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has the scene changed

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We are back on the scene after a few years we feel it has changed it appears that the amount of people who are wasters has risen and the abusive or rudness is more prevalant what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think ur right wen we first started we had another account. Was so laid bk easy going and fun now it seems a chore to meet on here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We agree and are getting frustrated with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ooo, used to be so much better in the good ole days in the trenches and powdered egg an' all.

Maybe it would be better with a positive attitude?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How sarcastic are you very clever indeed how about a constructive educated grown up reply?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Much harder yes a lot of time wasters too have started to appear. Also it appears many more single guys who can't read profiles......

Don't give up though there are some real genuine people here it just takes a bit longer to find them x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How sarcastic are you very clever indeed how about a constructive educated grown up reply?"

Taken with a sense of humour, it might well be constructive. Do you not think we tend to view the past with rose tinted spectacles? No offence was intended.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is much harder as people play games also get alot of stuck up rude people thinking there superrior lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To rite it has seems to be more like a well know social media site lol don't thing anyone meets on here we can not even find a guy to play lol waste time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The longer you are here, the more people annoy you lol......

Seriously we just take it as it comes

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I haven't noticed any difference between when I started 15 years ago and now. But then I am a single woman who predominantly plays at clubs.

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By *redrobCouple (MM) over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Could be that some folk don't understand what Swinging is all about. From reading the forums. Seems like a lot of folk are now getting into it and their opinion of swining is, send message, fuck and then fuck off. They don't realise it's a lifestyle choice and not just a game of poke a hole. Shame really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are back on the scene after a few years we feel it has changed it appears that the amount of people who are wasters has risen and the abusive or rudness is more prevalant what do you think?"

i agree

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

It would seem this negativity is infectious.

Can't find a single guy?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

Its changed a massive amount and now takes ages to get a meet. Not long back you could post a meet and within a few hours have 5 or 6 decent couples to choose from. Such a shame now as it seems lots of folks on here just like the idea of swinging or just wanna chat and no further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to plan meets that will happen wots the point otherwise lol defo more like facebookswingers.com haha x

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think it has changed.... in the sense that there is sense of entitlement from some people that wasn't as previlant before....

it was much easier to pick out those people.....

i think some people want it given to them on a plate... as opposed to having to sell themselves (call it the blame everyone else culture)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's easy to find meets, but not easy to find people you want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Could be that some folk don't understand what Swinging is all about. From reading the forums. Seems like a lot of folk are now getting into it and their opinion of swining is, send message, fuck and then fuck off. They don't realise it's a lifestyle choice and not just a game of poke a hole. Shame really.

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totally agree with you that is the diference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure if it's a change in attitude or a change in method that doesn't quite express the attitude enough. We started on the scene 8 years ago, and only joined this site last late last year. We find a massive difference between getting together with people on here to meeting chatting and getting together with people at a club.

Considering 75% to 90% of communication is para verbal, so much gets lost in translation with digital communication. Combine that with the emotional difference between sitting behind a keyboard engaged in faceless talk, to actual face to face talk.

Of course, more and more people are finding out about the site (through awfully targeted advertising of FAB being advertised via dating sites) where many just join who have little interest in the swinging scene, and do just want sex and expect it to be handed to them on a plate, with little care or interest in who's pants they are trying to get into.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I have only met very nice people. Only once or twice have I felt my time was being wasted while chatting.

This is my second time here and I can't say I've noticed much difference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i think it has changed.... in the sense that there is sense of entitlement from some people that wasn't as previlant before....

it was much easier to pick out those people.....

i think some people want it given to them on a plate... as opposed to having to sell themselves (call it the blame everyone else culture)"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How sarcastic are you very clever indeed how about a constructive educated grown up reply?"

Sense of humour failure?

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By *orflondonerMan over a year ago

Wood Green

Swinging is a lot more popular ,so you are more likely to get people that leave a bit to be desired in the attitude department.More people ,more twats..More nice people as well, but we don't remember/notice them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Works great for us .

Only difference is we receive a message and pic , arrange to meet , play and fuck off . What's up with that ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its changed a massive amount and now takes ages to get a meet. Not long back you could post a meet and within a few hours have 5 or 6 decent couples to choose from. Such a shame now as it seems lots of folks on here just like the idea of swinging or just wanna chat and no further.

Can't disagree with that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Works great for us .

Only difference is we receive a message and pic , arrange to meet , play and fuck off . What's up with that ?

yep apparently swinging is about a single guy turning up at door with flowers and chocolates spouting poetry and will only have sex with your wife if she loves him

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Works ok for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Works great for us .

Only difference is we receive a message and pic , arrange to meet , play and fuck off . What's up with that ?

yep apparently swinging is about a single guy turning up at door with flowers and chocolates spouting poetry and will only have sex with your wife if she loves him

But don't meet anyone else in the same calendar month.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Works great for us .

Only difference is we receive a message and pic , arrange to meet , play and fuck off . What's up with that ?

yep apparently swinging is about a single guy turning up at door with flowers and chocolates spouting poetry and will only have sex with your wife if she loves him

But don't meet anyone else in the same calendar month. "

or put threads on next day saying i seen their messages cmon guys give it a break and stop messaging my catch she belongs to me now

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"i think it has changed.... in the sense that there is sense of entitlement from some people that wasn't as previlant before....

it was much easier to pick out those people.....

i think some people want it given to them on a plate... as opposed to having to sell themselves (call it the blame everyone else culture)"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i think it has changed.... in the sense that there is sense of entitlement from some people that wasn't as previlant before....

it was much easier to pick out those people.....

i think some people want it given to them on a plate... as opposed to having to sell themselves (call it the blame everyone else culture)

so before this big change it was the old car keys in a bowl and partners chosen in a raffle is their a bit in the middle am missing that went from car keys in a bowl to wanting it on a plate ?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

As a single female, I do struggle to meet, I think peoples attitudes and thinking has changed dramatically in the last six years I have been here.

Used to attract respectful males, now it's just the one's that think I am just here as a free prostitute

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absolutely right !

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By *anDare70Man over a year ago

kirkby

Worth remembering how technology has moved on. So many more people have smart phones and tablets. All easy to hide from others and get lost in. Quick, fast, faceless messages. Action with no consequence. Disposable identities. Add to the fact that typing a long message is not suited to a touch screen key board plus you can do so at work, the bus stop, in a waiting room. Worst of all they work when d*unk.

Maybe the site has or hasn't changed but the habits of society have.

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By *ack LondonMan over a year ago

London

I had a go on here a few years ago. When I respectfully approached women or couples I was met with abuse... I don't think I'll be here in a month or two's time... But my glass is always half-way full.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

I think it's changed in the last 7 years

But then I've changed too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some really interesting views all thank you what do you think of organised socials ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some really interesting views all thank you what do you think of organised socials ?"

It depends on whether there's an option to play at the social .

If there isn't , a complete waste of time

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Some really interesting views all thank you what do you think of organised socials ?"

Some have been great that I went to down south, more locally? Not so, seems singles females are looked upon as a threat, so I stopped going to local ones x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There certainly is an option to play well at the three we have attended

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We have thought about arranging one what do you think would be a good way in terms of venue etc xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The "scene" hasn't really changed much...what has changed is that many more are now aware of the site...many more guys (often not as single as they claim?)

The problem being expectations....thinking the site is some kind of instashag.......

They then get abusive when Sussed out by the more experienced among the site members. Also more of a distortion in numbers/balance?

Just my opinion/possible explanation.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"We have thought about arranging one what do you think would be a good way in terms of venue etc xx"

The one's I have been to down south have been in clubs, but I know it can be difficult to allow single guys. But some do do forum member socials, Extasia was the last one I was at x

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"The "scene" hasn't really changed much...what has changed is that many more are now aware of the site...many more guys (often not as single as they claim?)

The problem being expectations....thinking the site is some kind of instashag.......

They then get abusive when Sussed out by the more experienced among the site members. Also more of a distortion in numbers/balance?

Just my opinion/possible explanation."

I would agree with this

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes we agree too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There certainly is an option to play well at the three we have attended "

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By *roffGentlemanMan over a year ago

Bolton

For us, the scene or this site among others has changed and not for the positive. That's not a reflection on the people that run this site or help or those that are genuine.

It's getting more and more difficult to separate the wheat from the chaff so to speak.

This site is one possible way to meet people. We now explore different avenues to arrange meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Works great for us .

Only difference is we receive a message and pic , arrange to meet , play and fuck off . What's up with that ?

yep apparently swinging is about a single guy turning up at door with flowers and chocolates spouting poetry and will only have sex with your wife if she loves him

But don't meet anyone else in the same calendar month. "

Oh, your a funny fucker you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I first started and a Meet was agreed online, it was almost cast in stone it would happen...

But nowdays, when a meet is agreed its a case of "lets see" if it happens on the day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I first started and a Meet was agreed online, it was almost cast in stone it would happen...

But nowdays, when a meet is agreed its a case of "lets see" if it happens on the day "

Really? We prefer the Lets See scenario.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I first started and a Meet was agreed online, it was almost cast in stone it would happen...

But nowdays, when a meet is agreed its a case of "lets see" if it happens on the day

Really? We prefer the Lets See scenario."

That's because you are a couple and have nothing to lose as you have each other to fall back on.

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By *eforfuncplCouple over a year ago

Morecambe

"We are back on the scene after a few years we feel it has changed it appears that the amount of people who are wasters has risen and the abusive or rudness is more prevalant what do you think?"

Prob not just more idiots found it easier with the internet being so easily available lol but thankfully we been lucky not many time wasters xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Time is precious...dont need people being indifferent on the day of an agreed meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Time is precious...dont need people being indifferent on the day of an agreed meet "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well there are some good people like you all that have contributed to our post xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was on here a couple of years ago and was different then people had conversations via message wanted to meet at clubs now you'd be lucky to get that. I've found they either have such specific wants needs and shallow views on looks or worse there so insecure they like the attention then go shy when you ask to meet.

My conclusion is there's just to much on offer out there it's more about knowing look I can get lots of people who want to meet me but ill just string them all on to stroke my ego.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah kind of agree with what you are saying we are quite experienced and know what we want suppose we are being specific no one reads profiles we think we are not being awkward but want bi people and really don't want to say no fatties.... Cringe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah kind of agree with what you are saying we are quite experienced and know what we want suppose we are being specific no one reads profiles we think we are not being awkward but want bi people and really don't want to say no fatties.... Cringe"

You can't say no fatties you will get shot haha

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By *abloversCouple over a year ago

London

We find it more of a 'sex site' than a swingers site which is so annoying and frustrating. The way some people talk to us is extremely rude. Opening lines such as 'Does she take it up the arse' appears more common. People also get very offended when you reject them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't see why you can't be specific in what you want. Just because it's a sex/swingers site

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By *ap AdgeMan over a year ago

Wirral

Yes years ago it was nice no.i think.its gone very mainstream. Perhaps that's the problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes years ago it was nice no.i think.its gone very mainstream. Perhaps that's the problem."

How do you mean mainstream?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your OP complains about people being abusive and rude. Yourself included....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your OP complains about people being abusive and rude. Yourself included....

I was thinking that too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not complaining at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i do find the site kinda ironic single women searching for a couple or couple searching for bi female lol

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

Yes the swinging seen as changed very much over the years been swing 36 years was better in the days of contact magazines were it was pen to paper and box numbers not many wasters then when they had to pay to adverts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's easy to find meets, but not easy to find people you want to meet. "

Amen sister

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it sure is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i do find the site kinda ironic single women searching for a couple or couple searching for bi female lol "

What do you mean?

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

We're a couple seeking a male... Proving quite tricky believe it or not lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

think the whole thing is just more open and popular and the range of people involved much wider - so more time wasters and more players - just simply a larger crowd to sift through - we just dont have the time to play with all the people we have chatted to and agreed that we all get on - moaning doesnt really help apart from bringing all the moaners together - enjoy it - life is too short

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i do find the site kinda ironic single women searching for a couple or couple searching for bi female lol

What do you mean?"

Always known swinging as couples swapping when I first joined here it was like that I had a partner then . All I see now is couple searching bi fem seems like it's all about men in the relationship getting what they want and the partner doing it to keep them happy.

You would be shocked the amounts of single women I've spoke to who, have told me the amounts of time they have meet a couple for them to fall out halfway through the meet as the woman gets jealous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think this pretty much sums it up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i do find the site kinda ironic single women searching for a couple or couple searching for bi female lol

What do you mean?

You would be shocked the amounts of single women I've spoke to who, have told me the amounts of time they have meet a couple for them to fall out halfway through the meet as the woman gets jealous."

Nothing shocks me anymore. Swinging has moved on, it is many different things. Couples that only meet couples are a minority these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, some great opinions on here, from wives doing it to keep the blokes happy to some just want a fuck and go meet, swinging is whatever you want it to be..... Every opinion has some validity, so chill and enjoy what you do, if someone's idea of swinging differs wildly from yours, move on

Happy swinging to everyone.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, some great opinions on here, from wives doing it to keep the blokes happy to some just want a fuck and go meet, swinging is whatever you want it to be..... Every opinion has some validity, so chill and enjoy what you do, if someone's idea of swinging differs wildly from yours, move on

Happy swinging to everyone....."

That's about it, really

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

I think this pretty much sums it up"

Agreed

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

"Of course, more and more people are finding out about the site (through awfully targeted advertising of FAB being advertised via dating sites) where many just join who have little interest in the swinging scene, and do just want sex and expect it to be handed to them on a plate, with little care or interest in who's pants they are trying to get into."

And definitely this! There was also a thread on here not long after we joined. It was about how people used the site. The general consensus was that yes there were loads who hadn't and indeed didn't ever want to play, but that is OK. It also discussed the rise in single male membership. That was deemed OK too.

In my view, both were a mistake because today we have masses of single guys coming from dating sites and diluting the pool. Making it very hard to find the genuine ones. We also have the same with single fems, but at least they keep the excess of single guys busy!

We also have the couples who seem to be on here in only one gender. They mail to become friends and that is all. Lots of talk but no do! Certainly not as it was when we started in the 90's

Someone posted that this is a Facebook of swinging! Very good description. But then, it is a site that gets paid through advertising by numbers, it is in their interests to get as many as possible.

We don't have much luck on here anymore and we have sort of backed away a little from this site, but we still live in hope...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it sites like this that have changed !

Its my opinion that this has become a social media chat site .

People flashing there wears in chatrooms for attention or profiles with Not meeting only chatting across there tag lines .

Maybe these should have there own site ? And leave this site to people that want to meet , socialise and play together .

But ofcourse the chatrooms are good revenue streams so that won't happen .

Just my opinion ofcourse

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

We thought that by going to a higher paying site would lower the number of chatters just by the very fact you have to pay a hefty chunk to use them and so more real swingers on them. Could not be more wrong very few single guys around and very few folks that actually met on it too

Must be a site some place that is full of swingers we just need to keep looking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To those who complain that it's harder to get meets 'these days', I would suggest that there's a very simple explanation: The Internet has evolved and there's a lot more choice of everything, including swingers, so some who found it easier years ago now have to 'sell' themselves much better than before if they want to see results.

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"To those who complain that it's harder to get meets 'these days', I would suggest that there's a very simple explanation: The Internet has evolved and there's a lot more choice of everything, including swingers, so some who found it easier years ago now have to 'sell' themselves much better than before if they want to see results.

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others."

Sorry I disagree with this, I can sell myself pretty well thank you, it's the men in my area that have a total lack of respect, with a one line profile and only a cock pic....Not going to attract me in the slightest, hence I can't even hunt Sorry look for myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally agree a lot of time wasters on here, the number of promises of meets I have then at the last minute always an excuse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others.

So are you saying it used to be better?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i blame it on the professional more experienced swingers who live the lifestyle and can spot people thats just out for a quick shag ... your too good for your own game

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"We are back on the scene after a few years we feel it has changed it appears that the amount of people who are wasters has risen and the abusive or rudness is more prevalant what do you think?"
Rude people and time wasters can just be ignored . They have always been around. You just have to keep up to date on techniques for ing them out. Time wasters and rude people dont bother me , I just ignore them.In cyberland people can pretend to be anything . Fab is great for organising meets but should only be a small part of your life.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others.

So are you saying it used to be better?"

I am, not the site, but I think there has been a huge change in mens attitudes to be honest.

Whether because there has been many exposures of the site by the press over the years? I have no idea. But then I have been here 6 years so yes I have noticed a huge difference. Needless to say I did also receive a few abusive emails back then as well, so not looking at thinking with rose tinted glasses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel when I was on here before it was to please others now I am here for myself x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are back on the scene after a few years we feel it has changed it appears that the amount of people who are wasters has risen and the abusive or rudness is more prevalant what do you think? Rude people and time wasters can just be ignored . They have always been around. You just have to keep up to date on techniques for ing them out. Time wasters and rude people dont bother me , I just ignore them.In cyberland people can pretend to be anything . Fab is great for organising meets but should only be a small part of your life. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others."

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had a go on here a few years ago. When I respectfully approached women or couples I was met with abuse... I don't think I'll be here in a month or two's time... But my glass is always half-way full."

Perhaps your glass is twice as big as it needs to be? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it sites like this that have changed !

Its my opinion that this has become a social media chat site .

People flashing there wears in chatrooms for attention or profiles with Not meeting only chatting across there tag lines .

Maybe these should have there own site ? And leave this site to people that want to meet , socialise and play together .

But ofcourse the chatrooms are good revenue streams so that won't happen .

Just my opinion ofcourse "

And a very worthy and valid opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The scene and the site are two different things we met played and become friends with some great people who have never been members on here or any other site. I think one of the main problems with fab it's become a victim of it own success and there are a lot of people who use the site for other things other than meeting there is nothing wrong with that but ultimately it could be the sites downfall

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

"As a single female, I do struggle to meet, I think peoples attitudes and thinking has changed dramatically in the last six years I have been here.

Used to attract respectful males, now it's just the one's that think I am just here as a free prostitute

I agree. This may be a swingers site but doesnt mean I meet everyone that messages me nor does it mean I'm up for fun 24/7.

Neither am I here to offer advice to every newbie about etiquette!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To take on someone's earlier comments; why am I imagining a nice large house in an upmarket estate. Middle management cars in the drive, in the house well to do white professional and executive types mingling with their professional wives discussing the economy and politics. Well spoken accents everywhere and car keys in a bowl. Sade playing on the Bose hifi soon everyone disapears with someone elses partner for a few hours of tasteful sex, reappearing for a last sherry and then home.

What went wrong with the scene? I blame the democratisation of swinging through technology. Soon there will be gay, black and asian couples on the scene and even worse.....single men and inarticulate people

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"As a single female, I do struggle to meet, I think peoples attitudes and thinking has changed dramatically in the last six years I have been here.

Used to attract respectful males, now it's just the one's that think I am just here as a free prostitute

I agree. This may be a swingers site but doesnt mean I meet everyone that messages me nor does it mean I'm up for fun 24/7.

Neither am I here to offer advice to every newbie about etiquette! "

For some reason I am always sought out for advise up and down the country, though I am no wiser as to why they contact me

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others.

Couldn't agree more

Both posters here have been on the site for less than a year. We have been here many years and yes, it has changed. It is more difficult to meet suitable couples, but if you will shag anything, easy peasy!

Trouble is, we have some standards that we won't drop. For instance, up to size 14 for ladies and the equivalent in men. No facial hair on either partner!

We also gauge from the pictures if we are likely to gel. Open genital shots, bodily fluid shots and very graphic shots are likely to make us avoid contacting them. Singles and FB couples are also out. That has just put out 90% of the people on Fab! But it didn't when we first came on here.

Yes, it is our own fault, but we are here for us. To find what we want as is everyone else. So we won't drop our standards for a shag!

We still meet some of our friends on this site, but have to confess, we have more luck elsewhere. Not complaining, just have to agree with the OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others.

Couldn't agree more

Trouble is, we have some standards that we won't drop. For instance, up to size 14 for ladies and the equivalent in men. No facial hair on either partner!

Yes, it is our own fault, but we are here for us. To find what we want as is everyone else. So we won't drop our standards for a shag!

We still meet some of our friends on this site, but have to confess, we have more luck elsewhere. Not complaining, just have to agree with the OP"

Were your standards any different years ago?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if its harder to get a meet now than it was 15 year ago it could be because your 15 year older now .... just saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if its harder to get a meet now than it was 15 year ago it could be because your 15 year older now .... just saying

Someone had to say it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others.

Couldn't agree more

Trouble is, we have some standards that we won't drop. For instance, up to size 14 for ladies and the equivalent in men. No facial hair on either partner!

Yes, it is our own fault, but we are here for us. To find what we want as is everyone else. So we won't drop our standards for a shag!

We still meet some of our friends on this site, but have to confess, we have more luck elsewhere. Not complaining, just have to agree with the OP"

It probably is harder as you both have to be attracted to the couple & the couple both have to be attracted to you. Must make it quite difficult at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are many, many swingers out there getting exactly what they want from the scene. If you're one of those who isn't, maybe you should look at yourself before blaming the quality of others.

Couldn't agree more

Trouble is, we have some standards that we won't drop. For instance, up to size 14 for ladies and the equivalent in men. No facial hair on either partner!

Yes, it is our own fault, but we are here for us. To find what we want as is everyone else. So we won't drop our standards for a shag!

We still meet some of our friends on this site, but have to confess, we have more luck elsewhere. Not complaining, just have to agree with the OP"

Well I guess it was inevitable really .....

Your implying we will shag anything and don'thave standards ? By all means check our veri's and cite any which may suggest we will fuck anything !

This is our third time on fab in almost 5 years so we have experienced a fair amount over the years .

Our exacting standards do rule out a huge percentage of fab members too , but as was eluded to in the post above , there's still plenty that suit to choose from .

So we stand by it , and resent somewhat the inference that it's easy peasy if you have no standards .

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By *an_WoodMan over a year ago

Stafford

Is someone winding me up ? Still getting a 404 error from the instashag site

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

"Were your standards any different years ago?"

No, we have always met with people as described. This is fun and we have to be attracted to the other couple.

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

"Well I guess it was inevitable really .....

Your implying we will shag anything and don'thave standards ? By all means check our veri's and cite any which may suggest we will fuck anything !

This is our third time on fab in almost 5 years so we have experienced a fair amount over the years .

Our exacting standards do rule out a huge percentage of fab members too , but as was eluded to in the post above , there's still plenty that suit to choose from .

So we stand by it , and resent somewhat the inference that it's easy peasy if you have no standards ."

OMG! I am so sorry! I have just re read what I typed and it wasn't meant to imply anything of the kind.. It was a throw away comment to put "out there". Please accept my unreserved apologies, both couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I guess it was inevitable really .....

Your implying we will shag anything and don'thave standards ? By all means check our veri's and cite any which may suggest we will fuck anything !

This is our third time on fab in almost 5 years so we have experienced a fair amount over the years .

Our exacting standards do rule out a huge percentage of fab members too , but as was eluded to in the post above , there's still plenty that suit to choose from .

So we stand by it , and resent somewhat the inference that it's easy peasy if you have no standards .

It's cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We do have standards too there must be an attraction we like slim people like ourselves and won't deviate from that we agree with what you say both in previous lives have been on the scene for years so we can compare and contrast xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We do have standards too there must be an attraction we like slim people like ourselves and won't deviate from that we agree with what you say both in previous lives have been on the scene for years so we can compare and contrast xx"

Everything changes over time, thank goodness.

Different dynamics emerge. It is not a bad thing. My Dad used to miss powdered egg and dripping on toast, bless him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We don't miss anything always look forward xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you totally agree xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks xx

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By *aneSmith5TV/TS over a year ago

away

Sadly true,

A lot of game players on here, who have no intention of ever meeting, just winding you up.

Classic is chat, they want to become friends, then they block.

Site is now full of timewaster and prudes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sadly true,

A lot of game players on here, who have no intention of ever meeting, just winding you up.

Classic is chat, they want to become friends, then they block.

Site is now full of timewaster and prudes."

That's far from the case with us

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

"It's cool

Thanks for your understanding xx

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Change is inevitable.

Whether it's the site, the scene or you.

It's how YOU change that determines your happiness. Expecting things to remain as they were years ago is pointless and will lead to disappointment. Accepting change and choosing to evolve will offer the chance to maintain a contented life.

Expecting everyone else to change to fit in with your perceptions and expectations generally doesn't work.

So the choice is either to embrace change and look for new opportunities and avenues or stay as you are and struggle, get frustrated and disheartened.

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

"Change is inevitable.

Whether it's the site, the scene or you.

Expecting everyone else to change to fit in with your perceptions and expectations generally doesn't work.

So the choice is either to embrace change and look for new opportunities and avenues or stay as you are and struggle, get frustrated and disheartened.

(Note to self! Read what you type before pressing "Post Message!!!

)

I don't think that this is really the case with a lot of those who say it has changed. And I can't imagine that you would be suggesting that because the demographic has changed on here, that we should change our preferences.

Fact is, there are a lot more people who don't fit our wants now, than there were when we joined. We have no interest in singles, but the rise in singles on here seems exponential! It is the same with other preferences.

Lets say this though, it is not a complaint, we still do OK, maybe not from here all the time, but we are not short of meets as a rule. But it is harder to sort out those who fit. That is made difficult as well by "creative photography" lol

But all in all, as a social site it does us well. Yes we will meet people from here if they are about, but we have other avenues..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I imagine the scene would get very stale very quickly if it didn't change.

A bit like a loaf of bread that goes crusty when you leave it out too long.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to add - with the internet becoming ever more accessible, more people are going to find out about fab etc. that in turn will bring more time wasters, fakes, but also more genuine people too.

It's easy enough to log on and become anyone you want, we've found the most genuine people are to be found at clubs/socials.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Change is inevitable.

Whether it's the site, the scene or you.

Expecting everyone else to change to fit in with your perceptions and expectations generally doesn't work.

So the choice is either to embrace change and look for new opportunities and avenues or stay as you are and struggle, get frustrated and disheartened.

(Note to self! Read what you type before pressing "Post Message!!!

)

But all in all, as a social site it does us well. Yes we will meet people from here if they are about, but we have other avenues..

I'd never suggest anyone changes their preferences - trust me!

I just look on the positive side.

More people in the scene means more potential matches, as well as more that don't. It may mean taking more time looking, being a little more suspicious and cynical on occasion and relying on common sense and gut feeling rather than just assuming all is as it appears - but a little more hard work isn't always a bad thing as it's likely to bear better quality, more compatible 'fruit'!

As for the creative photography?

See my thread "The good old days". I'm sure people had tricky decisions to make and the occasional disappointment when relying on fuzzy, badly taken Polaroids.

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