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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My thoughts are its the Internet and the people knocking you back can't see your nice car, Professional job or even your alleged good looks, All they have to judge you by is your attitude and it can take just one comment out of place to bugger things up.
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"My thoughts are its the Internet and the people knocking you back can't see your nice car, Professional job or even your alleged good looks, All they have to judge you by is your attitude and it can take just one comment out of place to bugger things up.
gimp"
Very good point...in the real world we have great friends and becoming friends with them didn't rely on their looks, how they dressed or what car they drive....we like good people and are blessed to know many. |
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If you are not attracted to them, why do you contact them ....lol ? Anyway, as the previous message stated, this is not a dating site. Due to the numbers on here, couples and single women can afford to pick and choose. Even if you think you are attractive, they may not.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My thoughts are its the Internet and the people knocking you back can't see your nice car, Professional job or even your alleged good looks, All they have to judge you by is your attitude and it can take just one comment out of place to bugger things up.
gimp"
Did you have a bowl of serious for breakfast" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get that and know it's not a dating site, I guess it's why I find it interesting.
As I said this post will sound wrong, some people may react badly to my topic but just a discussion.
As its due to mostly looks and sexual preferences, that speaks for itself?
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"My thoughts are its the Internet and the people knocking you back can't see your nice car, Professional job or even your alleged good looks, All they have to judge you by is your attitude and it can take just one comment out of place to bugger things up.
gimp"
We don't all date others based on the same criteria.
Swinging is not dating and single guys face the toughest competition based on totally different criteria. If playing at a club, no one cares what your car, job etc is.
If you're flexible and can thrive in a variety of situations, you may be able to make it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest this works in reverse too. I get lots of messages from men who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world. And for that reason I'd be put off. Either they aren't fussy or I'm being seen as just a commodity. I'm not actually flattered by it in any way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of the people meet because of attraction but a lot of messages just get lost in the fog of the 100's of dreamers I personally prefer clubs to messages and only use fabs to message the people who I have met before.
When I used to message it never worked for me so why waste my precious time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'."
Being in a similar league doesn't mean they'll be attracted to you. |
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
What's to sayvthey wouldn't turn you down in real life too? Or is this a I'm horny, your ugly, come sort me out' type thing? Desperation is never sexy. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
Nope. Dissimilar thoughts.
People's perceptions on here are based on initial first impressions.
A lot of that is visual - so your imagery plays a key role in creating that perception.
Everything else is irrelevant - the job, the car - and if it can't be seen the looks and the 'vwe' status.
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"Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'."
You may think that, they don't. That's the trouble with made up shit, no one sticks to the rules lol |
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"I get that and know it's not a dating site, I guess it's why I find it interesting.
As I said this post will sound wrong, some people may react badly to my topic but just a discussion.
As its due to mostly looks and sexual preferences, that speaks for itself?
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Considering that all we have to choose from on here is how someone presents themselves in their profile and messages then looks are often secondary.
Many will dismiss someone due to lots of graphic pics, boxes that have been ticked or not in preferences, or the tone of their profile (shouts, ranty, angry profiles come to mind) or by ill-judged messages (cut and paste ones, ones that are aggressive and overly graphic when hello would be sufficient, ones that slang off other site users either in general or specifically).
There have been men who I've looked at and thought that they were physically stunners but something has made me think that if i spent five minutes in there company that I would regret it. Looks and sexual preferences are not always a guarantee of hot sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'."
Hahaha.
There's a league? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I said it sounded wrong and did expect some of these comments."
You did.
I'm curious as to why you think 'in normal circumstances' the outcome would be different?
What normal circumstances are they?
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"To be honest this works in reverse too. I get lots of messages from men who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world. And for that reason I'd be put off. Either they aren't fussy or I'm being seen as just a commodity. I'm not actually flattered by it in any way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'."
If you're talking of an attractiveness league,maybe you're not in the league you think you are. Or maybe it's that people have different ideas of who should be in what league. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I guess I worded some parts not so well, I was thinking more if you was too meet people in a bar or out and about etc.
I feel I'm having too defend myself, it seems some are taking offence but please try not too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess I worded some parts not so well, I was thinking more if you was too meet people in a bar or out and about etc.
I feel I'm having too defend myself, it seems some are taking offence but please try not too."
But meeting people out and about is different to looking for a certain physical type for sex on an adult site surely? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'.
If you're talking of an attractiveness league,maybe you're not in the league you think you are. Or maybe it's that people have different ideas of who should be in what league. "
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
Perhaps they have ugly feet and don't want to admit their Hobbit credentials to you?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I said it sounded wrong and did expect some of these comments."
I am devastated.
A 28 year old man insists I'm his type even though he is gorgeous and a thoroughly humble and modest fellow too.
perhaps he is desperate?
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"I guess I worded some parts not so well, I was thinking more if you was too meet people in a bar or out and about etc.
I feel I'm having too defend myself, it seems some are taking offence but please try not too."
Instead of just saying 'i'm trying not to offend' try explaining yourself better.
So if you were out in a bar and saw someone in your perceived 'league' and they turned you down how would you react?
I'm not offered by your post I just find it amusing when people get upset that they don't appeal to everyone which is how your post on coming across. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I guess I worded some parts not so well, I was thinking more if you was too meet people in a bar or out and about etc.
I feel I'm having too defend myself, it seems some are taking offence but please try not too."
I'm not taking offence.
You're not the first to say this and won't be the last.
I'm trying to understand more why you feel this way so I and others can better explain why the circumstances aren't comparable.
You're comparing apples and oranges.
Virtual interaction (Fab) is, as I said earlier, predominantly based on the visual - profile text, images and words. Real world (meeting in bars) whilst also based on the visual - immediate attraction for example (however the whole person can be seen) - also offers a judgement to be made based on conversation, body language, dress sense, manners - a much bigger picture.
Expecting the same outcomes via distinctly different methods of interaction is setting yourself up for a fail.
It's also common for judgements on fab to be made following forum posts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps time to change tatics?
A lot of people spam the crap out of others on here and get upset about getting knocked back.
They forget Fab is a tool to meet people and the sex is a bonus.
Concentrate on building real life friendships with other swingers and in time fun will follow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess I worded some parts not so well, I was thinking more if you was too meet people in a bar or out and about etc.
I feel I'm having too defend myself, it seems some are taking offence but please try not too."
I doubt you would look even once at me in a bar but I can't see anything on your profile that would make me want to meet you. You have to offer what people you are messaging want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thoughts are its the Internet and the people knocking you back can't see your nice car, Professional job or even your alleged good looks, All they have to judge you by is your attitude and it can take just one comment out of place to bugger things up.
gimp
Did you have a bowl of serious for breakfast""
Excuse me Madam, I have been known to be serious..ok I'm usually in a Suit facing an old geezer wearing a curly white wig but I thought I would give it a go...
Ps I have a nice car so get ya tits out n be grateful. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dear OP I think your taking a bashing here !
I kind of know what your trying to say but your probably better off not saying it !
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Ooh!
You want some too?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thoughts are its the Internet and the people knocking you back can't see your nice car, Professional job or even your alleged good looks, All they have to judge you by is your attitude and it can take just one comment out of place to bugger things up.
gimp"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dear OP I think your taking a bashing here !
I kind of know what your trying to say but your probably better off not saying it !
Ooh!
You want some too?
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Oh god no
I know I'm the bottom of the food chain !
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I guess I worded some parts not so well, I was thinking more if you was too meet people in a bar or out and about etc.
I feel I'm having too defend myself, it seems some are taking offence but please try not too."
Well, you did recognise you made a rod for your own back from your opening post. If you don't want to defend what you say, the only thing you can do is not say it.
Sending someone a message on Fab couldn't be any more different from meeting someone in a bar, so it's curious why you would expect the results to be the same, or in any way similar. |
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"Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'."
And therein lies the problem.
There is no such thing as "leagues" as attraction is subjective.
Channing Tatum could be "in my league" but I still wouldn't shag him as I don't find him attractive...
- Amy. x |
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It does make me laugh though when you get the follow-up "I wouldn't have given you a second look if we were out and about anyway" messages after some poor soul has had their ego bruised.
Bitch, I turned YOU down, hence, I wouldn't have given YOU a second glance either.
I don't know about others, but I maintain the same standards on here that I would in the vanilla world, regardless of your material posessions.
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
I'm confused, why are you messaging people you wouldn't be interested in. In the real world? Is it a case of I'm getting nothing on here I'll lower my standards to people I find unattractive? at least I might get laid then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It does make me laugh though when you get the follow-up "I wouldn't have given you a second look if we were out and about anyway" messages after some poor soul has had their ego bruised.
Bitch, I turned YOU down, hence, I wouldn't have given YOU a second glance either.
I don't know about others, but I maintain the same standards on here that I would in the vanilla world, regardless of your material posessions.
- Amy. x"
This x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts?
I'm confused, why are you messaging people you wouldn't be interested in. In the real world? Is it a case of I'm getting nothing on here I'll lower my standards to people I find unattractive? at least I might get laid then?"
We all know that goes on on here !
Don't kill the Op for being daft enough to actually say it |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"I get that and know it's not a dating site, I guess it's why I find it interesting.
As I said this post will sound wrong, some people may react badly to my topic but just a discussion.
As its due to mostly looks and sexual preferences, that speaks for itself?
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I don't usually go by looks....I like people who have friendly faces and smiley eyes - they are attractive to me.
I am married to gym bunny guy so don't necessarily care about buffness on meets. I do go by if a person is nice, friendly and I think I can have a giggle with them - if I do then the sex is great...mostly because if my head is into you my body will be too
I don't care what car you drive, what job you do, if you are successful in the real world or not I just care about if I am going to enjoy spending time with you..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts?
I'm confused, why are you messaging people you wouldn't be interested in. In the real world? Is it a case of I'm getting nothing on here I'll lower my standards to people I find unattractive? at least I might get laid then?
We all know that goes on on here !
Don't kill the Op for being daft enough to actually say it"
I'm not killing him I'm just confused as to why anyone would do that? If your not really attracted to them why message them? why not just close your account and pull someone out on the town? |
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts?
I'm confused, why are you messaging people you wouldn't be interested in. In the real world? Is it a case of I'm getting nothing on here I'll lower my standards to people I find unattractive? at least I might get laid then?
We all know that goes on on here !
Don't kill the Op for being daft enough to actually say it
I'm not killing him I'm just confused as to why anyone would do that? If your not really attracted to them why message them? why not just close your account and pull someone out on the town?"
Or have a wank... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to interrupt the "taunt a forum user into dying a painful death" game  On this site, we all measure others, whether that's pure attraction or just simple logistics of age, sexual activities, etc... and we all know what our usual "league" is... vaguely. And if we don't we bloody well should or else we're just gonna end up being pure fantasists chasing unrealistic ambitions. But some of us, not us, also go out of their way to save themselves getting turned down and humliated by people who are out of their league by actively blocking them. Some couples also have a "too sexy" policy where they won't shag anyone who's more sexy than they are. I'd say this has a lot to do with body image and self confidence issues... which this site is also full of unfortunately.
Ourselves? We'd shag the hottest piece of ass we could possibly stretch to... even though it'd probably scare the bejeebers out of us lol My eyes always were bigger than my belly  "
I completely agree, a mans reach should exceed his grasp, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The Op is probably pissed off that he sees the ladies that he wouldn't give a second look to in a pub/club getting lots of attention !
And he's getting none !
That's just Fab for u |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can handle the slating I seem to be receiving, this post was more of a 'thinking out loud' but I didn't quite expect some of these comments or attacks, maybe naive of me.
I've never messaged anyone who I wouldn't talk to or try to chat up away from fab, I'm not of the mindset 'any hole is a goal'.
I do feel a lot of people think what I have voiced, the difference is a actually posted a thread. |
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Just beacause you look good it doesn't make you a good lover, boyfriend, husband, fuck buddy, friend with benefit or plumber.
Sex is mental and physical - you may be a pretty boy but that's not what the majority of us are looking for. We're looking for a good fuck. |
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Just because you look good it doesn't make you a good lover, boyfriend, husband, fuck buddy, friend with benefit or plumber.
Sex is mental and physical - you may be a pretty boy but that's not what the majority of us are looking for. We're looking for a good fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there's lots of threads on here started by disgruntled guys who aren't getting women thrown at their feet. I'm afraid yours just comes across as another one of those....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm not a disgruntled guy if if it may read that way, I'm not the dwelling type.
I find it interesting more than anything, I answered myself in the post. I wanted to see if any others have the thought from time to time.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not a disgruntled guy if if it may read that way, I'm not the dwelling type.
I find it interesting more than anything, I answered myself in the post. I wanted to see if any others have the thought from time to time.
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Think you are little back peddling here, why would you of posted this if this wasn't your thoughts , lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm not back peddling in the slightest, I was expressing my thoughts which I have from time to time.
I make no apology for that or anything else I say, I will always stand by what I say and will speak my mind online or in person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not back peddling in the slightest, I was expressing my thoughts which I have from time to time.
I make no apology for that or anything else I say, I will always stand by what I say and will speak my mind online or in person."
Your opening comment
" I personally find it strange that you can get knocked back "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not back peddling in the slightest, I was expressing my thoughts which I have from time to time.
I make no apology for that or anything else I say, I will always stand by what I say and will speak my mind online or in person.
Your opening comment
" I personally find it strange that you can get knocked back "
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And you are right you do have a right to say or express what you want, of course, however after reading your profile it virtually reflects your opening comment on here, oh except you left the car bit out |
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"I've not said I expect a fuck because I drive a nice car, some of what I've said is being taken out of context.
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"What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here."
No, but it DOES sound like you're disgruntled about being turned down by people you wouldn't date.
It may be taken out of context but I can't read it any other way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not back peddling in the slightest, I was expressing my thoughts which I have from time to time.
I make no apology for that or anything else I say, I will always stand by what I say and will speak my mind online or in person.
Your opening comment
" I personally find it strange that you can get knocked back "
And you are right you do have a right to say or express what you want, of course, however after reading your profile it virtually reflects your opening comment on here, oh except you left the car bit out "
Maybe he has a bike? Pedal faster OP, pedal faster |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not back peddling in the slightest, I was expressing my thoughts which I have from time to time.
I make no apology for that or anything else I say, I will always stand by what I say and will speak my mind online or in person.
Your opening comment
" I personally find it strange that you can get knocked back "
And you are right you do have a right to say or express what you want, of course, however after reading your profile it virtually reflects your opening comment on here, oh except you left the car bit out
Maybe he has a bike? Pedal faster OP, pedal faster "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer an engine on my bikes, it's more fun!"
Come on you can be honest now, it was your true feelings wasn't it bearing in mind we are one of the ones you've messaged several times but we've said no thank you too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
Seriously?
You don't spend much time in here do you? A guy tried saying the same thing the other day and a Fab lynch mob is still out trying to hunt him down and castrate him. He's probably UNLOS now.
Even though you put down "I'm not trying to come across as a dick" it doesn't give you the right to say a dickish thing. It's like every time someone starts a sentence with "Now I'm not racist but", you just have to cringe and know something racist is definitely coming next.
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I don't feel it was a dickish thing to say at all, I said it may sound that way but I object to you saying that.
I'm being honest here, I said what I was thinking and do from time to time. I've got no issue with knock backs or being told no, everyone has different preferences or views. |
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"I don't feel it was a dickish thing to say at all, I said it may sound that way but I object to you saying that.
I'm being honest here, I said what I was thinking and do from time to time. I've got no issue with knock backs or being told no, everyone has different preferences or views."
Think after this post you'll have a few more knock backs, however it's not the real world so you'll have all the hotties awaiting you outside of this anything will do site |
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over a year ago
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"I don't feel it was a dickish thing to say at all, I said it may sound that way but I object to you saying that.
I'm being honest here, I said what I was thinking and do from time to time. I've got no issue with knock backs or being told no, everyone has different preferences or views.
Think after this post you'll have a few more knock backs, however it's not the real world so you'll have all the hotties awaiting you outside of this anything will do site "
If that is the result from my honesty, then so be it. I'm glad the little digs bring a smile to your face.
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"I can handle the slating I seem to be receiving, this post was more of a 'thinking out loud' but I didn't quite expect some of these comments or attacks, maybe naive of me.
I've never messaged anyone who I wouldn't talk to or try to chat up away from fab, I'm not of the mindset 'any hole is a goal'.
I do feel a lot of people think what I have voiced, the difference is a actually posted a thread."
Attacks?! What attacks?! You asked for views and you got them. Your op insinuated that you were approaching people you though we're below your weight and we're being blown out and you didn't like it. |
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"I don't feel it was a dickish thing to say at all, I said it may sound that way but I object to you saying that.
I'm being honest here, I said what I was thinking and do from time to time. I've got no issue with knock backs or being told no, everyone has different preferences or views.
Think after this post you'll have a few more knock backs, however it's not the real world so you'll have all the hotties awaiting you outside of this anything will do site
If that is the result from my honesty, then so be it. I'm glad the little digs bring a smile to your face.
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It's a wink not a smile |
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"I don't feel it was a dickish thing to say at all, I said it may sound that way but I object to you saying that.
I'm being honest here, I said what I was thinking and do from time to time. I've got no issue with knock backs or being told no, everyone has different preferences or views.
Think after this post you'll have a few more knock backs, however it's not the real world so you'll have all the hotties awaiting you outside of this anything will do site
If that is the result from my honesty, then so be it. I'm glad the little digs bring a smile to your face.
It's a wink not a smile "
And it's good that at last you've admitted to your honesty as opposed to earlier when you tried to convince people it wasn't your opinion it was just a thought |
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over a year ago
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I've been honest throughout this thread, I've not tried to convince anyone away from my thoughts or opinions.
I think you're just trying to pick for no reason at all, other than to get some forum win or winks. |
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"I've been honest throughout this thread, I've not tried to convince anyone away from my thoughts or opinions.
I think you're just trying to pick for no reason at all, other than to get some forum win or winks."
Oooh check you out, sorry we dare comment on what come across to us and maybe others as a slightly arrogant post, as for wanting winks from commenting on your post, nah your wrong we only want winks from people who think we are in there league in and out of the real world (oooops was that another dig ) |
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"I've been honest throughout this thread, I've not tried to convince anyone away from my thoughts or opinions.
I think you're just trying to pick for no reason at all, other than to get some forum win or winks."
If that is directed at me (using the quote button makes it so much easier to tell who you are talking to) I have never said you have been untruthful and I'm not trying to pick. Just entering into debate which is what you seemed to want although now I'm not so sure as the slightest comment against your opinion seems to be seen as a slating. |
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"I've been honest throughout this thread, I've not tried to convince anyone away from my thoughts or opinions.
I think you're just trying to pick for no reason at all, other than to get some forum win or winks.
If that is directed at me (using the quote button makes it so much easier to tell who you are talking to) I have never said you have been untruthful and I'm not trying to pick. Just entering into debate which is what you seemed to want although now I'm not so sure as the slightest comment against your opinion seems to be seen as a slating. "
Think it may of be aimed at us |
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over a year ago
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"I've been honest throughout this thread, I've not tried to convince anyone away from my thoughts or opinions.
I think you're just trying to pick for no reason at all, other than to get some forum win or winks."
However that said can we take this opportunity to thank everyone who has sent us a wink since we commented on the Ops forum we would thank you individually but 706 messages would take us ages |
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over a year ago
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
I find it weird that someone would contact a person on here that they didn't find very attractive. |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"Give over, it's quite clear I've received a slating and I do have thick skin. "
I wasn't trying to slate you my intention was to show that different people look for different things on this site and for me personality wins over looks - but that's just me......there is someone for everyone on here and there will be people for you too |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
It's different in person to online. I don't really think that you compare the two.
We've met people at parties that have been lovely and we've really hit it off with. Yet, if we had come across their profile online (before meeting them in person) in quite a few cases we wouldn't have messaged them, based on just the text/information on their profile. We would have assumed that we had little in common.
It's far easier to get yourself across to others in person.
As for your, I wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here comment. Surely something about them got your interest/attracted you to message in the first place?
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
Fully get what you mean. Had similar discussions together and what we think is this:
Men are happy to lower standards slightly on a site like this because it's the 'thing' that adds to the appeal. The scenario of the sexual liaison adds to the whole thing, whether that's an mmf, an ffm, a naughty encounter, whatever. The scenario is more of a draw.
Women tend not to go on looks alone, a man's personality/dress sense/car/smell/etc can paper over the cracks of his looks, but on a site like this where you have to go largely on looks and what's written on the profile, then they tend to up their standards.
So we have men lowering their standards and women upping their standards all at the same time.
That's what we think is going on anyway. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts?
Seriously?
You don't spend much time in here do you? A guy tried saying the same thing the other day and a Fab lynch mob is still out trying to hunt him down and castrate him. He's probably UNLOS now.
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I know that I shouldn't but the above comment made me chuckle. Purely because I could imagine them chasing him with pitchforks. |
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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago
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Men are happy to lower standards slightly on a site like this because it's the 'thing' that adds to the appeal. The scenario of the sexual liaison adds to the whole thing, whether that's an mmf, an ffm, a naughty encounter, whatever. The scenario is more of a draw.
Women tend not to go on looks alone, a man's personality/dress sense/car/smell/etc can paper over the cracks of his looks, but on a site like this where you have to go largely on looks and what's written on the profile, then they tend to up their standards.
So we have men lowering their standards and women upping their standards all at the same time.
That's what we think is going on anyway."
This. Not saying I'm gods gift or anything but I will broaden my range because often it's the synaro not the persons or people that excite me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me say I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone.
To answer that question, no not a minger but if I'm honest I have messaged people thinking well we are in a similar 'league'."
Attractiveness is subjective... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't feel it was a dickish thing to say at all, I said it may sound that way but I object to you saying that.
I'm being honest here, I said what I was thinking and do from time to time. I've got no issue with knock backs or being told no, everyone has different preferences or views.
Think after this post you'll have a few more knock backs, however it's not the real world so you'll have all the hotties awaiting you outside of this anything will do site "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dear OP I think your taking a bashing here !
I kind of know what your trying to say but your probably better off not saying it !
Ooh!
You want some too?
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"Oh dear OP I think your taking a bashing here !
I kind of know what your trying to say but your probably better off not saying it !
Ooh!
You want some too?
Someone else who had a knock back from an average Josephine "
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts?
Fully get what you mean. Had similar discussions together and what we think is this:
Men are happy to lower standards slightly on a site like this because it's the 'thing' that adds to the appeal. The scenario of the sexual liaison adds to the whole thing, whether that's an mmf, an ffm, a naughty encounter, whatever. The scenario is more of a draw.
Women tend not to go on looks alone, a man's personality/dress sense/car/smell/etc can paper over the cracks of his looks, but on a site like this where you have to go largely on looks and what's written on the profile, then they tend to up their standards.
So we have men lowering their standards and women upping their standards all at the same time.
That's what we think is going on anyway."
I think men lower their standards because they just want sex and don't care who with. As for women raising theirs I can only speak for myself and my standards are no different to men I talk to off site who I want sex with. I don't compromise off site. In real life I don't look for people to just have sex with,I wouldn't even consider going out for a night and pulling someone,but when I do get chatted up it's by similar men who contact me on here. All ages,all physiques. |
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I don't understand why anyone wouldn't apply the same rules here as they would do out in the "real world" I personally have to fancy someone to shag them both on a mental level and a physical level xxx |
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"I've been honest throughout this thread, I've not tried to convince anyone away from my thoughts or opinions.
I think you're just trying to pick for no reason at all, other than to get some forum win or winks."
Your honesty is admirable. People have just been explaining to you why someone you wouldn't approach in the real world would deny you on here. I wouldn't dream of messaging someone who I wouldn't approach in the real world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some Men will say anything to meet Women and sleep with anyone,
Some Women get so many messages they can they can pick and choose Men they wouldn't normally attract in the real world, Most are attracted to a personality but first impressions count as well (profile/pictures) OP if you have a certain look/type that you are attracted to carry on looking for them and try and let your personality come out in your messages |
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"To be honest this works in reverse too. I get lots of messages from men who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world. And for that reason I'd be put off. Either they aren't fussy or I'm being seen as just a commodity. I'm not actually flattered by it in any way.
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This When captain gymhead messages me with his permatan and 24 pac i just think jog on..in the real worls he d have a lovely dolly bird on his arnm and i aint that! |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
We don't care about any of that, just sex so your life doesn't come into it |
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"To be honest this works in reverse too. I get lots of messages from men who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world. And for that reason I'd be put off. Either they aren't fussy or I'm being seen as just a commodity. I'm not actually flattered by it in any way.
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. Why do women do this put them selfs down all the time I don't get it |
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
Why would your clothes car or job affect someone's attraction to you?
Especially dating and love even more so than the more physical nature here if think they'd count for less.
If you're not having any luck get some better pics or hit the gym or do something to improve yourself that doesn't rely on your money to attempt to pull
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"Its not about dating though.
This.
Also, I never understand when I read 'good looking' it's slightly vain
That's an instant turn off for me,when someone calls themselves good looking."
It's almost certainly a disappointment. I just think they bought a fake Snow White mirror from Delboy  . |
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OP has been online 6 mins ago but has failed to check back on his post since yesterday...and profile remains the same...looks like he took it all onboard then lol
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"I personally find it strange how you get dismissed / knocked back by people that in normal circumstances I wouldn't expect.
What I mean is as a good looking guy who dresses well, professional job, nice car etc, wouldn't consider dating some people that just delete you on here.
I guess that says it all, I'm not trying to come across as a 'dick' but I just find this interesting and odd.
Anyone else got similar thoughts? "
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i get it
people who,,, in the real world would not get a sniff
however,they get a lot of attention on here no matter what they look like so the ego inflates
its a shame |
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"i get it
people who,,, in the real world would not get a sniff
however,they get a lot of attention on here no matter what they look like so the ego inflates
its a shame"
Not for us ego-inflated mingers. We're having a whale of a time fucking all the hot studs |
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"i get it
people who,,, in the real world would not get a sniff
however,they get a lot of attention on here no matter what they look like so the ego inflates
its a shame"
It's a shame that some people come across better on the internet?
Or it's a shame that people get to have sex who want to have sex? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"i get it
people who,,, in the real world would not get a sniff
however,they get a lot of attention on here no matter what they look like so the ego inflates
its a shame"
I would ask why ego's in your word are inflated...
the people who claim the do better in real world, but don't in their words "do well" here and complain
or the people who do well here.... because in a sense their personalities and all round package are sometimes more appealing than just the person who is relying on looks....
over inflated ego vs sense of entitlement...... |
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"OP has been online 6 mins ago but has failed to check back on his post since yesterday...and profile remains the same...looks like he took it all onboard then lol
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He wasn't asking for profile advice so why would he change it?! |
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"i get it
people who,,, in the real world would not get a sniff
however,they get a lot of attention on here no matter what they look like so the ego inflates
its a shame
I would ask why ego's in your word are inflated...
the people who claim the do better in real world, but don't in their words "do well" here and complain
or the people who do well here.... because in a sense their personalities and all round package are sometimes more appealing than just the person who is relying on looks....
over inflated ego vs sense of entitlement......"
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"OP has been online 6 mins ago but has failed to check back on his post since yesterday...and profile remains the same...looks like he took it all onboard then lol
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I think he might be enjoying a little break! |
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