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"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option " V A is a great club. I enjoy the MILF club they hold once a month on a Wednesday daytime. | |||
"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option V A is a great club. I enjoy the MILF club they hold once a month on a Wednesday daytime. " I must arrange my shifts so I get a Wednesday off that coincides... | |||
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"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " Quick question OP. Are you responding to messages? Or sending them? Those that have the least trouble finding suitable company tend to do the latter. If you seek out potential males rather than rely on your inbox then not only will you be able to focus on those you find interesting/attractive but you can aim for those with a good track record of recent veris - which should (theoretically) highlight those that actually do meet rather than engage in message ping pong for wank fodder. A | |||
"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. Quick question OP. Are you responding to messages? Or sending them? Those that have the least trouble finding suitable company tend to do the latter. If you seek out potential males rather than rely on your inbox then not only will you be able to focus on those you find interesting/attractive but you can aim for those with a good track record of recent veris - which should (theoretically) highlight those that actually do meet rather than engage in message ping pong for wank fodder. A" Thanks Obi.. I do have to add...the wank fodder can come from both parties..the males.. all this, "so what u wanna do to my slut " etc etc.. Sometimes it gets to the point in arranging a meet and its "Whats your limits?"..."what u into?"....and even "lets wank about the wife" | |||
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"Getting messages isn't a problem, finding someone who is genuinely interested in meeting is" We feel your pain. We almost give up meeting guys outside pen clubs and tend to just pick at the clubs. We sometimes want a few guys for hotel meets for his and sometimes other ladies or couples. Last time we had 6 confirmed, 2 we had met previously, and only one of the others was a newbie , the rest had lots of verifications... Not one turned up or even let us know x many get off on the talk. So above sorting the meet and a briefb discussion on likes and dislikes we wont chat beyond that x and I (mrs) prefer to keep all communications to here and let Mr do the phone calls | |||
"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. Quick question OP. Are you responding to messages? Or sending them? Those that have the least trouble finding suitable company tend to do the latter. If you seek out potential males rather than rely on your inbox then not only will you be able to focus on those you find interesting/attractive but you can aim for those with a good track record of recent veris - which should (theoretically) highlight those that actually do meet rather than engage in message ping pong for wank fodder. A Thanks Obi.. I do have to add...the wank fodder can come from both parties..the males.. all this, "so what u wanna do to my slut " etc etc.. Sometimes it gets to the point in arranging a meet and its "Whats your limits?"..."what u into?"....and even "lets wank about the wife"" Yep! I remember those days well!! A *being the single guy - not suggesting fapping over pics of the Mrs!  | |||
"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option " Is VA a good place to go? It's relatively local to us and we had considered going, but have heard mixed reviews..x | |||
"Personally in my point of view. Being new to this and all, I would find the thought of performing comfortably with a couple hard, although the fantasy exhilarating. Maybe suggest a single meet or, a social meet and a supervised single meet (maybe with fella in another room for example) then maybe try the man walking in half way through to join in. Something along those lines would probably help trust and gain a physical bond beyond a group chat behind a phone or a computer screen? Hopefully this is a good suggestion. P.s Id love to meet a couple "Sorry. Terrible idea. If a couple wants to meet a single guy then unless there's a specific scenario involving the male half watching/being outside then the idea is for a threesome with all three involved. If the single guy isn't comfortable meeting a couple then that is something he needs to get over before meeting one. There's plenty of guys more than comfortable in group scenarios and what puts a lot of couples off is when a guy gets stage fright and can't perform with the other male in the room. It can also be seen as an attempt to get to the female in a couple without the male being involved. If a guy had ever suggested a solo meet or for me to wait in another room then he'd soon find himself joining our sizeable block list. A | |||
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"Personally in my point of view. Being new to this and all, I would find the thought of performing comfortably with a couple hard, although the fantasy exhilarating. Maybe suggest a single meet or, a social meet and a supervised single meet (maybe with fella in another room for example) then maybe try the man walking in half way through to join in. Something along those lines would probably help trust and gain a physical bond beyond a group chat behind a phone or a computer screen? Hopefully this is a good suggestion. P.s Id love to meet a couple
Sorry. Terrible idea.
If a couple wants to meet a single guy then unless there's a specific scenario involving the male half watching/being outside then the idea is for a threesome with all three involved.
If the single guy isn't comfortable meeting a couple then that is something he needs to get over before meeting one. There's plenty of guys more than comfortable in group scenarios and what puts a lot of couples off is when a guy gets stage fright and can't perform with the other male in the room. It can also be seen as an attempt to get to the female in a couple without the male being involved.
If a guy had ever suggested a solo meet or for me to wait in another room then he'd soon find himself joining our sizeable block list.
A"Stage fright could be the main reason for some guys, personally I found it a massive plus. However I did go to a club for my very first meet  | |||
"Personally in my point of view. Being new to this and all, I would find the thought of performing comfortably with a couple hard, although the fantasy exhilarating. Maybe suggest a single meet or, a social meet and a supervised single meet (maybe with fella in another room for example) then maybe try the man walking in half way through to join in. Something along those lines would probably help trust and gain a physical bond beyond a group chat behind a phone or a computer screen? Hopefully this is a good suggestion. P.s Id love to meet a couple
Sorry. Terrible idea.
If a couple wants to meet a single guy then unless there's a specific scenario involving the male half watching/being outside then the idea is for a threesome with all three involved.
If the single guy isn't comfortable meeting a couple then that is something he needs to get over before meeting one. There's plenty of guys more than comfortable in group scenarios and what puts a lot of couples off is when a guy gets stage fright and can't perform with the other male in the room. It can also be seen as an attempt to get to the female in a couple without the male being involved.
If a guy had ever suggested a solo meet or for me to wait in another room then he'd soon find himself joining our sizeable block list.
A"Meet a couple as a couple. Sort to the new to this poster ...but please never suggest this to a couple! | |||
"It is entirely true. The amount of guys that are fake/rude or just undescribable on this site is beyond description. So why do we stay! Lol Because amidst the dross there are some decent guys!!" Thank fuck lol | |||
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"Don't arrange to meet Just go to club on a night that allows single guys Bingo !! Take your pick. " This  | |||
"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option Is VA a good place to go? It's relatively local to us and we had considered going, but have heard mixed reviews..x" Been there twice on a Friday and we have loved it. No problems so far! Going again in September. Love to massive hot tub. | |||
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"Maidtobespankef, I have no idea why you have problems getting single males to actually meet because as a couple you look and sound fantastic. As the others have said unfortunately there are some guys who get off on the naughty chat with no intention of ever meeting. It's those guys that block up the system for the rest of us genuine ones." No they don't. What others do in no way affect you or anyone else. A | |||
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"There is a good reason for this. Single guys are targeted by ladies and couples who draw them in with a few messages, then state that they "only meet at clubs" and ask for a meet there. They are actually working for the clubs themselves and are simply trying to get guys to attend the club, pay a huge joining and entrance fee, in order to boost the profits of the club, without any intention of actually playing. Cynical, and a disgrace. "I doubt this happens anywhere as near as is often claimed. And not being daft - but if someone suggests that to you is it not simple to just say no and block them so it doesn't happen twice? A | |||
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"We find that meeting single guys is a lot harder than we initially thought it would be. However, after our first few months, we have gotten far better at picking out the good ones. We don't like to rely on clubs because, in my experience, I rarely see single men at clubs that I find attractive (picky, I know I know). But now that we have a few single guys that we like to meet regularly everything is great. I would just recommend against relying on meet posts. Look for the guys that you want and build a rapport. Don't talk endlessly and send pics because those are the types most likely to disappear. In my experience anyway
-Courtney"Very wise words indeed. Clubs may be the perfect answer for some but not for everybody by any means, and I'm constantly reading posts outlining the most atrocious male behaviour at some of them, though I do see how they work well and can be great fun. I much prefer to cultivate some rapport and friendship before meeting up but not engage in endless banter | |||
"Personally in my point of view. Being new to this and all, I would find the thought of performing comfortably with a couple hard, although the fantasy exhilarating. Maybe suggest a single meet or, a social meet and a supervised single meet (maybe with fella in another room for example) then maybe try the man walking in half way through to join in. Something along those lines would probably help trust and gain a physical bond beyond a group chat behind a phone or a computer screen? Hopefully this is a good suggestion. P.s Id love to meet a couple "Unless that is a specific fantasy why on earth would anyone be interested in that? There are plenty of single men who have no issues so why should a couple pander to your insecurities? | |||
"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " From our experience, most of them wank over the pics, then their brains, along with their courage, tend to leak out of their dicks | |||
"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " We have the same trouble - is a shame as we are sure there are some wonderful men out there we could really enjoy the company of | |||
"There is a good reason for this. Single guys are targeted by ladies and couples who draw them in with a few messages, then state that they "only meet at clubs" and ask for a meet there. They are actually working for the clubs themselves and are simply trying to get guys to attend the club, pay a huge joining and entrance fee, in order to boost the profits of the club, without any intention of actually playing. Cynical, and a disgrace. "I suppose it does happen occasionally, but I doubt it is common practice. We only meet in clubs, that is our preference but we have no affiliation with any club, and I'm sure many others on here are the same. Cynical yes, but it is also very cynical to think that all, or even a majority, play tricks like this. | |||
"I'll be there in an hour" 45mins will leave her clean for you lol | |||
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"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " There loss | |||
"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " There loss | |||
"We have been on this account since January . Our choice for play is outdoor only so that in itself is a stumbling block for many , although we will do the odd hotel meet . And in 8 months we have met 180 single guys from fab and plenty more who aren't on here . Each and every one of them has been exactly what we have been looking for , not one bad meet . Before the quality over quantity brigade wade Iin with standards etc..... This represents 10% of the offers we have had , so we are as discerning as anyone else . We regularly message guys asking if they fancy meeting , happily meet newbies and are very up front and honest . We don't play games - a couple of messages are enough before a meet . We don't do socials but don't play if there's no connection . It's really not hard to get great meets , too many people spend way too much time over thinking it instead of just getting on with it ."
You guys know what you want and how to get it. The old 'effort in = results out" equation still holds true whether you're looking to meet guys, women or couples.
Generally it's the reactive folk that struggle rather than the proactive - whatever you're enjoying - be it club meets, private meets or outdoor.
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"Top tip. If a guy wants to see pics of you and you're interested in progressing a conversation? Send vanilla ones. Nothing to wank over. You'll soon know if they still want to meet or were just looking for free porn. A" Agree with this totally. I don't ever remember asking for a photo. Usually the ones on a profile suffice. If I'm lucky enough to be invited to a play meet, its usually after an exchange of messages via text, with a postcode, then me texting to say I have arrived, usually describing vehicle, so they can be sure I have, before texting their house number. If its a social meet the a time and place are arranged, with a description of where I am standing/sitting, either via fab or text, if we have progressed that far. This has always worked in every case, even if there have been no face pics on their profile. Anyone asking for photos, especially non vanilla photos, that you haven't met, is probably asking for them for ulterior motives. | |||
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"It is really hard for us guys not as many open minded swingers as I thought there'd be the sites disappointed me so far " Why? Because you're not knee deep in clunge? The site is full of 'open minded swingers'. The question is - what are you doing to generate interest in your profile from them? A | |||
"It is really hard for us guys not as many open minded swingers as I thought there'd be the sites disappointed me so far " Swingers are as open-minded as they need to be. It is your expectations that need adjusting.... | |||
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"Getting messages isn't a problem, finding someone who is genuinely interested in meeting is" and getting them to turn up at a meet..to be honest we have given up trying , we arrange a meet somewhere we can enjoy the night out, if he turns up maybe a bonus thats if he looks like his photos and not sent his dad..lol..connie x | |||
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"I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way. You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying.. " Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile? I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic! So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough  | |||
"We have been on this account since January . Our choice for play is outdoor only so that in itself is a stumbling block for many , although we will do the odd hotel meet . And in 8 months we have met 180 single guys from fab and plenty more who aren't on here . Each and every one of them has been exactly what we have been looking for , not one bad meet . Before the quality over quantity brigade wade Iin with standards etc..... This represents 10% of the offers we have had , so we are as discerning as anyone else . We regularly message guys asking if they fancy meeting , happily meet newbies and are very up front and honest . We don't play games - a couple of messages are enough before a meet . We don't do socials but don't play if there's no connection . It's really not hard to get great meets , too many people spend way too much time over thinking it instead of just getting on with it ." | |||
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"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " Just my opinion but I think the club thing won't help. More guys will want to pre arrange meets away from a club. More a case of seeing what's what when you get there if going to a club. | |||
"we have meet loads of nice single guys on here and elsewhere with the odd messer the best meets are where guys who are themselves the worse meets are the guys who have been told time and time again by the expert swingers that theres a code to follow you must do this or that they are so false that its no longer fun ....we avoid clubs if we can cause the men are charged silly amounts to get in then people wonder why they act like cattle once in..they want there moneys worth they have paid to get in so they want what they have paid for lol " | |||
"I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way. You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying.. Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile? I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic! So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough "The definition of a decent profile is open to debate. I consider mine decent you may not. Interest in my profile has not been particularly high. Still think a lot of it is down to whether you are fanciable or not. | |||
"I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way. You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying.. Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile? I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic! So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough "It's down to what's considered a decent profile . Whether they are interested in more than NSA . Whet you are looking for compared to what they want . The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be . I know what you're thinking now , why should I lower my standards or look for something I don't want . And the fact that you have been on the site for years means you are fully aware of how you want the site to work for you . But , and here's the thing , there may well be lots of suitable guys who would tick your boxes , but they may just feel you may be too much hard work . Once you meet you both may be surprised how you connect , but it's getting to that point first . Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain | |||
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there may be more of them... but the good ones always find a way to stand out... and if you have noticing them standing out i bet others are probably doing the same... so why should they pick you over anyone else....
a lot of the time i think the mindset of people need to change... especially those who think they are "higher up the totem pole"...... not as high as you sometimes like to think! | |||
"We find it hard as well think that many talk Bull shit to you they can not meet just get the thrill of a tug chatting to you" If it's any consolation it's not just couples who have problems getting meets with 'good' single males! I had a great meet last night - but only after 3 guys 'bailed' on me in less than 48 hours! I really wish that men - and women - wouldn't do that to people - as many of us have little child free time! Having your precious child-free time wasted is frustrating - and being 'dumped' time after time can be upsetting!  | |||
"I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way. You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying.. Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile? I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic! So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough
It's down to what's considered a decent profile .
Whether they are interested in more than NSA .
Whet you are looking for compared to what they want .
The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be .
I know what you're thinking now , why should I lower my standards or look for something I don't want . And the fact that you have been on the site for years means you are fully aware of how you want the site to work for you . But , and here's the thing , there may well be lots of suitable guys who would tick your boxes , but they may just feel you may be too much hard work . Once you meet you both may be surprised how you connect , but it's getting to that point first .
Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain "Like I said earlier, I would class a decent profile as something that tell me more than 'here for fun' and more than a bloody cock pic! I am not attracted to a man by how his cock looks, and I tend to think if that is all you have on offer then you are obviously just a cock! I like to know someone a bit other than having to do the Spanish inquisition and I also want to know what level of intelligence they are/have. What I think couples don't understand is that they have each other to stimulate them, and an addition is just that, singles on the other hand (Or maybe just me) Want and need to know that they will enjoy the other persons company, whether it just be for sex or more. Oh and I don't have any hoops to be jumped through, all I ask for is respect, the one thing that pisses me off is the messages I get saying, 'I love your profile and pics' blah blah when they have nothing to offer in return, I really don't think I am asking for much am I? | |||
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"i have always been a believer in that if you are after a specific type of person... you do the hunting!!! don'wait on the mountain to come to you!!! you are either be reactive and sit on your arse... or you can be proactive and do!!! the thing that couples dont always get or dont understand is that the popular guys who do get it and understand it aren't the ones having to do a lot of the chasing... they have already gotten their names out there... they are the ones who are also networking if you would have to work to impress another couple or a single lass... they why do you think you shouldn't have to impress a single guy?
there may be more of them... but the good ones always find a way to stand out... and if you have noticing them standing out i bet others are probably doing the same... so why should they pick you over anyone else....
a lot of the time i think the mindset of people need to change... especially those who think they are "higher up the totem pole"...... not as high as you sometimes like to think! " | |||
"I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way. You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying.. Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile? I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic! So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough
It's down to what's considered a decent profile .
Whether they are interested in more than NSA .
Whet you are looking for compared to what they want .
The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be .
I know what you're thinking now , why should I lower my standards or look for something I don't want . And the fact that you have been on the site for years means you are fully aware of how you want the site to work for you . But , and here's the thing , there may well be lots of suitable guys who would tick your boxes , but they may just feel you may be too much hard work . Once you meet you both may be surprised how you connect , but it's getting to that point first .
Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain
Like I said earlier, I would class a decent profile as something that tell me more than 'here for fun' and more than a bloody cock pic!
I am not attracted to a man by how his cock looks, and I tend to think if that is all you have on offer then you are obviously just a cock!
I like to know someone a bit other than having to do the Spanish inquisition and I also want to know what level of intelligence they are/have.
What I think couples don't understand is that they have each other to stimulate them, and an addition is just that, singles on the other hand (Or maybe just me) Want and need to know that they will enjoy the other persons company, whether it just be for sex or more. Oh and I don't have any hoops to be jumped through, all I ask for is respect, the one thing that pisses me off is the messages I get saying, 'I love your profile and pics' blah blah when they have nothing to offer in return, I really don't think I am asking for much am I? "You're not asking for too much at all , but the emphasis on social and friendship is going to deter so many guys who may well be happy with that once they meet you . And we totally get where you are coming from with the difference between a couple and a single perspective . Neither of us would swing the way we do as if we didn't have each other . We would certainlylook for more than a quick session . | |||
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"I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way. You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying.. Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile? I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic! So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough
It's down to what's considered a decent profile .
Whether they are interested in more than NSA .
Whet you are looking for compared to what they want .
The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be .
I know what you're thinking now , why should I lower my standards or look for something I don't want . And the fact that you have been on the site for years means you are fully aware of how you want the site to work for you . But , and here's the thing , there may well be lots of suitable guys who would tick your boxes , but they may just feel you may be too much hard work . Once you meet you both may be surprised how you connect , but it's getting to that point first .
Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain
Like I said earlier, I would class a decent profile as something that tell me more than 'here for fun' and more than a bloody cock pic!
I am not attracted to a man by how his cock looks, and I tend to think if that is all you have on offer then you are obviously just a cock!
I like to know someone a bit other than having to do the Spanish inquisition and I also want to know what level of intelligence they are/have.
What I think couples don't understand is that they have each other to stimulate them, and an addition is just that, singles on the other hand (Or maybe just me) Want and need to know that they will enjoy the other persons company, whether it just be for sex or more. Oh and I don't have any hoops to be jumped through, all I ask for is respect, the one thing that pisses me off is the messages I get saying, 'I love your profile and pics' blah blah when they have nothing to offer in return, I really don't think I am asking for much am I?
You're not asking for too much at all , but the emphasis on social and friendship is going to deter so many guys who may well be happy with that once they meet you .
And we totally get where you are coming from with the difference between a couple and a single perspective . Neither of us would swing the way we do as if we didn't have each other . We would certainlylook for more than a quick session . "I get what your saying and understand about the social/friendship part that I have in my profile, but to me it is just another filter to use as a single female. I am all for NSA sex and that is what I am here for, but if people can't understand that the two can actually work together (yes I have had clingy men in the past and presume men have had as well) then how people run their profile is up to them, my only gripe is people saying do your own hunting which I get I just wish it was possible in my area x | |||
"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " I would say that one in three of our first contacts on here disappear before we get to meet them. One of those things we have come to except. | |||
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"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy. We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences. We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc. But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears. Then its back to the drawing board. " It's difficult for all parties on here singles of both sexes and couples for different reasons. Quantity of single guys doesn't necessarily mean it will be easier When you do find what you're seeking though itmakes its worthwhile. | |||
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