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The importance of a social
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok they not for everyone, but for us Personally wouldn't dream of playing without one first.
We met a really nice chap, friendly and reliable.
However there was no chemistry and jools just wasn't feeling it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like having a social first. I don't drink so having met someone socially first and assessing wether the chemistry is right helps me to relax so I can enjoy the naughtiness. We have been known to have the odd short notice 'fuck and go' meet but they're never as good as ones where we've had a chance to build a rapport and sexual tension with the other person/couple...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think in a lot of cases guys think they are going to get their leg over regardless of how the social goes and dont make the effort to sell themselves so to speak  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think in a lot of cases guys think they are going to get their leg over regardless of how the social goes and dont make the effort to sell themselves so to speak "
Yeah we have found this on a few occasions, we taken ages to get ready jools especially dressed nice but not too OTT then the meet turns up in scruffy jeans and trainers!!
Think same happens at club's, just because you have got in the assumption is that play is a definite.
Appearance, attitude, smell, manners really do make the difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think in a lot of cases guys think they are going to get their leg over regardless of how the social goes and dont make the effort to sell themselves so to speak
Yeah we have found this on a few occasions, we taken ages to get ready jools especially dressed nice but not too OTT then the meet turns up in scruffy jeans and trainers!!
Think same happens at club's, just because you have got in the assumption is that play is a definite.
Appearance, attitude, smell, manners really do make the difference. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think in a lot of cases guys think they are going to get their leg over regardless of how the social goes and dont make the effort to sell themselves so to speak
Yeah we have found this on a few occasions, we taken ages to get ready jools especially dressed nice but not too OTT then the meet turns up in scruffy jeans and trainers!!
Think same happens at club's, just because you have got in the assumption is that play is a definite.
Appearance, attitude, smell, manners really do make the difference. "
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By *ames6ft5Man
over a year ago
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Don't get me wrong, I enjoy great sex.
However, I also really enjoy the whole thing around a social. The communication beforehand, the (bit of) nervousness of meeting someone new. Knowing you're both probably a bit naughtier than the average joe in the street, and at the very least have that in common.
Enjoy actually knowing there won't be sex and we'll either leave thinking maybe not but they were a nice enough person, or leaving thinking "yes" we're going to play and having met them I'm going to look forward to it all the more which will be fun in and of itself.
That is all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think you have to have a 'purely social' meet first as long as both parties are aware that 'playing' will only go ahead if there is a mutual attraction/chemistry.."
That's is one thing I have learnt along the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have socials but happy to play on that first meet also - sometimes especially meeting couples where there are 4 people to please it works better - going to a club takes all that out of the equation and combines the two - bit like fast tracking  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't get me wrong, I enjoy great sex.
However, I also really enjoy the whole thing around a social. The communication beforehand, the (bit of) nervousness of meeting someone new. Knowing you're both probably a bit naughtier than the average joe in the street, and at the very least have that in common.
Enjoy actually knowing there won't be sex and we'll either leave thinking maybe not but they were a nice enough person, or leaving thinking "yes" we're going to play and having met them I'm going to look forward to it all the more which will be fun in and of itself.
That is all. "
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We always like a social beforehand to make sure everybody is on the same page & to discuss what we all want from a meet, whether it's the same day or weeks apart it's nice to be able to gage who you are meeting before playing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok they not for everyone, but for us Personally wouldn't dream of playing without one first.
We met a really nice chap, friendly and reliable.
However there was no chemistry and jools just wasn't feeling it.
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Totally agree if the sparks not there its a no-play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gotta say as a married man meeting a couple or single for a social i find them a bit odd..we all know why we're here and what we want but hey did you see that thing on the telly? And my favorite colour is yellow. And oh i never shop at asda...can i suck your Dick or not?! |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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We don't do socials unless you count the few minutes we spend chatting before we get naked and have sex
We do all our getting to know each other on here before we meet. Discussing what everyone wants to happen and likes/dislikes so when we meet up we are good to go |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't do socials unless you count the few minutes we spend chatting before we get naked and have sex
We do all our getting to know each other on here before we meet. Discussing what everyone wants to happen and likes/dislikes so when we meet up we are good to go "
this |
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"We like having a social first. I don't drink so having met someone socially first and assessing wether the chemistry is right helps me to relax so I can enjoy the naughtiness. We have been known to have the odd short notice 'fuck and go' meet but they're never as good as ones where we've had a chance to build a rapport and sexual tension with the other person/couple... "
Totally this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple I (ms) find that I need social time when we are meeting other couples.. more because I need to calm my nerves and see them in person.
However when I was meeting as a single, I hated the idea of a social. |
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"Ok they not for everyone, but for us Personally wouldn't dream of playing without one first.
We met a really nice chap, friendly and reliable.
However there was no chemistry and jools just wasn't feeling it.
Totally agree if the sparks not there its a no-play "
I'll third that.... Definitely need a spark  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok they not for everyone, but for us Personally wouldn't dream of playing without one first.
We met a really nice chap, friendly and reliable.
However there was no chemistry and jools just wasn't feeling it.
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I wish people didnt think having a social was absolutely mandatory to be honest...sometimes its the environment that actually plays a part.
theres a load of people I have met, within the social confines..and either I've not pursued or they havent...but in a different environment we ended up playing...
sometimes too much thought can hinder what might just be a brilliant time.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I use to meet private local always liked a social, chemistry may be there in chat but not always when in person.
I find the same for party/club meets the social side is important to me, I like to chat get to know, have a laugh and see how the chemistry flows before play |
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we insist on them, the chemistry thing is really important. Oddly, some guys who have been super-keen with messages etc have then singularly failed to either accept the offer of a social or, worse,commit to one and then never show. But they are a very vital thing for us all to see how we click |
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