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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ?? |
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"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ?? "
How do YOU feel about it...
if it bothers you you have the right to be annoyed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ??
How do YOU feel about it...
if it bothers you you have the right to be annoyed "
Confused as think I have feelings for him and he knows that |
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Also agree with his cake and eat it. Different if he was being straight with the person wanting the relationship with but not if its behind someones back.
Similar thing just happened to me, so called FWB. We had no problems with who each other met, or what we got up to when not seeing each other but he not been able to meet for a while due to other things going on in his life, but find out earlier in week he had a couples profile on here with someone else and the nights he cancelled on me was because he was meeting via that profile! Wondered why he never displayed any verifications I left him or why he didnt do me any, now I know
Oh well, his loss, and think you really need to think just how much you want this person as a FB or if it is time to move on.
Good luck and hope you get it sorted. |
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"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ?? "
Outrage! I'm no-one's sneaky second fiddle on the side, my self-respect would make me walk away. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone I am meeting with him later to talk about it . Just needed to talk with people in this circle . No the other girl no nothing about me or the real him |
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"Thanks everyone I am meeting with him later to talk about it . Just needed to talk with people in this circle . No the other girl no nothing about me or the real him "
You're in a relationship tho? With a couples profile? So he's you're bit on the side but you don't want to end up being his? What? |
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Oh he wants a relationship with a girl I assumed it was another bloke...
hmm yea sounds like he needs a good talking to.
Dnt compromise yourself for his benifit when you have a chat
N b honest best you can
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks everyone I am meeting with him later to talk about it . Just needed to talk with people in this circle . No the other girl no nothing about me or the real him
You're in a relationship tho? With a couples profile? So he's you're bit on the side but you don't want to end up being his? What? "
He is the other half of the couple neither of us are in a relationship just very close friends with him |
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Understand now
Either admit that it was fun while it lasted but it has to stop now he wants to see someone or you need to be happy in yourself for being the bit on the side. My advice would be the first one though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Understand now
Either admit that it was fun while it lasted but it has to stop now he wants to see someone or you need to be happy in yourself for being the bit on the side. My advice would be the first one though."
The girl he wants to be with know nothing about this side of him or that he like guys too |
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The girl he wants to be with know nothing about this side of him or that he like guys too "
Life's a bitch. I've been with ppl in the past with partners who nothing about this side of them but that's really between him and his new girl. |
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The girl he wants to be with know nothing about this side of him or that he like guys too
Life's a bitch. I've been with ppl in the past with partners who nothing about this side of them but that's really between him and his new girl."
Think he's more pissed off that he is denying that he is bi or gay |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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Individual choice, but with a fuck buddy there is that freedom. Now I would say that swinging is about ethical non-monogamy and everyone knows the situation and can then make an informed decision about if thats what they want in a relationship. If we consider it from the perspective of the other person they will think are in a regular vanilla relationship, who knows it might go well and they end up getting married and having kids, if he has also had a FB on the side then that could cause major fallout.
However a younger me might have come to a different conclusion on the situation. So in the end its down to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Individual choice, but with a fuck buddy there is that freedom. Now I would say that swinging is about ethical non-monogamy and everyone knows the situation and can then make an informed decision about if thats what they want in a relationship. If we consider it from the perspective of the other person they will think are in a regular vanilla relationship, who knows it might go well and they end up getting married and having kids, if he has also had a FB on the side then that could cause major fallout.
However a younger me might have come to a different conclusion on the situation. So in the end its down to you."
Is he being selfish though as he knows how I feel and this other girl has not long come out of a bad relationship and has an 8 month old baby . His last relationship failed as he couldn't deal with that girls kids . ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your replies I'm in a bit of shock as knew nothing about this until he text me when was in work this morning I burst in to tears and had to come home . I don't want to lose him but can't be the other woman guess I have a lot to think about |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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"Individual choice, but with a fuck buddy there is that freedom. Now I would say that swinging is about ethical non-monogamy and everyone knows the situation and can then make an informed decision about if thats what they want in a relationship. If we consider it from the perspective of the other person they will think are in a regular vanilla relationship, who knows it might go well and they end up getting married and having kids, if he has also had a FB on the side then that could cause major fallout.
However a younger me might have come to a different conclusion on the situation. So in the end its down to you.
Is he being selfish though as he knows how I feel and this other girl has not long come out of a bad relationship and has an 8 month old baby . His last relationship failed as he couldn't deal with that girls kids . ?"
In swinging I don't see things like this as being selfish. It is obviously something that he wants to do, and he is telling you what he wants. Open expression of desires is kind of what we are looking for in swinging isn't it? So once he has expressed his desires, its then up to you if you want to help him to achieve his desires, or if its not something for you, then you can pass. |
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"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ?? "
I'd be a little annoyed that he told me we were exclusive when obviously we were not
Wouldnt bother me if a fuck buddie saw other people it does bother me when people lie about things they really have no need to lie about
So for that reason I'd be out |
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"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ??
I'd be a little annoyed that he told me we were exclusive when obviously we were not
Wouldnt bother me if a fuck buddie saw other people it does bother me when people lie about things they really have no need to lie about
So for that reason I'd be out "
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"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ??
I'd be a little annoyed that he told me we were exclusive when obviously we were not
Wouldnt bother me if a fuck buddie saw other people it does bother me when people lie about things they really have no need to lie about
So for that reason I'd be out "
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