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Attention seeking ( controversial)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why is there women/cpls on this site that just go on the cam and then not meet at all? Are you just attention seekers but not swingers??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing controversial about that.

That been said, people are allowed to use the site as they feel best suits their needs. If it's for attention then fair play to them. You can ignore them and move on to people who do meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe that's all they wish to get out of this site and happy just doing cam stuff .. Not everyone wish to meet here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing controversial about that.

That been said, people are allowed to use the site as they feel best suits their needs. If it's for attention then fair play to them. You can ignore them and move on to people who do meet."

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

"Why is there women/cpls on this site that just go on the cam and then not meet at all? Are you just attention seekers but not swingers?? "

If you can tell they just want to cam then why worry.

A quick read of someone's veris usually shows the level of meets vs webcam veris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because people can use the site the way they want.

Next question!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Attention seekers Yes op .. You go on cam for others to look. It can be very horny and fun .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We love the cams don't get me wrong. I just think why bother having a profile if that's all your going to do.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Why is there women/cpls on this site that just go on the cam and then not meet at all? Are you just attention seekers but not swingers?? "

their profile, their choice..

concentrate on those that meet your own criteria perhaps?

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By *oasted cheese sandwichMan over a year ago

Nearby

Some people just liked to be watched in the safety of their home, different people fulfil their fantasy in different ways, to people who want to fuck it can seem like attention seeking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We love the cams don't get me wrong. I just think why bother having a profile if that's all your going to do. "
Because they can. It really is that simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But your not swinging are you??

In some people's eyes Your attention seeking because you can't get it anywhere else.??!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is there women/cpls on this site that just go on the cam and then not meet at all? Are you just attention seekers but not swingers?? "

Why do some people only have 8 meets and none this year are they Timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But your not swinging are you??

In some people's eyes Your attention seeking because you can't get it anywhere else.??! "

OP, why have you got such an issue with what other people do?

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

"But your not swinging are you??

In some people's eyes Your attention seeking because you can't get it anywhere else.??! "

Can you not see the irony in your post OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But your not swinging are you??

In some people's eyes Your attention seeking because you can't get it anywhere else.??!

Can you not see the irony in your post OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For some it maybe where they start off. It doesn't bother me what other people do unless it directly affects me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We enjoy meeting. We also sometimes enjoy going on cam for a fuck because it is fun in a different way. I don't think it is attention seeking. It's just another way to "get off," so to speak. Like watching porn, but in real-time.

I don't really get the issue here.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm just looking for bites. attention seeking my self because I'm bored and off work.

and if your referring to us for not having any meets this year its because were newly weds now and don't need anything spicing up just yet. just going on cam ironically.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm just looking for bites. attention seeking my self because I'm bored and off work.

and if your referring to us for not having any meets this year its because were newly weds now and don't need anything spicing up just yet. just going on cam ironically. "

So why bitch about people doing exactly what you do? Have you not considered that those people doing what you're doing, and what you're condemning them for, are in the same boat as you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's because they are just into voyuerism. So I'd say they like the attention.

And welcome to the forums. Owned by lots of know it all's...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So in essence you're complaining about people doing the very thing you're doing yourselves?

The point being?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

there are some aggressive people on here i might add. light hearted convos and people start biting. chill your beans.. or flick them whatever your fancy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

there are some aggressive people on here i might add. light hearted convos and people start biting. chill your beans.. or flick them whatever your fancy

Flicking my bean on cam for attention.... Thanks for the idea OP!

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

"are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

there are some aggressive people on here i might add. light hearted convos and people start biting. chill your beans.. or flick them whatever your fancy

To be fair - to me the original post was probably more 'aggressive' than anything that followed.

Perception is everything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

there are some aggressive people on here i might add. light hearted convos and people start biting. chill your beans.. or flick them whatever your fancy

Flicking my bean on cam for attention.... Thanks for the idea OP!"
Can I watch? You attention seeker you

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

does it matter..

no not at all..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

there are some aggressive people on here i might add. light hearted convos and people start biting. chill your beans.. or flick them whatever your fancy

Flicking my bean on cam for attention.... Thanks for the idea OP!Can I watch? You attention seeker you

Moi?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

there are some aggressive people on here i might add. light hearted convos and people start biting. chill your beans.. or flick them whatever your fancy

To be fair - to me the original post was probably more 'aggressive' than anything that followed.

Perception is everything.

I would agree with the perception comment.

To answer you, OP, I would say that no it wouldn't meet the textbook definition of swinger. However, that definition it pretty outdated and, I would argue, meaningless on fab as people are here for all sort of fun stuff

-Courtney

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By *ngelfayeWoman over a year ago

I'm a single woman, and all my veris are webcam ones. I like to play on webcam, it's a lot of fun and it's one of the things I use this site for at the moment. I also frequently browse the forums and like reading the stories that are posted here.

I'm currently single but have enjoyed swinging with an ex-partner and hope to again one day... Then I will probably start meeting more people :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"are they/we swingers or attention seekers? what do people think??

there are some aggressive people on here i might add. light hearted convos and people start biting. chill your beans.. or flick them whatever your fancy

Flicking my bean on cam for attention.... Thanks for the idea OP!Can I watch? You attention seeker you

Sod that, I want to lend a hand

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Voyeurism is a sexual activity, that might be being watched on camera, or it might be dogging, or might be playing in a club. If they do this and never swap, then technically they are probably not swingers, but there are plenty of people on this site who arent swingers. I have heard couples like this who do not swap but are comfortable around the lifestyle be described as "vanilla with sprinkles"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are lots who just prefer being exhibitionists only - I think there even blogs to that effect

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Voyeurism is a sexual activity, that might be being watched on camera, or it might be dogging, or might be playing in a club. If they do this and never swap, then technically they are probably not swingers, but there are plenty of people on this site who arent swingers. I have heard couples like this who do not swap but are comfortable around the lifestyle be described as "vanilla with sprinkles" "

twinkly sprinkles..

has a certain ring to it that..

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

I think Vanilla with Sprinkles is a great phrase

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to like going on cam, getting my cam to turn red in various rooms then fuck off again. Put me off when a guy sent me a picture of myself which he's taken from my cam feed. Haven't been on since even though I never showed anything more than boobs and face. Also didn't like the thought that people I didn't find attractive we're able to view my cams, it's like yeah you can look cos you're hot but you, not so much!

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By *arriorMonk60Man over a year ago

Liverpool

What do Qomen really want from his and this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I used to like going on cam, getting my cam to turn red in various rooms then fuck off again. Put me off when a guy sent me a picture of myself which he's taken from my cam feed. Haven't been on since even though I never showed anything more than boobs and face. Also didn't like the thought that people I didn't find attractive we're able to view my cams, it's like yeah you can look cos you're hot but you, not so much!"

touche.. louve hit the nail on the head there

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

"What do Qomen really want from his and this site"

Can any of us truly know what Qomen want?

They are destined to remain ever a mystery. A curse on Qomenia, and the unknowable desires of its inhabitants!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder what the true figure is on here for non players ie those who don't meet it must be a high % ...and agree with the comments that the site should be used as people want to use....everybody is different after all....we don't cam and we hardly ever use the chat room as that is were most of (not all) the non swingers seems to hang .....I don't think the OP question was aggressive lol its just a question if you don't like it then don't reply lol....happy swinging or what ever it is you do

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By *rbusyhandsMan over a year ago

Glasgow

I find that webcams are a less threatening way into swinging for interested parties, have played on cam with a lady a few times in the past and it was because they were interested in swinging but not quite ready to meet and camming was a nice stopgap to work their way closer to actual swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not swinging either, i don't meet couples or meet as a couple. I do meet though, single guys.

When my kids were younger i couldn't get out so had to make do with cam sex and dirty chat and a site like this would've been good for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is there women/cpls on this site that just go on the cam and then not meet at all? Are you just attention seekers but not swingers??

If you can tell they just want to cam then why worry.

A quick read of someone's veris usually shows the level of meets vs webcam veris.

I have to say that's not true in my case. I was living abroad at the time of my webcam verbs and come back home to meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do Qomen really want from his and this site

Can any of us truly know what Qomen want?

They are destined to remain ever a mystery. A curse on Qomenia, and the unknowable desires of its inhabitants!"

Exactly, no-one can know the status of qomenia

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By *ubicinchMan over a year ago

Gwynedd

"I'm not swinging either, i don't meet couples or meet as a couple. I do meet though, single guys.

When my kids were younger i couldn't get out so had to make do with cam sex and dirty chat and a site like this would've been good for that."
So the definition of 'swingers' is couples only and singles aren't?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not swinging either, i don't meet couples or meet as a couple. I do meet though, single guys.

When my kids were younger i couldn't get out so had to make do with cam sex and dirty chat and a site like this would've been good for that.So the definition of 'swingers' is couples only and singles aren't?"

That's right, a single would be 'swinger'. Singular, like.

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By *ubicinchMan over a year ago

Gwynedd

Maybe I'm a swingle?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not swinging either, i don't meet couples or meet as a couple. I do meet though, single guys.

When my kids were younger i couldn't get out so had to make do with cam sex and dirty chat and a site like this would've been good for that.

So the definition of 'swingers' is couples only and singles aren't?"

Dunno, it has different meanings. Use whichever you want, i do.

Some people take it as promiscuous people are swingers, some take it as couples who share partners - i use the partners definition. I wouldn't be interested in couple swapping at all, i'm here for the promiscuity only.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love this phrase!! Think it describes me so far....although am looking for some different flavours! X

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