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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im having amazing sex with FB, but I dont orgasam...
I never have .....
But our sex feels amazing and its not a big deal for me that I dont orgasam..
But I think ive dented his ego a little....
Are there other women who dont orgasam but have great sex....?
Is it an issue for a man if the women doesnt orgasam, even tho she,s throughly satisfied ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When he feels your clitoris hum
Orga-Sam he makes you cum
Someone wants some fresh hot cream
So hurry Sam, and make them scream!
He's always in the mood
Orga-Sam
And he really likes being rude
Orga-Sam
You can not ignore
Sam makes them cry out for more! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was told by a fella he could shoot but not orgasam...
Not a playmate of mine, but it was a discussion we had "
The two can be different but for most men it will be at the same time. People that get into tantra practice separating them and it's happened a bit to me, feels wierd though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im having amazing sex with FB, but I dont orgasam...
I never have .....
But our sex feels amazing and its not a big deal for me that I dont orgasam..
But I think ive dented his ego a little....
Are there other women who dont orgasam but have great sex....?
Is it an issue for a man if the women doesnt orgasam, even tho she,s throughly satisfied ?"
Just to be honest, I had 2 ex's that enjoyed sex but never or orgasmed and yes it dented my ego. It just turned into a vicious circle because the more I wanted it, the less they could relax. Sorry but I never solved the problem and now I'm married to a woman who has multiple orgasms pretty easily |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nice wee ditty there, are you sure you arent from Ireland 
I do have some Irish in me as it goes, perhaps explaining my enjoyment of lyrical whimsy  "
Well I did help with my terrible typing skills |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok but getting back to the question is it a dent to a mans ego if a women doesnt cum ?
Even if she,s had a great time "
No, not if I knew. But it would remain a personal little challenge - not that I would obsess over it, but I'd always be looking for new little tricks and ideas.
But I'd never make it the goal. Does that make sense? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok but getting back to the question is it a dent to a mans ego if a women doesnt cum ?
Even if she,s had a great time
No, not if I knew. But it would remain a personal little challenge - not that I would obsess over it, but I'd always be looking for new little tricks and ideas.
But I'd never make it the goal. Does that make sense? "
Yeah perfect sense...
Can a man feel if a women cums ? |
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By *lare GTV/TS
over a year ago
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A bit of feedback on orgasms.
I have orgasms and then the ejaculation is a more intense orgasm. The after shocks lasting for 5 minutes or so. This usually happens after I have given my lover a series of amazing anal orgasms in various different positions.
I used to be able to give women orgasms possibly because I am empathetic and can read and sense what people want. If a woman did not orgasm that was not the end of the world or a 'defeat'. We both enjoyed the closeness and connection and she enjoyed my ejaculation. I did not orgasm then, that only started to happen as a tgirl.
This is my experience. it is a diverse world out there and everyone is different and has different needs and triggers. The fascination of the sexual journey is to discover your partner's wants, needs and triggers and try and make their experience more intense and satisfying. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As long as she enjoys herself and comes back for more I wouldn't let it bother me but I do love being part of a woman's orgasm "
Im just feeling a little miffed FB said ive dented his ego, as we have an amazing time together..
And the fact that he,s the first man to ever have me squirting, I didnt think he would feel so put out about me not being able to orgasm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok but getting back to the question is it a dent to a mans ego if a women doesnt cum ?
Even if she,s had a great time
No, not if I knew. But it would remain a personal little challenge - not that I would obsess over it, but I'd always be looking for new little tricks and ideas.
But I'd never make it the goal. Does that make sense?
Yeah perfect sense...
Can a man feel if a women cums ?"
Not as such. But you can feel and hear everything else.
Think of thr body's reaction when the nerve endings are firing and thr hand touches somewhere new. Even that can cause a jolt and a gasp. Those sort of reactions you can see, hear and feel. Just on a bigger scale for most ladies (in my v limited experience) when they cum. |
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"Im having amazing sex with FB, but I dont orgasam...
I never have .....
But our sex feels amazing and its not a big deal for me that I dont orgasam..
But I think ive dented his ego a little....
Are there other women who dont orgasam but have great sex....?
Is it an issue for a man if the women doesnt orgasam, even tho she,s throughly satisfied ?
Just to be honest, I had 2 ex's that enjoyed sex but never or orgasmed and yes it dented my ego. It just turned into a vicious circle because the more I wanted it, the less they could relax. Sorry but I never solved the problem and now I'm married to a woman who has multiple orgasms pretty easily"
You have just said in a nut shell what I was going to say.. IT'S THE GUYS INSECURITIES NOT YOURS. I'm very similar to you OP, I can orgasam but not very easily and I have amazing sex without one and still feel satisfied. However unfortunately the men do get great pleasure from making us cum and feel inadequate if that can't. Which I suppose I can understand if I was NEVER able to make my man cum. But my lovely, you cannot help the way your body is and other then faking it to make him feel better, there's not allot else you can do. As the man above pointed out and my previous boyfriend too.. If it dents their confidence too much he'll not be happy until he's with a woman who can cum easily. You are not on your own hun, there are lots of us that can't. As long as your not bothered about having one, I really can't see why men are so hung up over it if the sex is great  |
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"Im having amazing sex with FB, but I dont orgasam...
I never have .....
But our sex feels amazing and its not a big deal for me that I dont orgasam..
But I think ive dented his ego a little....
Are there other women who dont orgasam but have great sex....?
Is it an issue for a man if the women doesnt orgasam, even tho she,s throughly satisfied ?"
I'm the same. I've only ever climaxed when using toys.
I've had energetic sex and been left feeling out of breath and totally satisfied but I'd love to have the experience of an orgasm from penetrative sex.  |
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By *irthyMan
over a year ago
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My ex-wife used to shake/quiver when having sex but never had an orgasm as when she toyed or masturbated alone. Within a few weeks of getting married she had a tumultous orgam through penetration and continued to do so regularly. In my opinion it is mental as well as physical with many people - hence half the fun of swinging is that you never know how someone cums or doesnt until you try it !!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im having amazing sex with FB, but I dont orgasam...
I never have .....
But our sex feels amazing and its not a big deal for me that I dont orgasam..
But I think ive dented his ego a little....
Are there other women who dont orgasam but have great sex....?
Is it an issue for a man if the women doesnt orgasam, even tho she,s throughly satisfied ?
Just to be honest, I had 2 ex's that enjoyed sex but never or orgasmed and yes it dented my ego. It just turned into a vicious circle because the more I wanted it, the less they could relax. Sorry but I never solved the problem and now I'm married to a woman who has multiple orgasms pretty easily
You have just said in a nut shell what I was going to say.. IT'S THE GUYS INSECURITIES NOT YOURS. I'm very similar to you OP, I can orgasam but not very easily and I have amazing sex without one and still feel satisfied. However unfortunately the men do get great pleasure from making us cum and feel inadequate if that can't. Which I suppose I can understand if I was NEVER able to make my man cum. But my lovely, you cannot help the way your body is and other then faking it to make him feel better, there's not allot else you can do. As the man above pointed out and my previous boyfriend too.. If it dents their confidence too much he'll not be happy until he's with a woman who can cum easily. You are not on your own hun, there are lots of us that can't. As long as your not bothered about having one, I really can't see why men are so hung up over it if the sex is great "
Im not bothered ...
I have a great sex life I get all those lovely little flutters and get massively turned on, I just dont get toe curling orgasms... |
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"As long as she enjoys herself and comes back for more I wouldn't let it bother me but I do love being part of a woman's orgasm
Im just feeling a little miffed FB said ive dented his ego, as we have an amazing time together..
And the fact that he,s the first man to ever have me squirting, I didnt think he would feel so put out about me not being able to orgasm "
Well if he has you squirting that's a climax/orgasm of sorts just talk to him and he should be able to get over it.
Can you make yourself orgasm ? |
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"Im having amazing sex with FB, but I dont orgasam...
I never have .....
But our sex feels amazing and its not a big deal for me that I dont orgasam..
But I think ive dented his ego a little....
Are there other women who dont orgasam but have great sex....?
Is it an issue for a man if the women doesnt orgasam, even tho she,s throughly satisfied ?
Just to be honest, I had 2 ex's that enjoyed sex but never or orgasmed and yes it dented my ego. It just turned into a vicious circle because the more I wanted it, the less they could relax. Sorry but I never solved the problem and now I'm married to a woman who has multiple orgasms pretty easily
You have just said in a nut shell what I was going to say.. IT'S THE GUYS INSECURITIES NOT YOURS. I'm very similar to you OP, I can orgasam but not very easily and I have amazing sex without one and still feel satisfied. However unfortunately the men do get great pleasure from making us cum and feel inadequate if that can't. Which I suppose I can understand if I was NEVER able to make my man cum. But my lovely, you cannot help the way your body is and other then faking it to make him feel better, there's not allot else you can do. As the man above pointed out and my previous boyfriend too.. If it dents their confidence too much he'll not be happy until he's with a woman who can cum easily. You are not on your own hun, there are lots of us that can't. As long as your not bothered about having one, I really can't see why men are so hung up over it if the sex is great
Im not bothered ...
I have a great sex life I get all those lovely little flutters and get massively turned on, I just dont get toe curling orgasms..."
The women that don't never are.. its the men that get upset about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok but getting back to the question is it a dent to a mans ego if a women doesnt cum ?
Even if she,s had a great time "
I think the aim is to satisfy, if that means an orgasm then that would be my intent.
Some ladies just don't cum or very rarely I do find a female climax arousing so it is a little disappointing if she doesn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say it would be.. I went out with a guy once who couldn't because of medication. No matter how great the sex was and how many times he tried to reassure me. I always felt I just wasn't doing it for him. I guess some men might feel the same way |
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By * and LCouple
over a year ago
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I may be being naive here but if you don't orgasm then how are you totally satisfied?
I'm not trying to have a dig its just a genuine curiosity.
If it was me I may feel I had done something wrong. I can see why it could upset a guy. People are self conscious creatures and none more so than when having sex |
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"I may be being naive here but if you don't orgasm then how are you totally satisfied?
I'm not trying to have a dig its just a genuine curiosity.
If it was me I may feel I had done something wrong. I can see why it could upset a guy. People are self conscious creatures and none more so than when having sex"
Agreed we are no more self conscious when naked and having intimate times with someone xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I may be being naive here but if you don't orgasm then how are you totally satisfied?
I'm not trying to have a dig its just a genuine curiosity.
If it was me I may feel I had done something wrong. I can see why it could upset a guy. People are self conscious creatures and none more so than when having sex"
Im throughly satisified as I still get very aroused and all the touching and kissing is amazingly pleasurable, I just dont get the intense orgasm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are thoroughly satisfied and enjoying yourself why should it matter? Its obviously only bothering him and his dented pride!
Although I like a woman to enjoy herself with me, I don't delude myself that they orgasm everytime.
Putting the boot on the other foot, I don't always cum, rarely from oral and quite often from fucking. I always tell my partner. Sometimes it happens, sometimes I know it's just not going to. A couple of friends have said they feel a little put out. But I can get my enjoyment from the physical act and once explained they seem to accept this and as long as i am giving them pleasure it doesn't bother me.
I would have thought he should be pleased you are being honest with him and not faking one. |
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Hi
I can orgasm but I usually do it myself. I never usually orgasm during sex as I don't think I can relax enough haha but I still thoroughly enjoy myself and we have amazing sex.
My husband can feel if I do orgasm and he says there is no mistaking it x |
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I cant orgasm during sex, and haven't been able to with of my partners in the past before Mr. I can make myself cum though, but only on my own. It's actually quite nice to hear someone else is like me, as I have never heard of anyone. It still does drive Mr T nuts but we have an amazing time trying  Mrs x |
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I did not learn to have an orgasm until I worked on myself for a good couple of years .... and there was a mental block which I got through. The next step was doing it when a partner was there ... next to them, after they had finished ... and the best guys were okay with that as it was not a threat to them or their ego. Mr Law was the first man who made me cum and it was a breakthrough for me as it happened early on in our meets, as I was so totally relaxed. Within a few weeks I also started gushing .... all was unexpected for me, but a very pleasant surprise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find women orgasm more from oral .. I dunno what it could be but it's what ive noticed..
Especially if you can find the g spot at the same time ..
Anyway it does dent a mans ego a bit if you don't orgasm though.. Feels like we haven't fulfilled our objective lol |
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I rarely orgasm on my own, and never with a partner.
Some men seem to take it as a challenge to make it happen, and when it doesn't then it does seem to dent their ego.
It's nice when a guy realises that he doesn't know your body better than you do, and just has a good time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I have heard that men can shoot their load but not orgasam "
Doubtful. The muscles contracting during male orgasm are the same muscles that 'eject' the semen. . . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only had an orgasm once through vaginal sex. Many many from oral and anal and of course masturbating. If a guy can give me one during a session I don't mind how he's managed it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I have heard that men can shoot their load but not orgasam "
True I stopped having orgasm about 2 years ago still get hard and cum but no feeling at all |
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I think I would be distraught if I couldn't manage to bring a sexual partner to a orgasam.
I think it's a male thing, that I would feel I wasn't giving someone the pleasure they were seeking.
And after a few attempts would definitely dent my confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't orgasm on meets either, and it's not what I want, it isn't what drives me.
I do always make it clear before meeting anyone, and also state it on my profile, and yet I still get so many men telling me that they can guarantee getting me there (all the get is guaranteed Blocked!!!)
Yes, I do orgasm on my own, or with a special women where it's about love as much as sex - but orgasms for me are private and no part of my swinging life.
It's a situation that has taken me a long time to recognise as "normal" for me - but one that I'm completely happy with now - so if anyone else has a problem with it then it's their problem to deal with - not mine!
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's really easy for a guy to make me orgasm and pretty fast too. It's cos I spend so much time up his arse and fussing his willy before hand by the time he sticks his dick in I'm good to go. Plain old missionary, guys full body weight on top of me, hand round the throat and I'll (without being too graphic) I'll have my hands down there giving myself a lil rub whilst he's pumping away. Can get frustrating when you're on the cusp of cummin, usually if I punch myself in the thighs quite hard it will happen, the guy probably thinks what the fuck is she doing! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it may effect a mans ego as the majority of people must get off on watching their partner get off.
Reverse it ladies. If your man never came what would it do to your ego ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always cum but at different levels of orgasm. . The more turned on I am the more intense the orgasm.
I can see why your fb feels a bit dented.. its all about pleasing the woman and seeing her cum makes it an achievement so to speak.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I would be distraught if I couldn't manage to bring a sexual partner to a orgasam.
I think it's a male thing, that I would feel I wasn't giving someone the pleasure they were seeking.
And after a few attempts would definitely dent my confidence. "
Reverse it then as I would hate to think the man's sole goal is to make me orgasm because he thinks that it is the be and end all of sex, it isn't, enjoying oneself is |
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I'm genuinely curious 
