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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes we host, yes we have a very long profile, however we are struggling to convey to people we love to play away from the club also, any suggestions would be welcome x thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We do that
We message people saying we would love to meet them but seem to get the response we are trying to cajole them into coming to Tease which we are not x |
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over a year ago
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"Might not be the best idea but set up a separate profile. One that is designed specifically for meeting that doesn't mention you hosing. "
We thought of that but we like the fact we are hosts and real swingers that play away from the club, which is fairly unique x |
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"Might not be the best idea but set up a separate profile. One that is designed specifically for meeting that doesn't mention you hosing.
We thought of that but we like the fact we are hosts and real swingers that play away from the club, which is fairly unique x"
And that will never change but it might be a way of intruding yourself to couples that are put off thinking you are trying to get them to the club. Could always mention this profile on your new one so it is still connected, just not so daunting for them. Couples do it all the time. Have a joint profile and an individual one to target the different groups. |
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Invite people to play in a private meet scenario that you met at the club? Maybe people that you would like to play with but didn't get to?
They've already been so you couldn't be accused of trying cajole them into coming to a club night.
Something along the lines of 'We fancy the pants off you and would love a night out with just us four there and no other distractions are you game?' |
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"Invite people to play in a private meet scenario that you met at the club? Maybe people that you would like to play with but didn't get to?
They've already been so you couldn't be accused of trying cajole them into coming to a club night.
Something along the lines of 'We fancy the pants off you and would love a night out with just us four there and no other distractions are you game?'"
Oh we do that already we are referring to new people we contact who immediately think we are just trying to cajole them into coming to Tease, I guess maybe a second profile may work but am loath to do that |
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Would it be worth having a separate profile for private meets only. I know couples sometimes have his and her's accounts but could you utilize this maybe or would that be deemed dishonest? |
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"Invite people to play in a private meet scenario that you met at the club? Maybe people that you would like to play with but didn't get to?
They've already been so you couldn't be accused of trying cajole them into coming to a club night.
Something along the lines of 'We fancy the pants off you and would love a night out with just us four there and no other distractions are you game?'"
Sometimes we don't feel it is appropriate to ask people who have attended our club night if they want to play with us privately this can cause awkwardness if they don't want to play with us and may put them off coming again |
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"Would it be worth having a separate profile for private meets only. I know couples sometimes have his and her's accounts but could you utilize this maybe or would that be deemed dishonest? "
Yep don't agree with his n hers accounts unless they play seperatly we don't! And have refrained from it as other hosts do have single female profiles just to bump posts on events and cajole people into going to a club |
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"Invite people to play in a private meet scenario that you met at the club? Maybe people that you would like to play with but didn't get to?
They've already been so you couldn't be accused of trying cajole them into coming to a club night.
Something along the lines of 'We fancy the pants off you and would love a night out with just us four there and no other distractions are you game?'
Sometimes we don't feel it is appropriate to ask people who have attended our club night if they want to play with us privately this can cause awkwardness if they don't want to play with us and may put them off coming again"
Ahh didn't think of that. It wouldn't put us off coming but can see your point that it may some others.
I must admit lots and lots of veri's does put us off a bit. It's not logical and I know that yours are from your hosting more than anything else but there it is.
Maybe have to bite the bullet then and go down the second profile route. I can't see any other way for meeting new couples. |
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Surely I'd it's not on a club night or at the same location why are people suspicious too meet. Very bizarre.
As suggested before maybe a separate profile for each.
But I'm sure your have no problem attracting people x |
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I hope you don't take this the wrong way but maybe it's not always the club thing that puts them off. Could be the number of veri's (obviously you will have lots from club nights but some people don't like to see lots), could be your pics, age, location, length of profile, shoe size, anything really. Also some new swingers might be intimidated as you seem to have lots of experience.
It can be difficult finding couples to 'click' with. It might just be that.
Hope that makes sense. I'm not being mean. x
If it was me I'd make a new profile not mentioning the club stuff at all. That way people see you as people and not with preconceived ideas of who you are.  |
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"Invite people to play in a private meet scenario that you met at the club? Maybe people that you would like to play with but didn't get to?
They've already been so you couldn't be accused of trying cajole them into coming to a club night.
Something along the lines of 'We fancy the pants off you and would love a night out with just us four there and no other distractions are you game?'
Sometimes we don't feel it is appropriate to ask people who have attended our club night if they want to play with us privately this can cause awkwardness if they don't want to play with us and may put them off coming again
Ahh didn't think of that. It wouldn't put us off coming but can see your point that it may some others.
I must admit lots and lots of veri's does put us off a bit. It's not logical and I know that yours are from your hosting more than anything else but there it is.
Maybe have to bite the bullet then and go down the second profile route. I can't see any other way for meeting new couples."
The lots & lots of veri's putting people off we kind of live with as if people can't see that 70% are from hosting what can you do! You can't change people's opinion on veri's just as we avoid the 'over one year, 1 or no veris brigade so we are maybe as guilty as others |
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"I hope you don't take this the wrong way but maybe it's not always the club thing that puts them off. Could be the number of veri's (obviously you will have lots from club nights but some people don't like to see lots), could be your pics, age, location, length of profile, shoe size, anything really. Also some new swingers might be intimidated as you seem to have lots of experience.
It can be difficult finding couples to 'click' with. It might just be that.
Hope that makes sense. I'm not being mean. x
If it was me I'd make a new profile not mentioning the club stuff at all. That way people see you as people and not with preconceived ideas of who you are. "
We display all our veris as in the past have had people ask oh why haven't you displayed ours etc, we don't want to start another profile as we think that is deceitful x |
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Perhaps move the advert in capital letters from the top of the profile to further down. The first bit says you want to play outside the club as a couple then BAM an in-your-face ad for the club... |
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"I hope you don't take this the wrong way but maybe it's not always the club thing that puts them off. Could be the number of veri's (obviously you will have lots from club nights but some people don't like to see lots), could be your pics, age, location, length of profile, shoe size, anything really. Also some new swingers might be intimidated as you seem to have lots of experience.
It can be difficult finding couples to 'click' with. It might just be that.
Hope that makes sense. I'm not being mean. x
If it was me I'd make a new profile not mentioning the club stuff at all. That way people see you as people and not with preconceived ideas of who you are.
We display all our veris as in the past have had people ask oh why haven't you displayed ours etc, we don't want to start another profile as we think that is deceitful x"
It's not deceitful. It's personal play and professional hosting. You're more than entitled to have another profile. You can even cross reference them so there is no deceit. Put on your Tease one that for personal play, drop us a message on xxxx
I think for newbies or people that aren't heavily into the scene, they would maybe intimated by contacting a club/eventers for personal play. They may assume you get inundated with play offers. Also, some club profiles state they don't do personal play so don't ask.
There is no harm in trying a second profile. |
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"Perhaps move the advert in capital letters from the top of the profile to further down. The first bit says you want to play outside the club as a couple then BAM an in-your-face ad for the club... "
Moved it and changed our strapline  |
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"Perhaps move the advert in capital letters from the top of the profile to further down. The first bit says you want to play outside the club as a couple then BAM an in-your-face ad for the club...
Moved it and changed our strapline "
I think that looks loads more friendly. Good luck. |
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"Perhaps move the advert in capital letters from the top of the profile to further down. The first bit says you want to play outside the club as a couple then BAM an in-your-face ad for the club...
Moved it and changed our strapline
I think that looks loads more friendly. Good luck. "
Thank you for your advice, along with everyone else's its most appreciated |
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