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"Bi" straight men

By *azLily OP Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

Okay, okay, I get that there are homophobes here who will bully men for being bi.

But with so many men who will claim to be bi just to get a leg over the lady, how do you genuine, bi men out there suggest we distingish between you and the fakers? After all, those of you that are concerned about bullies also put 'straight' on your profiles!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It not the bully's that concern most it's the women who knock you back because it's a turn off for them that why most people don't put it.

I think the best way to find them out is get them to meet the guy on there own first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, okay, I get that there are homophobes here who will bully men for being bi.

We like bi guys, so are rule is if it says straight on your profile then as far as we are concerned your straight, then we check there verifications, if they've been verified by a guy, TV or a couple where male is bi then we are genera happy, if they've also got a profile on fab guys that helps to, your right too many guys have straight on there profile but after reading our profile tell us they are bi with no evidence on there profile at all, just so they can meet Jackie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am bi and it's stated on my profile. I don't think it will get me more meets. I'm happy to turn off all (homophones) that gets turned off by bi men simply because they are exactly the sort of people I wouldn't want to meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

We say would you meet dave on your own, normally finds them out

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By *azLily OP Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

That was the way we looked at it before, but we're turning down guys that are really good matches apart from the fact that on their profile their bi... that's the kicker! Haha.

"I am bi and it's stated on my profile. I don't think it will get me more meets. I'm happy to turn off all (homophones) that gets turned off by bi men simply because they are exactly the sort of people I wouldn't want to meet"

This is what I can't understand. Why would you want to play with a woman who doesn't like male bisexuality? Surely it makes for better sex?? Or is it that any sex is good sex??

Both good suggestions there Davey and Scarlett... I'mma try that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

We say would you meet dave on your own, normally finds them out

I've had a little bi fun and have enjoyed it but I wouldn't want to meet the male half in his own. The female wouldn't have to do anything but I'd want her to be there. I've had messages off couples where the male states that only he is available at the mo but it's the couples experience that I want to enjoy.

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By *uzzzaMan over a year ago

leeds

Am bi and proud here, as others have said if people don't want to meet just because of this, so be it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am bi and proud here, as others have said if people don't want to meet just because of this, so be it."

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By *hil and SamCouple over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells/Barking

We are both Bi and if we do meet a single guy only looking for Bi guys But we get so many messages for guys that in there message say they are bi but there profile says straight I think guys should just be Honest !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are both Bi and if we do meet a single guy only looking for Bi guys But we get so many messages for guys that in there message say they are bi but there profile says straight I think guys should just be Honest ! "

And do you get the same rubbish as us, don't put bi on profile as it puts girls off or because they have friends on the site, as you say, tough be honest

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By *edonistic ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Stratford

And do you get the same rubbish as us, don't put bi on profile as it puts girls off or because they have friends on the site, as you say, tough be honest "

That's just what we get. Then they go all huffy and abusive when we say thanks but no. We tend to rely on Monday evenings at Chams now

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I haven't seen any bullying of bi men. Some mild distaste perhaps.

It doesn't matter really to me because I won't be meeting the types of people who don't want to meet me. Obviously.

For those bisexual men (of whatever degree) who are describing themselves as straight.....for all those straight couples who will turn you down for being bi, a lot will welcome you.

Be proud and go for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Theres alot of stupidity spoken here !

Just because a guy somethimes plays bi doesn't mean he's not capable of a straight meet . Just like straight women !

Ive met alot of bi woman who were fantastic straight meets .

People need to open there minds .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Theres alot of stupidity spoken here !

Just because a guy somethimes plays bi doesn't mean he's not capable of a straight meet . Just like straight women !

Ive met alot of bi woman who were fantastic straight meets .

People need to open there minds ."

It's people's preference if they want to open there mind up, we've been caught when a guy on his profile said he was straight but messaged us saying he was bi, when we Met him he wasn't remotely bi, he just wanted to get to play with the female , so therefore we no longer take that chance

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By *azLily OP Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

"Theres alot of stupidity spoken here !

Just because a guy somethimes plays bi doesn't mean he's not capable of a straight meet . Just like straight women !

Ive met alot of bi woman who were fantastic straight meets .

People need to open there minds ."

Our problem is not that we're closed minded Danny, we're far from it. But we don't want to meet a man on the premise of his bisexuality only to find that he was lying to get a fuck with me (Lily).

We'd actually be upset to the same extent if this happened with a lady that claimed to be bi.

But I don't disagree, of course bisexuality does't mean you can't play straight, and that was never the argument.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Theres alot of stupidity spoken here !

Just because a guy somethimes plays bi doesn't mean he's not capable of a straight meet . Just like straight women !

Ive met alot of bi woman who were fantastic straight meets .

People need to open there minds .

Our problem is not that we're closed minded Danny, we're far from it. But we don't want to meet a man on the premise of his bisexuality only to find that he was lying to get a fuck with me (Lily).

We'd actually be upset to the same extent if this happened with a lady that claimed to be bi.

But I don't disagree, of course bisexuality does't mean you can't play straight, and that was never the argument. "

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By *not69Man over a year ago

Lancashire

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

I dont consider myself to be bi, Ive never had any sort of sexual contact with a guy, and I wouldn't play with guy on my own. But it is a big fantasy of mine to have an oraly bi three/foursome where the couple both give me a bj, and I return the favour, taking instructions from the lady as ive never done one before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

Make it happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, okay, I get that there are homophobes here who will bully men for being bi.

Honesty is very important.

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By *not69Man over a year ago

Lancashire

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

Make it happen.

It would just have to happen naturally with the right couple at the right time xx

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

Honesty is really all that matters to us. Swinging only works when participants know and understand each other's boundaries. We will, and have, played with bi guys on the understanding that the play is totally straight. Bi play between guys is a complete turn off for both of us - and to suggest this makes us homophobic as some posters have done is ludicrous. It is just a preference.

So - to say you are bi when you aren't or that you are straight when you aren't is dishonesty. Fab is the place you advertise yourself to the outside world. I think we all get a bit pissed off when advertisements incorrectly describe what's really on offer!

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

The amount of shit I've received on gay sites for being bisexual is truly staggering.

"Am I not a man and a brother?"

Apparently not...

Most of the sex I have is heterosexual but I've had far more men as bedmates. Whatever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone has their own different reasons to keep somethings about their private life to themselves surely? Just because one person thinks all men should put exactly what they are in their profile it doesnt mean that person is right. What some people on here are basically saying is "I dont care if you get bullied or risk losing friendships, I want you to state your sexuality on your profile for the world to see!"

This seems somewhat selfish to me....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, okay, I get that there are homophobes here who will bully men for being bi.

The ones who have veries from men?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone has their own different reasons to keep somethings about their private life to themselves surely? Just because one person thinks all men should put exactly what they are in their profile it doesnt mean that person is right. What some people on here are basically saying is "I dont care if you get bullied or risk losing friendships, I want you to state your sexuality on your profile for the world to see!"

This seems somewhat selfish to me.... "

So what about people who don't meet bi guys because of other repercussions, i.e you're not allowed to donate blood if you've had sex with a man who's had sex with another man.

If they are meeting straight men because of something like this then it's absolutely not ok for the man to not disclose he is bi.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i use to state straight but either got i hate gay men or bi men are just gay or you should be honest, so i changed it to curious and those who want to reply will, the ones that do some are more polite when they say no but I'm more honest, i would like to try it but I'd want it in a mmf to help ease me into it, may sound odd but that's how i see it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

We say would you meet dave on your own, normally finds them out

Good idea and I'd do both happily. For what it's worth - ahem.

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By *azLily OP Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

"Honesty is really all that matters to us. Swinging only works when participants know and understand each other's boundaries. We will, and have, played with bi guys on the understanding that the play is totally straight. Bi play between guys is a complete turn off for both of us - and to suggest this makes us homophobic as some posters have done is ludicrous. It is just a preference.

This is what upsets me- the dishonesty.

I understand it's not for you and that bi men are a turn-off for you, but I wasn't saying that it's homophobic for it to be a turn-off at all. Everyone has their own preferences.

This seems somewhat selfish to me.... "

I understand your point too. I'm not trying to imply I don't care that they have been bullied or discriminated against... I do, and of course if it makes them feel safer then it is better to disclose it privately. The problem is, you won't find verifications from men on these profiles to 'prove' they are bisexual, so how do you know, as a potential meet?

"So what about people who don't meet bi guys because of other repercussions, i.e you're not allowed to donate blood if you've had sex with a man who's had sex with another man.

If they are meeting straight men because of something like this then it's absolutely not ok for the man to not disclose he is bi. "

I actually checked this because I wasn't sure it's true, but it is, regardless of whether condoms were worn during MM sex or not. So, I'd say that if it wasn't disclosed on their profiles it should DEFINITELY be disclosed in person or better yet prior to meeting, to avoid something like this happening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, okay, I get that there are homophobes here who will bully men for being bi.

Generally we insist that foreplay includes mutual bi-play before any cocks enter pussies. . .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its always an idea to ask them for a pic I ghave no probs sending a Cpl a pic of me with another guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think this is a grey area. For instance we like to play with dominant(ish) black guys as part of cuckold play. We are always on the look out for guys who will let me suck them. This is purely as a dominant act. They don't feel bi at all and why should they? We're not going to "out" them as being bi!

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

Bi men are far more generous lovers than those professing to be 100% straight. More adventurous too

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

I always insist that the males pay first .... so I can see what they are doing in intimate detail, then ..., I may or may not play.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

Good idea!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are quite a few 'straight' males in couples...quite ready to play straight...until sexual action starts..

its not just us single men that lie, straight or bi...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am openly bi on my profile here and in my case the large toys in my pics normally give away that my bottom likes a good pounding :P be that cock dildo or strapon

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By *heorgasmaddictMan over a year ago

Liverpool

I've played with men during threesome's. I've sucked, been sucked, had a man make me cum. But I wouldn't meet another man alone.

I guess it sounds weird but hey sexuality can be a peculiar thing!

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

"Bi men are far more generous lovers than those professing to be 100% straight. More adventurous too

Garbage

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

It's only gay if you push back whilst being fucked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am Bi and clearly states on my profile. Don't really care if it puts other people or couples off. I could quite happily play in a straight situation. Not all about the cock!

Also happy to meet the male half for a 1-2-1.

Guys who put Bi just to get a meet always get found out when it comes to sucking a hard cock.

Me, now I do like sucking a nice big fat cock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im orally bi, I love sucking a cock! I also play straight if the company im in doesn't want bi play.

I will also meet men on their own for a little suck session, if people don't like it then they won't ever meet me, enjoy what you do everyone, and don't worry about being labeled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im orally bi, I love sucking a cock! I also play straight if the company im in doesn't want bi play.

I will also meet men on their own for a little suck session, if people don't like it then they won't ever meet me, enjoy what you do everyone, and don't worry about being labeled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We always meet for a social drink before play.

can pretty much suss out the "pretenders"

also it amazes us the amount of men who can't read!!

our profile clearly states what we want etc, but still??

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By *aulp4alsMan over a year ago

Warrington

I agree totally. There are also too many single guys acting as a couple to meet me

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By *aulp4alsMan over a year ago

Warrington

Chams is a fantastic night on Mondays been a few times & love it

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By *aulp4alsMan over a year ago

Warrington

I am bi and have played with one guy alone but I prefer couples.

I like you play with a guy & a girl but I don't actually fancy guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it weird that currently I'm bi but won't meet men and don't fancy them atm

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By *heorgasmaddictMan over a year ago

Liverpool

Is it weird that currently I'm bi but won't meet men and don't fancy them atm

I don't fancy men. But I do like playing with their cocks. Go figure!

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By *teviliciousMan over a year ago

london/ Wisbech

I'm very bi curious but don't fancy men as singles! I'd love to be able to lick a ladies cum from her partners cock but can't seem to progress with this fantasy! My age & colour seems to be a problem for many????

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By *teviliciousMan over a year ago

london/ Wisbech

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By *achelnMarkCouple over a year ago

Mid Wiltshire

We now look for bi guys with a bi mate. *surely* all genuine bi guys have a guy they like and see?

Then we can have a nice bi MMMF and watch and enjoy lots of cock together!

Sadly, not many bi MM around.

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By *picyminxWoman over a year ago

Huntingdon

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

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By *heorgasmaddictMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"We now look for bi guys with a bi mate. *surely* all genuine bi guys have a guy they like and see?

Then we can have a nice bi MMMF and watch and enjoy lots of cock together!

Sadly, not many bi MM around.

Hmmmm I love the idea of a MMMF with you guys!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We now look for bi guys with a bi mate. *surely* all genuine bi guys have a guy they like and see?

Then we can have a nice bi MMMF and watch and enjoy lots of cock together!

Sadly, not many bi MM around.

Trying to find a genuine "out" bi guy around here has been impossible so far. So finding a regular friend who can accommodate has been impossible for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd imagine that most bi guys on here choose not to say so not because they're ashamed of being bi, but rather because the overall quality of single males on the site is so utterly shit that they'd rather not be harassed by them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd imagine that most bi guys on here choose not to say so not because they're ashamed of being bi, but rather because the overall quality of single males on the site is so utterly shit that they'd rather not be harassed by them."

Speak for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can play as straight as you like or as bi as is desired. I dont fancy men but I do like sharing a cock and all that goes along with it . I very rarely talk to straight couples now as had too many no shows when meets arranged. Fab is about fun . No point not stating what kind you enjoy.

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Okay, okay, I get that there are homophobes here who will bully men for being bi.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And do you get the same rubbish as us, don't put bi on profile as it puts girls off or because they have friends on the site, as you say, tough be honest "

I have guys saying that all the flipping time, drives me mad, be honest about it all for goodness sake ! Often they then get all mardy when i say "no thanks" to them and they end up blocked lol

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By *azLily OP Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

"I always insist that the males pay first .... so I can see what they are doing in intimate detail, then ..., I may or may not play."

That's not a bad idea either... I guess in some ways it's up to me to make sure the men we meet are genuinely bi, or call it off during the meet if need be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about us curious guys who havent tried it but are just not that sure lol im not into kissing guys but id accept a bj or maybe fuck a guy I have been sucked by a tv before I guess lips are lips :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I don't agree with guys putting straight when they are bi... False advertising.. For some couples it just isn't for them so guys shouldn't pretend they are straight just to get that one meet. It's not fair.. On this site I like to believe if I came across anyone I knew and they saw I was bi they'd be welcome to ask me about it. I'm not out so much outside of my swinging world but on here and within the lifestyle I am bi and proud.. And good at it too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The simple fact is that it is much more acceptable for a female to be bi than it is a male.

Machismo has a lot to answer for.

Also, there tends to be more stipulations with male bisexuality in comparison to that of female bisexuality..... No kissing/Oral only etc. You rarely read a profile where the woman is bi with caveats.

Back to the original question....yes, people should be honest, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

We say would you meet dave on your own, normally finds them out

It would put me off....but then it says straight on my profile for a reason lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cont....How do you tell the genuine bi guys from the fakers??? Chat, cam, and trust your instincts. Ask about past experiences, future fantasies etc?

Unfortunately though, what many guys fantasise about while hard and stroking.....Is not necessarily something they are willing to follow through in the cold flaccid light of day, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cont....How do you tell the genuine bi guys from the fakers??? Chat, cam, and trust your instincts. Ask about past experiences, future fantasies etc?

Unfortunately though, what many guys fantasise about while hard and stroking.....Is not necessarily something they are willing to follow through in the cold flaccid light of day, lol."

Not everyone's cup of tea I know but photos are a good way of verifying!!!

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By *ilberryMan over a year ago

Scarborough

A Bi lady is treated as a unicorn, a bi guy tends to be a avoid? I am up for a bi experience, my profile is straight and I have already been there!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cont....How do you tell the genuine bi guys from the fakers??? Chat, cam, and trust your instincts. Ask about past experiences, future fantasies etc?

Unfortunately though, what many guys fantasise about while hard and stroking.....Is not necessarily something they are willing to follow through in the cold flaccid light of day, lol."

Yes true although I found my first bi threesome way better, miles more pleasurable, than I had ever dreamed of. I expected a bit of a feel and squeeze of the balls but found myself hungry to have it tickling my tonsils within 30 seconds.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The simple fact is that it is much more acceptable for a female to be bi than it is a male.

Machismo has a lot to answer for.

Back to the original question....yes, people should be honest, lol.

True, female bisexuality is celebrated and boasted about, male...not really. I put this down to people generally associating women more directly with love and affection, and men with competition, hence why it's generally seen as more acceptable for a woman to be bi, but on the other hand, watching to women physically fight is more unpleasant than watching two men do it.

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By *andom2chatMan over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

I put Gay on mine. Nobody bullies the Gay guys - we fight back by criticising Str8's curtains & vile dress sense. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm probably gonna be publically stoned for this but often forum topics tend to come down to a "each to their own" mentality which implies mere differences of taste and opinion... when issues can be more complicated than that.

We don't mind the idea of bi guys, just as long as they keep it straight when they play with us. BUT... there is no doubt about it that the statistics for STD's increase dramatically when it involves anal intercourse. It then comes down to a risk vs. pleasure balance. For us there is no perceived pleasure advantage in playing with a bi guy over a straight guy... so it seems like an unnecessary increase in risk. This, then, would be why we might turn down playing with a bi dude... not any other cultural or personal issues. It's a question of personal health and the risks you're willing to take

A bi guy who doesn't do anal (do they exist?) might be ok, as would bi guys involved in a soft swap as that would just be oral sex... also, just to be clear, this is also why we currently wouldn't do anal with other couples...and we'd also not want to do anal with straight guys who do anal sex with other women. I'm just trying to explain that, for us, its about that extra risk factor and wherever that risk crops up

I guess, all in all, I just wanted to explain that it's not always just a question of bigotry or taste... sometimes there are very real choices people are having to make.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hadn't thought of it from that angle, thanks for your input.

Ps.. Guys who are orally bi only do exist.

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By *nonBjFunMan over a year ago

Around

I find a pic with a cock in your gob generally does the trick

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By *azLily OP Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

Thank you everyone for your input, particularly mpassion for explaining you particular choices.

I found it really interesting to read all your responses. :D

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By *itram23855Man over a year ago

rotherham/fuerteventura

It's says straight on my profile but I have been sucked to completion by a guy while I was eating his wife. Does that make me bi ???

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

"It's says straight on my profile but I have been sucked to completion by a guy while I was eating his wife. Does that make me bi ???"

Yes

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

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By *itram23855Man over a year ago

rotherham/fuerteventura

"It's says straight on my profile but I have been sucked to completion by a guy while I was eating his wife. Does that make me bi ???

Yes

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but I'm not attracted to men Per se it was just what happened in the heat of the moment (still yes ?)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ide gladly play with a guy on a first meet to prove ime bi. Don't mind her watching iether Or not

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

"It's says straight on my profile but I have been sucked to completion by a guy while I was eating his wife. Does that make me bi ???

Yes

but I'm not attracted to men Per se it was just what happened in the heat of the moment (still yes ?)"

Yes again. Please don't think that we are suggesting anything negative - it's just that all the "straight" guys we know would be totally turned off by just the thought of sexual contact with another man. It's not about labels it is about advertising yourself properly.

In our view if you had sex with man and didn't enjoy it and vowed you wouldn't do it again you were "bicurious" and satisfied your curiosity so are probably straight.

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By *itram23855Man over a year ago

rotherham/fuerteventura

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By *itram23855Man over a year ago

rotherham/fuerteventura

"It's says straight on my profile but I have been sucked to completion by a guy while I was eating his wife. Does that make me bi ???

Yes

but I'm not attracted to men Per se it was just what happened in the heat of the moment (still yes ?)

In our view if you had sex with man and didn't enjoy it and vowed you wouldn't do it again you were "bicurious" and satisfied your curiosity so are probably straight. "
no I appreciate your candour however if I was bi wouldn't I want to suck a cock ? Which I don't as it happens, surly there is a difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm probably gonna be publically stoned for this but often forum topics tend to come down to a "each to their own" mentality which implies mere differences of taste and opinion... when issues can be more complicated than that.

I guess, all in all, I just wanted to explain that it's not always just a question of bigotry or taste... sometimes there are very real choices people are having to make."

There are many bi guys who don't do anal !

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By *andom2chatMan over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

My first mail this morning is from a Str8 mans profile with the usual "How's you?" single line.

So as far as sexual status is concerned see it as an indication & not necessarily the case.

People may not want to state they are bi curious or show Veris reflecting the truth of the matter for personal reasons.

Of course this makes it difficult for Cpls deciding on meeting for Bi MFMs but if someone mails clearly not being honest in their profile I wouldn't probably respond to their mail in the first place. Why take a chance on an untruth of a downright lie?

Stick with the honest profiles that honestly show preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess, all in all, I just wanted to explain that it's not always just a question of bigotry or taste... sometimes there are very real choices people are having to make.

There are many bi guys who don't do anal !"

yes, this is a common misconception. All gay guys don't do anal - why would bi

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah a straight guy fabbed my profile pic earlier. Looked at his profile pics and all of his cock. I have a pic of my cock but it also shows my stomach downwards to give other fabbers a look of my body shape

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think bisexuality comes in different degrees, from slightly to the extreme a lot.

One thing I know there are more bisexual men than gay men but a lot hide and i don't blame them, sad but your life can be ruined if friends family and work find out.

Things have improved but there are a lot of stereotypes which men you won't be good enough for a job promotions, or mates won't won't to talk about certain thing or be seen naked infront of you.

So if a guy hides it I don't blame them, and i dont see why people have to disclose something that might be a once in a while sexual urge, and are forced to start flying a rainbow flag, so they can be categorised

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

"Bi men are far more generous lovers than those professing to be 100% straight. More adventurous too

Garbage"

Perhaps for you, not for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just say the std comment about bi men

Most str8 guys I know don't use condoms and seem annoyed if u mention it

You can be a virgin and have sex once and catch something like hiv and it happened to thousands of people and millions have caught it even tho they have had one partner.

The thing about hiv, it's only symptom can be a bad cold and how would u tell in the uk, cause we always have colds. And if only developes in AIDS like 10 to 15 years later, neither partner has to cheat, it can just be a one night stand a guy or girl had when single and they met someone and were faithful, and passsed it on to their partner.

Now being on a sex website like fab and not using a condom is asking for trouble (multiple partners with no condoms used) and, HIV infection are increasing dramatically in the str8 population cause of the influx of europeans and africans, it only take 6 degrees of seperation and you get and std.

So if i was a woman, and i didnt know a guy and it was on a sex website where people have muliple partners, instead of judging someone sexuality, find out if they prefer safe sex or not first + plus if they reguarly get tested, that how to not pick up an std, not using sexuality bias as ur sexualy health protection

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is no way to tell if a guy is bi unless he has got to the point in his life where he wants to be honest and be out as bi. Check his verifications there are enough out bi men to find someone to have fun with.

I would say a bi man is more adventurous and a generous lover but then I'm biased.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get so many straight men asking me to meet them it's unbelievable! I msg back saying your profile says your straight and they say I know I just keep it quiet! I have met men on my own but I don't fancy guys one bit i just like all types of sex and like to experiment. Not had much opportunity on here to join a bi couple. So any bi couples want to meet me let me know lol

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By *9rickyMan over a year ago

Manchester

Straight guy on profile but enjoy Bi play if required.

With profiles you are "dammed if you do" or "dammed if you don't"

So which way do you present yourself?

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

"Straight guy on profile but enjoy Bi play if required.

With profiles you are "dammed if you do" or "dammed if you don't"

So which way do you present yourself?

With honesty!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is no way to tell if a guy is bi unless he has got to the point in his life where he wants to be honest and be out as bi. Check his verifications there are enough out bi men to find someone to have fun with.

I would say a bi man is more adventurous and a generous lover but then I'm biased. "

Lol why do so many bi men think they are the bees knees on this site. Nothing puts me off more than arrogance. It's like you think you have something to prove. I just prefer straight men and don't care what others get up to on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess, all in all, I just wanted to explain that it's not always just a question of bigotry or taste... sometimes there are very real choices people are having to make."

Cause straight people never do anal, right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say a bi man is more adventurous and a generous lover but then I'm biased.

It's not arrogance it's self confidence there is a big difference. If I wasn't confident I wouldn't be out as bi. And arrogance would get me nowhere

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say a bi man is more adventurous and a generous lover but then I'm biased.

You just don't like bi men so your profile says so your opinion is also biased

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say a bi man is more adventurous and a generous lover but then I'm biased.

You just don't like bi men so your profile says so your opinion is also biased "

I didn't make the arrogant assumption that straight men are more considerate or better lovers.

And yes my preference is for straight men and it does clearly state that on my profile, problem?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone who feels the need to state they are more adventurous and generous lovers, usually aren't lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone who feels the need to state they are more adventurous and generous lovers, usually aren't lol. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone who needs to put lol at the end of every sentence isn't usually that funny.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone who needs to put lol at the end of every sentence isn't usually that funny. "

Aww wondered when you would pop up. Can't help it can you. It's like you are obsessed with my posts LOL

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

why do so many bi men think they are the bees knees on this site. Nothing puts me off more than arrogance. It's like you think you have something to prove. I just prefer straight men and don't care what others get up to on here. "

That because I am.

I'm FUCKING BRILLIANT. Ive the best COCK and I'm the best fuck in the wHOLE WourrllllD

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That because I am.

I'm FUCKING BRILLIANT. Ive the best COCK and I'm the best fuck in the wHOLE WourrllllD

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are we so hung up on labels. Many 'straight' guys may be swayed in a hot MFM scenario. Furthermore, there are degrees of bi ness ! I like to be clear about limits and expectations, just as many would in a bdsm scenario !

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By *andom2chatMan over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

Are Bi's better lovers? I suppose that depends on what your preferences are. Someone actively seeking Bi guys will think they are, whilst folk not wanting Bi guys will prefer Str8 men. That's just going to be a fact to those when it comes to preferences.

As for those that "bully" Bi's - I'm pleased to report I've never experienced any bullying on Fab, & if I were to there are simple tools to Block & Report. I'm sure Str8s use these tools to stop being pestered as we can use them against any bullying. Use the tools people.

Meanwhile if there are any local Bi guys (& Bi friendly gals) fancy hooking up... feel free to mail me. Let's put this thread to the test & see if we can explore some fun together.

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

Im please i amused you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This!!!

Most bi guys and pretty much respect other peoples boundaries.

Straight or bi is really of no relevance to us, as long as we know its never an issue. We will happily meet bi and straight couples. We understand that people have preferences and it is their choice and we are happy enough to let others enjoy their lifestyle in any way they wish. Its not for anyone else to judge their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im please i amused you "

Yes you certainly did

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

Should you ever be down south or i up north and get the chance to meet you i think the intercourse would be most amusing

take care have fun!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Should you ever be down south or i up north and get the chance to meet you i think the intercourse would be most amusing

take care have fun!"

Lol Ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just picked on this re vitalised topic ..... I a happy to admit I a bi and understand the history of trolls on here or other sites, however I am still Bi sexual, that's not changed and I refuse to lie about it in order to try and get laid .......as I say on my profile - its cool for to women to have full FF sex, but very un cool if two men have sex - Why ????? well in my opinion its the whole "anal sex" thing - yet conversely a very large proportion of females love anal sex ?

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By *d871Man over a year ago

nowhere

I'm bisexual, says it on my profile and I have been verified by men and women. I am constantly contacted and viewed by "straight" men. Strangely, after I've met them, they don't leave a verification for me? I'm sure that there are people who put bisexual on their profile just to get meets the same as there are "couples" who don't appear to have a female half. There should be a blacklist for those people. They spoil the site for the genuine people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm bisexual, says it on my profile and I have been verified by men and women. I am constantly contacted and viewed by "straight" men. Strangely, after I've met them, they don't leave a verification for me? I'm sure that there are people who put bisexual on their profile just to get meets the same as there are "couples" who don't appear to have a female half. There should be a blacklist for those people. They spoil the site for the genuine people. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, okay, I get that there are homophobes here who will bully men for being bi.

I'm bi and when in the chat rooms loads of straight men pm me and wanna play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The simple fact is that it is much more acceptable for a female to be bi than it is a male.

Machismo has a lot to answer for.

Not sure about that....was a real good bitch slap at a festival last weekend....most entertaining!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah cause that couldn't be abused at all could it.

Naming and shaming people definitely wouldn't be abused.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The simple fact is that it is much more acceptable for a female to be bi than it is a male.

Machismo has a lot to answer for.

Back to the original question....yes, people should be honest, lol.

I dunno ultimate surrender seems to be doing pretty well for itself.

And foxy boxing

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By *uddy and hollyCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Tell them the guys will play first while she just watches. That puts off the real straight guys...

"
just what we do soon sorts them out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been dabbling with guys since I was 18. But it's only now, in my thirties, I've been a lot more open with the fact I'm bi.

Would I tell my family or mates I swing both ways?

Family maybe, mates no.

I suppose it comes from my blokey upbringing(sport, beer, lads, banter, etc.)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've only read the OP and a few replies here so if I repeat something thats already been said then I apologise... I am Bi, but I don't just jump at every bi bloke out there as I am sure most straight or gay people don't... When it comes to a couple where the guy is bi I do admit that the mmf aspect is a big turn on for me so if a couple were to for arguments sake say ' no meet unless you meet the male on your own first' then I wouldn't meet, for me I find it a turn on playing with the guy (if I find him attractive) in front of his partner is where I get a huge boost, I would agree that there are in all probability shed loads of guys out there who do just put 'bi' in the hope of jumping on the female, and I agree there must be a way of combating this and the 'no meet unless you two play first' is a good check, but the other side is how many couples profiles are in reality single bi guys ?? In short if I contacted a couple or they contacted me I would be happy to play but only if the lady is present, that does not mean she has to take part but she would need to be there , especially as the voyeuristic aspect is a large part of what turns me on...

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By *d871Man over a year ago

nowhere

"I've only read the OP and a few replies here so if I repeat something thats already been said then I apologise... I am Bi, but I don't just jump at every bi bloke out there as I am sure most straight or gay people don't... When it comes to a couple where the guy is bi I do admit that the mmf aspect is a big turn on for me so if a couple were to for arguments sake say ' no meet unless you meet the male on your own first' then I wouldn't meet, for me I find it a turn on playing with the guy (if I find him attractive) in front of his partner is where I get a huge boost, I would agree that there are in all probability shed loads of guys out there who do just put 'bi' in the hope of jumping on the female, and I agree there must be a way of combating this and the 'no meet unless you two play first' is a good check, but the other side is how many couples profiles are in reality single bi guys ?? In short if I contacted a couple or they contacted me I would be happy to play but only if the lady is present, that does not mean she has to take part but she would need to be there , especially as the voyeuristic aspect is a large part of what turns me on... "

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By *iMMFirsttimeCouple over a year ago

Birmingham & London

We delete and block if it says str8 on profile, also insist on just the guys meeting first (non-sexual), we still get lots of mails from str8 guys so they obviously don't read the profile. We also get accused of being a single male with a couples profile!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been dabbling with guys since I was 18. But it's only now, in my thirties, I've been a lot more open with the fact I'm bi.

Would I tell my family or mates I swing both ways?

Family maybe, mates no.

I suppose it comes from my blokey upbringing(sport, beer, lads, banter, etc.)"

Strange though that sport, beer, lads together and machismo banter has always seemed very homoerotic in a funny way. It's kind of anti-women/just men together

S x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Strange though that sport, beer, lads together and machismo banter has always seemed very homoerotic in a funny way. It's kind of anti-women/just men together

S x"

Haha too true!

Some of the things d*unken lads get up too when together is very homoerotic.

Wrestling/fighting in various states of undress. Comparing body parts. Tea-bagging. D*unken made-up sports involving male body parts.

Well, just a hint of my last twenty d*unken years.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Strange though that sport, beer, lads together and machismo banter has always seemed very homoerotic in a funny way. It's kind of anti-women/just men together

S x

Haha too true!

Some of the things d*unken lads get up too when together is very homoerotic.

Wrestling/fighting in various states of undress. Comparing body parts. Tea-bagging. D*unken made-up sports involving male body parts.

Well, just a hint of my last twenty d*unken years.

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By *andom2chatMan over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"We delete and block if it says str8 on profile, also insist on just the guys meeting first (non-sexual), we still get lots of mails from str8 guys so they obviously don't read the profile. We also get accused of being a single male with a couples profile!!"

Whereas I get accused of a gay guy trying to get to a Str8 hubby.

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