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over a year ago
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Why do so many guys feel the need to pull my metaphorical (but now shaved off) pigtails? It's like being in the playground again.
If you are interested in me, the way to show it isn't to insult me or try to wind me up...
Anyone shed any light on this dumb behavior? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If they are insulting you and so on, I wouldn't say they liked you. I'd say they didn't.
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That's what I think, but apparently they *do* like me. Apparently some guys just insult women they find attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Usually men reserve playful insults for there bloke mates. Seems odd to insult a woman that they like to me."
If I was to hazard a guess, I think subconsciously it's about knocking some of the confidence out of their target before going in for the kill.
But I'm a bit of a cynic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Usually men reserve playful insults for there bloke mates. Seems odd to insult a woman that they like to me.
If I was to hazard a guess, I think subconsciously it's about knocking some of the confidence out of their target before going in for the kill.
But I'm a bit of a cynic."
Cynic you may be, but that actually makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they are insulting you and so on, I wouldn't say they liked you. I'd say they didn't.
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That's what I think, but apparently they *do* like me. Apparently some guys just insult women they find attractive."
They may be attracted to you but think you are too confident and need taking down a peg or two. I used to be a domestic violence councillor and this sounds like classic dv behaviour to me. |
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The play ground analogy can be a good one for some. By teasing, insulting "banter", provocation some will hope to see if they get any positive feedback before risking a knock back by showing they like you.
It's a broad spectrum of behaviour not a one size fits all. Presumably they've had some success but it does seem counter intuitive and lacks maturity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they are insulting you and so on, I wouldn't say they liked you. I'd say they didn't.
X
That's what I think, but apparently they *do* like me. Apparently some guys just insult women they find attractive.
They may be attracted to you but think you are too confident and need taking down a peg or two. I used to be a domestic violence councillor and this sounds like classic dv behaviour to me. "
Agree. 
I love it from someone that knows me. It shows a certain fondness. Not from a stranger though. |
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"Why do so many guys feel the need to pull my metaphorical (but now shaved off) pigtails? It's like being in the playground again.
If you are interested in me, the way to show it isn't to insult me or try to wind me up...
Anyone shed any light on this dumb behavior?"
I like to pull pigtails but only as the lady is about to cum so it pushes her over the edge 
I really don't see the point in insulting people even in banter I don't do it a lot with mates. Much more fun to be the flirt XD got a couple of guy mates that would swear I was gay from how I tease them :p |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If they are insulting you and so on, I wouldn't say they liked you. I'd say they didn't.
X
That's what I think, but apparently they *do* like me. Apparently some guys just insult women they find attractive.
They may be attracted to you but think you are too confident and need taking down a peg or two. I used to be a domestic violence councillor and this sounds like classic dv behaviour to me.
Agree.
I love it from someone that knows me. It shows a certain fondness. Not from a stranger though. "
Yeah exactly. My partners and I casually insult each other all the time, it's just part of our banter and we don't do it where people can overhear us in case it's misinterpreted (except occasionally on BookFace).
But to do it to a stranger? Weird.
Like last night some guy irritated the fuck out of me in his first message, so I asked him why he'd do that. He told me it was just to try and get a response because women on this site never respond. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and then a few messages later (I was curt because I was clearly slightly ticked off at being played this way) he told me I needed anger management lessons for my foul attitude... of course then I said I didn't want to speak to him any further, and he gets all whiney and needy because he 'really likes me' and that I'm 'the perfect girl' - or rather was seeing his chance of a fuck disappear... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they are insulting you and so on, I wouldn't say they liked you. I'd say they didn't.
X
That's what I think, but apparently they *do* like me. Apparently some guys just insult women they find attractive.
They may be attracted to you but think you are too confident and need taking down a peg or two. I used to be a domestic violence councillor and this sounds like classic dv behaviour to me.
Agree.
I love it from someone that knows me. It shows a certain fondness. Not from a stranger though.
Yeah exactly. My partners and I casually insult each other all the time, it's just part of our banter and we don't do it where people can overhear us in case it's misinterpreted (except occasionally on BookFace).
But to do it to a stranger? Weird.
Like last night some guy irritated the fuck out of me in his first message, so I asked him why he'd do that. He told me it was just to try and get a response because women on this site never respond. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and then a few messages later (I was curt because I was clearly slightly ticked off at being played this way) he told me I needed anger management lessons for my foul attitude... of course then I said I didn't want to speak to him any further, and he gets all whiney and needy because he 'really likes me' and that I'm 'the perfect girl' - or rather was seeing his chance of a fuck disappear..."
Iv learnt men (and maybe some women. Not me) will charm and say anything to get what they want and not give two hoots about anyone but themselves. |
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"If they are insulting you and so on, I wouldn't say they liked you. I'd say they didn't.
X
That's what I think, but apparently they *do* like me. Apparently some guys just insult women they find attractive.
They may be attracted to you but think you are too confident and need taking down a peg or two. I used to be a domestic violence councillor and this sounds like classic dv behaviour to me.
Agree.
I love it from someone that knows me. It shows a certain fondness. Not from a stranger though.
Yeah exactly. My partners and I casually insult each other all the time, it's just part of our banter and we don't do it where people can overhear us in case it's misinterpreted (except occasionally on BookFace).
But to do it to a stranger? Weird.
Like last night some guy irritated the fuck out of me in his first message, so I asked him why he'd do that. He told me it was just to try and get a response because women on this site never respond. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and then a few messages later (I was curt because I was clearly slightly ticked off at being played this way) he told me I needed anger management lessons for my foul attitude... of course then I said I didn't want to speak to him any further, and he gets all whiney and needy because he 'really likes me' and that I'm 'the perfect girl' - or rather was seeing his chance of a fuck disappear...
Iv learnt men (and maybe some women. Not me) will charm and say anything to get what they want and not give two hoots about anyone but themselves. "
Very true BCW sadly. I've known that for a long time. There are some good men and women out there but you have to be careful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do so many guys feel the need to pull my metaphorical (but now shaved off) pigtails? It's like being in the playground again.
If you are interested in me, the way to show it isn't to insult me or try to wind me up...
Anyone shed any light on this dumb behavior?"
Fuckwits? I think that's a fair summation.
I like to pull the real thing personally. Or a ponytail buttplug.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they are insulting you and so on, I wouldn't say they liked you. I'd say they didn't.
X
That's what I think, but apparently they *do* like me. Apparently some guys just insult women they find attractive.
They may be attracted to you but think you are too confident and need taking down a peg or two. I used to be a domestic violence councillor and this sounds like classic dv behaviour to me.
Agree.
I love it from someone that knows me. It shows a certain fondness. Not from a stranger though.
Yeah exactly. My partners and I casually insult each other all the time, it's just part of our banter and we don't do it where people can overhear us in case it's misinterpreted (except occasionally on BookFace).
But to do it to a stranger? Weird.
Like last night some guy irritated the fuck out of me in his first message, so I asked him why he'd do that. He told me it was just to try and get a response because women on this site never respond. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and then a few messages later (I was curt because I was clearly slightly ticked off at being played this way) he told me I needed anger management lessons for my foul attitude... of course then I said I didn't want to speak to him any further, and he gets all whiney and needy because he 'really likes me' and that I'm 'the perfect girl' - or rather was seeing his chance of a fuck disappear..."
I sometimes give them benefit of the doubt too but often end up disappointed. I think there's a fine line between teasing banter and just being plain rude. Can never quite tell the intent from text but after a while it can become clear. |
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