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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is NOT a thread regarding whether to show them are not as that subject has been done a few times. My question is this. If a guy had loads of verifications, would it put you off? The reason i'm asking, is I've decided not to show a lot of mine as I'm concerned that I might be looked as as a player who plays with anyone...and I'm not. I'm VERY selective. I couple suggested this to me. Comments welcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We think the more verifications the better but not everyone thinks that way, some think being a swinger and meeting lots of people is a bad thing, personally can't understand why they would want to avoid someone who is obviously genuine and popular it is swinging it's not about exclusitivity |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I prefer to meet men with many verfi as it shows that lots of people have met him so he must be nice or they wouldnt meet him or leave a verfi.
I have in a similar way just removed a number of verfi as my list was getting rather long as was worried in the same way that I am coming across as an easy lay/slutty or something like that.
But for me as a asingle fem I prefer to know that the man is nice and many people will leave verfications. They cant be all wrong can they x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have hidden most of ours,mainly because all people need to know is we are who we say we are and we meet,but a long list of veri's does not put us off someone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have in a similar way just removed a number of verfi as my list was getting rather long as was worried in the same way that I am coming across as an easy lay/slutty or something like that.
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Exactly. I didnt want the ladies or couples to think I was a 'jack the lad' and would shag anything because I won't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't show any purely because there are too many nosey or judgemental people but you should do as you wish. I looked and 18 in nearly 2 years isn't excessive and it shows your consistent.As has been said before you should do what your comfortable with. |
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By *andcCouple
over a year ago
London and Cheshire |
On our profile we just show a few, the most up to date one's basically, we don't think that meeting people, last year is relevant to the present!
But if you had loads it wouldn't put us off either each to their own.
We are very suspicious of people who hide their verifications! We know people do this for many reasons and again each to their own, but the problem arises because people can be verified by cam or phone and not just meeting, we have no idea of whether the hidden verification are of actually meeting people(in person), which for us is a must before we will meet. |
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Looking at things from a blokes point of view, and this is a bit of an old chestnut, but single guys are viewed by a lot of people with a great deal of (at best) indifference. And it has to be said that the situation is often brought about because of the experience had from the greater population of single guys who drive people to dispair with one-line messages, cock-shot photos, attitude etc etc. (see countless other threads on the subjects)
So to my way of thinking, what is there that you can use to set you apart from the norm? Well, it won't be your own profile description, as everyone says what they think others will want to hear. That then leaves what other people have to say about you. And in a world where you are regarded as guilty until proven innocent, I'd say let the evidence shout out and confirm you to be who and what you say you are.
But that's just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mike - you should be proud of every single one of your meets and verifications....... it doesent make you promiscuous or a slapper if you have met a lot of people - it means people like you and swinging is about meeting people, lots of them ....
Dont the ones who you "dont display" mean anything to you?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have known this guy for years now and he sets the example other guys should follow - an absolute gent and a credit to the guys in swinging - he should be proud of ALL his verifications and any women wishing to join his list should have no hesitation whatsoever in adding to it .... not one of the best guys - THE best !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would go with whatever you fancy. If you change it to limited verifications, you will piss off the people that want to know EVERYONE you have played with, if you show everyone you have played with, you will piss off the people that DONT want to know everyone you have played with.
Basically, whatever you go with, someone will disagree with you so go with what makes you comfortable.
Personally, I would rather see LOTS of verifications that someone is sound and trustworthy than skip a good person due to not being able to find out how nice they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it does put me off as I don't browse profiles men contact me. I'm looking for a certain type of man who seldom puts he's submissive on his profile.
If I have to stop and go to the loo before I get to the end of the verifications and not one is D/s meet, he's not for me!
Hell, even the "straight" guys show the verification from the TV/TS who gave them "the best blow job they ever had!".  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i know mate - but you know the score and genuinely .....you really are one of the nicest blokes around and both me and Julie will be friends with you for many years to come ....... WOMEN reading this who want a "real" man...take note .....they dont come much better xxxx |
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"This is NOT a thread regarding whether to show them are not as that subject has been done a few times. My question is this. If a guy had loads of verifications, would it put you off? The reason i'm asking, is I've decided not to show a lot of mine as I'm concerned that I might be looked as as a player who plays with anyone...and I'm not. I'm VERY selective. I couple suggested this to me. Comments welcome"
It's your profile, do with it what YOU want to do.... because you'll be damned no matter what you choose  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"It's your profile, do with it what YOU want to do.... because you'll be damned no matter what you choose "
I think this is never more true than on this subject. You cannot win, so pick a strategy, and try it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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wouldnt put me off if a guy had lots of verifications
I have a lot more than i show but i dont not show them because i think it makes me look bad i removed some of them for personal reasons towards each one as an individual
i personally dont care if someone thinks i'll shagged anyone due to the amount of veries because i know i wont and wether someone thinks im easy or not they still not getting a meet unless i like them
saying that i do tend to meet guys with no or very few verification because i just feel guys with lots dont really need to meet me as they are doing ok anyway  lol |
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"saying that i do tend to meet guys with no or very few verification because i just feel guys with lots dont really need to meet me as they are doing ok anyway lol"
And can we say what excellent Charidee work you are doing there..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"saying that i do tend to meet guys with no or very few verification because i just feel guys with lots dont really need to meet me as they are doing ok anyway lol
And can we say what excellent Charidee work you are doing there.. "
i know im doing help the aged next week lol
serioiusly tho you read so many profiles that state they not meet you unless your verified and i never get that
we was all un verified at some point but we are not all time wasters
im happy to meet un verified people and give them a chance so many other wont, thats all i ment by the above comment
saying that tho that does not mean i will meet any unverified person we obviously have to be attracted and get on as well
(just covering my back there lol) |
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"...if it looked like the guy would shag anything with a pulse, then yes, would put us off..."
Well that will depend on who it is that verifies the person then. A number of recomendations from really nice people would give an impression of taste, standards and quality both in the people that a person chooses to mix with and of who the verifiers choose to verify. At the end of the day, this is a swingers site.
Personally, I'd far rather that a potential partner could demonstrate that she / they had met with other people and pressed the right buttons than someone that gives the impression of still being left on the shelf. |
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