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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hiya. Iv noticed that quite alot of talk goes on about males saying they are bi or claiming bi when they say straight on their profiles and how its all to do with just getting the missus yadda yadda yadda.... but, and iv been through this before on the site, I feel a selective number of women claim bi sexual just to add a little extra male only attention. Has anyone else felt the same? Of course I'm not saying all fem profiles do this but quite a good few seem to. The reason I suggest so is I have been on sites like this before as a singleton and though I matched well and I dont think Im bad looking the fem would ignore me for a man getting off on the thought of her being bi. I have discussed the same with other gay/bi female friends and they claim this is correct and they have been burned because of it..... makes me wonder?? Of course I might not be their preferred type and could be it im perfectly willing to admit however I had much more fun with the same sex from going out to clubs etc aswell as said gay/bi fem friends then finding any girls up for it as much myself on this and sites like it ... any thoughts |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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I find it quite strange just how many women on here describe themselves as Bi or Bi-Curious! I know we are supposed to be enlightened and tolerant, but few of the profiles say the woman is straight.
I do have a theory though. Mrs R is not Bi or Bi-Curious! But she can be (very) Bi-Friendly, but it is very much secondary to what we do. I have no interest at all in sitting and watching two women for any more than a couple of minutes.
Perhaps if we had a category of Bi-Friendly quite a few would migrate to that. I know that Innuendo would. At the moment she is down as Bi-Curious because that is the nearest we can get to how we really are!
Perhaps we really need a category of "Likes snogging other women and playing with tits, also the soft cuddly stuff and if the chemistry is right, would go further"  
Or perhaps you may consider her something else? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya. Iv noticed that quite alot of talk goes on about males saying they are bi or claiming bi when they say straight on their profiles and how its all to do with just getting the missus yadda yadda yadda.... but, and iv been through this before on the site, I feel a selective number of women claim bi sexual just to add a little extra male only attention. Has anyone else felt the same? Of course I'm not saying all fem profiles do this but quite a good few seem to. The reason I suggest so is I have been on sites like this before as a singleton and though I matched well and I dont think Im bad looking the fem would ignore me for a man getting off on the thought of her being bi. I have discussed the same with other gay/bi female friends and they claim this is correct and they have been burned because of it..... makes me wonder?? Of course I might not be their preferred type and could be it im perfectly willing to admit however I had much more fun with the same sex from going out to clubs etc aswell as said gay/bi fem friends then finding any girls up for it as much myself on this and sites like it ... any thoughts "
I'm bisexual, the lady would definitely be my type ! It's as hard for me to find a lady to play with as most of the 'single bi ladies' I contact only play with their fb! |
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By *eonnaCouple
over a year ago
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I (mylf) have a single profile and What annoys me is when they say they are bi fem looking for the same and then you find out they want their partner/fb to join in... or worse they want to watch while you play with him... If people are not willing to meet separately they should either not have a single profile or make it very clear that is what they want... Sorry, rant over (sigh) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I (mylf) have a single profile and What annoys me is when they say they are bi fem looking for the same and then you find out they want their partner/fb to join in... or worse they want to watch while you play with him... If people are not willing to meet separately they should either not have a single profile or make it very clear that is what they want... Sorry, rant over (sigh)"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it quite strange just how many women on here describe themselves as Bi or Bi-Curious! I know we are supposed to be enlightened and tolerant, but few of the profiles say the woman is straight.
I do have a theory though. Mrs R is not Bi or Bi-Curious! But she can be (very) Bi-Friendly, but it is very much secondary to what we do. I have no interest at all in sitting and watching two women for any more than a couple of minutes.
Perhaps if we had a category of Bi-Friendly quite a few would migrate to that. I know that Innuendo would. At the moment she is down as Bi-Curious because that is the nearest we can get to how we really are!
Perhaps we really need a category of "Likes snogging other women and playing with tits, also the soft cuddly stuff and if the chemistry is right, would go further"
Or perhaps you may consider her something else?"
I've never heard the term bi-friendly before but I think I really like it. I would probably put myself down as this. As it is, I am straight because I'm not attracted to girls and have no interest in oral with women. I think quite a few couples and single women therefore rule us out in terms of playing because I find most people who contact us still want female bi play. So I personally would welcome a bi-friendly label as I enjoy play with women to a certain extent but definitely am in it for the men 
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"I (mylf) have a single profile and What annoys me is when they say they are bi fem looking for the same and then you find out they want their partner/fb to join in... or worse they want to watch while you play with him... If people are not willing to meet separately they should either not have a single profile or make it very clear that is what they want... Sorry, rant over (sigh)"
I have a single profile for just that reason and was told that any single female profile only meeting with a male will be turned into a couples profile, no drama or delay. Mine was despite the fact that I do meet other women alone .... much to my annoyance, but I did get it back to a single one and he definitely does not come along with me when I meet alone. Despite being in a a couple, we are capable of doing things alone, this includes going to work, but not going to the toilet, as we always do that together ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I agree 100% it would be less pressure for those down as bi curious even tho they do it just for fun thays deffo an idea there having a seperate room or type option |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hiya. Iv noticed that quite alot of talk goes on about males saying they are bi or claiming bi when they say straight on their profiles and how its all to do with just getting the missus yadda yadda yadda.... but, and iv been through this before on the site, I feel a selective number of women claim bi sexual just to add a little extra male only attention. Has anyone else felt the same? Of course I'm not saying all fem profiles do this but quite a good few seem to. The reason I suggest so is I have been on sites like this before as a singleton and though I matched well and I dont think Im bad looking the fem would ignore me for a man getting off on the thought of her being bi. I have discussed the same with other gay/bi female friends and they claim this is correct and they have been burned because of it..... makes me wonder?? Of course I might not be their preferred type and could be it im perfectly willing to admit however I had much more fun with the same sex from going out to clubs etc aswell as said gay/bi fem friends then finding any girls up for it as much myself on this and sites like it ... any thoughts
I'm bisexual, the lady would definitely be my type ! It's as hard for me to find a lady to play with as most of the 'single bi ladies' I contact only play with their fb! "
Its probably the same fb that turns up without his bisexual lass for meets...lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes i agree there also it does put pressure on the single bi ladies. For example us we play solo with same sex if that was on other couoles profiles it wouldnt sound so pushy maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"bi curious/friendly usually indicates they're happy to take without giving anything back. I prefer the term lazy bitches."
Ouch....
But no, I don't think I am a lazy bitch either. I really don't want to "take" from a woman. I am happy to kiss and touch (both ways). I could do without oral altogether (I don't much like receiving it from men either  )
I see this assumption often in the forums, that bi-curious (now friendly) means lazy bitch, but I don't think this is really fair. It leaves out a whole load of women who enjoy touching, but who don't want to give or receive oral from women. But then, this assumption is also why I list myself as straight. That way, people know what to expect from the start.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bi curious/friendly usually indicates they're happy to take without giving anything back. I prefer the term lazy bitches.
Ouch....
But no, I don't think I am a lazy bitch either. I really don't want to "take" from a woman. I am happy to kiss and touch (both ways). I could do without oral altogether (I don't much like receiving it from men either )
I see this assumption often in the forums, that bi-curious (now friendly) means lazy bitch, but I don't think this is really fair. It leaves out a whole load of women who enjoy touching, but who don't want to give or receive oral from women. But then, this assumption is also why I list myself as straight. That way, people know what to expect from the start.
-Courtney"
Not sure it's an assumption, I'd agree with Debs comments. I too have experienced this first hand. A great majority of bi-curious fems as part of a couple are in my experience not doing it for themselves. It's a bit of an insult when you're a genuine bi-fem. Perhaps bi-selfish is a better description. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bi curious/friendly usually indicates they're happy to take without giving anything back. I prefer the term lazy bitches.
Ouch....
But no, I don't think I am a lazy bitch either. I really don't want to "take" from a woman. I am happy to kiss and touch (both ways). I could do without oral altogether (I don't much like receiving it from men either )
I see this assumption often in the forums, that bi-curious (now friendly) means lazy bitch, but I don't think this is really fair. It leaves out a whole load of women who enjoy touching, but who don't want to give or receive oral from women. But then, this assumption is also why I list myself as straight. That way, people know what to expect from the start.
-Courtney
Not sure it's an assumption, I'd agree with Debs comments. I too have experienced this first hand. A great majority of bi-curious fems as part of a couple are in my experience not doing it for themselves. It's a bit of an insult when you're a genuine bi-fem. Perhaps bi-selfish is a better description. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bi curious/friendly usually indicates they're happy to take without giving anything back. I prefer the term lazy bitches.
Ouch....
But no, I don't think I am a lazy bitch either. I really don't want to "take" from a woman. I am happy to kiss and touch (both ways). I could do without oral altogether (I don't much like receiving it from men either )
I see this assumption often in the forums, that bi-curious (now friendly) means lazy bitch, but I don't think this is really fair. It leaves out a whole load of women who enjoy touching, but who don't want to give or receive oral from women. But then, this assumption is also why I list myself as straight. That way, people know what to expect from the start.
-Courtney
Not sure it's an assumption, I'd agree with Debs comments. I too have experienced this first hand. A great majority of bi-curious fems as part of a couple are in my experience not doing it for themselves. It's a bit of an insult when you're a genuine bi-fem. Perhaps bi-selfish is a better description.
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I understand what you are all saying, and I can see how it would be frustrating for bi women who have to deal with this (which is why I put straight on my profile). But I guess what I am saying is that there should be a distinction between women who receive and don't give simply because they want to do it for the male half of a couple, and women who genuinely don't want to give or receive but like the idea of touching and kissing openly.
I find that I do genuinely like touching and kissing women during meets....but I put myself as straight on here because the minute I put bi-curious I would be considered bi-selfish and the minute I put bi I would be expected to perform and receive oral for women.
I'm just saying that it would be nice if there were a category for women who enjoy touching but not oral. I would imagine that bi women would like having this category because it would clear up ambiguities and allow you to focus on those who class themselves as bi or bi-curious. I guess I feel similar to men who want an orally-bi category because they don't want to be fucked in the ass....maybe non-orally bi - haha
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bi curious/friendly usually indicates they're happy to take without giving anything back. I prefer the term lazy bitches.
Ouch....
But no, I don't think I am a lazy bitch either. I really don't want to "take" from a woman. I am happy to kiss and touch (both ways). I could do without oral altogether (I don't much like receiving it from men either )
I see this assumption often in the forums, that bi-curious (now friendly) means lazy bitch, but I don't think this is really fair. It leaves out a whole load of women who enjoy touching, but who don't want to give or receive oral from women. But then, this assumption is also why I list myself as straight. That way, people know what to expect from the start.
-Courtney
Not sure it's an assumption, I'd agree with Debs comments. I too have experienced this first hand. A great majority of bi-curious fems as part of a couple are in my experience not doing it for themselves. It's a bit of an insult when you're a genuine bi-fem. Perhaps bi-selfish is a better description.
I understand what you are all saying, and I can see how it would be frustrating for bi women who have to deal with this (which is why I put straight on my profile). But I guess what I am saying is that there should be a distinction between women who receive and don't give simply because they want to do it for the male half of a couple, and women who genuinely don't want to give or receive but like the idea of touching and kissing openly.
I find that I do genuinely like touching and kissing women during meets....but I put myself as straight on here because the minute I put bi-curious I would be considered bi-selfish and the minute I put bi I would be expected to perform and receive oral for women.
I'm just saying that it would be nice if there were a category for women who enjoy touching but not oral. I would imagine that bi women would like having this category because it would clear up ambiguities and allow you to focus on those who class themselves as bi or bi-curious. I guess I feel similar to men who want an orally-bi category because they don't want to be fucked in the ass....maybe non-orally bi - haha
-Courtney"
I do understand where you're coming from and I don't have any issue with anything you've said. My lazy bitch tag only comes from too many of those experiences, so much so, that I stopped meeting bi-curious/friendly women.
So I'd agree that more options would be a good thing, but we also have profile text to explain our preferences.
Strangely, I've never considered fully bi to mean oral both ways - I'm not particularly bothered about receiving oral, there's plenty of other things to do.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do understand where you're coming from and I don't have any issue with anything you've said. My lazy bitch tag only comes from too many of those experiences, so much so, that I stopped meeting bi-curious/friendly women.
So I'd agree that more options would be a good thing, but we also have profile text to explain our preferences.
Strangely, I've never considered fully bi to mean oral both ways - I'm not particularly bothered about receiving oral, there's plenty of other things to do.
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I personally am allowed to play with women by myself as I am fully bi and cheeky is understanding of that , and we don't play with couples unless the women is bi as hot as it ' putting a show on and calling the boys over ' it's not what we want and I wouldn't be afraid to end a meet if it was obvious the fem was only doing it for her partner.
Same as when couples say they want girl on girl but then think their partner can join in with us but they aren't allowed to be touched by my partner .
I don't want to be a 3some for another couple
As for bi selfish should be a new category then we know what couples to stay away from . Lol don't understand it happy for me to pleasure you but you won't pleasure me ermmmmm no thanks |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"bi curious/friendly usually indicates they're happy to take without giving anything back. I prefer the term lazy bitches.
Ouch....
But no, I don't think I am a lazy bitch either. I really don't want to "take" from a woman. I am happy to kiss and touch (both ways). I could do without oral altogether (I don't much like receiving it from men either )
I see this assumption often in the forums, that bi-curious (now friendly) means lazy bitch, but I don't think this is really fair. It leaves out a whole load of women who enjoy touching, but who don't want to give or receive oral from women. But then, this assumption is also why I list myself as straight. That way, people know what to expect from the start.
-Courtney"
After reading the post that you have replied to Courtney, we have changed Mrs R to straight! The nasty comment about "lazy bitches" I think is uncalled for. Mrs R if attracted would not only receive but would also give! But it is far safer to go with the straight thing!
But like you, we are both not keen on hours of oral! Such a waste of time when there is so much body contact to be made before sex. Cuddling, kissing and fondling. Getting worked up to a point that the sex, gentle or not is a release.
But now we know what opinions others have of us, we will stay on the straight and narrow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I,m BI, and have clearly put on my profile. I'm very bi, fed up with the bi curios who either want to do it for their man. (A woman can tell! )or want to learn or be taught by me! I always give and never received. So made it clear on my profile. I get approched by 100's of men who have a BI fem, but when It caomes to me asking to talk to the bi fem.... nothing... they vanish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Play is meant to be mutually satisfying for all involved. I enjoy giving a great deal and get a buzz from doing so, but there does come a point where I expect some reciprocation. Wouldn't you? |
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By *eonnaCouple
over a year ago
Salford, Manchester |
"bi curious/friendly usually indicates they're happy to take without giving anything back. I prefer the term lazy bitches.
So you prefer instigators? "
Not necessarily instigators... I don't usually instigate with a woman but happy to do almost anything to a woman  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Play is meant to be mutually satisfying for all involved. I enjoy giving a great deal and get a buzz from doing so, but there does come a point where I expect some reciprocation. Wouldn't you? "
Yes. |
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By *eonnaCouple
over a year ago
Salford, Manchester |
"I (mylf) have a single profile and What annoys me is when they say they are bi fem looking for the same and then you find out they want their partner/fb to join in... or worse they want to watch while you play with him... If people are not willing to meet separately they should either not have a single profile or make it very clear that is what they want... Sorry, rant over (sigh)
I have a single profile for just that reason and was told that any single female profile only meeting with a male will be turned into a couples profile, no drama or delay. Mine was despite the fact that I do meet other women alone .... much to my annoyance, but I did get it back to a single one and he definitely does not come along with me when I meet alone. Despite being in a a couple, we are capable of doing things alone, this includes going to work, but not going to the toilet, as we always do that together ..."
How could they find out that you only meet with a 'partner'? Does someone report you for it or do they go through your messages or something? Just confused as to how they could possibly know you meet with a man... |
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"I (mylf) have a single profile and What annoys me is when they say they are bi fem looking for the same and then you find out they want their partner/fb to join in... or worse they want to watch while you play with him... If people are not willing to meet separately they should either not have a single profile or make it very clear that is what they want... Sorry, rant over (sigh)
I have a single profile for just that reason and was told that any single female profile only meeting with a male will be turned into a couples profile, no drama or delay. Mine was despite the fact that I do meet other women alone .... much to my annoyance, but I did get it back to a single one and he definitely does not come along with me when I meet alone. Despite being in a a couple, we are capable of doing things alone, this includes going to work, but not going to the toilet, as we always do that together ...
How could they find out that you only meet with a 'partner'? Does someone report you for it or do they go through your messages or something? Just confused as to how they could possibly know you meet with a man..."
When you sign up to fab, you're automatically enrolled in the gps gender meet tracking system. GGMTS, for short. |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
Cheshire |
I don't get why we need so many sub categories for bisexual women? We don't need lots for straight and it's okay for straight people to want different levels of play, so why can't bisexual women too?
We don't have a sub straight category for women that don't like performing fellatio. They aren't straight friendly!
Why don't people just have a conversation and find out what the other person is comfortable with and then decidedly whether to play or not?
My level of bi play depends on what mood I'm in and who I'm playing with. I don't have a universal label stipulating what I do every meet.
If girls want to play with girls because they like playing with girls. Cool. I they want to do if to cater for their husband's fantasy. Also cool.
People stress way too much on here.
I also thought the lazy bitch comment was unnecessary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife is bi but when were out she can sometimes be reluctant to play as some situations have made her feel like she's other peoples entertainment and they just want to watch the girls put on a show
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