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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
If you have been on fab for some time and feel that you are successful on here...ie, you have regular (as as often as you look for) meets with the kind of people you are seeking. What do you attribute this success to? Are there things that you changed that helped you to improve your 'hit rate'? |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
We have been relatively successful.
Visit clubs on occasions and post the odd picture have all help with our success and ensuring where possible that those we meet are genuine before hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What has worked for me is being a fucking jammy bastard.
What clearly helps some people is being relaxed, friendly, flirty without expectation and taking Bill and Ted's advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm far more sucessful in real life than on here and mainly attribute it to my way with words...which is ironic as my words don't get me very far on here! |
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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago
Eastbourne |
"Think forward thinking helps, ie planning a meet as opposed to just posting one when you feel horny...??"
Found last minute meets go tits up. Planned in advance with verified guys has been the best. Being we are a couple looking for single guys means we do have a few offers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Clubs allowed us to build up a little network of hot friends which then in turn led to invites to other events and niche things.
Clubs open a lot of doors. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find my success rate is fairly good on here, being polite and respectful are a few of the main attributes that help.
Also getting out and going to a club, socialising with like minded people, meeting new friends and generally having a good time, if anything happens then that's a bonus
Hope this helps the OP |
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Understanding that as a single man the odds are very much against you and not taking rejection badly or personally goes a massive way to success on here
A decent intro message, not a one liner or a c+p essay helps
Having profile pics and either face pics on profile or in private/friends and be willing to send
Happy to plan meets in advance, a lot of people have lives and can't do a 30 notice meet
Read the profile and tailor your message to the profile e.g. If they're not interested in x don't bang on about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do pretty well , always getting what we want . Whether it be guys , single girls , couples or convincing TVs .
We attribute our ' success ' to being totally honest , upfront , and genuinely without any issues .
The fact that Sabrina is an insatiable , sexy and horny cumslut may help too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Understanding that as a single man the odds are very much against you and not taking rejection badly or personally goes a massive way to success on here
A decent intro message, not a one liner or a c+p essay helps
Having profile pics and either face pics on profile or in private/friends and be willing to send
Happy to plan meets in advance, a lot of people have lives and can't do a 30 notice meet
Read the profile and tailor your message to the profile e.g. If they're not interested in x don't bang on about it "
This is exactly right....just be normal and considerate. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
Over the years I have done well because:
I accommodated
I was honest about being bi sexual
I hosted parties
I had a business interest in a club for a while
I went to socials
I respected the women I met at the time
I never sent messages ever
I only focused on people who would, never the ones who wouldn't.
years on, I have changed most of the above.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not very successful on here to be honest
I find it very hard to get meets and tend to more use clubs than private meets though I prefer private meets
I get loads of offers but most are not from guys I'm attracted to, all the guys I find attractive aren't attracted to me, I have in the past sent mail out to guys I have liked the look of but of all the guys I have mailed first not a single one has ever mailed me back, so I'm obviously punching above my weight with the guys I'm choosing so now I just reply to guys I like who mail me first, I figure if they mail me first there much me some interest or they wouldnt mail me, problem is very few men who mail me interest me |
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"I'm not very successful on here to be honest
I find it very hard to get meets and tend to more use clubs than private meets though I prefer private meets
I get loads of offers but most are not from guys I'm attracted to, all the guys I find attractive aren't attracted to me, I have in the past sent mail out to guys I have liked the look of but of all the guys I have mailed first not a single one has ever mailed me back, so I'm obviously punching above my weight with the guys I'm choosing so now I just reply to guys I like who mail me first, I figure if they mail me first there much me some interest or they wouldnt mail me, problem is very few men who mail me interest me "
If it's any consolation if I were single I'd definitely reply to a message from you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not very successful on here to be honest
I find it very hard to get meets and tend to more use clubs than private meets though I prefer private meets
I get loads of offers but most are not from guys I'm attracted to, all the guys I find attractive aren't attracted to me, I have in the past sent mail out to guys I have liked the look of but of all the guys I have mailed first not a single one has ever mailed me back, so I'm obviously punching above my weight with the guys I'm choosing so now I just reply to guys I like who mail me first, I figure if they mail me first there much me some interest or they wouldnt mail me, problem is very few men who mail me interest me
If it's any consolation if I were single I'd definitely reply to a message from you "
Aww that made joining fab all worth while x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not very successful on here to be honest
I find it very hard to get meets and tend to more use clubs than private meets though I prefer private meets
I get loads of offers but most are not from guys I'm attracted to, all the guys I find attractive aren't attracted to me, I have in the past sent mail out to guys I have liked the look of but of all the guys I have mailed first not a single one has ever mailed me back, so I'm obviously punching above my weight with the guys I'm choosing so now I just reply to guys I like who mail me first, I figure if they mail me first there much me some interest or they wouldnt mail me, problem is very few men who mail me interest me "
This is a post which is as honest as I have ever read , and having bumped into you a couple of times , very much seems to sum you up perfectly .
You are way too hard on yourself if you don't mind me saying . I get the bit about the lack of attraction you have for guys mailing you - we get the same with over half that mail us too . But jeez , having seen you and reading your profile , this post makes no sense at all !
I know this may not be relevant , and you haven't asked for a critique , but you know we wouldn't be anything other than honest . Perhaps you could downsize your profile a bit , make it a little warmer , and the offers from suitable guys may come flooding in |
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I had a fair amount of success over the years meeting single guys on my single profile - now I only meet women alone - I got exactly what I wanted and needed although my requirements were very specific. Easier in London maybe because of sheer numbers? At that point I never went to parties or clubs. Now I use the site less for meets and rely much more on clubs and social gatherings. I would pretty much say that being approachable and honest helps. But also screening out idiotic random messages because there really is no point. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"We have been relatively successful.
Visit clubs on occasions and post the odd picture have all help with our success and ensuring where possible that those we meet are genuine before hand."
This says it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs allowed us to build up a little network of hot friends which then in turn led to invites to other events and niche things.
Clubs open a lot of doors. "
We have found the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps you could downsize your profile a bit , make it a little warmer , and the offers from suitable guys may come flooding in "
Warmer I'm what way
Fook me I can't believe I'm asking for profile advice
I tend to get loads of compliments for my profile from guy who say its refreshing to read a honest and down to earth profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've become somewhat of a guru on this subject. People often comment that my advice has increased there chances of success ten fold.
Are you ready for it?
Sure?
Don't move to a Muslim country where sex can land you in jail for years! |
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"I've become somewhat of a guru on this subject. People often comment that my advice has increased there chances of success ten fold.
Are you ready for it?
Sure?
Don't move to a Muslim country where sex can land you in jail for years! "
That's wacist
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't know if I'd class myself as successful, yes I have my select few friend, no I haven't met them...apart from two.
Time, family and distance are the major restraints on doing so.
I'm patient, selective and never expect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Posting on forums. Going to socials , people getting to know my personality , You will struggle to get meets as a single guy if you just sit behind a avatar or a couple of pics and wait for some lady to message you
Oh and my ass |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps you could downsize your profile a bit , make it a little warmer , and the offers from suitable guys may come flooding in
Warmer I'm what way
Fook me I can't believe I'm asking for profile advice
I tend to get loads of compliments for my profile from guy who say its refreshing to read a honest and down to earth profile "
There are things in your profile which would appeal to so many men on the site , but they are snuck in at the end . Your profile is refreshing and honest , but has too much underselling going on !
By your own admission you don't get messages from suitable guys , so the compliments on it are somewhat irrelevant aren't they ?
I can't believe I am offering profile advice
But , having read your post it just seemed that it may be helpful . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What has worked for me is being a fucking jammy bastard.
What clearly helps some people is being relaxed, friendly, flirty without expectation and taking Bill and Ted's advice. "
Are they related to Ben and Jerry? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get to meet often so chat for a while before meeting anyone, so I generally have a good idea if it's going to be a good meet or not before ever getting to that point.
And I have photos which I think give an idea of what I'm like and what I'm about.
Also, I'm sure someone will be along shortly to tell me it's just because I'm female and can therefore have my pick of the blokes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not very successful on here to be honest
I find it very hard to get meets and tend to more use clubs than private meets though I prefer private meets
I get loads of offers but most are not from guys I'm attracted to, all the guys I find attractive aren't attracted to me, I have in the past sent mail out to guys I have liked the look of but of all the guys I have mailed first not a single one has ever mailed me back, so I'm obviously punching above my weight with the guys I'm choosing so now I just reply to guys I like who mail me first, I figure if they mail me first there much me some interest or they wouldnt mail me, problem is very few men who mail me interest me " you look Great to us, plus you can play guitar hero, which is always a winner lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, I'm sure someone will be along shortly to tell me it's just because I'm female and can therefore have my pick of the blokes "
Wait you mean you're not a bloke!?
God dammit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps you could downsize your profile a bit , make it a little warmer , and the offers from suitable guys may come flooding in
Warmer I'm what way
Fook me I can't believe I'm asking for profile advice
I tend to get loads of compliments for my profile from guy who say its refreshing to read a honest and down to earth profile
There are things in your profile which would appeal to so many men on the site , but they are snuck in at the end . Your profile is refreshing and honest , but has too much underselling going on !
By your own admission you don't get messages from suitable guys , so the compliments on it are somewhat irrelevant aren't they ?
I can't believe I am offering profile advice
But , having read your post it just seemed that it may be helpful ."
Yes and I understand what you mean but let's me honest what's written on your profile is pretty irrelevant really do you not think, people are interested in two things, are you looking to meet whatever group they fall into and are they attracted to you
No matter what I have written down if they don't like my pics they aren't going to message, I could sell myself to a fault, saying I'm sexy etc but if they don't agree they won't message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not very successful on here to be honest
I find it very hard to get meets and tend to more use clubs than private meets though I prefer private meets
I get loads of offers but most are not from guys I'm attracted to, all the guys I find attractive aren't attracted to me, I have in the past sent mail out to guys I have liked the look of but of all the guys I have mailed first not a single one has ever mailed me back, so I'm obviously punching above my weight with the guys I'm choosing so now I just reply to guys I like who mail me first, I figure if they mail me first there much me some interest or they wouldnt mail me, problem is very few men who mail me interest me you look Great to us, plus you can play guitar hero, which is always a winner lol"
Sorry to be a fake but I can't
It's my daughters we were on our way to her dads I was just carrying it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've become somewhat of a guru on this subject. People often comment that my advice has increased there chances of success ten fold.
Are you ready for it?
Sure?
Don't move to a Muslim country where sex can land you in jail for years!
That's wacist
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I meant country under Sharia law... Sowwy Muslims |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I havent been successful here cos london and penge are not fab active. But if I was prepared to travel to wales, north england and mancheste I could fuck everyday, its down to demo graphics lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lycra, tight lacing, and pink fishnets
Works for me.... Erm, not like that
Haha, are you sure now ...Freudian slip maybe hmm? "
My legs are a bit too butch to pull it off... Yours however |
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"Lycra, tight lacing, and pink fishnets
Works for me.... Erm, not like that
Haha, are you sure now ...Freudian slip maybe hmm?
My legs are a bit too butch to pull it off... Yours however "
You're too kind... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't meet very often so the only people I meet are very very patient ones, and ones that I have been chatting to for a considerable amount if time. I don't waste time chatting to those I don't find attractive. This means that I get to meet those that I want to when I am able to. Not rushing seems to be key and not making a bit of fun on here my life. |
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"If you have been on fab for some time and feel that you are successful on here...ie, you have regular (as as often as you look for) meets with the kind of people you are seeking. What do you attribute this success to? Are there things that you changed that helped you to improve your 'hit rate'?"
State secret, I'm afraid...
*quickly closes the safe and taps nose* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm open to meeting, lots of guys in my area want to meet.
I know for a fact a lot of guys are looking for an older woman, that's me. And my tattoos, a lot of guys like those.
Demand. That's pretty much all that's needed to be 'successful'. Not sure how come i get a lot of repeat meets but i'm guessing i'm the only female meeting in this area. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I meet sporadically so patience is essential. As to success, I tend to plan a meet well in advance so build up a rapport before meeting. Opportunities to meet may be few and far between but they have all without exception been fantastic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pictures, face pic and friendly message early on, phone chat, social meet or arrange to meet in a swingers club, state on status update when you are next available to play/what you looking for....we have been very happy with our success rate so far |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
Lot's of interesting stuff on here.
Personally besides the obvious, like a good profile and some attractive, clear pics, I find that not taking myself too seiously and plenty of humour when messaging and chatting on here in general, works a treat.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've become somewhat of a guru on this subject. People often comment that my advice has increased there chances of success ten fold.
Are you ready for it?
Sure?
Don't move to a Muslim country where sex can land you in jail for years! "
Lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lot's of interesting stuff on here.
Personally besides the obvious, like a good profile and some attractive, clear pics, I find that not taking myself too seiously and plenty of humour when messaging and chatting on here in general, works a treat.."
Yeah 2 of my longest standing friends/meets from here were from messages that at had nothing to do with sex so it just became a friendly conversation which was so much better than the "I like your pics here's mine" kinda starts.
One was asking if they had gotten a suspension for the same thing I did in a thread.
And the other was she had a status saying how much she liked chavs and I said "don't worry everyone's gotta have a flaw" |
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for us it's organising a social and going to house parties etc , that gives you a great network of fellow fabsters and we see the single guys doing well , normally that's down to actually getting out to socials, chatting and being polite and non pushy ( lets face it there are thousands of male profiles, but when face to face the real person comes through and that's far more important tha a profile text lol) |
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
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Don't write to loads of people, be genuine and bright, enjoy conversation and good humour, don't hassle anyone if they don't want to have sex straight away/ever, enjoy filthy conversation of the most erotic kind only when it is appropriate, and be able to explain why you are not gong to send pics to all and sundry straight away.
Now, if only I could master the above...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually had a guy message me the other asking for a few pointers, good looking lad too so I was flattered.
I suppose the thing that has always worked best for me, is that I am positively, unashamedly ME. Not everyone likes that admittedly, but one thing you'll always get from me is honesty, I am who I am, say what I see, stand my ground even when disagreed with (which happens a lot), and I'm just very REAL.
I also have a big cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have been on fab for some time and feel that you are successful on here...ie, you have regular (as as often as you look for) meets with the kind of people you are seeking. What do you attribute this success to? Are there things that you changed that helped you to improve your 'hit rate'?"
not looking to meet, just make friends and have fun and laughter, if from that, a meet is arranged so be it,
and again the meet will just be for friendship then see how things flow with each other, see what develops
its when your not looking that you tend to find |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think forward thinking helps, ie planning a meet as opposed to just posting one when you feel horny...??"
Each to their own but spur of the moment meets when I get some free time and looking for a meet are the horniest meets for me xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The combination of looking like the vanilla mum next door but being a dirty mare works well, I find "
Never looked like the vanilla mum , but certainly a dirty mare lol .... Nice to see you again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also have a big cock.
Gerraway you'll be telling us shag has a 6 pack next
Did I mention I got a 6pack? "
You two really need to stop keeping such information to yourselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also have a big cock.
Gerraway you'll be telling us shag has a 6 pack next
Did I mention I got a 6pack?
You two really need to stop keeping such information to yourselves " lol yes we do, but its hard to resist the temptation to share it with you all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I build up a rapport with the guys I meet, simple as that.
I don't meet often & I prefer more than a one off so that alone s out certain people.
I'm a pretty laid back person, not keen on dramas so with me what you see is what you get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also have a big cock.
Gerraway you'll be telling us shag has a 6 pack next
Did I mention I got a 6pack?
You two really need to stop keeping such information to yourselves "
Seriously though, its quite ironic, because I typically get _iews and mails when one of two things happens:
1. I mention the size of my penis
2. I'm embroiled in a hostile forum fight
And I'm being serious, no amount of jokes, creativity, insight, speculation or banter I also use on the forums comes anywhere NEAR those two things when it comes to actually getting anywhere close to swinging on here - for example, notice no one responded to anything in my earlier post about my personality, just the bit about my cock? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"m for example, notice no one responded to anything in my earlier post about my personality, just the bit about my cock?"
That was only me though and I don't count
Seriously though I'm only messing with you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"m for example, notice no one responded to anything in my earlier post about my personality, just the bit about my cock?
That was only me though and I don't count
Seriously though I'm only messing with you x"
Its ok, I should probably have dedicated a whole thread to that above issue - it would probably have turned into a fight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only signed up to verify a friend, accidentally ended up in an 8 month relationship which recently ended and I suppose that was a 'success'. We also met a lovely couple, and had lots of fun together. I guess my problem is after all that, my confidence is really shook, and I feel fairly unattractive, and I'm starting to 'know' it too.
I guess as well I don't know what I want, it fluctuates from day to day, from anonymous nsa sex to make me feel better (which I've been steering clear of), or something more long term than that. I don't really send out messages because I think 'who would want to talk to me? I don't really have anything to say', so like NN, I wait for men to message me, but 95% are just not what I'm looking for.
Also the whole 'meeting' bit causes me huge anxiety, especially if I feel I have to perform in a sexual context... My brain is full of what ifs and maybes, and its massively detrimental to me. So for now all I want from fab is somewhere where I can express myself and feel sexy, and if anything tumbles into my lap again, then I'll take it but I'm certainly not on the hunt. |
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