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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys been on a a couple weeks and of course im not expecting to meet people right away far from it in fact, i did however think i may at least get a couple of responses. Messages ive sent have been well written not sleazy at all i dont think ...any help ?? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is very difficult unfortunately for the single guys, due to the sheer number of messages which couples and women recieve. The majority of which are "want to fuck", so you can imagine why they get fed up so easilY.
Clubs are your best bet bud |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Of course i understand that i wouldnt dream of sending a first message as want to fuck ..what are these clubs im very new here and keep hearing of them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys been on a a couple weeks and of course im not expecting to meet people right away far from it in fact, i did however think i may at least get a couple of responses. Messages ive sent have been well written not sleazy at all i dont think ...any help ?? X"
Your selection of photos would make us avoid you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is very difficult unfortunately for the single guys, due to the sheer number of messages which couples and women recieve. The majority of which are "want to fuck", so you can imagine why they get fed up so easilY.
Clubs are your best bet bud "
This is bullshit .
Its not difficult for single guys atall on here aslong as your patient and respectful.
Guys who cant get meets always moan about the ratio .. When its the guys themselves .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get it not to everyones taste but i refuse to put up cock pics and stuff like that without being asked you ..i guess just everyone has own preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys been on a a couple weeks and of course im not expecting to meet people right away far from it in fact, i did however think i may at least get a couple of responses. Messages ive sent have been well written not sleazy at all i dont think ...any help ?? X"
Paragraphs my for your profile text it's hard to read a solid block of writing.
.bit more variation in the pica, torso and bum shots go down well with the ladies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys stop sounding like losers!
So what if theres alot of guys on here its just like life u only get out of it what u put in !
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Danny, pipe down mate, I've put in alot of effort and have been turned down by couples or the message never read. Then they put up a status saying "600 messages to go through", so it goes back to my original point, the sheer number of guys messaging is ridiculous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never moaned about the ratio i knew it wouldnt happen quickly was just simply asking if doing anything wrong "
Ok quick exercise pop your vagina hat on and open up your profile, look at it from a woman's perspective, read your name check your pictures look at your interests and read the profile text.
Now try and write yourself a first message.
Easier you can make that task by putting info or little ice breakers the better.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys stop sounding like losers!
So what if theres alot of guys on here its just like life u only get out of it what u put in !
Danny, pipe down mate, I've put in alot of effort and have been turned down by couples or the message never read. Then they put up a status saying "600 messages to go through", so it goes back to my original point, the sheer number of guys messaging is ridiculous. "
Message when they're online instead do offline.
Also you've got the "over a year and unverified" which most people will see and go "fantasist no point talking to" |
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It generally takes an average of 6 months for guys relying solely on fab for meets (which is why the club/social events suggestion gets made)
I think your profiles not that bad compared to some I've seen, at least you've made an effort with your text. So just be patient, stay polite and respectful and keep trying you'll get there
Just always make sure your read the ladies entire profile and suit what she's looking for before making contact and try to refer to her profile in some way in the message
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I'm the same tbh the site is not what I expected.  "
As a married single male I suspect you may get two meets in two years. A lot of people on site seem to take the high ground with guys who cheat.
Not trying to scare you off just being honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I'm the same tbh the site is not what I expected.
As a married single male I suspect you may get two meets in two years. A lot of people on site seem to take the high ground with guys who cheat.
Not trying to scare you off just being honest"
Well there is a thread currently open about someone's husband being hospitalised because they met someone who was playing away and the spouse found out... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lopk ive done ok on here !
I will give a little advice whoch has worked for me so far !
Stop looking for meets and start looking to make friends ... Then if u both feel u like eachother meet .
I never sugeest a meet until ive been chatting to someone and gained there trust .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I'm the same tbh the site is not what I expected.
As a married single male I suspect you may get two meets in two years. A lot of people on site seem to take the high ground with guys who cheat.
Not trying to scare you off just being honest
Well there is a thread currently open about someone's husband being hospitalised because they met someone who was playing away and the spouse found out..."
Another risk for you then!
Unfortunately I was part of games like this without knowing. Both on site and husband playing away. Wife then decided to play away to get back at husband. I was of understanding she was single then turned out she was not and I got threatened by him over kik. Was far from pleasant and put me off the whole scene |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeh your right danny but i expect that anyway it says on my profile looking to make friends as well "
Try messaging no instantly about meeting or about their pics etc.
Of they've got an interesting hobby on their profile or a status up ask about that can help a more natural conversation start.
Otherwise it can feel a bit like filing a CV for a job application |
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"Hey I'm the same tbh the site is not what I expected. "
Actually forget that, having read your profile I understand. So you're a married guy looking to cheat on your wife (justify it how you want), you've been on 2 weeks and your already moaning about not getting meets! I feel sorry for your poor wife. |
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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago
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"Hey I'm the same tbh the site is not what I expected. "
What did you expect??? You're married and playing behind you're wife back, this is a swingers site where honesty and openness is welcomed, its about mutual fun. But good luck
OP as someone else has said, based on your pics I wouldn't choose to play with you, you look younger than my eldest child  |
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"Im a bit confused where does it say im married it says single full time parent ???"
They weren't taking about you it was the other guy whose quote they were responding to
If you look when someone posts there's a option to reply+quote option, so you can refer to the person of whom your speaking to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ah yes i see thank you x..some really interesting views ..ill stick to my principles see what happens i have however changed the profile lay out and added a new pic would be great to hear what you think x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah yes i see thank you x..some really interesting views ..ill stick to my principles see what happens i have however changed the profile lay out and added a new pic would be great to hear what you think x"
As _urvymama said, the "+quote" button makes it much easier for people to follow the thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm going to make a mention of the high ratio of men to women on here only in as much as it is relevant form the point of view of one's approach and attitude. It is certainly something that needs to be considered when compiling your profile.
If there was one man for every 100 women, we may find that we could get away with making less effort, as we would be in higher demand - just ask the ladies that have no pictures on display and 'will fill in later' as their only profile text, who get inundated with a few hundred messages within hours of joining the site.
That's the relevance of the high proportion of men to women.
You need to put effort into writing a well constructed profile so that you stand out and appeal to a wider audience, and more importantly, to the audience that appeals to you.
It's obviously not much use appealing to those that do not appeal to you and vice versa. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to make a mention of the high ratio of men to women on here only in as much as it is relevant form the point of view of one's approach and attitude. It is certainly something that needs to be considered when compiling your profile.
If there was one man for every 100 women, we may find that we could get away with making less effort, as we would be in higher demand - just ask the ladies that have no pictures on display and 'will fill in later' as their only profile text, who get inundated with a few hundred messages within hours of joining the site.
That's the relevance of the high proportion of men to women.
You need to put effort into writing a well constructed profile so that you stand out and appeal to a wider audience, and more importantly, to the audience that appeals to you.
It's obviously not much use appealing to those that do not appeal to you and vice versa."
Haha what rubbish!
Ive a short sarcastic profile and i have lots of friends on here which ive been lucky enough to meet some of them .
People dont read self indulgent long profile texts .
Take all this as a bit of a laugh and dont take yourself too seriously and see what happens .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi guys been on a a couple weeks and of course im not expecting to meet people right away far from it in fact, i did however think i may at least get a couple of responses. Messages ive sent have been well written not sleazy at all i dont think ...any help ?? X"
Your pics are fine but your suit one is spoilt by that stupid face you are pulling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to make a mention of the high ratio of men to women on here only in as much as it is relevant form the point of view of one's approach and attitude. It is certainly something that needs to be considered when compiling your profile.
If there was one man for every 100 women, we may find that we could get away with making less effort, as we would be in higher demand - just ask the ladies that have no pictures on display and 'will fill in later' as their only profile text, who get inundated with a few hundred messages within hours of joining the site.
That's the relevance of the high proportion of men to women.
You need to put effort into writing a well constructed profile so that you stand out and appeal to a wider audience, and more importantly, to the audience that appeals to you.
It's obviously not much use appealing to those that do not appeal to you and vice versa.
Haha what rubbish!
Ive a short sarcastic profile and i have lots of friends on here which ive been lucky enough to meet some of them .
People dont read self indulgent long profile texts .
Take all this as a bit of a laugh and dont take yourself too seriously and see what happens .
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To be fair, he did not say that a long profile is needed, but that it should stand out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to make a mention of the high ratio of men to women on here only in as much as it is relevant form the point of view of one's approach and attitude. It is certainly something that needs to be considered when compiling your profile.
If there was one man for every 100 women, we may find that we could get away with making less effort, as we would be in higher demand - just ask the ladies that have no pictures on display and 'will fill in later' as their only profile text, who get inundated with a few hundred messages within hours of joining the site.
That's the relevance of the high proportion of men to women.
You need to put effort into writing a well constructed profile so that you stand out and appeal to a wider audience, and more importantly, to the audience that appeals to you.
It's obviously not much use appealing to those that do not appeal to you and vice versa.
Haha what rubbish!
Ive a short sarcastic profile and i have lots of friends on here which ive been lucky enough to meet some of them .
People dont read self indulgent long profile texts .
Take all this as a bit of a laugh and dont take yourself too seriously and see what happens .
To be fair, he did not say that a long profile is needed, but that it should stand out."
But a long profile if written fun is better than a paragraph one aint it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to the op do your thing ....advice on here is a mine field itself everybody is different and looking for different things.... some like socials some don't some come on here just to feel good and some come on to bully and at least 50% on here have no intention of meeting anyone lol single men get the full force of the blame even tho its not there fault all the time ....so best thing to do is to be yourself grow thick skin and enjoy 
oh and grammar naziz lol I don't care hahahahahah |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to make a mention of the high ratio of men to women on here only in as much as it is relevant form the point of view of one's approach and attitude. It is certainly something that needs to be considered when compiling your profile.
If there was one man for every 100 women, we may find that we could get away with making less effort, as we would be in higher demand - just ask the ladies that have no pictures on display and 'will fill in later' as their only profile text, who get inundated with a few hundred messages within hours of joining the site.
That's the relevance of the high proportion of men to women.
You need to put effort into writing a well constructed profile so that you stand out and appeal to a wider audience, and more importantly, to the audience that appeals to you.
It's obviously not much use appealing to those that do not appeal to you and vice versa.
Haha what rubbish!
Ive a short sarcastic profile and i have lots of friends on here which ive been lucky enough to meet some of them .
People dont read self indulgent long profile texts .
Take all this as a bit of a laugh and dont take yourself too seriously and see what happens .
To be fair, he did not say that a long profile is needed, but that it should stand out.But a long profile if written fun is better than a paragraph one aint it?"
possibly but I never read the longwinded profiles and im sure that ladies who have to read alot more than ME won't either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to make a mention of the high ratio of men to women on here only in as much as it is relevant form the point of view of one's approach and attitude. It is certainly something that needs to be considered when compiling your profile.
If there was one man for every 100 women, we may find that we could get away with making less effort, as we would be in higher demand - just ask the ladies that have no pictures on display and 'will fill in later' as their only profile text, who get inundated with a few hundred messages within hours of joining the site.
That's the relevance of the high proportion of men to women.
You need to put effort into writing a well constructed profile so that you stand out and appeal to a wider audience, and more importantly, to the audience that appeals to you.
It's obviously not much use appealing to those that do not appeal to you and vice versa.
Haha what rubbish!
Ive a short sarcastic profile and i have lots of friends on here which ive been lucky enough to meet some of them .
People dont read self indulgent long profile texts .
Take all this as a bit of a laugh and dont take yourself too seriously and see what happens .
To be fair, he did not say that a long profile is needed, but that it should stand out.But a long profile if written fun is better than a paragraph one aint it?possibly but I never read the longwinded profiles and im sure that ladies who have to read alot more than ME won't either"
Yes that's right, some do some don't. |
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