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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right so I received this message from a couple who lived approx 30 miles from me saying they had _iewed my profile and were really very interested in meeting the following evening if I was free. As they were at least 20 years younger than me and their profile stated they didn't meet single guys I was very sceptical and asked were they sure. Oh yes came the answer and was told the female of the half wanted to experience sex with an older man. Feeling quite flattered I naturally said yes, they asked for my number and it was agreed the she would phone the following morning to reassure me they were genuine and to firm up the details, which she duly did saying she couldn't wait. Therefore I gave her my address and we agreed a time of 7.30 and I looked forward to the coming fun. The rest of the afternoon was spent by her sending me increasingly explicit messages about how horny she was and what she wanted sexually and stating that the male would just watch.
So at the agreed time they duly arrived and I must admit she was stunning and we all sat chatting for 25 minutes or so over a glass of wine and everything was, I thought, going well. At this point she finished her glass of wine and asked if she could use the toilet. While she was gone I asked the male whether he thought she would like a top up which was then that he informed me that he had picked up “signals” from her that they would be leaving when she returned as there was no attraction. I was confused to say the least and said what about all the messages I had received to which he replied that he didn't want to discuss it. About an hour after they left I received a message via the site saying “sorry, thanks for the wine and wishing me luck in the future” which I ignored and blocked them. . I am now left wondering was I part of some bizarre sex game they play.
Any thoughts would be welcome as I cannot get my head around their behaviour. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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and ps, your update won't help matters.
they came as promised, they were honest in the time they were there and they sent a nice message after they got home.
you are reacting badly and I understand that must hurt a little but that's pitfalls of this game
good luck for the future
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the scenario you describe is one of the reasons we always meet socially first. I think that they should (if they didn't) have made it crystal clear that they would only go ahead if she was attracted to you in person and perhaps the lead up gave you the impression that there was no doubt. If they'd been playing any kind of game they wouldn't have turned up.
I can understand how disappointed you must feel but they were at least honest and you wouldn't have wanted the lady to go through with it just because she felt obliged.
A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though."
I tried to message privately on the very same point.... I would check things over just to make sure |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though.
I tried to message privately on the very same point.... I would check things over just to make sure"
Strangely enough I did have a similar thought at 3.30 this morning nothing untoward |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"there was no connection when they actually met you, they were honest and left.
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this, fair enough I guess. It can hurt but at least they were honest.
Maybe, as suggested elsewhere, they were casing the joint but if well verified I'm sure intentions were honourable ...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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in future maybe you will consider doing same as us - we generally have a social first unless meeting ata club anyway where there will be several options if we don't click and also - we only invite people to our home when we have met them once before - it is a trust thing m x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though.
I tried to message privately on the very same point.... I would check things over just to make sure
Strangely enough I did have a similar thought at 3.30 this morning nothing untoward "
Check upstairs/ wherever the toilet was that she went to.
Hope you feel better soon. x |
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A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though.
I tried to message privately on the very same point.... I would check things over just to make sure
Strangely enough I did have a similar thought at 3.30 this morning nothing untoward "
I'm sure they are genuinely honest people, I hesitated before typing my thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though.
I tried to message privately on the very same point.... I would check things over just to make sure
Strangely enough I did have a similar thought at 3.30 this morning nothing untoward
I'm sure they are genuinely honest people, I hesitated before typing my thoughts."
define genuinely honest people lol |
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A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though.
I tried to message privately on the very same point.... I would check things over just to make sure
Strangely enough I did have a similar thought at 3.30 this morning nothing untoward
I'm sure they are genuinely honest people, I hesitated before typing my thoughts.
define genuinely honest people lol"
People whose actions reflect what they say. A rare thing in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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A cynic might wonder if there was some ulterior motive for wanting to see inside your house though.
I tried to message privately on the very same point.... I would check things over just to make sure
Strangely enough I did have a similar thought at 3.30 this morning nothing untoward
I'm sure they are genuinely honest people, I hesitated before typing my thoughts.
define genuinely honest people lol
People whose actions reflect what they say. A rare thing in my experience."
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By (user no longer on site)
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There was no spark/connection so rather than go through the motions they left.
Regardless of the content of the messages, play shouldn't have been expected. It's no different to a social in a public setting, you either fancy them and have a connection or you don't.
Onwards and upwards. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There was no spark/connection so rather than go through the motions they left.
Regardless of the content of the messages, play shouldn't have been expected. It's no different to a social in a public setting, you either fancy them and have a connection or you don't.
Onwards and upwards."
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