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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites? |
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Yes I do from time to time,but haven't met anyone from a dating site for a good few months now. I'm generally pulled to this site more,however I only have one set of needs fulfilled from here.
Would you tell the person you met on the dating site about this one or keep that to yourself? |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
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Would you tell the person you met on the dating site about this one or keep that to yourself?"
That is a very interesting question...I guess it would all depend on just how relaxed I ended up feeling with them, however, my gut intsinct is that it wouldn't be wise to make it one of the first topics of converstaion
The other way round...telling people you meet on here about being on a dating site is easy...after all it was you who gave me the idea by telling me about it recently  |
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My way of thinking is though if you haven't mentioned it from the beginning when exactly do you throw it into the conversation? I'm thinking of actually mentioning it on my dating site profile,not naming the site exactly,but words to the effect off. That may be a bad idea,I just want to be upfront though.
Good morning anyway  |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"My way of thinking is though if you haven't mentioned it from the beginning when exactly do you throw it into the conversation? I'm thinking of actually mentioning it on my dating site profile,not naming the site exactly,but words to the effect off. That may be a bad idea,I just want to be upfront though.
Good morning anyway "
Good morning to you too 
I reckon you could probably mention it to no ill effect what so ever, I don't think it would put many men off...it might do the opposite!! As for me, I think the knowledge of my swinging would put the vast majority of women on dating sites off, as I think it would automatically be associated with being a 'player'....the arch evil on there as far as I can tell.
Regarding your first point...I reckon I would tell someone as and when our relationship got to the point where I felt relaxed enough and confident enough in their reaction that it simply seemed like the natural thing to do. If things never reached that point it would probably mean that I wasn't really spending time with the best kind of longterm relationship material for me... |
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I'm sure it is probably different for men and women to how upfront they can be. The thing is lots of people are on these sites that you talk too on a conventional site anyway. It's just I probably wouldn't have sex with someone on a first meet from a dating site,that would be naughty wouldn't it and not give the right impression |
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I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after. |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm sure it is probably different for men and women to how upfront they can be. The thing is lots of people are on these sites that you talk too on a conventional site anyway. It's just I probably wouldn't have sex with someone on a first meet from a dating site,that would be naughty wouldn't it and not give the right impression "
You are certainly right about people being on both kinds of site. Part of the reason I asked the question is because almost as soon as I joined the dating site I have mentioned, I found that one of my 'matches' on there was someone who had just earlier that day messaged me on here!...lol. Sadly, I had already declined taking things further on here as she isn't really my cup of tea.
It's interesting to see how people present themselves on a traditional dating site compared to what they say about themselves on here.
I also think, part of my attraction to potentially going out on some more traditional dates is the whole idea of stepping into the unknown. Its great to meet people on here with the expectation that as long as there is a mutual attraction/click then sex will be the enevitable outcome, however, I also like the idea of potentially wining and dining, and entering into the whole tantalizing game of seduction with someone where the outcome is much less predictable....it adds a whole different kind of dimension and dynamic to proceedings... |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after. "
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest. |
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"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest."
but then if you aren't looking for a relationship why be on there,why not just state on your profile here exactly what you have mentioned above.
Is it just another place to meet people? |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest.
but then if you aren't looking for a relationship why be on there,why not just state on your profile here exactly what you have mentioned above.
Is it just another place to meet people? "
Yes, it is indeed just another place to meet people, but, perhaps with a slightly different emphasis.
As I mention at the beginning, I enjoy the company of women..and not just for the sexual side of things (although that is nice ).
I don't believe in 'going looking for a relationship' (and I state such on this other site), instead I like to meet people and simply see where things go...leave it all to fate I guess. I might end up bumping into a person that I find myself wanting to start a relationship on there, but it might equally happen on here, down the gym, bending over the frozen food section in the local supermarket....who knows.. |
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"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest.
but then if you aren't looking for a relationship why be on there,why not just state on your profile here exactly what you have mentioned above.
Is it just another place to meet people?
Yes, it is indeed just another place to meet people, but, perhaps with a slightly different emphasis.
As I mention at the beginning, I enjoy the company of women..and not just for the sexual side of things (although that is nice ).
I don't believe in 'going looking for a relationship' (and I state such on this other site), instead I like to meet people and simply see where things go...leave it all to fate I guess. I might end up bumping into a person that I find myself wanting to start a relationship on there, but it might equally happen on here, down the gym, bending over the frozen food section in the local supermarket....who knows.."
Well watch out over the frozen food section,for one you don't want your 'bits and pieces' sticking to the frost now do you,I may have to come and free you   |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest.
but then if you aren't looking for a relationship why be on there,why not just state on your profile here exactly what you have mentioned above.
Is it just another place to meet people?
Yes, it is indeed just another place to meet people, but, perhaps with a slightly different emphasis.
As I mention at the beginning, I enjoy the company of women..and not just for the sexual side of things (although that is nice ).
I don't believe in 'going looking for a relationship' (and I state such on this other site), instead I like to meet people and simply see where things go...leave it all to fate I guess. I might end up bumping into a person that I find myself wanting to start a relationship on there, but it might equally happen on here, down the gym, bending over the frozen food section in the local supermarket....who knows..
Well watch out over the frozen food section,for one you don't want your 'bits and pieces' sticking to the frost now do you,I may have to come and free you "
 ...actually I was planning on it being 'her' bending over the frozen peas...I'll be in Waitrose around 3.30pm btw.. |
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"I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites?"
I have abandoned profiles languishing on a few sites I think, lol, though I can't remember the last time I met someone through one! Most of them seem to be entirely misused to be honest, full of people trying to con you into something or other. I'd rather people were upfront about what they want at least. |
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"I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites?"
You mean PoF right?
I was also happily single but had a profile on there but rarely used the site but I can say now I received a message from a great lass 6 weeks ago and we've been dating since then and talking most days
I don't want to jinx it but... I'm optimistic  |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites?
You mean PoF right?
I was also happily single but had a profile on there but rarely used the site but I can say now I received a message from a great lass 6 weeks ago and we've been dating since then and talking most days
I don't want to jinx it but... I'm optimistic "
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over a year ago
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I don't use online dating sites, never will.
Just doesn't appeal, if I struggled to meet people I'd do something about it in person.
Sounds like there's plenty of people on both fab and other sites too though. |
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"I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites?
You mean PoF right?
I was also happily single but had a profile on there but rarely used the site but I can say now I received a message from a great lass 6 weeks ago and we've been dating since then and talking most days
I don't want to jinx it but... I'm optimistic "
Good for you! I logged into one site for the first time in ages and found messages from a string of young men, a few wierdos, a rather nice looking architect.........in Norway, and a Czech Photographer I met once who's back in town he says lol!  |
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"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest."
On POF they'll match you with people who seek the same mainly. I take it that's the one you're on. That's what I say on mine too, there's also not seeking any sort of commitment too. So people can judge whether to contact you or not by that alone. I like POF but use this more |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have never used a dating site as I'm not looking for a relationship or to date but I have been told most guys on them are married and just looking for a shag ao I may try |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
"I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites?"
I find that the women you are interested in are never interested in you,
You'll be inundated with messages from women who you have no interest in.
Women will say they can't find honest men when they don't want the honest men - they want a bad boy fantasy, and the fit blokes know they can get whoever they want.
Just my humble opinion |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
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"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest.
On POF they'll match you with people who seek the same mainly. I take it that's the one you're on. That's what I say on mine too, there's also not seeking any sort of commitment too. So people can judge whether to contact you or not by that alone. I like POF but use this more"
I do wonder about POFs algorithm as the other day my match was an 85 year old woman ffs |
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"I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites?
You mean PoF right?
I was also happily single but had a profile on there but rarely used the site but I can say now I received a message from a great lass 6 weeks ago and we've been dating since then and talking most days
I don't want to jinx it but... I'm optimistic
Good for you! I logged into one site for the first time in ages and found messages from a string of young men, a few wierdos, a rather nice looking architect.........in Norway, and a Czech Photographer I met once who's back in town he says lol! "
Thank you kindly
It's our fourth date on Friday and she's stopping the night 
Been trying a new approach and taking it slow |
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"I started using fab again earlier this year after a relationship I had been in ended. For the time being I am perfectly happy being single, however, I not only love sex, I also adore the company of women in general, even if its just on a social/meet, have fun and see where things go basis. With this in mind I recently joined a well known online dating site, just to see whether that too might offer some opportunities to meet up with attractive, interesting women.
How many other singles on here also use online 'dating' sites?
You mean PoF right?
I was also happily single but had a profile on there but rarely used the site but I can say now I received a message from a great lass 6 weeks ago and we've been dating since then and talking most days
I don't want to jinx it but... I'm optimistic
Good for you! I logged into one site for the first time in ages and found messages from a string of young men, a few wierdos, a rather nice looking architect.........in Norway, and a Czech Photographer I met once who's back in town he says lol!
Thank you kindly
It's our fourth date on Friday and she's stopping the night
Been trying a new approach and taking it slow "
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"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest.
On POF they'll match you with people who seek the same mainly. I take it that's the one you're on. That's what I say on mine too, there's also not seeking any sort of commitment too. So people can judge whether to contact you or not by that alone. I like POF but use this more
I do wonder about POFs algorithm as the other day my match was an 85 year old woman ffs"
When are you meeting her? |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
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"I'm on a traditional website but I'd have more interest in a profile if they were honest about being on here but looking for a relationship. Maybe those it puts off are the wrong people for you?
The opposite of the OP issue for a woman is sometimes being up front about liking sex attracts those who just want a hook up but that's not what I'm after.
On the dating site I have just joined, I don't state that I am looking for a relationship (which I am not....if that were to happen then fine, but its not what I am actively seeking). Instead I choose the option which states that I am looking to date but not anything serious. I believe that is perfectly honest.
On POF they'll match you with people who seek the same mainly. I take it that's the one you're on. That's what I say on mine too, there's also not seeking any sort of commitment too. So people can judge whether to contact you or not by that alone. I like POF but use this more
I do wonder about POFs algorithm as the other day my match was an 85 year old woman ffs
When are you meeting her? "
Unfortunately she died before we could arrange a meet. |
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I've been on POF for three years now, useless damned site, my profiles now hidden.
It's just this site under a different guise.
Anyway I don't want tobe anyone's nurse and most men in my age group require just that .
I'll remian single and keep my washing down to a minimum |
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