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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What are your thoughts on being asked to show face pics early on in a conversation? As in:
"Hi, how are you?"
"Good thanks"
"Great, got any face pics?"
We are very private people and whilst we understand why people would like to see our face pics; we're not going to eagerly produce them before we have any idea if the conversation is going anywhere. Obviously some people will say the conversation can't go anywhere unless they know what we look like, but is it unreasonable to want to establish mutual interests first? We're not f-ugly nor are we super models and we've got plenty of other pics on our profile for people to get an idea whether they'd be turned on in our company... |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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If you don't have time for a quick social or don't meet in clubs then I guess swapping face pics relatively early cuts down on the backtracking later when after several messages you find there's no attraction.
Horses for courses really.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it was somebody interested in meeting I would expect a picture with a first message why waste a load of time ping ponging messages to find out there is no attraction .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was somebody interested in meeting I would expect a picture with a first message why waste a load of time ping ponging messages to find out there is no attraction ...."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree, attraction is important but just asking for a pic straight away is a bit tactless.
Screams pic collector!
Don't want to hijack the thread but I get back 'your cute' constantly.. makes me hesitant to sending straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have a good selection of pics on your profile so I would say people could get a good idea of attraction to you without needing to see a face shot straight up. "
That's what we feel. It's like we're meeting half way by putting 11/12 pics on our profile and then we get couples with nothing but a cock shot pushing for a face pic. Half the time they haven't read our profile and have something on theirs that makes it questionable whether we'd be suitable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Agree, attraction is important but just asking for a pic straight away is a bit tactless.
Screams pic collector!
Don't want to hijack the thread but I get back 'your cute' constantly.. makes me hesitant to sending straight away."
Re: being tactless - this is our main objection, it just makes us wonder whether they care about our pleasure or just their own, or whether they would have bad social skills if we did go for a social meet. It's not the be all and end all, but it does raise the question. Normally we stay on the cautious side and hit block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The conversation highlighted in the OP wouldn't get a response from us, as they should send theirs with the request.
Having said that, if there's an initial attraction body-wise the sooner the better to find out if there's an attraction face-wise otherwise everyone's time is just wasted.
See if there's a mutual attraction, if not, no bother, if there is, great. But it is important (to some, others not so much, each to their own). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never send face pics, nor do I request them. Happy to meet for a social or if they don't like me they can always walk away!!"
Have to be a fairly desperate guy to meet someone without even knowing what they look like. Someone willing to do that is someone we definitely would not be even remotely interested in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Face picture for me once I am enjoying chatting to the person(s).
Once they have my attention and the conversation is in full flow and I know I could meet these people and get on that's when I ask to see there face picture.
I understand many do not like sending them and can understand, if that is the case.
You should then say we will go on Skype now and say hi.
Its a shame that people are worried and so they should the amount of wasters on this site, stealing pictures putting them on twitter etc.
Not getting on one here but the owners of the site need to police the site better and it can be done.
If they did that no doubt I would pay a donation each month towards the site and for the up keep.
But right now, it debatable to come of and just go to clubs as that is where there are genuine people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've never asked for a face pic first and don't send them to anyone that asks without sending theirs first. We also find it's the ones with an empty profile that ask the most |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never send face pics, nor do I request them. Happy to meet for a social or if they don't like me they can always walk away!!
Have to be a fairly desperate guy to meet someone without even knowing what they look like. Someone willing to do that is someone we definitely would not be even remotely interested in."
Not really, just some people are here to have sex not enter a beauty contest!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never send face pics, nor do I request them. Happy to meet for a social or if they don't like me they can always walk away!!
Have to be a fairly desperate guy to meet someone without even knowing what they look like. Someone willing to do that is someone we definitely would not be even remotely interested in.
Not really, just some people are here to have sex not enter a beauty contest!!
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Yes but most people like to see who they are meeting surely?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, as you can see we all do what we're comfortable with. If you don't like someone's approach then you don't have to take things any further."
The problem isn't that we don't know where the block button is! We're just trying to test whether most people, on balance, think the scenario described at the start is bad manners |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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We would want to see face pics early on in email exchange and if someone is going to ask then we would want to see one attached to their email request otherwise it makes us suspicious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, as you can see we all do what we're comfortable with. If you don't like someone's approach then you don't have to take things any further.
The problem isn't that we don't know where the block button is! We're just trying to test whether most people, on balance, think the scenario described at the start is bad manners"
In that case no it's not bad manners to ask. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, as you can see we all do what we're comfortable with. If you don't like someone's approach then you don't have to take things any further.
The problem isn't that we don't know where the block button is! We're just trying to test whether most people, on balance, think the scenario described at the start is bad manners
In that case no it's not bad manners to ask."
Even after one line of prior conversation and without sending your own? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people ask me for face pics straight away it annoys me intensely.
If you're chatting to me, presumably it means that you somewhat liked the pics I have on display and my profile, great start, but now lets chat a little bit and see if we feel any chemistry first, and let the face pic exchange happen naturally, a much better way to build attraction than the cold, antiseptic practice of insisting on seeing them before you even start a dialogue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If people ask me for face pics straight away it annoys me intensely.
If you're chatting to me, presumably it means that you somewhat liked the pics I have on display and my profile, great start, but now lets chat a little bit and see if we feel any chemistry first, and let the face pic exchange happen naturally, a much better way to build attraction than the cold, antiseptic practice of insisting on seeing them before you even start a dialogue."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just to be clear, we don't mind being asked for face pics - just we expect a bit of prior conversation to establish mutual interests and they should be willing to show theirs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with a lot of the posts here - I'd much rather email back and forth for a while to get a "feel" for the person/couple before sending face pics. Unfortunately most profiles seem to demand one immediately which is a shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, as you can see we all do what we're comfortable with. If you don't like someone's approach then you don't have to take things any further.
The problem isn't that we don't know where the block button is! We're just trying to test whether most people, on balance, think the scenario described at the start is bad manners
In that case no it's not bad manners to ask.
Even after one line of prior conversation and without sending your own? "
No it's still not bad manners to ask. If anything it may be a but brusque and direct. You don't have to send one just because they have asked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, as you can see we all do what we're comfortable with. If you don't like someone's approach then you don't have to take things any further.
The problem isn't that we don't know where the block button is! We're just trying to test whether most people, on balance, think the scenario described at the start is bad manners
In that case no it's not bad manners to ask.
Even after one line of prior conversation and without sending your own?
No it's still not bad manners to ask. If anything it may be a but brusque and direct. You don't have to send one just because they have asked. "
OK we have opinions for and against - that's what forums are for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to be clear, we don't mind being asked for face pics - just we expect a bit of prior conversation to establish mutual interests and they should be willing to show theirs"
Absolutely, and NEVER ask someone for face pics unless you've already decided that you're going to show yours to them, its extremely off putting when you get into a silly tug of war with someone over 'you send first/no I never send first/well you must be a minger then bye BLOCK'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to be clear, we don't mind being asked for face pics - just we expect a bit of prior conversation to establish mutual interests and they should be willing to show theirs
Absolutely, and NEVER ask someone for face pics unless you've already decided that you're going to show yours to them, its extremely off putting when you get into a silly tug of war with someone over 'you send first/no I never send first/well you must be a minger then bye BLOCK' "
Ha ha ha does that actually happen??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are your thoughts on being asked to show face pics early on in a conversation? As in:
"Hi, how are you?"
"Good thanks"
"Great, got any face pics?"
We are very private people and whilst we understand why people would like to see our face pics; we're not going to eagerly produce them before we have any idea if the conversation is going anywhere. Obviously some people will say the conversation can't go anywhere unless they know what we look like, but is it unreasonable to want to establish mutual interests first? We're not f-ugly nor are we super models and we've got plenty of other pics on our profile for people to get an idea whether they'd be turned on in our company..."
It used to bother me but the more time goes on the easier I find it to trust people, thankfully we don't seem to have had any odd ones only people actually interested in meeting. I do feel like you can see a lot more about the kind of person by their face than their bodies so I always appreciate being sent a face pic ... Completely understand why it's unsettling though x |
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Its ok sending face pics till it goes wrong we had bad time once sending ours.
And also we went to meet a guy and he was nothing like his photos they had to get the police to him he was asking couples in a bar if they wanted there wife fucking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to be clear, we don't mind being asked for face pics - just we expect a bit of prior conversation to establish mutual interests and they should be willing to show theirs
Absolutely, and NEVER ask someone for face pics unless you've already decided that you're going to show yours to them, its extremely off putting when you get into a silly tug of war with someone over 'you send first/no I never send first/well you must be a minger then bye BLOCK'
Ha ha ha does that actually happen?? "
It does when you're a single male! |
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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago
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I have face pics on my profile, I do like to see someone else face pics as part of a conversation. I can't have a conversation or decide to meet someone based on a cock shot, i go to a club and meet people face to face so I do expect the same from here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its ok sending face pics till it goes wrong we had bad time once sending ours.
And also we went to meet a guy and he was nothing like his photos they had to get the police to him he was asking couples in a bar if they wanted there wife fucking"
That's when you need a block button for real life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And also we went to meet a guy and he was nothing like his photos they had to get the police to him he was asking couples in a bar if they wanted there wife fucking"
Sounds like the police where there for his protection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never send face pics, nor do I request them. Happy to meet for a social or if they don't like me they can always walk away!!
Have to be a fairly desperate guy to meet someone without even knowing what they look like. Someone willing to do that is someone we definitely would not be even remotely interested in.
Not really, just some people are here to have sex not enter a beauty contest!!
Maybe they do, but I prefer to judge someone on their other attributes.
Yes but most people like to see who they are meeting surely? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often message guys first and will always attach a face pic. If I'm not for them then no time is wasted. I only message guys who have face pics in public so I know if they're for me. I think its only polite that if you message someone first and you have none on your profile, you attach one and if you're going to ask for one, attach one with that message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer to swap early. No point in chatting if I don't find them attractive."
I won't get into much of a conversation if I can't see who I'm speaking to. I may go about it differently to the conversation in the OP, but I don't want to run the risk of telling a work colleague my kinks and interests then sending a face pic over! Plus for me there is no chemistry without facial attraction...maybe I'm shallow but so be it. I also want to give those I'm messaging the option to tell me I'm not their type too before we spend too much time on idle chat.
None of my face pics are remotely sexual though so I think that takes a bit of pressure off with the whole pic swap thing...I don't share anything naughty that my Mum could identify me from so it wouldn't matter if my face pics turned up on twitter, they could have been taken from facebook. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't reply if there's not a face pic in the first message as stated on my profile. My face pics are public and i won't waste my time with people too scared to show themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't reply if there's not a face pic in the first message as stated on my profile. My face pics are public and i won't waste my time with people too scared to show themselves. "
Makes me laugh sometimes the amount of crap some people come out with as an excuse not to send one. I'm guessing they're not serious about meeting so leave them to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't reply if there's not a face pic in the first message as stated on my profile. My face pics are public and i won't waste my time with people too scared to show themselves.
Makes me laugh sometimes the amount of crap some people come out with as an excuse not to send one. I'm guessing they're not serious about meeting so leave them to it. "
Because of my job is my fav one. Sorry Mr Obama i didnt realise you were on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't reply if there's not a face pic in the first message as stated on my profile. My face pics are public and i won't waste my time with people too scared to show themselves.
Makes me laugh sometimes the amount of crap some people come out with as an excuse not to send one. I'm guessing they're not serious about meeting so leave them to it.
Because of my job is my fav one. Sorry Mr Obama i didnt realise you were on fab."
Haha, if I get that one I then say well how are you going to meet for a social drink, with a bag on your head lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't reply if there's not a face pic in the first message as stated on my profile. My face pics are public and i won't waste my time with people too scared to show themselves.
Makes me laugh sometimes the amount of crap some people come out with as an excuse not to send one. I'm guessing they're not serious about meeting so leave them to it.
Because of my job is my fav one. Sorry Mr Obama i didnt realise you were on fab.
Haha, if I get that one I then say well how are you going to meet for a social drink, with a bag on your head lol"
I don't want my neighbours to know i'm on here. Ok but that would mean they were on here too and have what to say? |
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"It still amazes me the amount of people who message me and don't send a face photo even when asked. No face photo no problem but message someone else. "
Very true. I often wonder why people waste time by not having a face picture to send  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""I'll send one to you on kik whatsapp email facebook snapchat"
"No. You won't""
Haha, I've had that one too. Haven't got any on here, don't trust the site blah blah fucking blah! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We ask for face pics straight up. Pointless entering into a chat without seeing who it is you're chatting too, need to see if there's an attraction to save time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it does pay to be careful, I'm a teacher and on previous sites I was a member I was approached by a student that I recognised, reputation matters and people don't want someone who is a "sexual deviant" teaching there children..... loss of job is motivation enough for me to hand them out in a more private manner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It still amazes me the amount of people who message me and don't send a face photo even when asked. No face photo no problem but message someone else. Very true. I often wonder why people waste time by not having a face picture to send "
Because there is nowhere on site rules that says you must have a face pic.
What amazes me is the amount of guys that ask us for a face pic,even though our profile says we won't send one. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"It still amazes me the amount of people who message me and don't send a face photo even when asked. No face photo no problem but message someone else. Very true. I often wonder why people waste time by not having a face picture to send
Because there is nowhere on site rules that says you must have a face pic.
What amazes me is the amount of guys that ask us for a face pic,even though our profile says we won't send one. "
Ok, devils advocate (I haven't read the whole thread) How do people know who they are meant to be meeting? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It still amazes me the amount of people who message me and don't send a face photo even when asked. No face photo no problem but message someone else. Very true. I often wonder why people waste time by not having a face picture to send
Because there is nowhere on site rules that says you must have a face pic.
What amazes me is the amount of guys that ask us for a face pic,even though our profile says we won't send one.
Ok, devils advocate (I haven't read the whole thread) How do people know who they are meant to be meeting?"
Can't speak for others,but in our case,because we make it clear we don't send face pics,it's up to them wether they get in contact or not.We aren't forcing anyone to contact us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It still amazes me the amount of people who message me and don't send a face photo even when asked. No face photo no problem but message someone else. Very true. I often wonder why people waste time by not having a face picture to send
Because there is nowhere on site rules that says you must have a face pic.
What amazes me is the amount of guys that ask us for a face pic,even though our profile says we won't send one.
Ok, devils advocate (I haven't read the whole thread) How do people know who they are meant to be meeting?
Can't speak for others,but in our case,because we make it clear we don't send face pics,it's up to them wether they get in contact or not.We aren't forcing anyone to contact us."
So you dont ask for a face pic either? How does either party know who theyre meeting? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's almost like blind date. What happens when everyone turns up and realises there's no interest? Seems a lot of effort that can be saves by simply exchanging face pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It still amazes me the amount of people who message me and don't send a face photo even when asked. No face photo no problem but message someone else. Very true. I often wonder why people waste time by not having a face picture to send
Because there is nowhere on site rules that says you must have a face pic.
What amazes me is the amount of guys that ask us for a face pic,even though our profile says we won't send one.
Ok, devils advocate (I haven't read the whole thread) How do people know who they are meant to be meeting?
Can't speak for others,but in our case,because we make it clear we don't send face pics,it's up to them wether they get in contact or not.We aren't forcing anyone to contact us.
So you dont ask for a face pic either? How does either party know who theyre meeting?"
We mostly meet at parties or clubs.We do ok.again,if someone doesn't like the way we swing,don't get in touch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's almost like blind date. What happens when everyone turns up and realises there's no interest? Seems a lot of effort that can be saves by simply exchanging face pics."
Easy.walk away,no harm done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had ping pong msg's asked for a face pic and they sent one that full body so far away from the cam u couldn't see his bloody face  brill had to ask again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's almost like blind date. What happens when everyone turns up and realises there's no interest? Seems a lot of effort that can be saves by simply exchanging face pics."
Absolutely! I dont have time to be meeting whoever asks! And how didappoibting must it be when a guy turns up and says no? Although in fairness any single guy who's prepared to get all dolled up to meet a complete stranger he's never seen will probably stay for the sex regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's almost like blind date. What happens when everyone turns up and realises there's no interest? Seems a lot of effort that can be saves by simply exchanging face pics.
Easy.walk away,no harm done."
How do you recognise each other, wear a pink carnation??! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like I said, a lot of effort just to waste everyone's time. I don't understand the reluctance to share face pics, almost like meeting with a bag on your head so people don't recognise you?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's almost like blind date. What happens when everyone turns up and realises there's no interest? Seems a lot of effort that can be saves by simply exchanging face pics.
Easy.walk away,no harm done.
How do you recognise each other, wear a pink carnation??! "
Yeah,because communication is a no no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's almost like blind date. What happens when everyone turns up and realises there's no interest? Seems a lot of effort that can be saves by simply exchanging face pics.
Absolutely! I dont have time to be meeting whoever asks! And how didappoibting must it be when a guy turns up and says no? Although in fairness any single guy who's prepared to get all dolled up to meet a complete stranger he's never seen will probably stay for the sex regardless. "
Yep they do... thankfully....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get enough messages with pics to ignore anyone who doesn't send me one with a first message.
It's highly unlikely i'd even reply to anyone without one unless their message was really fun and made me want to reply. I have met a few people whose conversation was that good i didn't even realise they hadn't sent me pics or i hadn't seen them. |
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