people gravitate to a little later in life, so there aren't as many twenty-somethings.
There are then also elements of society for whom this lifestyle would be deeply unappealing, given that it's generally women in charge. (I've phrased that badly, but hopefully well enough!)
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
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Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
This is something that's intrigued me since day one, so it seemed a good time to ask!
(Overly verbose birds are the last thing anyone wants last thing at night, so I apologise for being wordy. It's a failing of mine.)
Seriously be grateful to know what people think.
Xxxx"
1) Hell no.
2) Yes, and they fall into several categories, ranging from genuine swingers, to those looking for casual one-to-one hook ups, and those who cannot get laid and feel that swinging is somehow a sexual free for all and they are bound to get some action in spite of their repellent personalities.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I still don't view guys on here the same as guys in my daily life
I don't know why I just don't, I know its OK to make a move on guys on here because that's what we are all here for, of course I realise not all will like me but in real life I would never make a move on a guy, I just don't see guys in real life as walking sex machines after a shag like the guys who use fab which is daft really cause to some guys on here are guys in their real life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
This is something that's intrigued me since day one, so it seemed a good time to ask!
(Overly verbose birds are the last thing anyone wants last thing at night, so I apologise for being wordy. It's a failing of mine.)
Seriously be grateful to know what people think.
Xxxx
1) Hell no.
2) Yes, and they fall into several categories, ranging from genuine swingers, to those looking for casual one-to-one hook ups, and those who cannot get laid and feel that swinging is somehow a sexual free for all and they are bound to get some action in spite of their repellent personalities...."
Wow. Teach me how to be so succinct?
Great stuff. I think you might be spot-on. |
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
London |
"From speaking to female friends I have made though Fabs, my eyes have been opened to just how ridiculous/awful/desperate my gender can be.
Which seems to make life a lot easier for those of us who are none of the above.
Thanks, reprobates! "
And there are men who will be able to refer to awful female behaviour.
Such is life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to be honest I think guys on fab play mind games...
So I just treat them as sexy fun...
If I met a guy in the real world, who genuinely liked me...
I,d dump fab in a heartbeat |
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Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
x"
No, it is a way, way skewed representation, the majority are not interested in this lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
x
No, it is a way, way skewed representation, the majority are not interested in this lifestyle."
What are the majority interested in? |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
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Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
This is something that's intrigued me since day one, so it seemed a good time to ask!
(Overly verbose birds are the last thing anyone wants last thing at night, so I apologise for being wordy. It's a failing of mine.)
Seriously be grateful to know what people think.
Xxxx
1) Hell no.
2) Yes, and they fall into several categories, ranging from genuine swingers, to those looking for casual one-to-one hook ups, and those who cannot get laid and feel that swinging is somehow a sexual free for all and they are bound to get some action in spite of their repellent personalities....
Wow. Teach me how to be so succinct?
Great stuff. I think you might be spot-on."
Thanks!
I never use ten words where one will do. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
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Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
x
No, it is a way, way skewed representation, the majority are not interested in this lifestyle.
What are the majority interested in?"
Britains Got Come Pop Factor in the Jungle? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm afraid all I see is relationship bells...
I've seen it for numbers of years, hot girl meets hot boy..on fab...they look inseparable...few months later...she's single cos he shagged around behind her back.
then we(us single guys) get it.."All men are (add expletive)"
heres a wee note to add..some guys will want a gf from fab...but most of the time..they are interested in shagging more women...which is why its 'great' to be a couple...soon it'll then start going into MFF meets...and the story continues.
Sorry girls..I'm a cynic...and a bit more realistic on whats on offer..especially via this site...perhaps not so much the scene in general |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's given me serious trust issues.
Me too!"
Me to,but towards women,because it seems there is a few on here from colchester/clacton and surrounding areas,that after a few messages start saying come on my cam site |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
I think it has changed my perspective a little. For one thing I have found that there are some men that will shag anyone irrespective of whether they find you attractive or not, while on the other hand there are plenty of men who are happy to compliment you without expecting a shag in return. The latter have really boosted my confidence and self image. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"I think it has changed my perspective a little. For one thing I have found that there are some men that will shag anyone irrespective of whether they find you attractive or not, while on the other hand there are plenty of men who are happy to compliment you without expecting a shag in return. The latter have really boosted my confidence and self image."
I've seen plenty of people who believed that a compliment from the latter was actually from the former, due to their own preconceptions of themselves.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people's fab experience can vary greatly depending on what they are looking for and how they go about finding it.
Fab hasn't changed my point of view re men's behaviour, it's opened my eyes to some women's behaviour though!"
Too right!
Apologies for jumping into a ladies thread lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm afraid all I see is relationship bells...
I've seen it for numbers of years, hot girl meets hot boy..on fab...they look inseparable...few months later...she's single cos he shagged around behind her back.
then we(us single guys) get it.."All men are (add expletive)"
heres a wee note to add..some guys will want a gf from fab...but most of the time..they are interested in shagging more women...which is why its 'great' to be a couple...soon it'll then start going into MFF meets...and the story continues.
Sorry girls..I'm a cynic...and a bit more realistic on whats on offer..especially via this site...perhaps not so much the scene in general"
You're spot on |
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Is Fab a perfect cross section of adult society? I.e. Is it a fair representation of men (and women) in general?
Or does a certain demographic gravitate towards a swinging site?
x
No, it is a way, way skewed representation, the majority are not interested in this lifestyle.
What are the majority interested in?"
What might be called vanilla I guess? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm surprised the amount of guys who go looking for sex while with someone, yeah, and women too.
I think it's weird to be like that about all men really, the men on here are just a small amount compared to society itself. But definitely be cynical until you find someone you can trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the same... can't believe the amount of married people openly cheating!
Also it has changed my perception of people in general.....sometimes I wish we all had a sorority swinger ring that we wore in everyday life.....so that people could be identified and admired for our dirty little swinger secret!! |
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My view hasn't changed.. I've always been this cynical and I still don't believe when someone compliments me (only now I don't give a shit if they are doing it to get into my pants as it means I get to get into theirs ) |
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It's made me realise there are just as many men as women who are into NSA sex . It's the difference between the interpretation of NSA sex that differs though .
Men seem to completely understand the concept , but lots of women don't .
We've always seen it as an opportunity to enjoy sexual experiences with more people involved , without the necessity for it to be anything more complicated . And men get this far more than women .
Perhaps as we have each other it's easier than being single , but quite why single women often seek more than NSA is a little worrying . We have met and enjoyed fun with some single women who do get it , but more often than not we hear and see the single women wanting more .
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"It's made me realise there are just as many men as women who are into NSA sex . It's the difference between the interpretation of NSA sex that differs though .
Men seem to completely understand the concept , but lots of women don't .
We've always seen it as an opportunity to enjoy sexual experiences with more people involved , without the necessity for it to be anything more complicated . And men get this far more than women .
Perhaps as we have each other it's easier than being single , but quite why single women often seek more than NSA is a little worrying . We have met and enjoyed fun with some single women who do get it , but more often than not we hear and see the single women wanting more .
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Nothing to do with wanting more, at all. 'More' is the last thing I'm after!
More to do with the behaviour of single males as far as manners, insults and general nastiness, really!
Transparency I can handle. Arseholes, I struggle with! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The internet and real world are vastly different places. Given the degree of anonymity the internet provides, people will take advantage of that and be assholes. Throw in the fact that a large percentage of guys here are in caveman mode with their cocks in hand and it's bound to happen.
It isn't an accurate reflection of the real world or gender as a whole but it's always wise to be cynical. |
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