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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i have had quite a few people say that this site may not be for me as i am deaf and very inexperience but i feel that should not stop me trying to have the same fun as everyone else although i know it would be even more harder for me. I know most people would be put off but not everyone the same and some people may prefer an inexperience male and not put off by me being deaf. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first "
thats the problem i have the people assume i sign but i actually dont as i can hear partially in one ear and can lipread so am able to have a normal conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't listen to people like that. Nothing worse than someone who's prejudiced towards somebody different to them. Usually because they don't understand. And if that arse is down right rude enough to say that, they're not worth talking to anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
thats the problem i have the people assume i sign but i actually dont as i can hear partially in one ear and can lipread so am able to have a normal conversation."
Maybe don't say your deaf then, hard of hearing may be a better description then people will realise you can hear and have a conversation  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first "
How fucking ignorant !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have a far better profile than many on here....though I would suggest a few more pics (not cock shots lol!).....
Apparently it is difficult for most guys to get started....if other posts here are to be believed...but keep at it and I wish you luck! |
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!"
Why would that be ignorant to say that? He asked.. she replied honestly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!
Why would that be ignorant to say that? He asked.. she replied honestly."
Because it was implied you can't have a conversation with a deaf person |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!"
What is f**king ignorant about that???
I wouldn't meet a short guy; she wouldn't meet a guy who she feels she will not be able to converse with easily
I know a deaf guy at work and try as hard, I cannot hold any real conversation with him. Maybe others can but I cannot |
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!
Why would that be ignorant to say that? He asked.. she replied honestly.
Because it was implied you can't have a conversation with a deaf person "
She didn't say anyone couldn't. . She said she wouldn't feel comfortable with it.... it would be the same if you had a particular preference to who you would or wouldn't meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!
Why would that be ignorant to say that? He asked.. she replied honestly.
Because it was implied you can't have a conversation with a deaf person "
If they are deaf and can't talk which some deaf people can't, and I can't sign I couldn't have a conversation with then
but as usual on here somebody always has to see the worse in what you say and get aggressive
no more than I expected |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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Back to the OPs original question
Your chances of finding mutual attraction are probably about the same as anyone else
Best I can say is that try the clubs as there people will be able to interact with you better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have had quite a few people say that this site may not be for me as i am deaf and very inexperience but i feel that should not stop me trying to have the same fun as everyone else although i know it would be even more harder for me. I know most people would be put off but not everyone the same and some people may prefer an inexperience male and not put off by me being deaf."
It's hard going for a lot of people on here, so you're not alone.
You could improve your profile by having an avatar pic rather than a shadow, and more pics in your gallery. Apart from that, have you thought about going to a club or a social meet? The people are always friendly and welcoming, in our experience, and it might be just what you need to boost your confidence and get things started. |
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!
Why would that be ignorant to say that? He asked.. she replied honestly.
Because it was implied you can't have a conversation with a deaf person
If they are deaf and can't talk which some deaf people can't, and I can't sign I couldn't have a conversation with then
but as usual on here somebody always has to see the worse in what you say and get aggressive
no more than I expected "
God forbid anyone is honest in the forums without a tin hat and flak jacket |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course you should be here,
Be proud of your refusal to let these things dictate your life,
I would try and write the profile matter of factly.
This is me, this is who I'am,
Not saying don't explain yourself but come across more as this is me and it's not a problem to me,
Good luck, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!
Why would that be ignorant to say that? He asked.. she replied honestly.
Because it was implied you can't have a conversation with a deaf person "
So would it be "funking ignorant" if she said she wouldn't meet a stranger for casual see who did not speak English because she could not hold a conversation with them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!
Why would that be ignorant to say that? He asked.. she replied honestly.
Because it was implied you can't have a conversation with a deaf person
So would it be "funking ignorant" if she said she wouldn't meet a stranger for casual see who did not speak English because she could not hold a conversation with them?"
Neither are 'fucking ignorant '.
What is 'fucking ignorant 'is the way some people are so quick to judge other people's preferences .
If conversation is an important for someone's preference on a meet , a foreign language , and an effort with someone who is deaf isn't gonna work . Simple .
Same as if you wanna meet a gay guy , you don't choose a straight guy . Or you may want some ff action so you don't choose guys .
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"I'll be honest I wouldn't meet a deaf person simply because I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I couldn't have a conversation with, I like a drink and a chat and to get to know somebody first
How fucking ignorant !!"
Oh the irony!  
The op asked a question and she answered: how is that ignorant?
For me this is fantasy and I'm not interested in those outwith what I'm looking for so that would rule the op out for me.
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"i have had quite a few people say that this site may not be for me as i am deaf and very inexperience but i feel that should not stop me trying to have the same fun as everyone else although i know it would be even more harder for me. I know most people would be put off but not everyone the same and some people may prefer an inexperience male and not put off by me being deaf."
I am deaf and it's never held me back, just be your self and enjoy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have had quite a few people say that this site may not be for me as i am deaf and very inexperience but i feel that should not stop me trying to have the same fun as everyone else although i know it would be even more harder for me. I know most people would be put off but not everyone the same and some people may prefer an inexperience male and not put off by me being deaf."
Some people are morons. Ignore them and carry on! |
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"i have had quite a few people say that this site may not be for me as i am deaf and very inexperience but i feel that should not stop me trying to have the same fun as everyone else although i know it would be even more harder for me. I know most people would be put off but not everyone the same and some people may prefer an inexperience male and not put off by me being deaf.
Some people are morons. Ignore them and carry on!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not your deafness that would put us off but your virginity. I'm not interested in being some kind of newbie wrangler and your inability to take on board any kind of advice over the last few years of posting the same old threads looking for sympathy over the years you've been on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not your deafness that would put us off but your virginity. I'm not interested in being some kind of newbie wrangler and your inability to take on board any kind of advice over the last few years of posting the same old threads looking for sympathy over the years you've been on here. "
Finally someone answers with candid honesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see anything about the last few year's, please enlighten me. Anyone is entitled to come on here and have fun, how ever that maybe. Op ignore the trolls and do what ever you want."
I'm not sure if it's me you're accusing of being a troll. the op has been here many times before and now has a new profile posting the same threads with the same questions he did for many years with many people offering advice and support
I haven't said he shouldn't be here but offered an alternative suggestion as to why people haven't been interested in him the whole time he's been on and off here...call me shallow, but this is not an altruistic pursuit for me, I'm here for my own pleasures and meeting virgins isn't one of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chap we have been here before and you don't seem to take the advice on board. You have some great advice and encouragement above now it's down to you to take it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do what you want to do, go grab life by the horns and hump it into submission you only get one shot at it, and if you have never had sex before how do you know you're not a total stud? You might be handing out orgasams like toffees by the end of the year  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have had quite a few people say that this site may not be for me as i am deaf and very inexperience but i feel that should not stop me trying to have the same fun as everyone else although i know it would be even more harder for me. I know most people would be put off but not everyone the same and some people may prefer an inexperience male and not put off by me being deaf."
From what I understand, a lot of people on here are very tolerant, there is no reason for you to leave, some people will be put off by your hearing difficulties, but not everyone is the same. Just do what you can and I'm sure things will work out.
Oh and for the people who say you can't have a conversation with a deaf person, invest in a notepad and pen, if conversation gets tricky and sign language is not a skill you possess, most people can read and write. I work in retail, and that's how I solve the issues with people hard of hearing.
Happy swinging |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
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OP - The site is as much for a deaf person to connect as it is for those who are not.
We all started somewhere in swinging & were all novices, so that's that issue covered.
Use the site for the fun benefits you can get from being a member & NEVER let the haters question your motives, why you're here or your deafness. Whilst you won't be everyone's taste, you will be someone's - so you stay as long as it's fun for you.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stay. UK 2015. Most of us are hearing impaired, partially blind and poorly educated. You'll do fine probably exceed average success rate. x"
Well I hope so...thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i have had quite a few people say that this site may not be for me as i am deaf and very inexperience but i feel that should not stop me trying to have the same fun as everyone else although i know it would be even more harder for me. I know most people would be put off but not everyone the same and some people may prefer an inexperience male and not put off by me being deaf.
I am deaf and it's never held me back, just be your self and enjoy x"
Thanks good to see you doing well but I think you wouldn't have any problem finding meets as you are a female.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do what you want to do, go grab life by the horns and hump it into submission you only get one shot at it, and if you have never had sex before how do you know you're not a total stud? You might be handing out orgasams like toffees by the end of the year "
Doubt it but thanks anyway... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've been here a while or before or something so you know yourself already. It doesn't matter that you're deaf. There's a blind guy on here and he's shagging away. "
Glad to hear the blind guy having more luck than me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There was a very similar poster over multiple posts, who always seemed to just never take advice. Perhaps it was a lack of confidence but he didn't ever progress after taking on board said advice.
In your shoes, I'd make sure I'm ready to have confidence, sex, and go to a forum social sometime. Plenty of fun going on not too far from you. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can sign BSL.
Not fluent though!
Good for you for stepping up "
I can't sign and I am deaf. Didn't need to learn to sign as I can hear in right ear with an hearing aid and lip read. |
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