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"Anyone on here behind there partners back" are you? | |||
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"I think it's goes on with both males and females, for all different reasons. Not sure how many will admit to it though x" I don't think anyone would admit to it...why say ur single then tell everyone on a forum ur not? | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest." Apart from your wife !!!  | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!! "Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site... | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site..."So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife  | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife "Not everyone gets out of their marriage what they want.that doesn't meen they don't want to stay married.im just saying it's better to be honest with people on here so your not meeting under false pretences.i would imagine most people lie about their status to heighten their chances.i would prefer to be honest and upfront about it. | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife "To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them. | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them. " | |||
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"Well so far this morning we have had The cheating police Gay police Breast feeding police Lol" What no grammar police yet?? | |||
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"I always read threads like this with interest and make lots of private notes. I don't meet married men and its clear on my profile yet some who have admitted they are cheating on here have messaged me in the past not making their situation clear to me which annoys me greatly and wastes both our time. " This is exactly why I'm upfront miss.the situation is clear from the start | |||
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"Think a lot of the men are " to be fair probably a few females too!!! | |||
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"Really don't get the fascination with other people's marital status "could not agree more, we believe in live and let live, we have our conditions we play under and if folks not happy the jog along!! | |||
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"Well so far this morning we have had The cheating police Gay police Breast feeding police Lol What no grammar police yet?? "they slept in this morning will be along soon lol | |||
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"Well so far this morning we have had The cheating police Gay police Breast feeding police Lol What no grammar police yet?? "Ahem...it's "What, no grammar police yet??" Don't forget your commas, please. 
Just thought I'd help the police contingent out 
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"Well so far this morning we have had The cheating police Gay police Breast feeding police Lol What no grammar police yet??
Ahem...it's "What, no grammar police yet??"
Don't forget your commas, please.
Just thought I'd help the police contingent out
-Courtney"...sorry, it's still early. | |||
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"Really don't get the fascination with other people's marital status
could not agree more, we believe in live and let live, we have our conditions we play under and if folks not happy the jog along!! " | |||
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"Ok you ve got me I married hand up. I don't boast about nor hide it. It's on my profile for all to see. I don't judge others Us married men get torn to pieces for being on a sex site but married women on here are not frowned on - more do even welcomed. You don't the personal details of the situation. Every that's on here are here for there own reasons " No, we do get a lot of criticism too. There are just fewer of us so you probably don't notice it as much. | |||
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"In law I'm still married " Me too! | |||
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"These threads do make me chuckle every time they come along. For a lifestyle that is different from what would be described by many as 'normal' is so moralised. Many people on this site and others, whether a couple, single female or a single male always highlight that they want discretion. Is that because they don't want to be judged by the vanilla community? Which is what many do to the single, whether male or female. I just find some of the moralistic points of _iew hypocritical. Everyone is here for their own reasons, couples and singles." Just because people have different morals than what is considered "normal" doesn't mean they have no morals at all, or that they are hypocritical for having those morals. For example, we would all still say incest, bestiality, and pedophilia are wrong (I am NOT likening these things to cheating!! Just as an example of sexual norms we hopefully all have). That doesn't make us hypocrites simply because we are on this site. Having said that, I do think that it is up to each individual whether they are comfortable cheating on their spouse. It isn't my business because it isn't my relationship. But, I choose not to meet those people, for my own reasons. So as long as everyone is open here about their status, I don't see a problem with both sets of people getting what they want out of the site. -Courtney | |||
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"These threads do make me chuckle every time they come along. For a lifestyle that is different from what would be described by many as 'normal' is so moralised. Many people on this site and others, whether a couple, single female or a single male always highlight that they want discretion. Is that because they don't want to be judged by the vanilla community? Which is what many do to the single, whether male or female. I just find some of the moralistic points of _iew hypocritical. Everyone is here for their own reasons, couples and singles. Just because people have different morals than what is considered "normal" doesn't mean they have no morals at all, or that they are hypocritical for having those morals. For example, we would all still say incest, bestiality, and pedophilia are wrong (I am NOT likening these things to cheating!! Just as an example of sexual norms we hopefully all have). That doesn't make us hypocrites simply because we are on this site. Having said that, I do think that it is up to each individual whether they are comfortable cheating on their spouse. It isn't my business because it isn't my relationship. But, I choose not to meet those people, for my own reasons. So as long as everyone is open here about their status, I don't see a problem with both sets of people getting what they want out of the site. -Courtney" Those who are cheating have morals and principles too - they are just different again from yours. | |||
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"These threads do make me chuckle every time they come along. For a lifestyle that is different from what would be described by many as 'normal' is so moralised. Many people on this site and others, whether a couple, single female or a single male always highlight that they want discretion. Is that because they don't want to be judged by the vanilla community? Which is what many do to the single, whether male or female. I just find some of the moralistic points of _iew hypocritical. Everyone is here for their own reasons, couples and singles. Just because people have different morals than what is considered "normal" doesn't mean they have no morals at all, or that they are hypocritical for having those morals. For example, we would all still say incest, bestiality, and pedophilia are wrong (I am NOT likening these things to cheating!! Just as an example of sexual norms we hopefully all have). That doesn't make us hypocrites simply because we are on this site. Having said that, I do think that it is up to each individual whether they are comfortable cheating on their spouse. It isn't my business because it isn't my relationship. But, I choose not to meet those people, for my own reasons. So as long as everyone is open here about their status, I don't see a problem with both sets of people getting what they want out of the site. -Courtney Those who are cheating have morals and principles too - they are just different again from yours. " Very true. Hence my saying that it is up to each individual whether they are comfortable cheating. -Courtney | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site..
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest." well said , | |||
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"Anyone on here behind there partners back" Nope x  | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them. "He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to .. | |||
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"It's on profile I'm here behind hubs back I also have a fb/DOM for six years again without hub knowing.....people who faint in horror at my very wickedness don't look at me or mail me I don't judge and don't expect to be judged by others if swinging was for couples exclusively .then there wouldn't be the single person profile option ...I don't arrange anything that involves any suspicious behaviour well maybes i have welts to hide sometimes but its not too much of an issue and hence day meets "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone said Jesus as Mary Magdalene was just about to get stoned. Just then a stone fell from the sky and killed the unfortunate lady to which Jesus looked skyward and said sometimes dad you piss me off! | |||
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"Many do cheat men and women cos they get not sex in the marriage , what to do stay frustrate or go look somewhere??? For me they are bloody right to b here "i like your stile , | |||
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"It's on profile I'm here behind hubs back I also have a fb/DOM for six years again without hub knowing.....people who faint in horror at my very wickedness don't look at me or mail me I don't judge and don't expect to be judged by others if swinging was for couples exclusively .then there wouldn't be the single person profile option ...I don't arrange anything that involves any suspicious behaviour well maybes i have welts to hide sometimes but its not too much of an issue and hence day meets Let he who is without sin cast the first stone said Jesus as Mary Magdalene was just about to get stoned. Just then a stone fell from the sky and killed the unfortunate lady to which Jesus looked skyward and said sometimes dad you piss me off! "*sits quietly in his greenhouse, tending his plants* | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to .."That's not your decision or judgement to make. | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to .."But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim? | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?"Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?"Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?
Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you "Then avoid them, he's given you the option by being honest, many don't. | |||
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"and a lot of girls are going it also" I would guess less couples than singles are cheating, but some probably are... I am not and I know quite a few others aren't either. | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?
Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you
Then avoid them, he's given you the option by being honest, many don't. "I do and I say in my profile I do and I wasn't being funny just merely adding a perspective that may not have been considered | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?
Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you
Then avoid them, he's given you the option by being honest, many don't.
I do and I say in my profile I do and I wasn't being funny just merely adding a perspective that may not have been considered "I know you weren't being funny. I just thought it was odd the previous poster was concerned about that when in the same comment they claimed not to care about their situation. Seemd a bit contradictory, maybe its just me. | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?
Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you
Then avoid them, he's given you the option by being honest, many don't.
I do and I say in my profile I do and I wasn't being funny just merely adding a perspective that may not have been considered
I know you weren't being funny. I just thought it was odd the previous poster was concerned about that when in the same comment they claimed not to care about their situation. Seemd a bit contradictory, maybe its just me. "No i found it contradictory too | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?
Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you
Then avoid them, he's given you the option by being honest, many don't.
I do and I say in my profile I do and I wasn't being funny just merely adding a perspective that may not have been considered
I know you weren't being funny. I just thought it was odd the previous poster was concerned about that when in the same comment they claimed not to care about their situation. Seemd a bit contradictory, maybe its just me. "Yes it might seem a bit contradictory ..but it's a public forum and I added my opinion. ..and talking of being contradictory the op has more than a touch of that ..wanting to be open and honest with strangers on here but not open and honest with his wife !! ... | |||
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"and talking of being contradictory the op has more than a touch of that ..wanting to be open and honest with strangers on here but not open and honest with his wife !! ..." Don't think the OP has a wife, at least one he is admitting to, profile says living with family no mention of marital status. | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site...
So you want to be honest to complete strangers, but can't be honest with your wife
To be fair, his relationship is none of our business. All I ask is that if you're not single, you are upfront about it so people can make a decision about whether they want to get involved or not. I don't care if people are cheating, why they are here is none of my business, I just don't want to play with them.
He's made a thread about him being married and on here ...I don't care if he'snmarried or not and I don't care about his situation ..but when he states he wants to be honest and open with people on here I think it's a bit rich when he can't be honest and open on the person he's married to ..
But why are you worried about it if you don't care about his situation like you claim?
Could possibly be if they can't be honest with their spouse of their actions then it's questionable how truely "honest" they are being with you
Then avoid them, he's given you the option by being honest, many don't.
I do and I say in my profile I do and I wasn't being funny just merely adding a perspective that may not have been considered
I know you weren't being funny. I just thought it was odd the previous poster was concerned about that when in the same comment they claimed not to care about their situation. Seemd a bit contradictory, maybe its just me.
Yes it might seem a bit contradictory ..but it's a public forum and I added my opinion. ..and talking of being contradictory the op has more than a touch of that ..wanting to be open and honest with strangers on here but not open and honest with his wife !! ..."It wasn't the OP that comment was about, it was another poster on the thread I believe. | |||
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"Opinions are like arseholes.....everyone has one! Yes and some can express them more tactfully that others " Quite agree. But some should also be kept to themselves. | |||
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"I'm Tina and I'm a cheating wife ! Is that what everyone wants people to say. It's always more complicated . I use to swing with hubby but he wanted to stop and asked me to too. I said ok but loved the scene so much I hooked up with my FB cpl I'd meet during time swinging with hubby and now I play secretly with them and others. " Your profile says you have your partners permission.... | |||
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"Well so far this morning we have had The cheating police Gay police Breast feeding police Lol" This just made me laugh so much Iv been offline less than 12 hours and i feel iv missed out on too much haha | |||
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"It's on profile I'm here behind hubs back I also have a fb/DOM for six years again without hub knowing.....people who faint in horror at my very wickedness don't look at me or mail me I don't judge and don't expect to be judged by others if swinging was for couples exclusively .then there wouldn't be the single person profile option ...I don't arrange anything that involves any suspicious behaviour well maybes i have welts to hide sometimes but its not too much of an issue and hence day meets Let he who is without sin cast the first stone said Jesus as Mary Magdalene was just about to get stoned. Just then a stone fell from the sky and killed the unfortunate lady to which Jesus looked skyward and said sometimes dad you piss me off! "haha be about right just as well i have no religion otherwise i may implode from guilt and have very sore knees from all the penance i would have to do... | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest." Erm did you really just say "can't see the point in deceiving anyone, best be honest?"...... The same rule obviously doesn't apply to your wife? | |||
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"Well so far this morning we have had The cheating police Gay police Breast feeding police " shouldn't you have some comma's in that? | |||
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"I really do want to know why so many people just dont get divorced I was with my ex husband and there was no sex because of him, to me a relationship without sex is friendship so i ended it.. Yes things can be complicated with houses etc but they are just material possesions and life is so much happier now" Why do you want to know though? I never write any details about my situation on here because it's no one else's business and I don't have to justify myself to anyone. But rest assured (and I'm sure I'm not the only one) there's a lot more to it than that. Just because you took one course of action doesn't mean that's the right one for every other person who is in a vaguely similar situation. | |||
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"Opinions are like arseholes.....everyone has one! Yes and some can express them more tactfully that others Quite agree. But some should also be kept to themselves." Why should they be? as long as the person expresses them the correct way without insulting and questioning others etc there nothing wrong with expressing that opinion especially on a public forum | |||
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"Anyone on here behind there partners back" we have met two guys for socials and found out they are married. So took it no further | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest. Apart from your wife !!!
Very true.but the wives/husbands of those who lie about it are still been deceived.just think it's best to honest with people on this site..."well be honest with your wife. She is the one your hurting most if and when she finds out | |||
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"I really do want to know why so many people just dont get divorced I was with my ex husband and there was no sex because of him, to me a relationship without sex is friendship so i ended it.. Yes things can be complicated with houses etc but they are just material possesions and life is so much happier now Why do you want to know though? I never write any details about my situation on here because it's no one else's business and I don't have to justify myself to anyone. But rest assured (and I'm sure I'm not the only one) there's a lot more to it than that. Just because you took one course of action doesn't mean that's the right one for every other person who is in a vaguely similar situation." Because im curious, i can ask a question and people not respond to it thats entirely up to them. Ive had quite a lot of guys tell me that they wont divorce purely because finances are too messy and they dont want to upset their lives so thats who im more curious about. I do remember seeing what your situation was but this is more aimed at the men on here | |||
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We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy."Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly? | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?"I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. "Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action? | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?"Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine. If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband. "But you do........bare all! | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband. "You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat. Like it or not, you're a party to that. Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
"Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't."You both share responsibility for the act of cheating. What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right. No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid. But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you. Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't.
You both share responsibility for the act of cheating.
What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right.
No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid.
But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you.
Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married.
"Nobody else is responsible, morally or otherwise, for me cheating. Not my partner, not any bloke who I've met or may meet in the future. It's my decision to be here, and my responsibility, not someone who's never met my partner. They owe him nothing, and I wouldn't try to shift the blame onto someone else. Neither will I be held responsible for anyone else's relationship, it's nothing to do with me. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't.
You both share responsibility for the act of cheating.
What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right.
No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid.
But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you.
Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married.
Nobody else is responsible, morally or otherwise, for me cheating. Not my partner, not any bloke who I've met or may meet in the future. It's my decision to be here, and my responsibility, not someone who's never met my partner. They owe him nothing, and I wouldn't try to shift the blame onto someone else. Neither will I be held responsible for anyone else's relationship, it's nothing to do with me. "ello 
I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy. | |||
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I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy. "Hi
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't.
You both share responsibility for the act of cheating.
What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right.
No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid.
But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you.
Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married.
Nobody else is responsible, morally or otherwise, for me cheating. Not my partner, not any bloke who I've met or may meet in the future. It's my decision to be here, and my responsibility, not someone who's never met my partner. They owe him nothing, and I wouldn't try to shift the blame onto someone else. Neither will I be held responsible for anyone else's relationship, it's nothing to do with me.
ello
I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy. "If their pissed off and hurt spouse comes and blames me, instead of their cheating partner, they're a fucking idiot. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't.
You both share responsibility for the act of cheating.
What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right.
No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid.
But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you.
Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married.
Nobody else is responsible, morally or otherwise, for me cheating. Not my partner, not any bloke who I've met or may meet in the future. It's my decision to be here, and my responsibility, not someone who's never met my partner. They owe him nothing, and I wouldn't try to shift the blame onto someone else. Neither will I be held responsible for anyone else's relationship, it's nothing to do with me.
ello
I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy.
If their pissed off and hurt spouse comes and blames me, instead of their cheating partner, they're a fucking idiot. "but you don't exist in a bubble Anna even though I agree blaming the person their partner had sex with is a pointless excercise. | |||
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I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy.
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Are you suggesting that the spouse of a cheating partner should blame the person the cheating partner has sex with, rather than blaming their actual spouse? "im not saying they should. lol, but youve just found out your partners shagged someone else....im thinking all rational thought goes out the window...its easier to blame the other person than facing up to it being your partner doing all the running etc. | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't.
You both share responsibility for the act of cheating.
What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right.
No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid.
But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you.
Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married.
Nobody else is responsible, morally or otherwise, for me cheating. Not my partner, not any bloke who I've met or may meet in the future. It's my decision to be here, and my responsibility, not someone who's never met my partner. They owe him nothing, and I wouldn't try to shift the blame onto someone else. Neither will I be held responsible for anyone else's relationship, it's nothing to do with me.
ello
I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy.
If their pissed off and hurt spouse comes and blames me, instead of their cheating partner, they're a fucking idiot.
but you don't exist in a bubble Anna even though I agree blaming the person their partner had sex with is a pointless excercise."I really, really don't care about their partner. Perhaps it's because I'm in this situation and I know that none of the men I've met or will meet have had anything to do with any of the decisions I've made, and therefore they shouldn't bear any of the responsibility for my actions and my decisions. Someone cheating on a partner in the outside world, say someone they met at work, perhaps. But that's different to this situation where I've come here seeking something. I haven't been influenced or dictated to by anyone else so they're not even a factor. Never going to change my mind on this one, because I know first hand. | |||
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"These threads do make me chuckle every time they come along. For a lifestyle that is different from what would be described by many as 'normal' is so moralised. Many people on this site and others, whether a couple, single female or a single male always highlight that they want discretion. Is that because they don't want to be judged by the vanilla community? Which is what many do to the single, whether male or female. I just find some of the moralistic points of _iew hypocritical. Everyone is here for their own reasons, couples and singles." | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't.
You both share responsibility for the act of cheating.
What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right.
No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid.
But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you.
Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married.
Nobody else is responsible, morally or otherwise, for me cheating. Not my partner, not any bloke who I've met or may meet in the future. It's my decision to be here, and my responsibility, not someone who's never met my partner. They owe him nothing, and I wouldn't try to shift the blame onto someone else. Neither will I be held responsible for anyone else's relationship, it's nothing to do with me.
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I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy.
If their pissed off and hurt spouse comes and blames me, instead of their cheating partner, they're a fucking idiot.
but you don't exist in a bubble Anna even though I agree blaming the person their partner had sex with is a pointless excercise.
I really, really don't care about their partner. Perhaps it's because I'm in this situation and I know that none of the men I've met or will meet have had anything to do with any of the decisions I've made, and therefore they shouldn't bear any of the responsibility for my actions and my decisions.
Someone cheating on a partner in the outside world, say someone they met at work, perhaps. But that's different to this situation where I've come here seeking something. I haven't been influenced or dictated to by anyone else so they're not even a factor.
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We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.Would you say that with that attitude you are acting responsibly?
I use condoms and dental dams. So I think I'm acting responsible. Well done on the physical front but emotionally do you care about your bed mate or the life they have and the potential consequences of your action?
Why should he? Any of my decisions would be mine alone. The consequences wouldn't be the consequences of his action, they'd be the consequences of mine.
If I meet a married man, I bear no responsibility to his wife, just as he bears no responsibility to my husband.
You would be an 'enabler' - so yeah actually you would be responsible. he couldn't cheat,in that instance, without you giving him the chance to cheat.
Like it or not, you're a party to that.
Same with whoever you're fucking behind your hubby's back - hes the enabler for your cheating.
Nope. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. They've already made the decision by seeking it on the site. I'm not some harpy luring them into a trap. What you're advocating sounds dangerously like putting the blame on "the other woman" (or man) instead of the person in the relationship. Which people do like to do, but they shouldn't.
You both share responsibility for the act of cheating.
What he does with other people is irrelevant, but you know that right.
No-one is saying you'd be responsible for him fucking some local barmaid.
But you are morally responsible for enabling him to cheat when he fucks you.
Same as the local barmaid would be, if she knew he was married.
Nobody else is responsible, morally or otherwise, for me cheating. Not my partner, not any bloke who I've met or may meet in the future. It's my decision to be here, and my responsibility, not someone who's never met my partner. They owe him nothing, and I wouldn't try to shift the blame onto someone else. Neither will I be held responsible for anyone else's relationship, it's nothing to do with me.
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I think you're forgetting a major factor here...the reaction of the partners that are being cheated on...and you cant say they'll never find out..they often do...cos we're only human and can slip up. Thats when the whole situation is out of your control and you may have the wife/husband in your face. Sorry but the whole "they owe him nothing" comment wont go down too well with a pissed off and hurt spouse. way too messy.
If their pissed off and hurt spouse comes and blames me, instead of their cheating partner, they're a fucking idiot.
but you don't exist in a bubble Anna even though I agree blaming the person their partner had sex with is a pointless excercise."I totally agree...it is pointless. But people in that situation wont look at it like that. Theyre hurt...male pride/woman scorned thing is never good. And as much as the person involved may not care about the partner...you can bet that partners gonna become very interested in them. And not in a "youve shagged my partner...good on ya" kinda way lol | |||
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"My ex husband cheated 2 times. He suffered but mind so did the other women! That's what happens I'm afraid. Woman scored and all that. " Perhaps if she had not scored it would have been ok | |||
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"My ex husband cheated 2 times. He suffered but mind so did the other women! That's what happens I'm afraid. Woman scored and all that. Perhaps if she had not scored it would have been ok " Damn phone! | |||
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" I totally agree...it is pointless. But people in that situation wont look at it like that. Theyre hurt...male pride/woman scorned thing is never good. And as much as the person involved may not care about the partner...you can bet that partners gonna become very interested in them. And not in a "youve shagged my partner...good on ya" kinda way lol" Well considering the people I meet generally don't know my real name, where I live or where I work and don't have any connection to me in real life, I'd like to see them try. If they're intelligent enough to get past all that to come after me, they're intelligent enough to know where they should be focusing their rage. Not something I'm going to worry about. | |||
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"I met a married lady via FAB. She was in a marriage that had no love,intimacy or affection. I sat and listened to this tale of frustration and anxiety and the fact she felt trapped. The thought of ending the marriage was one her family or religion would not countenance; this was her life. My reaction was measured and responsible. During the luncheon I went to the bar paid the bill and climbed out of the WC window and got the fook out of there!" Well aren't you lovely? So some women trusted you enough to tell you her personal emotions and problems and you climbed out of a window? That's a nasty and pathetic way to behave. Could you not have been respectful enough to listen and politely say that she wasn't for you? | |||
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"I am,and I say so on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time who isn't interested.cant see the point in deceiving anyone.best to be honest." | |||
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"I would rather someone say they were on here behind someones back than try to hide the fact. I think its sad to disrespect your wives/hubbies over something as trivial as sex however you are all grown up & i guess you judge yourself as much as everyone else judges you. Just wonder wht thoughts would go through your heads if your OH had an affair??? Be interested in your _iews. For the record i am twice divorced & live happily with Mr _d40. I also firmy believe if you arent happy in a situation you move on. Much none judgemental love Mrs _d40" If my husband cheated on me, so long as it was sex/friendship only and not anything more than that, it wasn't in a way that would embarrass me and it wasn't anyone with a connection to our lives, I could deal with that. I'd also prefer not to know. If he had an affair with a work colleague or a friend though, he would be out the door. | |||
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"If my husband cheated on me, so long as it was sex/friendship only and not anything more than that, it wasn't in a way that would embarrass me and it wasn't anyone with a connection to our lives, I could deal with that. I'd also prefer not to know. If he had an affair with a work colleague or a friend though, he would be out the door. " Are you able to explain the difference between sex with a work colleague or someone from Fab? My wife has had two very close male friends at work in the past and I've never thought it was just "friends". But they were close and nice people and I never saw anything wrong. So, are you able to say why you feel that's more embarrassing or more of a betrayal than just sex? (Don't need to answer) | |||
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"Just a manifestation of modern life I think, many want anything they think they deserve regardless of the cost to others. If you want sex and your partner doesnt at least have a conversation about you finding it elsewhere, if they can accept that then maybe the relationship can survive, if they cant do the decent thing and leave. Cheaters get found out sooner or later, some just choose to look the other way rather than have a confrontation" Is that a judgement based on experience? | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy."I care. It's a bit like being a vegetarian. I don't want to eat meat, I have an ethical problem with that. So therefore don't be an asshole and hide meat in my food. I have an ethical problem with enabling cheating. So don't be an asshole and pretend you're single. I care about other humans on this planet, even if I've never met them. I feel it's the right way to live my life. You don't have to live your life the way that I love mine, but at least have respect for me by being honest. | |||
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"If my husband cheated on me, so long as it was sex/friendship only and not anything more than that, it wasn't in a way that would embarrass me and it wasn't anyone with a connection to our lives, I could deal with that. I'd also prefer not to know. If he had an affair with a work colleague or a friend though, he would be out the door. Are you able to explain the difference between sex with a work colleague or someone from Fab? My wife has had two very close male friends at work in the past and I've never thought it was just "friends". But they were close and nice people and I never saw anything wrong. So, are you able to say why you feel that's more embarrassing or more of a betrayal than just sex? (Don't need to answer) " Because if it's a friend then it's connected to my/our life which would make me second guess everything that had come before. And that to me smacks of impulsively doing something without showing a bit of restraint or thinking of consequences; I'd actually prefer the cold calculation of feeling something was needed and quietly, logically going and fixing the problem without breaking our life. As for someone at work, that's just such a naff cliche I'd be disappointed in them. | |||
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"If my husband cheated on me, so long as it was sex/friendship only and not anything more than that, it wasn't in a way that would embarrass me and it wasn't anyone with a connection to our lives, I could deal with that. I'd also prefer not to know. If he had an affair with a work colleague or a friend though, he would be out the door. Are you able to explain the difference between sex with a work colleague or someone from Fab? My wife has had two very close male friends at work in the past and I've never thought it was just "friends". But they were close and nice people and I never saw anything wrong. So, are you able to say why you feel that's more embarrassing or more of a betrayal than just sex? (Don't need to answer) " Maybe if your partner is having it away with somebody you know on a personal level you feel like you have been betrayed by two people not only is your husband fucking behind your back but a so called friend is too?? | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause." The idea of 'withholding' sex to me is a bit too close to rape. A marriage contract is not a guarantee of sex for the rest of your life. Expecting someone to have sex if they don't want to is essentially rape. People can go off sex for all kinds of reasons. What we should be asking is: 1. Why does society believe that sex is so important to a marriage? 2. Why do we believe in our modern society that sex is something that should only be done within two people? 3. Why does our society encourage people to stay together when they're unhappy? Don't blame the victim because they no longer want to have sex with someone. | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. If it's not wanted, needed, thought about or thought of as important, is it classed as "withholding"? " The way I see it is that when you enter a relationship unless discussed other wise you expect it to be sexual. If the importance, desire for, need for or thinking about sex changes for one of the partners but not the other the original terms of the relationship have changed so maybe substitute withdrawn for withhold. I don't say that I agree but the thought has crossed my mind that we tend to paint the non sexual person as an innocent victim. I'm just thinking aloud really | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. The idea of 'withholding' sex to me is a bit too close to rape. A marriage contract is not a guarantee of sex for the rest of your life. Expecting someone to have sex if they don't want to is essentially rape. People can go off sex for all kinds of reasons. What we should be asking is: 1. Why does society believe that sex is so important to a marriage? 2. Why do we believe in our modern society that sex is something that should only be done within two people? 3. Why does our society encourage people to stay together when they're unhappy? Don't blame the victim because they no longer want to have sex with someone. " I don't think I am blaming the victim I might be questioning how we decide who the victim is though. | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. The idea of 'withholding' sex to me is a bit too close to rape. A marriage contract is not a guarantee of sex for the rest of your life. Expecting someone to have sex if they don't want to is essentially rape. People can go off sex for all kinds of reasons. What we should be asking is: 1. Why does society believe that sex is so important to a marriage? 2. Why do we believe in our modern society that sex is something that should only be done within two people? 3. Why does our society encourage people to stay together when they're unhappy? Don't blame the victim because they no longer want to have sex with someone. I don't think I am blaming the victim I might be questioning how we decide who the victim is though. " As far as I can see its a consent issue. Sex shouldn't be expected. Ever. It should be negotiated. And if people enter a relationship and expect *nothing* to ever change - they're bellends. | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. If it's not wanted, needed, thought about or thought of as important, is it classed as "withholding"? The way I see it is that when you enter a relationship unless discussed other wise you expect it to be sexual. If the importance, desire for, need for or thinking about sex changes for one of the partners but not the other the original terms of the relationship have changed so maybe substitute withdrawn for withhold. I don't say that I agree but the thought has crossed my mind that we tend to paint the non sexual person as an innocent victim. I'm just thinking aloud really" This!! Totally. ..apparently it is fine for one person in the relationship to say 'I don't fancy you anymore, I don't want sex anymore and I expect you as my partner to continue to be faithful and celibate forever and if you cheat on me or break up this marriage you are total scum who has wrecked the family'...yep..that sounds fair! Fair enough if people feel ethically they don't want to play with marrieds but geez not everything is black and white and you have no idea what others people circumstances are. | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. The idea of 'withholding' sex to me is a bit too close to rape. A marriage contract is not a guarantee of sex for the rest of your life. Expecting someone to have sex if they don't want to is essentially rape. People can go off sex for all kinds of reasons. What we should be asking is: 1. Why does society believe that sex is so important to a marriage? 2. Why do we believe in our modern society that sex is something that should only be done within two people? 3. Why does our society encourage people to stay together when they're unhappy? Don't blame the victim because they no longer want to have sex with someone. I don't think I am blaming the victim I might be questioning how we decide who the victim is though. As far as I can see its a consent issue. Sex shouldn't be expected. Ever. It should be negotiated. And if people enter a relationship and expect *nothing* to ever change - they're bellends." I don't believe people enter relationships expecting them to become non-sexual I think most of us don't consider or prepare for that eventuality. How both or all parties handle a relationship becoming celibate or close to it is significant of course and talking about people as victims in my opinion isn't conducive to success in that area. | |||
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"I'm Tina and I'm a cheating wife ! Is that what everyone wants people to say. It's always more complicated . I use to swing with hubby but he wanted to stop and asked me to too. I said ok but loved the scene so much I hooked up with my FB cpl I'd meet during time swinging with hubby and now I play secretly with them and others. " And yet on your profile it says you have permission from hubby... | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. If it's not wanted, needed, thought about or thought of as important, is it classed as "withholding"? The way I see it is that when you enter a relationship unless discussed other wise you expect it to be sexual. If the importance, desire for, need for or thinking about sex changes for one of the partners but not the other the original terms of the relationship have changed so maybe substitute withdrawn for withhold. I don't say that I agree but the thought has crossed my mind that we tend to paint the non sexual person as an innocent victim. I'm just thinking aloud really" I spent 7-8 years trying to change my wife's needs, or make her feel more sexy, etc. Etc. I'll not go into it because you can achieve a lot in that amount of time, so imagine how much time with effort and emotion went into that. I realised, way too late, that I was being unfair and stopped. I then spent 4-5 years feeling ugly and unsexy and depressed. And I nearly broke up the family as a result. Then I found Fab. Now the love we have for each other can just be what it is without it needing to be what it isn't. Its not ideal or perfect, but then neither am I. But I'm happy and so is my family. I don't blame anyone. It just is what it is and I make the best of what I can. And I actually consider myself to be very lucky to have what I have. | |||
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"I'm Tina and I'm a cheating wife ! Is that what everyone wants people to say. It's always more complicated . I use to swing with hubby but he wanted to stop and asked me to too. I said ok but loved the scene so much I hooked up with my FB cpl I'd meet during time swinging with hubby and now I play secretly with them and others. And yet on your profile it says you have permission from hubby..." He's right it does
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. If it's not wanted, needed, thought about or thought of as important, is it classed as "withholding"? The way I see it is that when you enter a relationship unless discussed other wise you expect it to be sexual. If the importance, desire for, need for or thinking about sex changes for one of the partners but not the other the original terms of the relationship have changed so maybe substitute withdrawn for withhold. I don't say that I agree but the thought has crossed my mind that we tend to paint the non sexual person as an innocent victim. I'm just thinking aloud really I spent 7-8 years trying to change my wife's needs, or make her feel more sexy, etc. Etc. I'll not go into it because you can achieve a lot in that amount of time, so imagine how much time with effort and emotion went into that. I realised, way too late, that I was being unfair and stopped. I then spent 4-5 years feeling ugly and unsexy and depressed. And I nearly broke up the family as a result. Then I found Fab. Now the love we have for each other can just be what it is without it needing to be what it isn't. Its not ideal or perfect, but then neither am I. But I'm happy and so is my family. I don't blame anyone. It just is what it is and I make the best of what I can. And I actually consider myself to be very lucky to have what I have. " I spent the last 8 years of my marriage being sexless the hardest thing was he would fuck anybody that moved except me it'd kind of hard to deal with | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. If it's not wanted, needed, thought about or thought of as important, is it classed as "withholding"? The way I see it is that when you enter a relationship unless discussed other wise you expect it to be sexual. If the importance, desire for, need for or thinking about sex changes for one of the partners but not the other the original terms of the relationship have changed so maybe substitute withdrawn for withhold. I don't say that I agree but the thought has crossed my mind that we tend to paint the non sexual person as an innocent victim. I'm just thinking aloud really I spent 7-8 years trying to change my wife's needs, or make her feel more sexy, etc. Etc. I'll not go into it because you can achieve a lot in that amount of time, so imagine how much time with effort and emotion went into that. I realised, way too late, that I was being unfair and stopped. I then spent 4-5 years feeling ugly and unsexy and depressed. And I nearly broke up the family as a result. Then I found Fab. Now the love we have for each other can just be what it is without it needing to be what it isn't. Its not ideal or perfect, but then neither am I. But I'm happy and so is my family. I don't blame anyone. It just is what it is and I make the best of what I can. And I actually consider myself to be very lucky to have what I have. I spent the last 8 years of my marriage being sexless the hardest thing was he would fuck anybody that moved except me it'd kind of hard to deal with " That was my experience too NN except I spent 3 years celibate while he got it from anywhere else all the while making me out to be an awful wife that never wanted him! | |||
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" that's so far removed from my situation. This is why a single sweeping judgement can never account for individuals and their unique lives. "Does it matter why people cheat though is it ok to cheat if your partner had gone off sex but wrong to cheat because you have gone off your partner? what are acceptable and unacceptable reasons to cheat? | |||
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" that's so far removed from my situation. This is why a single sweeping judgement can never account for individuals and their unique lives.
Does it matter why people cheat though
is it ok to cheat if your partner had gone off sex but wrong to cheat because you have gone off your partner?
what are acceptable and unacceptable reasons to cheat?"its a minefield isn't it. I don't think its ok to potentially hurt a partner you profess to love by any action, infidelity included but it happens. | |||
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" that's so far removed from my situation. This is why a single sweeping judgement can never account for individuals and their unique lives.
Does it matter why people cheat though
is it ok to cheat if your partner had gone off sex but wrong to cheat because you have gone off your partner?
what are acceptable and unacceptable reasons to cheat?"I don't have an answer to that because I don't know about anyone's situation apart from mine. Best ask the others from further up the thread who are able to give an opinion based on absolutely zero experience | |||
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" that's so far removed from my situation. This is why a single sweeping judgement can never account for individuals and their unique lives.
Does it matter why people cheat though
is it ok to cheat if your partner had gone off sex but wrong to cheat because you have gone off your partner?
what are acceptable and unacceptable reasons to cheat?
I don't have an answer to that because I don't know about anyone's situation apart from mine.
Best ask the others from further up the thread who are able to give an opinion based on absolutely zero experience "Ok I'll go find one of the loved up couples who are an expert on everything | |||
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" that's so far removed from my situation. This is why a single sweeping judgement can never account for individuals and their unique lives.
Does it matter why people cheat though
is it ok to cheat if your partner had gone off sex but wrong to cheat because you have gone off your partner?
what are acceptable and unacceptable reasons to cheat?"I don't think any reason to cheat is really 'acceptable' in the true sense of word. However, I do believe in some circumstances it is preferable to the alternatives. Every situation is different. | |||
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" that's so far removed from my situation. This is why a single sweeping judgement can never account for individuals and their unique lives.
Does it matter why people cheat though
is it ok to cheat if your partner had gone off sex but wrong to cheat because you have gone off your partner?
what are acceptable and unacceptable reasons to cheat?
I don't have an answer to that because I don't know about anyone's situation apart from mine.
Best ask the others from further up the thread who are able to give an opinion based on absolutely zero experience "Well to be fair...i do have some experience in being that my husband shagged everything with a pulse. Not because i was refusing sex, well unless sex with the other women counts
I didnt need to go after the other woman...my greatest revenge is that shes now walking in my shoes (well she has the old man and the home, she may as well have my old shoes lolol) Shes now his "Mrs"....and hes now cheating on her.
Im over it...even stayed on friendly terms with him. I refused to get bitter, cos the only person that fucks up is me and the kids.
You wanna cheat...fine. Youre all big boys n gals...but do it with the understanding theres consequences with every decision you make in life. some good, some bad.
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. The idea of 'withholding' sex to me is a bit too close to rape. A marriage contract is not a guarantee of sex for the rest of your life. Expecting someone to have sex if they don't want to is essentially rape. People can go off sex for all kinds of reasons. What we should be asking is: 1. Why does society believe that sex is so important to a marriage? 2. Why do we believe in our modern society that sex is something that should only be done within two people? 3. Why does our society encourage people to stay together when they're unhappy? Don't blame the victim because they no longer want to have sex with someone. " Hi Wasp Hunter, I enjoy reading your posts and whilst I don't always agree with you, I think you phrase different opinions respectfully so please don't take these comments as passive aggressive but here goes: 1a) statistically speaking it is important, scientific studies have shown that the ratio of sex to arguments is the leading predictor of martial continuation (fact not my opinion). This is true in general, if not for every individual case (before someone bombards me with anecdotal stories of bob down the road who hasn't been fucked in a decade but is as happy as larry) 1b) It's part of what a marriage is. Like it or not, marriage has a historical definition and context that makes clear sex is expected. The whole consummation of a marriage... I'm not advocate for rape, but if someone doesn't want sex then they should consider whether marriage is for them. They don't need to get married, they could always cohabit. 2) I'd recommend a book on evolutionary psychology to answer that. I got attacked last time I tried explaining it. There is a reason but it's not a particularly good one anymore (opinion, not fact) Again, not advocating rape but if you don't want to fuck your partner I'd say that's a problem worth exploring and trying to fix (opinion, not fact) | |||
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"Has this topic not been beaten to death ?
We are here for sex and a escape from our hectic lives. If you can spend a few hours with someone and have fun. Why do people care what someone's marital status is?
Maybe it's just me , but I don't ask a lot of questions. I just want you to show up , clean , look like your pictures and ready to have fun. I must be crazy.
I care.
It's a bit like being a vegetarian. I don't want to eat meat, I have an ethical problem with that. So therefore don't be an asshole and hide meat in my food.
I have an ethical problem with enabling cheating. So don't be an asshole and pretend you're single.
I care about other humans on this planet, even if I've never met them. I feel it's the right way to live my life. You don't have to live your life the way that I love mine, but at least have respect for me by being honest."This
Being honest allows an individual to make the choice, both ways. Being honest with your partner (they can then choose to stay or leave) being honest with a potential meet (they can choose if they wanna meet a married individual). Not being honest is purely selfish on the part of the deceiver......you're not allowing those you're deceiving the choice based on the truth. | |||
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"Never understand, why anyone should cheat on here??????????????? Plenty of fun to be had with your partner" | |||
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"Just when I start to see swinging in a rose tinted everyone-is-so-open-and-honest way, threads like this makes me face the harsh reality. " And how would you describe the harsh reality? Would you disagree with: "I don't think any reason to cheat is really 'acceptable' in the true sense of word. However, I do believe in some circumstances it is preferable to the alternatives. Every situation is different." Or "I don't think its ok to potentially hurt a partner you profess to love by any action, infidelity included but it happens." Or "For a lifestyle that is different from what would be described by many as 'normal' is so moralised. Many people on this site and others, whether a couple, single female or a single male always highlight that they want discretion. Is that because they don't want to be judged by the vanilla community? Which is what many do to the single, whether male or female. I just find some of the moralistic points of _iew hypocritical. Everyone is here for their own reasons, couples and singles." | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. The idea of 'withholding' sex to me is a bit too close to rape. A marriage contract is not a guarantee of sex for the rest of your life. Expecting someone to have sex if they don't want to is essentially rape. People can go off sex for all kinds of reasons. What we should be asking is: 1. Why does society believe that sex is so important to a marriage? 2. Why do we believe in our modern society that sex is something that should only be done within two people? 3. Why does our society encourage people to stay together when they're unhappy? Don't blame the victim because they no longer want to have sex with someone. " Very good points waspie. Why break up an otherwise good relationship, with the inevitable colateral damage, simply because the couple have become sexually incompatible? Sadly social and religious indoctrination make people believe sexual faithfulness is hugely important and that is why it hurts the "victim". If we started treating it as what it is, a pleasant bodily function", then there would be far fewer marriage breakdowns. And Fab would have a 1000 times more members. | |||
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"1a) statistically speaking it is important, scientific studies have shown that the ratio of sex to arguments is the leading predictor of martial continuation (fact not my opinion)." 35.7% of statistics and studies quoted on internet forums are made up by the poster. Could you quote the DOI of the journal or study you're referencing? | |||
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"I often wonder why its deemed more acceptable by society for a partner to withhold sex than it is to seek sex elsewhere. I know that this isn't the only reason for infidelity but its often cited on here as the cause. The idea of 'withholding' sex to me is a bit too close to rape. A marriage contract is not a guarantee of sex for the rest of your life. Expecting someone to have sex if they don't want to is essentially rape. People can go off sex for all kinds of reasons. What we should be asking is: 1. Why does society believe that sex is so important to a marriage? 2. Why do we believe in our modern society that sex is something that should only be done within two people? 3. Why does our society encourage people to stay together when they're unhappy? Don't blame the victim because they no longer want to have sex with someone. Very good points waspie. Why break up an otherwise good relationship, with the inevitable colateral damage, simply because the couple have become sexually incompatible? Sadly social and religious indoctrination make people believe sexual faithfulness is hugely important and that is why it hurts the "victim". If we started treating it as what it is, a pleasant bodily function", then there would be far fewer marriage breakdowns. And Fab would have a 1000 times more members. "
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"1a) statistically speaking it is important, scientific studies have shown that the ratio of sex to arguments is the leading predictor of martial continuation (fact not my opinion). 35.7% of statistics and studies quoted on internet forums are made up by the poster. Could you quote the DOI of the journal or study you're referencing?" Check out: http://www.businessinsider.com/formula-predicts-success-of-marriages-2012-12?IR=T | |||
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"1a) statistically speaking it is important, scientific studies have shown that the ratio of sex to arguments is the leading predictor of martial continuation (fact not my opinion). 35.7% of statistics and studies quoted on internet forums are made up by the poster. Could you quote the DOI of the journal or study you're referencing? Check out: http://www.businessinsider.com/formula-predicts-success-of-marriages-2012-12?IR=T" A business website referencing a partisan atheist blog? I'm ok thanks... | |||
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"1a) statistically speaking it is important, scientific studies have shown that the ratio of sex to arguments is the leading predictor of martial continuation (fact not my opinion). 35.7% of statistics and studies quoted on internet forums are made up by the poster. Could you quote the DOI of the journal or study you're referencing? Check out: http://www.businessinsider.com/formula-predicts-success-of-marriages-2012-12?IR=T A business website referencing a partisan atheist blog? I'm ok thanks..." What blog? It was a university of missouri-kansas study | |||
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