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Why not compliment the guys?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Unless it's just me, it's rare for people to just come over and tell a guy he's gorgeous.
When I club as a guy no one comes over just to tell me I look great or compliments my bum, legs, tattoos, whatever.
As a girl they do constantly even if they're not interested.
Why can't we all just get over whatever stops us complimenting guys and just speak up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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would a man see that as an invitation for more? I told a man at a course I was on that his aftershave smelt nice. He went all weird on me after. I said I just liked the smell I'm not coming on to you. he said it's unusual for a woman to compliment a man, so you're right there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"would a man see that as an invitation for more? I told a man at a course I was on that his aftershave smelt nice. He went all weird on me after. I said I just liked the smell I'm not coming on to you. he said it's unusual for a woman to compliment a man, so you're right there "
Exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it's more to do with men's inability to just accept a compliment as nothing more than that?"
I would be very wary of approaching a man and telling him he has a lovely bum. I might say nice shirt if I'm chatting to someone but no body references, just in case they think I'm a floozy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's strange that a woman will put herself close enough to a stranger to smell his aftershave usually.
Or that she will approach him "out in the open" for want of a better expression.
The flip side is that when a guy does it its normally seen as him having an ulterior motive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More the rarity of that happening.
Even if we cam as a couple I rarely got comments from women.
I don't blame women for it, it's understandable, most guys would follow you around for hours waiting to see if they could get some. |
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I've had a few women compliment me on my aftershave out of the blue. (One in a supermarket queue) and I never took it to be any more than a nice compliment. If they'd wanted anything more from it I assume it would have developed into more of a conversation after I said thank you.
It's not happened in a club though but I wouldn't take that any differently.
And you don't have to be that close to get the odd waft of a smell. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A few days ago I told a young guy in vanilla land that he had lovely eyes! He was flattered but it ended there! I'd like to think I can compliment people in a way which doesn't make them think I'm coming on to them - as usually I'm not!! it's always lovely to receive a genuine compliment I think! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless it's just me, it's rare for people to just come over and tell a guy he's gorgeous.
When I club as a guy no one comes over just to tell me I look great or compliments my bum, legs, tattoos, whatever.
As a girl they do constantly even if they're not interested.
Why can't we all just get over whatever stops us complimenting guys and just speak up?"
I never compliment men because I think they won't want a compliment from me
I compliment women a lot though
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't get it?
My mum, nan auntie always tell me how handsome I am  "
My nan always used to tell me I was beautiful sorry to burst your bubble but that's what nans do  |
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One of my dancing chums is always telling women how sexy they are, and one day I took a leaf out of his book and told one guy I always thought was sexy as hell. He didn't think I was coming on to him but now he always greets me with a broad grin and gives me a lovely dance  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tony here.
Don't remember much in the way of compliments over the years, was one girl who just chatted normally for a little bit then said 'your dick's mine tonight' out of the blue.
I think we get our arses felt a lot, way more than we'd get away with haha.
Was one girl in a pub in Leeds, years ago called the Observatory, probably called something else now. Was on my way to the toilet and an absolutely stunning girl, way out of my league, was in front of me. I stopped jaw open and my eyes went up from her legs to her chest to her eyes and back to her (very ample) chest...she looked at me and shoved her tits in my face and waggled them haha. I just mouthed 'thank you' and carried on to the toilet. Lol, love moments like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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In 45 years I've only been wolf whistled a couple of times as a guy.
I've been dressing for three and not gone out on the streets often but I've had loads.
I love the attention dressing as a girl brings me, I just wish it was the same as a guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless it's just me, it's rare for people to just come over and tell a guy he's gorgeous.
When I club as a guy no one comes over just to tell me I look great or compliments my bum, legs, tattoos, whatever.
As a girl they do constantly even if they're not interested.
Why can't we all just get over whatever stops us complimenting guys and just speak up?"
Because most men don't want to put their clock up mens bums |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good point OP, you've got me thinking now. I do compliment women but can't think of when I've done the same with a guy. I think I'd be worried that they would think I was trying to chat them up and be disgusted at me. 
I shall make an effort to compliment some men. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Unless it's just me, it's rare for people to just come over and tell a guy he's gorgeous.
When I club as a guy no one comes over just to tell me I look great or compliments my bum, legs, tattoos, whatever.
As a girl they do constantly even if they're not interested.
Why can't we all just get over whatever stops us complimenting guys and just speak up?
Because most men don't want to put their clock up mens bums"
Eh? The clock typo aside,,,, what on earth are you on about?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In 45 years I've only been wolf whistled a couple of times as a guy.
I've been dressing for three and not gone out on the streets often but I've had loads.
I love the attention dressing as a girl brings me, I just wish it was the same as a guy. "
If I see a tv/ cd/ ts (not sure of the correct term as it depends on each person and what they identify as) out and about, I always make a point of making eye contact and smiling. Not a compliment I know, but where I live any hint of LGBT is pretty much alien to the general population. You can almost feel the uncomfortable silence following them around. 
So hopefully my smile helps. Even just a tiny bit. Hope that makes sense. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"would a man see that as an invitation for more? I told a man at a course I was on that his aftershave smelt nice. He went all weird on me after. I said I just liked the smell I'm not coming on to you. he said it's unusual for a woman to compliment a man, so you're right there "
Pretty sure that's why.
I promise not to get weird if you compliment me though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless it's just me, it's rare for people to just come over and tell a guy he's gorgeous.
When I club as a guy no one comes over just to tell me I look great or compliments my bum, legs, tattoos, whatever.
As a girl they do constantly even if they're not interested.
Why can't we all just get over whatever stops us complimenting guys and just speak up?
Because most men don't want to put their clock up mens bums
Eh? The clock typo aside,,,, what on earth are you on about? "
Because the reason most men walk up and randomly compliment women is because they want to get laid . So they don't do it to men because the vat majority are straight.
Women don't tend to because it's. Seen as an invitation or leading a guy on |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"Unless it's just me, it's rare for people to just come over and tell a guy he's gorgeous.
When I club as a guy no one comes over just to tell me I look great or compliments my bum, legs, tattoos, whatever.
As a girl they do constantly even if they're not interested.
Why can't we all just get over whatever stops us complimenting guys and just speak up?
Because most men don't want to put their clock up mens bums"
Be rather tricky when they wanted to check the time.
Great typo! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Unless it's just me, it's rare for people to just come over and tell a guy he's gorgeous.
When I club as a guy no one comes over just to tell me I look great or compliments my bum, legs, tattoos, whatever.
As a girl they do constantly even if they're not interested.
Why can't we all just get over whatever stops us complimenting guys and just speak up?"
I'll often compliment men but usually those I know in some way, like work colleagues, Mr B's friends etc. It's not usually about their actual looks, more things like that colour suits you or your hair looks good like that etc.
On here or at parties/meets I have no problem giving men genuine compliments.
I don't feel comfortable or confident enough to give them to random strangers, while out and about. They would probably think I was a bit weird or after something.
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"So it's more to do with men's inability to just accept a compliment as nothing more than that?"
If someone complimented me, I'd be thinking 'why are they saying that?' maybe an odd thing to thin as I'm quite body confident. Maybe 'body realistic' is more accurate. I just don't beleive people when I get compliments. I've had 7. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So it's more to do with men's inability to just accept a compliment as nothing more than that?
If someone complimented me, I'd be thinking 'why are they saying that?' maybe an odd thing to thin as I'm quite body confident. Maybe 'body realistic' is more accurate. I just don't beleive people when I get compliments. I've had 7. "
Nice bum. 8  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"So it's more to do with men's inability to just accept a compliment as nothing more than that?
If someone complimented me, I'd be thinking 'why are they saying that?' maybe an odd thing to thin as I'm quite body confident. Maybe 'body realistic' is more accurate. I just don't beleive people when I get compliments. I've had 7. "
Now 8...
You have a lovely bum! Im saying it because I've perved it often enough to know. |
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From experience I think it's due to the majority of men nowadays see a compliment from the fairer sex as their cue to go further, which I can imagine would dissuade a lot of women from bothering if they thought it would bring unwanted attention,
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You floozy!
