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Why cant people be honest?

By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

We had a meet last night with a single woman. It turned out her husband arrived at our place and hubby answered the door in hisdressing gown. He was shouting for his wife and forced his way passed the hubby.

The upshot is the hubby was beaten up by this guy and is in hospital. I am just bsck from the hospital and they want to keep him in for another night with a head injuy. I am sitting in tears at the state of our living room and so angry because it all happened because a married woman told us she was single.

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had a meet last night with a single woman. It turned out her husband arrived at our place and hubby answered the door in hisdressing gown. He was shouting for his wife and forced his way passed the hubby.

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jesus christ that is absolutely terrible, I hope he has a speedy recovery! Some real nasty pieces of work out there! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shocking to hear and hope hubby recovers well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How did he know where she was?

Best off just playing in safe places, clubs are best

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

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sorry to hear this , hope hubby is better son xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh shit that sounds bad. Almost as bad as it gets doing this. You must be in a terrible state of shock and probably no one to turn too except fellow forumites.

Hope he is well soon and what an awful thing to happen. Hope he gets well soon.

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By *andp01Couple over a year ago

here n there

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

I hope you involved the police ! This and many other sites are full of non genuine people just got to be careful I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh and hope hubby recovers and kicks ten bales of shite out of the man in question!

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

Was you not there?, you stated the word we had a meet

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By *ob198XaMan over a year ago

teleford

Wow that sounds like a absolutely terrible ordeal. That bloke needs locked up, he might be pissed off but he is bang out of order to take it out on your hubby who is an innocent party in this.

Hope he recovers quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is terrible you should be able to invite people to four home if you want to no one deserves that no way have you brought this on your self hope your partner is ok

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By *ssexguy69Man over a year ago

thurrock Essex

There's some wrongens on here

Hope ur other half's ok

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By *iggy1Woman over a year ago

DORCHESTER

Appalling behaviour, hope your pressing charges?

The only thing you did wrong is pick the wrong woman... Hope you have someone you can confide in, your going to feel very fragile for a while x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Violence is not acceptable behaviour and should be reported. It isn't your fault that another person could not control their temper !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I trust you have told the police.

From the sounds of it he is guilty of forced entry and grievous bodily harm with intent. The penalty could be imprisonment for life. You have a social duty to ensure that this thug is removed from society so he can do no more harm. His wife fucking another man in no way mitigates his actions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

And this is why people get annoyed at those going "it's their business if they're cheating not yours" about those who lie about their marital status.

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By *orders2forUCouple over a year ago

Hawick

Best wishes to you both.

I doubt there is a club with in 150 miles of your location so not really an option. We have non swinging friends in Conon and I know Brahan so know the area.

Your best bet would be a hotel.

Hopefully you have reported the profile to Admin? And the police??

Get well soon.

J&P

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

And this is why people get annoyed at those going "it's their business if they're cheating not yours" about those who lie about their marital status."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I trust you have told the police.

You of course then have to publicly admit to everyone in your town her husband was shagging this guys wife which will have most people going "well he got what was coming to him didn't he messing around with someone else's wife".

And not exactly help things in your day to day life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Omg that's terrible. Hope your hubby makes a speedy recovery x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah right.........

And be in the local Dingwall gazette as being a swinger and hubby. Not sure if you've thought that one quite through to it's conclusion. Dingwall I imagine is a very very small place.

"I trust you have told the police.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

Bit harsh!

No one would bring that in themselves, yes they took a risk really doesn't mean they deserve it.

Bloody terrible thing to happen

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

"Was you not there?, you stated the word we had a meet"

yes I was in bed with them and hubby got up to answer the door

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How awful for you, OP. I hope that you both get over this horrid experience, and that the police take the necessary action with the man that attacked your hubby. As someone above said, this is why people who are 'playing away' are a bit of a liability!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

Totally disagree. The OP did not bring assault on themselves, they ended up in the middle of a nasty situation that was neither of their own doing or as a result of their behaviour.

I think people need to stop blaming victims of abuse and start blaming the abusers.

My sympathy and thoughts are with you OP. I wish your partner a speedy recovery

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

What a terrible thing to happen. I really hope you've involved the police. No way should you suffer all of this because she lied. Hope your hubby recovers quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It does not matter where the meet takes place, home, club or hotel, violence is always possible but us always totally unacceptable.

I trust you have told admin and they have removed this man and his wife from Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

And this is why people get annoyed at those going "it's their business if they're cheating not yours" about those who lie about their marital status."
AGREED if your cheating its not swinging, you shouldn't be in this site. We block anyone that is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its no way your failt nor your husbands lets clear that up!!!! Report on here to admin and i do hope you press charges! You both must be in terrible shock! I hope the woman hangs her head in shame!! Big hugs to both of you xxxxxx

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

"I trust you have told the police.

The police got involved because the ambulance was called. We haven't said anything to them about what happened as we dont want all this to come out in court.

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple over a year ago

North Manchester

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

Totally disagree. The OP did not bring assault on themselves, they ended up in the middle of a nasty situation that was neither of their own doing or as a result of their behaviour.

I think people need to stop blaming victims of abuse and start blaming the abusers.

My sympathy and thoughts are with you OP. I wish your partner a speedy recovery"

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

"Shocking to hear and hope hubby recovers well."

Yes he should be fine. They just want to keep him in for anothet night to monitor because it was a head injury.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope you all recover soon after your ordeal...

But unfortunately I think there are lots of people men and women, who are on fab posing as singles and their partners have no clue what is going on...

I am a single women on fab and women like this women make it harder for us to meet nice couples...

Try not to let one bad experience stop you guys having fun xx

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

Dreadful, a worst nightmare. That's one reason I seek to avoid meeting anyone attached, I hope he recovers quickly. x

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple over a year ago

North Manchester

"Shocking to hear and hope hubby recovers well.

Yes he should be fine. They just want to keep him in for anothet night to monitor because it was a head injury."

Sorry to hear about this OP, have you reported it to police, we'd be interested to know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To me paula, sounds like it was a set up to make her husband jelious

1 how did he know she was out cheating

2 how did he find out your address.

Sorry to hear about your husband tho hope he gets better soon x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah right.........

And be in the local Dingwall gazette as being a swinger and hubby. Not sure if you've thought that one quite through to it's conclusion. Dingwall I imagine is a very very small place.

I trust you have told the police.

What an appalling thing to say! Are swingers such a low form of life, devoid of moral value, that they can be beaten up and almost killed and can say nothing?

Seriously, who thinks they had it coming to them?

Who thinks the husband was right to go to someone elses' house and beat up another human being?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

Totally disagree. The OP did not bring assault on themselves, they ended up in the middle of a nasty situation that was neither of their own doing or as a result of their behaviour.

I think people need to stop blaming victims of abuse and start blaming the abusers.

My sympathy and thoughts are with you OP. I wish your partner a speedy recovery"

You should be able to have people over to your house without this type of thing happening.

I hope your husband gets well soon.

-Courtney

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

"How did he know where she was?

Best off just playing in safe places, clubs are best

I dont know, my only guess is he followed her. Our problem is our nearest club is over 100 miles away and only open once a month so cant make it as often as we would like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like our worst nightmare x

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

Dreadful, a worst nightmare. That's one reason I seek to avoid meeting anyone attached, I hope he recovers quickly. x

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Sorry to hear that, I hope he makes a speedy recovery

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

What a shocking attitude.

Victims of crime are not to blame. These people were lied to and assaulted, not their fault at all.

OP, that is terrible, brutal and unfair. I really hope your husband makes a speedy recovery, and you too x

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

Dreadful, a worst nightmare. That's one reason I seek to avoid meeting anyone attached, I hope he recovers quickly. x"

If we had known she was attached there is no way we would have met her. She had stressed that she was single

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First off truly awful thing to happen. Hope hubby recovers physically and you both mentally.

Second this does sound like some sort of set up as he knew the address to go too.

Home, hotel, club it doesn't matter. Violence is always possible. As always give due diligence to any meet.

To the other forumites replying do not think for a minute this is restricted to jealous hubbies. It has happened to a friend of mine. He arranged a meet with another chap. He ended up running off after getting a slap or two off a couple of unsavoury types. He was lucky it was not worse. Was a few years ago and not via fab but still a valid point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"First off truly awful thing to happen. Hope hubby recovers physically and you both mentally.

Second this does sound like some sort of set up as he knew the address to go too.

Home, hotel, club it doesn't matter. Violence is always possible. As always give due diligence to any meet.

Or husband suspects so checks laptop or suspects and has put tracking software on the wife's phone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If true, then I offer my sympathies as others have done. Unlawful entry, assault (and by sounds of it, criminal damage to your house) are all crimes so I'm sure the Police will have the guy arrested asap and hopefully punished accordingly.

I am surprised he knew where your house was and knew that his wife was definitely in the house (unless her car was in the driveway of course) - she obviously wasn't very discreet with the details?

I hope hubby gets better soon - I'm sure you'll be back on hospital with him soon and I'm sure he'll be cheered to hear the good wishes from everyone on the forum coming his way!

Take care both of you and I hope things look up soon!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

Nice victim blaming there.

Is that like 'she was wearing a short skirt so she was asking for it'?

Totally unacceptable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

Nice victim blaming there.

Is that like 'she was wearing a short skirt so she was asking for it'?

Totally unacceptable."

Completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"First off truly awful thing to happen. Hope hubby recovers physically and you both mentally.

Second this does sound like some sort of set up as he knew the address to go too.

Home, hotel, club it doesn't matter. Violence is always possible. As always give due diligence to any meet.

Or husband suspects so checks laptop or suspects and has put tracking software on the wife's phone"

It's possible yeah. I think unlikely.

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple over a year ago

North Manchester

"You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

Nice victim blaming there.

Is that like 'she was wearing a short skirt so she was asking for it'?

Totally unacceptable."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"First off truly awful thing to happen. Hope hubby recovers physically and you both mentally.

Second this does sound like some sort of set up as he knew the address to go too.

Home, hotel, club it doesn't matter. Violence is always possible. As always give due diligence to any meet.

Or husband suspects so checks laptop or suspects and has put tracking software on the wife's phone

It's possible yeah. I think unlikely.

More likely than "hey shall we have you beat up a random dude while I'm over his house and take a gamble on if you go to prison?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *rwchcpleCouple over a year ago

norwich

I know how you're feeling. We ended up in a terrible situation luckily we both got away without getting hurt. I do warn people we meet about them now. Maybe you should do the same. She will probably carry on posing as a single woman and this could happen again. You must feel terrible. I also reported to admin but like you felt unable to go to police for fear of everything coming out. Please be so much more careful and I hope your husband is soon home xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

Nice victim blaming there.

Is that like 'she was wearing a short skirt so she was asking for it'?

Totally unacceptable."

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope you involved the police ! This and many other sites are full of non genuine people just got to be careful I think."

My thoughts exactly. At the very least for the assault on your husband.

Hope he makes a speedy recovery.

I also hope you have reported the incident and profile to site admin.

Completely unacceptable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To me paula, sounds like it was a set up to make her husband jelious

1 how did he know she was out cheating

2 how did he find out your address.

Sorry to hear about your husband tho hope he gets better soon x

I thought this too.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

"I trust you have told the police.

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By *opinovMan over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

Umm, what?... really?

Seriously, I had to read that again just to check it wasn't my imagination that you'd actually said that. I don't know what to say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I trust you have told the police.

Would depend if he's got previous or not plus it would probably be a section 20 (up to 5 years) not section 18 which would get the life sentence. Life sentences are rarely given for gbh especially in this case where I don't believe a weapon was used? Crimes of passion are tricky in court though, not as clear cut as regular assault charges. Either way it should definitely be reported.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big hugs and kisses op hope you both get over this incident and carry on with your swinging . This thread is the most shocking we've read our love goes out to you both

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

There are people on the scene who are in a relationship but play single.

I personally won't meet, although we've met in the past. Because of this.

I myself am a lump, and I wouldn't like to find myself hurting a jealous boyfriend / husband, all because there partner decided to play away.

Don't know you guys, but hope the old man recovers soon, and hold a little 'back on the horse party'

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

Just an update. The police were back round and basically said names would not appear if he plead guilty. If not there is no guarantee. They said they could push for a private hearing but cant assure us it would happen. They are going to speak to the procurator fiscal and will get back to us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

Dreadful, a worst nightmare. That's one reason I seek to avoid meeting anyone attached, I hope he recovers quickly. x

If we had known she was attached there is no way we would have met her. She had stressed that she was single"

It's not your fault at all, it's hers. What did she say while this was going on? How did he know she was there anyway?

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By *leur de lisWoman over a year ago

Buxton

So that is us now finished meeting single women as well as single men, just couples from now.

You have bought it on yourself letting someone come to your home

This is precisely why we don't meet at our home

I do have sympathy though as this sort of behaviour is not acceptable and get cctv on your home front and back

I don't see the relevance in letting someone into their home surely you are not so naive as to think you can't get assaulted in a hotel or in someone else's house.

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man over a year ago

Dingwall

Dreadful, a worst nightmare. That's one reason I seek to avoid meeting anyone attached, I hope he recovers quickly. x

If we had known she was attached there is no way we would have met her. She had stressed that she was single

It's not your fault at all, it's hers. What did she say while this was going on? How did he know she was there anyway?"

My first thought was he must have followed her but someone pointed out he could have checked her messages which I think is more likely as he seemed to know what she was upto

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

What was her reaction when this all kicked off?

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By *ady4ladyWoman over a year ago

liverpool

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By *ady4ladyWoman over a year ago

liverpool

Although the physical outcome of this situation is horrific, i feel that the woman is as much, if not more to blame than the husband.

Stating single when actually married.

Not just married but obviously married to a jealous violent man.

She brought all of this trouble to your door.

as much as i agree that he shouldnt get away with this i would tend to think very carefully and level headedly before making any decision.

Dont end up being a victim. No matter what you do, do it because its the best thing to do for you two.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope you reported him to the police, but yeah women lie to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That means she have to told her hubby your adres? Otherwise he wouldn't known.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hope you reported him to the police, but yeah women lie to."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is no excuse for that they should both be prosecuted! Hope hubby gets better soon x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is terrible what as happened to ur hubby op and I hope the man gets locked away as for the so called single woman hope she gets what she deserves. However please do not think all women with single profile are like the lady in question

There are a few of us genuine women out there who are really single such as my self

Hope hubby gets well soon xx

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Just an update. The police were back round and basically said names would not appear if he plead guilty. If not there is no guarantee. They said they could push for a private hearing but cant assure us it would happen. They are going to speak to the procurator fiscal and will get back to us.

As this is a police matter it is best kept off the forum now.

Although you say it was the husband who assaulted hubby I would still report the profile too

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