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Ok iv met a couple of people off this site
Got to know them etc
Read their verifications. ( mostly saying oh dnt miss out on this guy he is amazing blah blah)
But when it comes down to it they haven't been amazing...
ok ish at best - makes me question anymore meets
Anyone else
(My verifications are from ppl iv met elsewhere not off this site but in a club so not chit chat before) |
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"Nope lol...
lol they wanted to meet again but not interested"
Use the verification system to see if people have met. No point in hoping or thinking or expecting they are good at sex. After all, would you want sex with someone who had a veri saying he was a shit shag?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found this in the past, I take veri's with a huge pinch of salt. "
 same here, I take from veri's that someone is genuine, the rest I take with pinch of salt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found this in the past, I take veri's with a huge pinch of salt.
same here, I take from veri's that someone is genuine, the rest I take with pinch of salt."
Mine are true of course  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"im often tempted to mail whoevers given them the gushing enthusiastic veri and ask if were d*unk / stoned/ deluded . "
I see no reason in not contacting previous verifications and asking them how you potential meet may stack up.
They are there and displayed for a reason really - that is if you are not sure about your meet at least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only use veris to know someone is real and really the sex they claim to be. Although I'd always check this by phone too.
People don't write crap veris, they just tend not to leave one for those they didn't really gel with. I guess though, someone else might think they were great - it's all very subjective. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Should we take your veris with a pinch of salt then OP? 
Or just assume that it's different strokes for different folks and whilst you may not have had an 'amazing' time that maybe others did?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im often tempted to mail whoevers given them the gushing enthusiastic veri and ask if were d*unk / stoned/ deluded . "
What floats one person boat may not float yours,we're all individuals and like different things
If your shag was crap remember you were part of it too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's worth noting that members can chose which ones they display,so obviously if a guy has two good ones and ten bad he's only going to display the good! |
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over a year ago
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk "
Everyone talks the talk, nobody is going to say they're shit in bed lol
Verifications are subjective and generally polite, very British. |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
Everyone talks the talk, nobody is going to say they're shit in bed lol
Verifications are subjective and
generally polite, very British."
Read mine |
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Mine are from clubs
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people who wanted to keep in touch with me and introduced me to this site... only joined the site coz of them really... so whatever really
Crux of the matter n the point of post was not met anyone who is that great lol |
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I find guys who have loads of varis saying how wonderful they are ... are from people being just polite ...
And if a guy asks u for a vari ...hes vain and just after notches on his bed post ...
I dont give them out easily ... and if he is any good .. I dont let on ... as id like a repeat . Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our first swing from here was 'good' but not 'great'. We left a 'good' veri.
We hide ours, it should be sufficient that we've got them, but do show them to someone we're potentially going to meet then hide them again. |
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"That's why I take no notice of veris.
I've met men with no veris who satisfied me a hell of a lot more than men with gushing veris.
Gushing veris?! Can't stop sniggering at that... "
I knew as soon as I wrote it there would be a comment about it  |
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"That's why I take no notice of veris.
I've met men with no veris who satisfied me a hell of a lot more than men with gushing veris.
Gushing veris?! Can't stop sniggering at that...
I knew as soon as I wrote it there would be a comment about it "
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As we don't play too often, rather do social events these days, ours are true from what we know and experience. When I met single guys alone, I would be honest, as much as I could be - if it was not good, I assumed it was down to both of us and no connection there, and left a one liner. |
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"That's why I take no notice of veris.
I've met men with no veris who satisfied me a hell of a lot more than men with gushing veris.
Gushing veris?! Can't stop sniggering at that...
I knew as soon as I wrote it there would be a comment about it "
Never been one to be put off by a gushing verification. More please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"im often tempted to mail whoevers given them the gushing enthusiastic veri and ask if were d*unk / stoned/ deluded .
What floats one person boat may not float yours,we're all individuals and like different things
If your shag was crap remember you were part of it too"
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over a year ago
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
Everyone talks the talk, nobody is going to say they're shit in bed lol
Verifications are subjective and
generally polite, very British.
Read mine "
Fair play,good and bad,it's all there and a funny read. |
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"I dnt go by verifications
I'm saying these people who have had them before have are thru easily pleased"
I think the verification process helps as a vague guild however once you have had a meet and decide to leave one do you be honest ?? Ergo was a lovely lady with lots of spark mostly comimg from her angle grinder or do you say lovely meet just coffee was crap  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mine are from clubs
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people who wanted to keep in touch with me and introduced me to this site... only joined the site coz of them really... so whatever really
Crux of the matter n the point of post was not met anyone who is that great lol"
I wonder whether your meets thought you were that great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk "
Do you really think you are going to meet somebody off here and have a mind blowing experience?
It takes time to learn peoples likes and dislikes you not going to do that on a first meet, when you meet a guy you have no idea how he likes things any more than he does you
When you walk away he's probably as disappointed as you at the experience and that's not being rude its just logical fact
No first shag is going to be mind blowing unless your bloody lucky enough to find your sexual soul mates straight away
You have a mouth if they are not hitting the spot tell them, not everybody likes the same and they will have no idea what floats your boat unles you say |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
Do you really think you are going to meet somebody off here and have a mind blowing experience?
It takes time to learn peoples likes and dislikes you not going to do that on a first meet, when you meet a guy you have no idea how he likes things any more than he does you
When you walk away he's probably as disappointed as you at the experience and that's not being rude its just logical fact
No first shag is going to be mind blowing unless your bloody lucky enough to find your sexual soul mates straight away
You have a mouth if they are not hitting the spot tell them, not everybody likes the same and they will have no idea what floats your boat unles you say"
Actually and this isn't being vain
iv not had sumone who dsnt want to meet up again with me.
but I feel there is no point if I didn't feel it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've only been disappointed with one of my meets who had pretty good veris. He asked me to verify him but it would have been awkward so I 'forgot'  "
Fabbed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone talks the talk no one is actually met up to expectation off n on the site well very few... find many can't keep up "
So I had a look at your veris - to get an idea of what you mean.
They are a bit excessive. Sound like they were written by real fuglies who couldn't believe their luck at getting some sex.
That first one, who on earth talks like that? dunno why you publish it. what makes you choose such people?? |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
Do you really think you are going to meet somebody off here and have a mind blowing experience?
It takes time to learn peoples likes and dislikes you not going to do that on a first meet, when you meet a guy you have no idea how he likes things any more than he does you
When you walk away he's probably as disappointed as you at the experience and that's not being rude its just logical fact
No first shag is going to be mind blowing unless your bloody lucky enough to find your sexual soul mates straight away
You have a mouth if they are not hitting the spot tell them, not everybody likes the same and they will have no idea what floats your boat unles you say
Actually and this isn't being vain
iv not had sumone who dsnt want to meet up again with me.
but I feel there is no point if I didn't feel it"
That's because your a woman and women are hard to meet on here
Everybody who has met me has asked for a remeet that does not make me a fantastic shag |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
Do you really think you are going to meet somebody off here and have a mind blowing experience?
It takes time to learn peoples likes and dislikes you not going to do that on a first meet, when you meet a guy you have no idea how he likes things any more than he does you
When you walk away he's probably as disappointed as you at the experience and that's not being rude its just logical fact
No first shag is going to be mind blowing unless your bloody lucky enough to find your sexual soul mates straight away
You have a mouth if they are not hitting the spot tell them, not everybody likes the same and they will have no idea what floats your boat unles you say"
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guys are gonna give their all to women they really fancy, or women who make more effort, or women they just 'click' with better than others, and many other reasons. They might even hold back with some meets because they wanna save their best for the meets they like best.
Also, first meets, some people are shy and get better the more you get to know them.
So some people are gonna have mind blowing meets with ceratin people and others are not.
I've met a lot of guys from here, and elsewhere, and tbh i'm kind of bored of meeting new guys coz my regulars are/have been getting better over time. I'm a sex addict who loves fucking guys and finds it hard to say no, but even i'm going off meeting new guys coz i got better guys already. |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk "
The obvious conclusion it would seem is not to meet anyone from this site.
It does take two to tango tough. |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
The obvious conclusion it would seem is not to meet anyone from this site.
It does take two to tango tough. "
Yep think I might just stick to forums n keep the meets no nil from here |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
The obvious conclusion it would seem is not to meet anyone from this site.
It does take two to tango tough.
Yep think I might just stick to forums n keep the meets no nil from here"
I would say that's a good idea. I feel a bit sorry for anyone who's met you who may be reading though, I wonder how they felt the meet went. |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
The obvious conclusion it would seem is not to meet anyone from this site.
It does take two to tango tough.
Yep think I might just stick to forums n keep the meets no nil from here
I would say that's a good idea. I feel a bit sorry for anyone who's met you who may be reading though, I wonder how they felt the meet went. "
Like I said iv never had sumone not want to meet me again
No need to feel sorry for anyone
If it dnt float my boat it dsnt lot my boat. No names mentions so dnt be too down haha |
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
The obvious conclusion it would seem is not to meet anyone from this site.
It does take two to tango tough.
Yep think I might just stick to forums n keep the meets no nil from here
I would say that's a good idea. I feel a bit sorry for anyone who's met you who may be reading though, I wonder how they felt the meet went.
Like I said iv never had sumone not want to meet me again
No need to feel sorry for anyone
If it dnt float my boat it dsnt lot my boat. No names mentions so dnt be too down haha"
huge difference between not floating someone's boat and a shit shag but as I said it takes two and there is only one common denominator in this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would go for the different strokes for different folks line. Looking at your veris it appears that you have a particular approach and this may not have floated the boat of your fab partners. The question would be have you met partners who satisfied you? If so why let them go for random fabfolk? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its a shit shag then there's nothing wrong with stopping mid play and leaving it at that. Maybe wait and meet people with whom you really click with. Fucks are easy to get, decent fucks take a little finding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I once met a couple off of here, and can honestly say it was the worst meet I'd ever had.
I left them a proper shit veri, needless to say that they didn't display it?!
Yet they had quite a few good veris from past meets.
I'd now just take a green tick as confirmation that they're who and what they claim to be. But nothing more. |
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It may be that the person they met had a good time, as opposed to it being a good time with you. Maybe they clicked on a different level to you.
I don't take any notice of veris. It's got nothing to do with me. Is only there to show if someone is genuine. I can do my own little thing to see if they are genuine or not.
I don't need to know what they got up to in a meet on a veri. You need to make your own judgement on someone whilst you get to know them rather than going with what the veris say.
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
Do you really think you are going to meet somebody off here and have a mind blowing experience?
It takes time to learn peoples likes and dislikes you not going to do that on a first meet, when you meet a guy you have no idea how he likes things any more than he does you
When you walk away he's probably as disappointed as you at the experience and that's not being rude its just logical fact
No first shag is going to be mind blowing unless your bloody lucky enough to find your sexual soul mates straight away
You have a mouth if they are not hitting the spot tell them, not everybody likes the same and they will have no idea what floats your boat unles you say"
Well said.
What I don't understand OP, is if you've had so many crap meets from here where the men are still keen to meet you, why didn't any of them leave you a veri? We've had veris before we even got home before now, and that time the person didn't leave us a veri, we just assumed that one of us (me, obvs) had been a disappointment.
I think you're reading too much into veris, they really only say "these people are real and turned up"
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"My point is iv had more shit shags than good ones lol
The very few that have been amazing are not from the site...
like I said people talk the talk
The obvious conclusion it would seem is not to meet anyone from this site.
It does take two to tango tough.
Yep think I might just stick to forums n keep the meets no nil from here"
There's plenty on here that do exactly that  |
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Definitely take veris with a pinch of salt. I have one veri in particular that describes me as being more delicious than free chocolate, a fact that I can neither confirm or deny  |
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"Definitely take veris with a pinch of salt. I have one veri in particular that describes me as being more delicious than free chocolate, a fact that I can neither confirm or deny "
NOTHING is more delicious than free chocolate!! |
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"Definitely take veris with a pinch of salt. I have one veri in particular that describes me as being more delicious than free chocolate, a fact that I can neither confirm or deny
NOTHING is more delicious than free chocolate!! "
Free chocolate is marginally better than paid for chocolate but it's still meh. |
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"Definitely take veris with a pinch of salt. I have one veri in particular that describes me as being more delicious than free chocolate, a fact that I can neither confirm or deny
NOTHING is more delicious than free chocolate!!
Free chocolate is marginally better than paid for chocolate but it's still meh."
You've been bit by one of those zombies in Reading haven't you ? Can't think of another reason why you would say that. |
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I've found this tbh....met quite a few but nobody's pushed my buttons. I think it's because I go more with chemistry and you don't get a chance to build that on here it seems most just want fuck and go. All say they can go for hours but nobody's lasted over 10 mins so far!! |
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"I've found this tbh....met quite a few but nobody's pushed my buttons. I think it's because I go more with chemistry and you don't get a chance to build that on here it seems most just want fuck and go. All say they can go for hours but nobody's lasted over 10 mins so far!!"
I have to ask in a non combative way why you're still here then? |
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"I've found this tbh....met quite a few but nobody's pushed my buttons. I think it's because I go more with chemistry and you don't get a chance to build that on here it seems most just want fuck and go. All say they can go for hours but nobody's lasted over 10 mins so far!!"
I agree with you
and I don't understand why people are getting arsy with us saying that
Maybe different people have different standards |
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"I agree with you
and I don't understand why people are getting arsy with us saying that
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Ahh, I don't think people are getting arsey, they're just trying to understand, so that they can help you avoid future disappointments...
Now, what's all this about free chocolate? I appreciate size isn't important, but are we talking King-size Mars bar here or just one of those fun-sized ones?
(And what's fun about something so small?)
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"Definitely take veris with a pinch of salt. I have one veri in particular that describes me as being more delicious than free chocolate, a fact that I can neither confirm or deny "
Ive a few veris that talk about me in a way I dont recognise. I know my limitations and im not THAT good  |
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"Your only as good as the person your shagging
So i give all my meets 10 out of 10 "
This...... There is a common denominator in the OPs bad meets......
Bad luck? |
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