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Straight couples that blatantly aren't straight

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just wondering how common these seem to be. Met a couple on here which said they were both straight and 'conveniently' as soon as she steps out of the room to get something the husband asks me if he can suck my cock.

Maybe I'm being old fashioned but surely this doesn't make him straight...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wondering how common these seem to be. Met a couple on here which said they were both straight and 'conveniently' as soon as she steps out of the room to get something the husband asks me if he can suck my cock.

Maybe I'm being old fashioned but surely this doesn't make him straight...

Depends if you agreed or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You'd be well within your rights to tell the chap to fuck off. It's just not on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah why not? That's a big cock! Sucking cock isn't gay! You're only gay if you wear skinny jeans.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Fuck me can you blame him he probably wanted to see if he could do as good as job as the misses with that beast

Call it physical challenge

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You'd be well within your rights to tell the chap to fuck off. It's just not on. "

I just pushed him away and told him I was straight and he apologised. I just don't get why guys do it.

Thanks for the compliments by the others though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah why not? That's a big cock! Sucking cock isn't gay! You're only gay if you wear skinny jeans."

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"You'd be well within your rights to tell the chap to fuck off. It's just not on.

I just pushed him away and told him I was straight and he apologised. I just don't get why guys do it.

Thanks for the compliments by the others though

All jokes aside tho they should of made their sexuality known really before hand so you hand a choice whether you were comfortable with it or not. That's if the missus knows he's bi/bicurious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I look for the signs early on, before the meets arranged..

I dunno why some people can decide to ruin a perfectly good meet with that level of deception...

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Normally I would say no harm in asking but if you had to physically push him away then he had massively overstepped the mark.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If that's what he wanted to do he should have asked beforehand. Just not on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks all, I probably should have started to realise but at the same time don't have thay much experience with the whole swinging thing, safe to say I haven't experienced anything like it before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks all, I probably should have started to realise but at the same time don't have thay much experience with the whole swinging thing, safe to say I haven't experienced anything like it before."

Was the wife a model?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah why not? That's a big cock! Sucking cock isn't gay! You're only gay if you wear skinny jeans."

Sucking cock doesn't make you gay. It's only gay if you make eye contact

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

Maybe I'm being old fashioned but surely this doesn't make him straight...

Depends if you agreed or not. "

i shouldn't but i did giggle..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks all, I probably should have started to realise but at the same time don't have thay much experience with the whole swinging thing, safe to say I haven't experienced anything like it before.

Was the wife a model?

The wife used to be a model apparently...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

we had a similar situation when we first started out, he had said he was straight as was she which at the time we mostly were..

anyway she pops upstairs to the loo and he joins in with Lynn giving me oral, to be honest it was the first time it had happened and was pretty awesome until the lady came into the room and saw what was going on..

she then slapped him hard and stormed off to bed..

end of playtime..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is there a reason a couple would lie about this? It is a bit annoying...as a straight couple, the number of bi guys who ask if Marc is bi is astounding! I used to wonder why they would ask since our profile says straight, but now having been on fab for a while I can see that they still ask because lots of men who say they are straight aren't.

Honestly, I have absolutely no problem with any sexuality, but it does get old having to tell people Marc is straight.

-Courtney

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By *athanscott8Man over a year ago

west

Most even straight guys would be mesmerised with your huge cock mate....so it's your own fault for being horse hung

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we had a similar situation when we first started out, he had said he was straight as was she which at the time we mostly were..

she then slapped him hard and stormed off to bed..

end of playtime.."

Did they leave a verification?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sad as it is.. when a profile says straight you really never know.

Obviously there are many reasons people lie about their sexuality or have a different idea of what is bi or gay or whatever, depends on firstly their own interpretation of what bi is and/or their ability to be honest witg themselves.

I personally try to ask before a meet and without actually saying ' oi chap am I going to look down and find you hanging face first off my cock"

Should we have to ask.. maybe, maybe not but with so many people being bi and not admitting it on their profile its easier for us to ask before hand at least we all know for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think some consider themselves straight unless they are married to same sex partner. But i imagine it's worse when people say they are bi but aren't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We need to get all the offenders who say they are straight (when they are really bi) to swap with all the straight guys ( who say they are bi to get with the f of a bi-couple)

Then the world will be all happy smiley fucky sucky.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i would have gone along with it. fr me when in a bedroom whatever happends happends. enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got messaged by a couple that claimed to be streight... but in the message they asked if i wud please the missy so to speak... I replied: surely that makes her bi curious if not bi... They replied doesnt make her bi if another lady goes down on her!!!! Haha come on wake up shes clearly bi curious... After reading there veris shes obviously bi.

Made me giggle as the only way to get me to urs is to tell me missy is bi as im just not that into men!

But now on here most wud reply with u got veris from a man, just to point out its my male fb the one and only guy i fuck hehe x

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Joking aside, it would make it a better place for us all if people were honest about their sexuality.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I look for the signs early on, before the meets arranged..

I dunno why some people can decide to ruin a perfectly good meet with that level of deception...

"
what are the signs of bi-ness? Do you mean like veris and stuff?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All the limits should be discussed beforehand really, and something like the guy wanting to suck cock definitely has to be mentioned. Some men are open to it and some could (out of pure instinctive reaction) react violently to it, so to not discuss it first is very bad.

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I look for the signs early on, before the meets arranged..

I dunno why some people can decide to ruin a perfectly good meet with that level of deception...

what are the signs of bi-ness? Do you mean like veris and stuff? "

A cat of 9 on a sexy arse is a sure sign of bi-ness hehe

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I look for the signs early on, before the meets arranged..

I dunno why some people can decide to ruin a perfectly good meet with that level of deception...

what are the signs of bi-ness? Do you mean like veris and stuff?

A cat of 9 on a sexy arse is a sure sign

of bi-ness hehe

Woof!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"we had a similar situation when we first started out, he had said he was straight as was she which at the time we mostly were..

she then slapped him hard and stormed off to bed..

end of playtime..

Did they leave a verification?

it was in the days of magazines..

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

There are many on the forum who get aggressively shirty about people wanting to apply labels. This is precisely why labels, and honest labels, are essential. If a man admits to being bi then we can have the conversation and explain that we simply don't go there - if they claim to be straight we feel we don't need a conversation.

Why is it a problem to be honest about your sexuality on a sex site?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are many on the forum who get aggressively shirty about people wanting to apply labels. This is precisely why labels, and honest labels, are essential. If a man admits to being bi then we can have the conversation and explain that we simply don't go there - if they claim to be straight we feel we don't need a conversation.

Why is it a problem to be honest about your sexuality on a sex site?"

Because for men there are many different levels of bi.

I, for example would happily take part in a DV both cocks in the vagina at once. Some people consider that as being a bi trait as two cocks would be rubbing together. I have also licked my wife while someone else fucks her though I didn't touch his dick (quite hard to do with all the grinding about she was doing haha). If someone really wanted to I'd let him suck my dick or take my cum on his face, but I ain't bi.

So it's a huge grey area, but if people put 'bi' on their profiles people automatically assume they'll give and take it up the arse etc and from the lads I've spoken to that is actually quite rare (although I haven't spoken to many).

That's why I say people need to just discuss it as the labels don't quite fit all the options.

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

Why is it a problem to be honest about your sexuality on a sex site?

Because for men there are many different levels of bi.

That's why I say people need to just discuss it as the labels don't quite fit all the options."

Sorry, but from our perspective you are deluded. If you'd let a guy suck your cock you are committing yourself to a homosexual act - by definition. That means you are at the very least bicurious or if you have gone beyond the curious stage, bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, but from our perspective you are deluded."

Lol, well ok, luckily I don't have to live my life from your perspective.

No male has ever sucked my dick, I'm just saying if somebody asked me to and it was an mmf situation I wouldn't have a problem with it. Not because I am bi, I'm not. Because I am fully assured of my sexuality, and don't need labels other people create to define who I am. I am unique, just like everybody else.

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

"Sorry, but from our perspective you are deluded.

Lol, well ok, luckily I don't have to live my life from your perspective.

My partner is fully assured of his sexuality too and doesn't need a man to suck his dick to prove it - moreover bi male sex is a total turn off for both of us.

And, by the way, if you are just like everyone else, you aren't unique - or was that a joke?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My partner is fully assured of his sexuality too and doesn't need a man to suck his dick to prove it - moreover bi male sex is a total turn off for both of us.

And, by the way, if you are just like everyone else, you aren't unique - or was that a joke?!"

I'm really pleased for you, so you want to really really make sure nobody says or does anything remotely bi near you two. I think we all got that message loud and clear. Maybe reply again to re-iterate it just to be on the safe side.

Your unique question, I think the only response is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe I'm being old fashioned but surely this doesn't make him straight..."

There's also a lot of single guys that say their straight when their not as well

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

some people lie to get what they want...

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Is there a reason a couple would lie about this? It is a bit annoying...as a straight couple, the number of bi guys who ask if Marc is bi is astounding! I used to wonder why they would ask since our profile says straight, but now having been on fab for a while I can see that they still ask because lots of men who say they are straight aren't.

Honestly, I have absolutely no problem with any sexuality, but it does get old having to tell people Marc is straight.

-Courtney "

That's because one half think you are lying and the other half think that there is not such thing as a straight guy

You're right though it does get old!

Some have gone on so much that in the end you just have to politely tell them to Fek off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My partner is fully assured of his sexuality too and doesn't need a man to suck his dick to prove it - moreover bi male sex is a total turn off for both of us.

And, by the way, if you are just like everyone else, you aren't unique - or was that a joke?!

Your unique question, I think the only response is

Can I just jump in and say that it is fine of some people are turned off by bi/gay play, and it is fine if some people like it. I don't think either of you disagree. The issue is more about clarity, I think. That way no one gets what they don't want. That is why the straight/bi label is in question here. And if neither works for some, then perhaps fab should allow for different answers? I mean, I really don't want to start and argument here, but I wouldn't say that letting a guy suck another guy's cock would make him straight. But if you don't think that is bi either then maybe a different name is needed? For the sake of clarity?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've been chatting to a couple near us, whose profile says they're both straight. "A" found that the chap also had a single profile, and it says he's bi-curious. When she asked him about this, he promptly blocked us!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We believe in honesty and openness, something we agreed when we first got togther and somethingn we still believe now.

Me (hub) im bi and always have been though not remotely interested in men emotionally, guess I'm just greedy

RG is curious and still hasn't dipped her toe, think she enjoys the attention of all the men too much, something I don't mind as I prefer to watch her anyway.

We are listed as such so people can then make their own mind up as to wether they fancy meeting up.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

We've always felt that one of the biggest things for us in swinging is honesty. That starts with yourself. If you can't be honest with yourself then how the hell are you going to be honest with others.

At the end of the day if you enjoy and/or desire sexual contact with both sex's then you are Bi or Bi-curious in the least. That's not us claiming it that is the definition in the dictionary.

Lying about it or not being open with it is never going to end well once play starts.

Halfway through a play session is not the time to find out if the other guy maybe straight or Bi. Because if you are wrong it is going to kill the moment pretty much straight away. It would for me anyway I cannot stand deceitfulness.

no issue with playing alongside Bi guys at all but just be honest and respect other people's sexual orientation...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly, at the end of the day, we feel no need to keep secrets from one and other so why hide who you are to a forum full of strangers?! Sure a lot of people will be put off by sexual orientation but by the same token, I'd much prefer to meet someone who is comfortable with it than meet while hiding things.

It happens a lot with single men, the amount that list as straight but then message saying they're curious or they are actually bi, a lot of the time they're just saying it to get into RG's knickers.

"We've always felt that one of the biggest things for us in swinging is honesty. That starts with yourself. If you can't be honest with yourself then how the hell are you going to be honest with others.

At the end of the day if you enjoy and/or desire sexual contact with both sex's then you are Bi or Bi-curious in the least. That's not us claiming it that is the definition in the dictionary.

Lying about it or not being open with it is never going to end well once play starts.

no issue with playing alongside Bi guys at all but just be honest and respect other people's sexual orientation..."

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Exactly, at the end of the day, we feel no need to keep secrets from one and other so why hide who you are to a forum full of strangers?! Sure a lot of people will be put off by sexual orientation but by the same token, I'd much prefer to meet someone who is comfortable with it than meet while hiding things.

It happens a lot with single men, the amount that list as straight but then message saying they're curious or they are actually bi, a lot of the time they're just saying it to get into RG's knickers.

At the end of the day if you enjoy and/or desire sexual contact with both sex's then you are Bi or Bi-curious in the least. That's not us claiming it that is the definition in the dictionary.

Lying about it or not being open with it is never going to end well once play starts.

no issue with playing alongside Bi guys at all but just be honest and respect other people's sexual orientation..."

Conversely that must really piss you off when a guy identifies as Bi and turns up only wanting the lady of the partnership!

How the hell do you find the genuine people on here!? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh it does, though it's kind of how we discovered our cuckolding likes too. We met with one guy who actually became quite a regular who identified as being bi curious, obv when we got down to it and we started to play we discovered he was unable to keep it up with MM contact so I obviously gave them space as they clearly fancied each other. Having to sit on the side line I discovered my enjoyment of actually watching as RG made love which is what they did as the chemistry was insane between them.

Finding bi guys, and particularly one you both fancy and get along with is a mine field though, something referred to as the unicorn in the poly world. It is something we discuss and seek though, having someone as more of a third person in the relationship.

RG was talking the other day about how nice it would be to find a man who we could call a friend but also a lover, someone we both enjoy sex with. Her words were, it would be great to be comfortable enough that if I wasn't really in the mood, you two could just go to the bedroom and play.

Ah you can but dream

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Oh it does, though it's kind of how we discovered our cuckolding likes too. We met with one guy who actually became quite a regular who identified as being bi curious, obv when we got down to it and we started to play we discovered he was unable to keep it up with MM contact so I obviously gave them space as they clearly fancied each other. Having to sit on the side line I discovered my enjoyment of actually watching as RG made love which is what they did as the chemistry was insane between them.

Ah you can but dream

We'll take the female version! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have one moto, you have one life so be true to yourself and each other. One day we will both be too old and grey to care about if we are bi or straight or just down right filthy as we will have done it the way we wanted too.

Unfortunately a lot of people on here live behind lies, the amount of fake couple profiles where the guy is allowed to play (yeh right) or the men who are going behind the wives back. It's the one reason we both opened our relationship from the start as monogamy doesn't suit us both, never has so why limit your self to one sexual partner if you have a need for more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to clarify, I have not ever had a bi experience. I said I'd allow a guy in an mmf situation if he really wanted to, have a suck on my cock. If that would fulfil a fantasy of his, as it wouldn't bother me, I'd allow it.

The point I was also making, which was in earlier posts, was, these sort of things need to be discussed BEFORE an actual meet. Some people have an averse reaction as we've seen from the couple from Leeds, I'm not saying they're wrong to feel that way, I just reacted to them saying I was 'deluded', they're perfectly within their rights to feel that way.

So, again the key to it all is communication. Our mmf's so far there hasn't even been so much as a hint of anything remotely bi, nothing was discussed beforehand, so there was no chance of anything like that happening.

A guy who describes himself as 'bi-curious' has asked if I'd allow it during play and I thought about it and I thought why not? So, if that makes me 'bi' then it would probably classify as 'contextually bi' which I think I saw on another thread somewhere. But I don't 'play straight', I AM straight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh so you're looking for the same but in reverse? As we have never tried I assume it's equally as hard. Also referred to as a unicorn.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

He asked, you said no thanks. No harm done. I don't think you can catch the ghey from being in the same room.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ahh so you're looking for the same but in reverse? As we have never tried I assume it's equally as hard. Also referred to as a unicorn.

I'm not looking for anything other than straight sex.

I do however pride myself on being open to new experiences and will consider anything properly before I just dismiss it out of hand. Don't knock it til you tried it type thing.

I considered the guy's request and said I'd allow it. It might be the case if that happened I'd be freaked out and it never happen again, but at least I'd know I tried it, and because it was asked beforehand there'd be no comebacks on the guy even if I was freaked out by it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He asked, you said no thanks. No harm done."

BOOM! The most insightful comment of the day!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry that was meant in reply to the couple above but didn't quote them.

Tbh, if you're open to it then it's simply finding the right couple to explore it. Relaxed enough and hormones flowing it's all just sexy fun.

"Ahh so you're looking for the same but in reverse? As we have never tried I assume it's equally as hard. Also referred to as a unicorn.

I'm not looking for anything other than straight sex.

I do however pride myself on being open to new experiences and will consider anything properly before I just dismiss it out of hand. Don't knock it til you tried it type thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ahh so you're looking for the same but in reverse? As we have never tried I assume it's equally as hard. Also referred to as a unicorn.

I'm not looking for anything other than straight sex.

I do however pride myself on being open to new experiences and will consider anything properly before I just dismiss it out of hand. Don't knock it til you tried it type thing.

Calm down. I think they were ttalking to Phoenixcouple and your post got in between

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Correct! No harm done though, I've poss rambled on enough anyway.

"Ahh so you're looking for the same but in reverse? As we have never tried I assume it's equally as hard. Also referred to as a unicorn.

I'm not looking for anything other than straight sex.

I do however pride myself on being open to new experiences and will consider anything properly before I just dismiss it out of hand. Don't knock it til you tried it type thing.

Calm down. I think they were ttalking to Phoenixcouple and your post got in between

-Courtney"

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

Replied in private to avoid a thread hijack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Calm down. "

Not sure which part of my reply you considered not calm, but anyway your point is noted.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"He asked, you said no thanks. No harm done. I don't think you can catch the ghey from being in the same room.

He asked as soon as his wife stepped out of the room...

Potentially massive harm done!

Unless of course his wife was fully aware that he was going to ask. In which case why not just make it clear before the meet so there was a lot more chance of the answer being yes when you actually got to the meet?

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By *6and93Couple over a year ago

Taunton

"Yeah why not? That's a big cock! Sucking cock isn't gay! You're only gay if you wear skinny jeans.

Sucking cock doesn't make you gay. It's only gay if you make eye contact"

lol!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Which eye?

"Yeah why not? That's a big cock! Sucking cock isn't gay! You're only gay if you wear skinny jeans.

Sucking cock doesn't make you gay. It's only gay if you make eye contact

lol!!

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By *etitmortCouple over a year ago

ipswich

"He asked, you said no thanks. No harm done. I don't think you can catch the ghey from being in the same room.

He asked as soon as his wife stepped out of the room...

Potentially massive harm done!

It might just have been a spur of the moment thing. Quite possibly , he wanted to see what it was like.

No harm in asking , if he'd just made a grab for it fair enough but no need to be so defensive.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"He asked, you said no thanks. No harm done. I don't think you can catch the ghey from being in the same room.

He asked as soon as his wife stepped out of the room...

Potentially massive harm done!

It might just have been a spur of the moment thing. Quite possibly , he wanted to see what it was like.

No harm in asking , if he'd just made a grab for it fair enough but no need to be so defensive."

I wasn't being particularly defensive.

We just prefer to be open and honest in our play. If it was a spur of the moment thing, then cool. Ask when everyone is present.... Instead of being sneaky and potentially causing a huge argument when his wife returns.

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

At the end of the day if you enjoy and/or desire sexual contact with both sex's then you are Bi or Bi-curious in the least. That's not us claiming it that is the definition in the dictionary.

Lying about it or not being open with it is never going to end well once play starts.

no issue with playing alongside Bi guys at all but just be honest and respect other people's sexual orientation..."

Exactly right!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's probably best to put bicurious at least and then clarify the wills and wont's in your profile if that is the case. As above, clarity and truthfulness make for a better experience for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Wow...didn't realise this would cause as much controversy as it is but I'm glad I'm not the only one who was frustrated with this anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We couldn't decide how to put my orientation as its quite tricky.

Put bi and people automatically think anal is on the cards (its not)

Bi curious implies that im exploring and don't know what I like yet..

As these are the two choices fab give I went with an explanation in the profile which I hope kind of explains where im at.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We couldn't decide how to put my orientation as its quite tricky.

Put bi and people automatically think anal is on the cards (its not)

Bi curious implies that im exploring and don't know what I like yet..

As these are the two choices fab give I went with an explanation in the profile which I hope kind of explains where im at."

I think your approach is great. Your profile makes your desires and interests very clear.

By the way, very well written profile!

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no problems being around naked Men,

But I would hope they were honest if he is Bi curious so I can make a informed decision about meeting them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We couldn't decide how to put my orientation as its quite tricky.

Put bi and people automatically think anal is on the cards (its not)

Bi curious implies that im exploring and don't know what I like yet..

As these are the two choices fab give I went with an explanation in the profile which I hope kind of explains where im at.

I think your approach is great. Your profile makes your desires and interests very clear.

By the way, very well written profile!

-Courtney"
thankyou

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"We couldn't decide how to put my orientation as its quite tricky.

Put bi and people automatically think anal is on the cards (its not)

Bi curious implies that im exploring and don't know what I like yet..

As these are the two choices fab give I went with an explanation in the profile which I hope kind of explains where im at.

I think your approach is great. Your profile makes your desires and interests very clear.

By the way, very well written profile!

-Courtney"

Got to agree. Couldn't ask for more to be explained really...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We couldn't decide how to put my orientation as its quite tricky.

Put bi and people automatically think anal is on the cards (its not)

Bi curious implies that im exploring and don't know what I like yet..

As these are the two choices fab give I went with an explanation in the profile which I hope kind of explains where im at.

I think your approach is great. Your profile makes your desires and interests very clear.

By the way, very well written profile!

-Courtney

Got to agree. Couldn't ask for more to be explained really..."
thankyou both x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe I'm being old fashioned but surely this doesn't make him straight..."

Some people like to convert the straight guy. It's dishonest and borderline sexual assault. I imagine a "sure thing, mind if I break your nose" would clear the matter up.

Always make sure, while arranging the meet with a couple that you are specific about what you don't like. If they then decide not to meet, you know why.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe I'm being old fashioned but surely this doesn't make him straight...

Some people like to convert the straight guy. It's dishonest and borderline sexual

assault. I imagine a "sure thing, mind if I

break your nose" would clear the matter

up.

Always make sure, while arranging the

meet with a couple that you are specific

about what you don't like. If they then

decide not to meet, you know why.

Unless they tell fibs. I got turned down and they said my left clavicle reminded them of a bone their dog left in their bed one day as their reason for not wanting to meet me. This was total tosh. They don't have a dog.

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