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"I am for the right guy. But not a 50shades wannabe! " We know a great young Dom on here we interact with. Some of the pics of his facilities and rope work certainly beat that 50 shades shit. He doesn't come into the forums sadly he's pretty busy. Looking forward to visiting him. | |||
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"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." Love that comment, made me smile. 
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"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." Well that's what I don't understand because I'm a decent dominant make and I only have half a brain
But seriously I get chatting to "subs" and it soon becomes apparent that they are looking for a millionaire business man who is damaged so that they can fix him, I'm not broken, im not a millionaire I'm just a confidant man who knows his way around a dungeon.
A couple of years ago they all wanted a vampire, now they want to be in an abusive relationship movies have a lot to answer for imo | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. Love that comment, made me smile.
karen" | |||
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"I need the alpha male Dom Masta' who is good at doing rope tricks and walks around with a workman's belt with whips and chains hanging off it" You know there's a difference between a Dom and a master right? Like ther is a difference between a slave and a sub. | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. | |||
"The problem I've found with submissives here is that they seem to be more into reading and writing than actual play. I've been into sub/dom play for years and years. I've not even looked at that bloody book but have concluded that it has ruined the sub/dom thing for me. I don't write erotica. Apparently that makes me "not a genuine dom." Odd" Someone actually said that to you? It's worse than I thought  | |||
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"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. " Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol | |||
"Surely an experienced Dom would never need to advertise the fact? He would find subs through conversing on a personal level. "And why waste time finding out someone isn't what your looking for when you can just advertise what you are/seek? | |||
"I had look at your profile, its longeer than mine! :P I would message you but you seem into pain, which isn't what I'm about, and you have no pictures! And I'm a bratty sub more than a grovelling thing :P " I'm Not really a sadist, it's a shame because you are so far away, and that would be a barrier for me, but you seem to be an awesome person from what I can tell from your profile | |||
"Surely an experienced Dom would never need to advertise the fact? He would find subs through conversing on a personal level.
And why waste time finding out someone isn't what your looking for when you can just advertise what you are/seek?
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"The problem I've found with submissives here is that they seem to be more into reading and writing than actual play. I've been into sub/dom play for years and years. I've not even looked at that bloody book but have concluded that it has ruined the sub/dom thing for me. I don't write erotica. Apparently that makes me "not a genuine dom." Odd" not sure why it would ruin it for you..it was one take on that kind of relationship and showed very clearly why the man was like he was,,,i wouldnt get involved with a man motivated like that..but i think it does get people thinking about what makes doms and subs tick...just my opinion... if a guy it busy strutting around calling himself a dom, hes probably too busy to find out what makes me tick..too many preconceived ideas..and i admit i am probably the same, to approach anyone who wants a 'sub'...if you have the capacity to make me melt..then as far as im concerned, that's submissive for me...do i want to 'act' it out..no i want to be it naturally... i dont feel i need to be trained.... no im not submissive (in my preconceived comprehension of the word) in any other scenario..but then i dont claim to be..i dont know enough about the whole spectrum... | |||
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"The problem I've found with submissives here is that they seem to be more into reading and writing than actual play. I've been into sub/dom play for years and years. I've not even looked at that bloody book but have concluded that it has ruined the sub/dom thing for me. I don't write erotica. Apparently that makes me "not a genuine dom." Odd not sure why it would ruin it for you..it was one take on that kind of relationship and showed very clearly why the man was like he was,,,i wouldnt get involved with a man motivated like that..but i think it does get people thinking about what makes doms and subs tick...just my opinion... if a guy it busy strutting around calling himself a dom, hes probably too busy to find out what makes me tick..too many preconceived ideas..and i admit i am probably the same, to approach anyone who wants a 'sub'...if you have the capacity to make me melt..then as far as im concerned, that's submissive for me...do i want to 'act' it out..no i want to be it naturally... i dont feel i need to be trained.... no im not submissive (in my preconceived comprehension of the word) in any other scenario..but then i dont claim to be..i dont know enough about the whole spectrum... "You said it right there, "what makes us tick" that is the essence of what it's all about for me, finding yourself, what is possible and what you are capable of, it's a journey not a destination | |||
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"I think you'd really be better off on other sites looking for subs. Its stupid to think that 50 shades isn't going to have some sort of impact on what essentially is a vanilla site in terms of both doms and subs. I actually think its healthy and has allowed some people to explore. The bdsm world is just as full of wannabes as here. If you've got a test for a real dom, them surely you have a test for a real sub. Obviously, real in this case is just someone who matches your expectation, and you theirs." I am a member on another very good site, but I like the forums on here, they are much simpler to use, I do have a test to see if a woman is submisive, but if I told you what it was, then you would know as much as me | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." This!
So many guys are like "I'm gonna make her do x, y, z"... Er no you'd ask my current master permission to do so first if you understood how s/d works lol | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." Agreed! I have a very strong personality outside the bedroom and several brain cells! I'd love a Dom guy - but he'd have to be physically, emotionally and intellectually superior to me (in my opinion - not his!) in order for me to see it as any more than a bit of fun role-play! Let's just say in 18 months it hasn't happened yet! X | |||
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"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." | |||
"I can play switch but I'm much happier in the role of the submissive and I generally do give myself over completely and when I'm in that "moment" (for lack of a better word) I haven't yet found anything that's out of my boundaries yet But I can't do it with just anyone, it's got to be the right kind of dominant personality, and it's not something you can jump straight into from a first meet, there needs to be a foundation of trust and that takes time to build upon, especially if pain play is the goal. There aren't many that truely understand the complexity of the Dom/sub relationship, anyone that thinks it's like 50 shades of shite really knows frig all about it " Exactly pseudo Doms think that all it takes is bark instructions and make her kneel, it's like saying that simply because I have a penis that every woman should have sex with me. BDSM relationships have to start with attraction, respect, and trust, everything else just drops into place | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." Great post | |||
"The problem I've found with submissives here is that they seem to be more into reading and writing than actual play. I've been into sub/dom play for years and years. I've not even looked at that bloody book but have concluded that it has ruined the sub/dom thing for me. I don't write erotica. Apparently that makes me "not a genuine dom." Odd not sure why it would ruin it for you..it was one take on that kind of relationship and showed very clearly why the man was like he was,,,i wouldnt get involved with a man motivated like that..but i think it does get people thinking about what makes doms and subs tick...just my opinion... if a guy it busy strutting around calling himself a dom, hes probably too busy to find out what makes me tick..too many preconceived ideas..and i admit i am probably the same, to approach anyone who wants a 'sub'...if you have the capacity to make me melt..then as far as im concerned, that's submissive for me...do i want to 'act' it out..no i want to be it naturally... i dont feel i need to be trained.... no im not submissive (in my preconceived comprehension of the word) in any other scenario..but then i dont claim to be..i dont know enough about the whole spectrum...
You said it right there, "what makes us tick" that is the essence of what it's all about for me, finding yourself, what is possible and what you are capable of, it's a journey not a destination "yes but i know who i am and what im capable of..just don't need to be tested on that, by someone who thinks he knows me..probably better if he just admits he doesn't...and to give myself to a man who doesn't know who he is....err no...i like reliability, trustworthiness and consistency..if you dont know..then im not going to trust you with 'knowing' am i?... | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This!
So many guys are like "I'm gonna make her do x, y, z"... Er no you'd ask my current master permission to do so first if you understood how s/d works lol" | |||
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"I think you'd really be better off on other sites looking for subs. Its stupid to think that 50 shades isn't going to have some sort of impact on what essentially is a vanilla site in terms of both doms and subs. I actually think its healthy and has allowed some people to explore. The bdsm world is just as full of wannabes as here. If you've got a test for a real dom, them surely you have a test for a real sub. Obviously, real in this case is just someone who matches your expectation, and you theirs." | |||
"Not everyone knows what they are though? I'd always considered myself a top, and still do. But apparently this isn't so. Isn't being a good dom about catering to the individual? Playing this way is an exploration of the mind more so than that of just the physical. Maybe you should cast off the labels, and let it occur naturally?! " | |||
"I think you'd really be better off on other sites looking for subs. Its stupid to think that 50 shades isn't going to have some sort of impact on what essentially is a vanilla site in terms of both doms and subs. I actually think its healthy and has allowed some people to explore. The bdsm world is just as full of wannabes as here. If you've got a test for a real dom, them surely you have a test for a real sub. Obviously, real in this case is just someone who matches your expectation, and you theirs. I am a member on another very good site, but I like the forums on here, they are much simpler to use, I do have a test to see if a woman is submisive, but if I told you what it was, then you would know as much as me "What's the test? | |||
"I think you'd really be better off on other sites looking for subs. Its stupid to think that 50 shades isn't going to have some sort of impact on what essentially is a vanilla site in terms of both doms and subs. I actually think its healthy and has allowed some people to explore. The bdsm world is just as full of wannabes as here. If you've got a test for a real dom, them surely you have a test for a real sub. Obviously, real in this case is just someone who matches your expectation, and you theirs. I am a member on another very good site, but I like the forums on here, they are much simpler to use, I do have a test to see if a woman is submisive, but if I told you what it was, then you would know as much as me
What's the test?"Lol not telling | |||
"Not everyone knows what they are though? I'd always considered myself a top, and still do. But apparently this isn't so. Isn't being a good dom about catering to the individual? Playing this way is an exploration of the mind more so than that of just the physical. Maybe you should cast off the labels, and let it occur naturally?! " cast off the labels ..
maybe they cant do that as its a 'status' thing....'interaction' doesnt have the same ring to the ego..maybe? | |||
" What's the test?" Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive. | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive." It's annoying when people assume that when you play sub that you can't have opinions or preferences, although luckily I only play sub with one lady but it seems there's plenty that don't truly understand the role of a sub | |||
"The problem I've found with submissives here is that they seem to be more into reading and writing than actual play. I've been into sub/dom play for years and years. I've not even looked at that bloody book but have concluded that it has ruined the sub/dom thing for me. I don't write erotica. Apparently that makes me "not a genuine dom." Odd not sure why it would ruin it for you..it was one take on that kind of relationship and showed very clearly why the man was like he was,,,i wouldnt get involved with a man motivated like that..but i think it does get people thinking about what makes doms and subs tick...just my opinion... if a guy it busy strutting around calling himself a dom, hes probably too busy to find out what makes me tick..too many preconceived ideas..and i admit i am probably the same, to approach anyone who wants a 'sub'...if you have the capacity to make me melt..then as far as im concerned, that's submissive for me...do i want to 'act' it out..no i want to be it naturally... i dont feel i need to be trained.... no im not submissive (in my preconceived comprehension of the word) in any other scenario..but then i dont claim to be..i dont know enough about the whole spectrum...
You said it right there, "what makes us tick" that is the essence of what it's all about for me, finding yourself, what is possible and what you are capable of, it's a journey not a destination
yes but i know who i am and what im capable of..just don't need to be tested on that, by someone who thinks he knows me..probably better if he just admits he doesn't...and to give myself to a man who doesn't know who he is....err no...i like reliability, trustworthiness and consistency..if you dont know..then im not going to trust you with 'knowing' am i?..."But you don't 'know' how you will work together and I think the OP is making that point. He seems like he is sure of himself and where he is at now, that's not to say when he finds the 'right' person that neither of them will change. | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive." sniggers...
i bet you have a few choice words of where they can go too...
i like you wasp hunter...i appreciate you on these forums x | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive." Given what he's said in this thread he needs a new test as his selection process is way off | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive. Given what he's said in this thread he needs a new test as his selection process is way off " Lol I don't have a test, I was thinking about that thing you see on the Internet that claims if you ask 3 simple questions you can get any woman to sleep with you, and the fact that I've had 6 messages asking what it is in my inbox has made me chuckle | |||
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"All Words no substance you get a feel for these things on here. Be careful out there folks. " think id fall for the start a thread, set a cliffhanger to pique curiosity statement....to pm his inbox...hehe no chance... its not what makes me 'tick'..however, i will play around at 'calling' it though... | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive. Given what he's said in this thread he needs a new test as his selection process is way off Lol I don't have a test, I was thinking about that thing you see on the Internet that claims if you ask 3 simple questions you can get any woman to sleep with you, and the fact that I've had 6 messages asking what it is in my inbox has made me chuckle "Well I seriously hope that wasn't your attempt at proving how you can control someone psychologically | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive. Given what he's said in this thread he needs a new test as his selection process is way off Lol I don't have a test, I was thinking about that thing you see on the Internet that claims if you ask 3 simple questions you can get any woman to sleep with you, and the fact that I've had 6 messages asking what it is in my inbox has made me chuckle
Well I seriously hope that wasn't your attempt at proving how you can control someone psychologically"Nope just me having a laugh | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great "OP have you tried your local munches or fet events? It seems you are after someone with experience from what you've posted so perhaps people active in the scene may work out better for you? | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive." It's bound to be some test from a teen magazine.  | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive. Given what he's said in this thread he needs a new test as his selection process is way off Lol I don't have a test, I was thinking about that thing you see on the Internet that claims if you ask 3 simple questions you can get any woman to sleep with you, and the fact that I've had 6 messages asking what it is in my inbox has made me chuckle "Ah cool so you agree. | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive. It's bound to be some test from a teen magazine. "Damn you got me, apparently my soul mate is nail from one direction | |||
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"Everytime this subject comes up there are "experts" who try and put people down. Can we please have a bit more respect for peoples posts, and if you can't then avoid the thread." | |||
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"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
OP have you tried your local munches or fet events? It seems you are after someone with experience from what you've posted so perhaps people active in the scene may work out better for you? "Yeah I go to the od munch, and I have quite a few friends in the lifestyle but I'm looking for "the one" Bdsm is not for one night stands, so I'm looking for my naughty princess | |||
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"you've reported my last comment?..oh my.. have fun..i wont spoil your thread any longer,, my sincerest apologies for my clarity x" On my life ive not reported any one for anything, I'm not that petty, This is a lively debate and a lot of people are sharing their opinions nothing to report as far as I can see | |||
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"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
OP have you tried your local munches or fet events? It seems you are after someone with experience from what you've posted so perhaps people active in the scene may work out better for you?
Yeah I go to the od munch, and I have quite a few friends in the lifestyle but I'm looking for "the one" Bdsm is not for one night stands, so I'm looking for my naughty princess "Damn right there. Good luck in your search xx | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great "I am at the start of an amazing journey....feel free to contact me on kikchat m x | |||
"My god what women are you talking to. You can't advertise for a sub. You have to be intelligent enough to stimulate the sub into submission. It's all in the mind x" No I want to meet someone who knows what it's all about | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
OP have you tried your local munches or fet events? It seems you are after someone with experience from what you've posted so perhaps people active in the scene may work out better for you?
Yeah I go to the od munch, and I have quite a few friends in the lifestyle but I'm looking for "the one" Bdsm is not for one night stands, so I'm looking for my naughty princess
Damn right there. Good luck in your search xx"thank you | |||
"you've reported my last comment?..oh my.. have fun..i wont spoil your thread any longer,, my sincerest apologies for my clarity x" He may not have reported it a Mod may have just deleted it as they didn't feel it was an appropriate comment | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
I am at the start of an amazing journey....feel free to contact me on kikchat m x"Exciting isn't it | |||
" What's the test? Probably the same one that I always get tested on and come out wrong. Apparently answering back when someone says something stupid or telling someone that's not how I like it means I'm not a 'real' submissive. sniggers...
i bet you have a few choice words of where they can go too...
i like you wasp hunter...i appreciate you on these forums x"Got to admit quiet a few of Wasps comment have brought more then a wry smile, especially at some of the responses.  | |||
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"My god what women are you talking to. You can't advertise for a sub. You have to be intelligent enough to stimulate the sub into submission. It's all in the mind x No I want to meet someone who knows what it's all about" I think the point she's making is even experienced subs need the right stimulation to fully submit themselves and that's your responsibility as the dominant | |||
"My god what women are you talking to. You can't advertise for a sub. You have to be intelligent enough to stimulate the sub into submission. It's all in the mind x" This
Exactly how my journey began | |||
"My god what women are you talking to. You can't advertise for a sub. You have to be intelligent enough to stimulate the sub into submission. It's all in the mind x No I want to meet someone who knows what it's all about I think the point she's making is even experienced subs need the right stimulation to fully submit themselves and that's your responsibility as the dominant " Yes I understand that but I want to meet someone who has a good idea of what they want from the relationship and not just what they have read in an over rated book | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
I am at the start of an amazing journey....feel free to contact me on kikchat m x
Exciting isn't it "Yes. Please excuse my slack attitude this morning - what I should have said is - I would be honoured and thrilled if you were to contact me on kikchat with a view to testing my obedience Sir  | |||
"My god what women are you talking to. You can't advertise for a sub. You have to be intelligent enough to stimulate the sub into submission. It's all in the mind x No I want to meet someone who knows what it's all about I think the point she's making is even experienced subs need the right stimulation to fully submit themselves and that's your responsibility as the dominant Yes I understand that but I want to meet someone who has a good idea of what they want from the relationship and not just what they have read in an over rated book" You do realise that although I think that books trash too, it can work as a platform to introduce someone into the world of sub/Dom relationships, yes their view may need re-training/educating but you said yourself the process should be a journey not a destination. I went into the lifestyle "knowing what I wanted" but what I want is still after 10 years constantly evolving | |||
"It's quite telling that every post has something to do with 50SoG, is that the benchmark that all Doms are measured by now? From what I gather, he's an abusive, control freak who has very little to do with BDSM ive not given time to read the book or watch the film as ive got a, oh how can I put it, LIFE. Domination is a giving thing, it's about the satisfaction and pleasure of the sub more than his own gratification " Submission and domination is exactly about what the Dom and sub consent it to be. | |||
"The problem I've found with submissives here is that they seem to be more into reading and writing than actual play. I've been into sub/dom play for years and years. I've not even looked at that bloody book but have concluded that it has ruined the sub/dom thing for me. I don't write erotica. Apparently that makes me "not a genuine dom." Odd" I've been told I'm not a sub simply because I do not fulfil someone's perception of a sub. Am I bovvered? | |||
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"I need the alpha male Dom Masta' who is good at doing rope tricks and walks around with a workman's belt with whips and chains hanging off it You know there's a difference between a Dom and a master right? Like ther is a difference between a slave and a sub. " Lines can be blurred, therefore, it is best to be concerned about the compatibility of your own desires and that of your potential sub's. | |||
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"The problem I've found with submissives here is that they seem to be more into reading and writing than actual play. I've been into sub/dom play for years and years. I've not even looked at that bloody book but have concluded that it has ruined the sub/dom thing for me. I don't write erotica. Apparently that makes me "not a genuine dom." Odd I've been told I'm not a sub simply because I do not fulfil someone's perception of a sub. Am I bovvered? "Very valid point what one person looks for from a submissive/dominant will be different to what another person does there's no one size fits all, this is the point I was trying to make earlier in the thread about understanding the Complexity of the relationship and finding the right match, so to speak | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol" There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? | |||
"I can play switch but I'm much happier in the role of the submissive and I generally do give myself over completely and when I'm in that "moment" (for lack of a better word) I haven't yet found anything that's out of my boundaries yet But I can't do it with just anyone, it's got to be the right kind of dominant personality, and it's not something you can jump straight into from a first meet, there needs to be a foundation of trust and that takes time to build upon, especially if pain play is the goal. There aren't many that truely understand the complexity of the Dom/sub relationship, anyone that thinks it's like 50 shades of shite really knows frig all about it "
I find it hilarious when a guy thinks he can dominate me through messages from the off. | |||
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"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
I am at the start of an amazing journey....feel free to contact me on kikchat m x
Exciting isn't it
Yes. Please excuse my slack attitude this morning - what I should have said is - I would be honoured and thrilled if you were to contact me on kikchat with a view to testing my obedience Sir "No need to call me sir, I'll inbox you | |||
"I can play switch but I'm much happier in the role of the submissive and I generally do give myself over completely and when I'm in that "moment" (for lack of a better word) I haven't yet found anything that's out of my boundaries yet But I can't do it with just anyone, it's got to be the right kind of dominant personality, and it's not something you can jump straight into from a first meet, there needs to be a foundation of trust and that takes time to build upon, especially if pain play is the goal. There aren't many that truely understand the complexity of the Dom/sub relationship, anyone that thinks it's like 50 shades of shite really knows frig all about it
I find it hilarious when a guy thinks he can dominate me through messages from the off."Yes... This. ..very this! There's very few I would submit to and it's of my choosing not theirs. Those that understand that and try and understand me would stand a far better chance if I was in the market for a Dom. However if looking to play with other bdsm people then I would sub to whomever my Dom chooses and show the appropriate respect as my Dom has earned that from me. | |||
"Really, the definitions of submissive and dominant are only relevant to the individuals concerned when they are playing together. Whatever others think doesn't really mean that much at all." x 42 | |||
"I can play switch but I'm much happier in the role of the submissive and I generally do give myself over completely and when I'm in that "moment" (for lack of a better word) I haven't yet found anything that's out of my boundaries yet But I can't do it with just anyone, it's got to be the right kind of dominant personality, and it's not something you can jump straight into from a first meet, there needs to be a foundation of trust and that takes time to build upon, especially if pain play is the goal. There aren't many that truely understand the complexity of the Dom/sub relationship, anyone that thinks it's like 50 shades of shite really knows frig all about it
I find it hilarious when a guy thinks he can dominate me through messages from the off.
Yes... This. ..very this! There's very few I would submit to and it's of my choosing not theirs. Those that understand that and try and understand me would stand a far better chance if I was in the market for a Dom.
However if looking to play with other bdsm people then I would sub to whomever my Dom chooses and show the appropriate respect as my Dom has earned that from me."See, I couldn't submit to another. Play, yes but never submit. For me it's a mind thing, so couldn't and wouldn't hand over my body. | |||
"I can play switch but I'm much happier in the role of the submissive and I generally do give myself over completely and when I'm in that "moment" (for lack of a better word) I haven't yet found anything that's out of my boundaries yet But I can't do it with just anyone, it's got to be the right kind of dominant personality, and it's not something you can jump straight into from a first meet, there needs to be a foundation of trust and that takes time to build upon, especially if pain play is the goal. There aren't many that truely understand the complexity of the Dom/sub relationship, anyone that thinks it's like 50 shades of shite really knows frig all about it
I find it hilarious when a guy thinks he can dominate me through messages from the off.
Yes... This. ..very this! There's very few I would submit to and it's of my choosing not theirs. Those that understand that and try and understand me would stand a far better chance if I was in the market for a Dom.
However if looking to play with other bdsm people then I would sub to whomever my Dom chooses and show the appropriate respect as my Dom has earned that from me.
See, I couldn't submit to another. Play, yes but never submit. For me it's a mind thing, so couldn't and wouldn't hand over my body. "I couldn't submit to anyone other than my Dom either, I would be his in mind body and soul, other men could play with me (my Dom approving) but I could never be theirs | |||
"I can play switch but I'm much happier in the role of the submissive and I generally do give myself over completely and when I'm in that "moment" (for lack of a better word) I haven't yet found anything that's out of my boundaries yet But I can't do it with just anyone, it's got to be the right kind of dominant personality, and it's not something you can jump straight into from a first meet, there needs to be a foundation of trust and that takes time to build upon, especially if pain play is the goal. There aren't many that truely understand the complexity of the Dom/sub relationship, anyone that thinks it's like 50 shades of shite really knows frig all about it
I find it hilarious when a guy thinks he can dominate me through messages from the off.
Yes... This. ..very this! There's very few I would submit to and it's of my choosing not theirs. Those that understand that and try and understand me would stand a far better chance if I was in the market for a Dom.
However if looking to play with other bdsm people then I would sub to whomever my Dom chooses and show the appropriate respect as my Dom has earned that from me.
See, I couldn't submit to another. Play, yes but never submit. For me it's a mind thing, so couldn't and wouldn't hand over my body.
I couldn't submit to anyone other than my Dom either, I would be his in mind body and soul, other men could play with me (my Dom approving) but I could never be theirs "That's because he's earnt that right a random playmate even one I. The lifestyle as not | |||
"I can play switch but I'm much happier in the role of the submissive and I generally do give myself over completely and when I'm in that "moment" (for lack of a better word) I haven't yet found anything that's out of my boundaries yet But I can't do it with just anyone, it's got to be the right kind of dominant personality, and it's not something you can jump straight into from a first meet, there needs to be a foundation of trust and that takes time to build upon, especially if pain play is the goal. There aren't many that truely understand the complexity of the Dom/sub relationship, anyone that thinks it's like 50 shades of shite really knows frig all about it
I find it hilarious when a guy thinks he can dominate me through messages from the off.
Yes... This. ..very this! There's very few I would submit to and it's of my choosing not theirs. Those that understand that and try and understand me would stand a far better chance if I was in the market for a Dom.
However if looking to play with other bdsm people then I would sub to whomever my Dom chooses and show the appropriate respect as my Dom has earned that from me.
See, I couldn't submit to another. Play, yes but never submit. For me it's a mind thing, so couldn't and wouldn't hand over my body. "I see swinging and bdsm as separate. So I could play with those in a swinging set up totally differently to those in bdsm. I have desires with both lifestyles and what I want out of both are totally different. | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong?" Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing " I know a couple of Doms who have had a similar experience. Both talk of it in a similar way | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." To the half brains. I meet my now hubby from a very different site (in mean time closed as a bit to extreme) – the reason why I love him, is that he has a brain and also he respects, that a Sub has the power in a BDSM relationship. I found out with him on my path of “learning”, that the brain is the most powerful sex organ and that a whisper giving me suggestions, at the right moment, has more impact then all the toys and other together. There are so many now “want to be Mr Greys” out there claiming to be Dom's, but in the end they have no idea what a Sub wants and requires; Most can not even grasp the idea, that a Sub can have her / his own ideas, needs and demands. I am a Switch and enjoy both sides of this life style and looking at most Dom's they would be eaten alive by a Sub... So all such threads “Where are the real Sub's” are a puff of air | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing " I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked. | |||
"So all such threads “Where are the real Sub's” are a puff of air "I simply take it as the author (in this case OP) is simply asking "Where is my compatible sub?". Even the most articulate amongst us can have off moments.  | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked. "One of the most sexually submissive ladies I have met was the most dominant woman outside the sexual scenario. You had to earn the submission. If there is no challenge between the interaction, where's the sparks, the energy that this brings.  | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked.
One of the most sexually submissive ladies I have met was the most dominant woman outside the sexual scenario.
You had to earn the submission.
If there is no challenge between the interaction, where's the sparks, the energy that this brings. "On the rare occasion I've played switch as a Dom I've also always found the stronger/more dominant their personality is in the 'real' world the better submissive they make. | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked.
One of the most sexually submissive ladies I have met was the most dominant woman outside the sexual scenario.
You had to earn the submission.
If there is no challenge between the interaction, where's the sparks, the energy that this brings.
On the rare occasion I've played switch as a Dom I've also always found the stronger/more dominant their personality is in the 'real' world the better submissive they make.
"I would never switch. I'm only a sub. That said if you polled my friends and colleagues then I would guess Nr 100% would assume me to be Domme. I enjoy most the peace that comes when your mind focuses on just the moment, just the room, just your Dom. I don't get that in real life. | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked.
One of the most sexually submissive ladies I have met was the most dominant woman outside the sexual scenario.
You had to earn the submission.
If there is no challenge between the interaction, where's the sparks, the energy that this brings.
On the rare occasion I've played switch as a Dom I've also always found the stronger/more dominant their personality is in the 'real' world the better submissive they make.
I would never switch. I'm only a sub.
That said if you polled my friends and colleagues then I would guess Nr 100% would assume me to be Domme.
I enjoy most the peace that comes when your mind focuses on just the moment, just the room, just your Dom. I don't get that in real life."You could apply that in real life. It is called mindfulness. Living in the moment is a gift we don't often make use of as our lives can be chaotic/too fast. | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked.
One of the most sexually submissive ladies I have met was the most dominant woman outside the sexual scenario.
You had to earn the submission.
If there is no challenge between the interaction, where's the sparks, the energy that this brings.
On the rare occasion I've played switch as a Dom I've also always found the stronger/more dominant their personality is in the 'real' world the better submissive they make.
I would never switch. I'm only a sub.
That said if you polled my friends and colleagues then I would guess Nr 100% would assume me to be Domme.
I enjoy most the peace that comes when your mind focuses on just the moment, just the room, just your Dom. I don't get that in real life."You'd be surprised how exploring the aspect of being switch, even if you don't decide its for you can help you broaden your horizons and evolve you as a sub Most people in my life would naturally expect me to be Domme but I prefer to be sub. I have control of every other aspect of my life so there's a great sense of freedom that comes from relinquishing myself over to the right Dominant personality | |||
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"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked.
One of the most sexually submissive ladies I have met was the most dominant woman outside the sexual scenario.
You had to earn the submission.
If there is no challenge between the interaction, where's the sparks, the energy that this brings.
On the rare occasion I've played switch as a Dom I've also always found the stronger/more dominant their personality is in the 'real' world the better submissive they make.
I would never switch. I'm only a sub.
That said if you polled my friends and colleagues then I would guess Nr 100% would assume me to be Domme.
I enjoy most the peace that comes when your mind focuses on just the moment, just the room, just your Dom. I don't get that in real life.
You'd be surprised how exploring the aspect of being switch, even if you don't decide its for you can help you broaden your horizons and evolve you as a sub
Most people in my life would naturally expect me to be Domme but I prefer to be sub. I have control of every other aspect of my life so there's a great sense of freedom that comes from relinquishing myself over to the right Dominant personality "It's just not something that I'm interested in. If I still lived the lifestyle 24/7 so had lots of opportunity to be within bdsm then I would perhaps consider it; however limited play times and the sub itch that needs scratched more regularly than we get time to do it means it holds no interest for me. I don't doubt that it would give me another dimension, every time I scene I learn, just on the scale of life experiences it's quite a way down the list | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain. This! lots of wannabes with no style or substance to back up words. We were lucky and found someone but this was the last place we were looking. Easy way to find out if a man is a real Dom, ask him if he will switch, if he says yes, he's more than likely just looking for a rough fuck, unless he states he is a switch in the first place lol There are many (self-confessed) Doms who have subjected themselves to domination in order to learn. Also, if life is an individual experience and one finds on the odd occasion that they enjoy life on the opposite side of the spectrum they are normally, is that wrong? Yes I did this last year, although it's not for me, I got a better understanding of how much control a Submisive gives over, and how important it is to be able to trust that person, giving over control like that would be terrifying if not to the right person, the lady that topped me is a good friend, and a pro domme, I fellt a little scared but safe at the same time, it changed me as a person, but we both knew it was a one time only deal, with no sex I involved at all, I would say life changing I have been with someone who brought out my dominant side. I gave me very little pleasure, although flogging someone to their limits makes me grin .
I'm happy to take time in finding the right Dom for me. One who accepts my dominant personality but has such a way about him, I am putty in his hands (ie obedience comes naturally to his authority - it could be a look, a word, or a warning). Well that is when I'm not being bratty cos I have a fetish for being spanked.
One of the most sexually submissive ladies I have met was the most dominant woman outside the sexual scenario.
You had to earn the submission.
If there is no challenge between the interaction, where's the sparks, the energy that this brings.
On the rare occasion I've played switch as a Dom I've also always found the stronger/more dominant their personality is in the 'real' world the better submissive they make.
I would never switch. I'm only a sub.
That said if you polled my friends and colleagues then I would guess Nr 100% would assume me to be Domme.
I enjoy most the peace that comes when your mind focuses on just the moment, just the room, just your Dom. I don't get that in real life.
You'd be surprised how exploring the aspect of being switch, even if you don't decide its for you can help you broaden your horizons and evolve you as a sub
Most people in my life would naturally expect me to be Domme but I prefer to be sub. I have control of every other aspect of my life so there's a great sense of freedom that comes from relinquishing myself over to the right Dominant personality
It's just not something that I'm interested in. If I still lived the lifestyle 24/7 so had lots of opportunity to be within bdsm then I would perhaps consider it; however limited play times and the sub itch that needs scratched more regularly than we get time to do it means it holds no interest for me.
I don't doubt that it would give me another dimension, every time I scene I learn, just on the scale of life experiences it's quite a way down the list"Well that's fair enough you have to do what's best for you | |||
"Everytime this subject comes up there are "experts" who try and put people down. Can we please have a bit more respect for peoples posts, and if you can't then avoid the thread." | |||
"The problem is not the lack of submissive women... there are plenty of us about... the problem is the lack of decent dominant people who have half a brain." | |||
"I need the alpha male Dom Masta' who is good at doing rope tricks and walks around with a workman's belt with whips and chains hanging off it You know there's a difference between a Dom and a master right? Like ther is a difference between a slave and a sub. " Yes Dom is someone I could respect because I would respect and care for him anyway and maybe even fall in love with Masta' is a silly little man looking for kinky sex on the cheap | |||
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"Its very hard to find a true sub, or a female who wants to be a sub to a couple, Most say they are, but when you meet them they arnt "Not really read much of this thread have you? As the general consensus is, being submissive isn't something you can just walk into a meet and do with just anyone that desires it | |||
"Its very hard to find a true sub, or a female who wants to be a sub to a couple, Most say they are, but when you meet them they arnt "We've met two very submissive women through Fab for amazing FFMs, and we've hardly had any meets at all! Goodness knows where that lands us on the unicorn bingo scale. Maybe we should be playing the lottery, too! | |||
"Its very hard to find a true sub, or a female who wants to be a sub to a couple, Most say they are, but when you meet them they arnt "Perhaps it isn't their lack of sub but your lack of Dom or even a scale including some of both? Perhaps there are "true" subs who won't sub to people they don't click with. Perhaps when you don't find what you're seeking it's easier to look to find fault in them and not yourself? There are some Doms who could never Dom me as we are not compatible but I would ask anyone who's seen me sub to deny me as a "true" sub. Does that make them not "true" or me? Maybe we could replace the word sub with bi. Am I not truly bi if I don't find all women attractive? Sounds a bit silly doesn't it! | |||
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"Very sub lady here. " and here..in the sun..lol. | |||
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"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great "Ok, read the above post, it's up there^^^ I have re-read it twice now and iv not see the part where. I say "real"sub I say "true" sub I say that "all women should submit to me" I question hiw sub or Dom anyone else is I say that I'm gods gift to submisives (great name for a band lol) Unless I can't read or remember what I posted | |||
"Here xx"Hello to you | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
Ok, read the above post, it's up there^^^ I have re-read it twice now and iv not see the part where.
I say "real"sub
I say "true" sub
I say that "all women should submit to me"
I question hiw sub or Dom anyone else is
I say that I'm gods gift to submisives (great name for a band lol)
Unless I can't read or remember what I posted
"Yes and there are several layers of discussion that have branched off from the OP you raised, that's what some of your above list is in reference to as opposed to what you actually said | |||
"Very sub lady here. " And you too
Question answered I think lol | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
Ok, read the above post, it's up there^^^ I have re-read it twice now and iv not see the part where.
I say "real"sub
I say "true" sub
I say that "all women should submit to me"
I question hiw sub or Dom anyone else is
I say that I'm gods gift to submisives (great name for a band lol)
Unless I can't read or remember what I posted
Yes and there are several layers of discussion that have branched off from the OP you raised, that's what some of your above list is in reference to as opposed to what you actually said "Well that clears that up, fancy a pint? | |||
"Its very hard to find a true sub, or a female who wants to be a sub to a couple, Most say they are, but when you meet them they arnt
We've met two very submissive women through Fab for amazing FFMs, and we've hardly had any meets at all!
Goodness knows where that lands us on the unicorn bingo scale. Maybe we should be playing the lottery, too! "Unicorn bingo. Love it!! | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
Ok, read the above post, it's up there^^^ I have re-read it twice now and iv not see the part where.
I say "real"sub
I say "true" sub
I say that "all women should submit to me"
I question hiw sub or Dom anyone else is
I say that I'm gods gift to submisives (great name for a band lol)
Unless I can't read or remember what I posted
Yes and there are several layers of discussion that have branched off from the OP you raised, that's what some of your above list is in reference to as opposed to what you actually said
Well that clears that up, fancy a pint? "Can you make it a nice glass of rose wine or a Tia Maria and instead? | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
Ok, read the above post, it's up there^^^ I have re-read it twice now and iv not see the part where.
I say "real"sub
I say "true" sub
I say that "all women should submit to me"
I question hiw sub or Dom anyone else is
I say that I'm gods gift to submisives (great name for a band lol)
Unless I can't read or remember what I posted
"You haven't that I've seen. In fact I've like the way you've discussed the subject, I see similarities in some views. However others have, and I find it odd that a sexual preference such as Dom or sub can be question for its depth of feeling or experience when other sexual preferences usually aren't. | |||
"Surely an experienced Dom would never need to advertise the fact? He would find subs through conversing on a personal level. "This ^^  | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
Ok, read the above post, it's up there^^^ I have re-read it twice now and iv not see the part where.
I say "real"sub
I say "true" sub
I say that "all women should submit to me"
I question hiw sub or Dom anyone else is
I say that I'm gods gift to submisives (great name for a band lol)
Unless I can't read or remember what I posted
Yes and there are several layers of discussion that have branched off from the OP you raised, that's what some of your above list is in reference to as opposed to what you actually said
Well that clears that up, fancy a pint?
Can you make it a nice glass of rose wine or a Tia Maria and instead? "I'll pour it when you get off the m6, I'll drop the ice in when you pull up outside lol | |||
"Where are you? I've looked for you here, ive looked for you on my other favourite site, but no one is quite right, if you are out there can you make yourself known, that would be great
Ok, read the above post, it's up there^^^ I have re-read it twice now and iv not see the part where.
I say "real"sub
I say "true" sub
I say that "all women should submit to me"
I question hiw sub or Dom anyone else is
I say that I'm gods gift to submisives (great name for a band lol)
Unless I can't read or remember what I posted
You haven't that I've seen. In fact I've like the way you've discussed the subject, I see similarities in some views.
However others have, and I find it odd that a sexual preference such as Dom or sub can be question for its depth of feeling or experience when other sexual preferences usually aren't."A good point well made | |||
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"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!" | |||
"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside! "Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel. Confuddled more? | |||
"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!
Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel.
Confuddled more? "I thought you had misspelled donkey | |||
"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!
Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel.
Confuddled more?
I thought you had misspelled donkey "I'm the carrot  | |||
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"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!
Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel.
Confuddled more?
I thought you had misspelled donkey
I'm the carrot "Not the stick then? | |||
"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!
Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel.
Confuddled more?
I thought you had misspelled donkey
I'm the carrot
Not the stick then?"I'm not the spanker | |||
"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!
Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel.
Confuddled more?
I thought you had misspelled donkey
I'm the carrot
Not the stick then?
I'm not the spanker "Gosh, do I need to own up to what I'm thinking now lady...... However, the carrot is always useful, in certain areas. | |||
"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!
Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel.
Confuddled more?
I thought you had misspelled donkey
I'm the carrot
Not the stick then?
I'm not the spanker
Gosh, do I need to own up to what I'm thinking now lady......
However, the carrot is always useful, in certain areas. "I sure would welcome single dominant spankers | |||
"Ooooooooooh to meet a compatible Dom... I need a trip to the seaside!
Unrelated statements apart from the way I feel.
Confuddled more?
I thought you had misspelled donkey
I'm the carrot
Not the stick then?
I'm not the spanker
Gosh, do I need to own up to what I'm thinking now lady......
However, the carrot is always useful, in certain areas.
I sure would welcome single dominant spankers "Problem is, spanking is just a beginning. First I would need to hold you and pull your hair....back. I've a thing about exposed necks and what to do to them. | |||
