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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There are a lot of single fems "not meeting"
However this one caught my eye
A new member
Joined 2 days ago
"Currently not meeting"
Anyone find that amusing? |
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"There are a lot of single fems "not meeting"
However this one caught my eye
A new member
Joined 2 days ago
"Currently not meeting"
Anyone find that amusing?"
We don't arrange meets but have had lots of fun chatting and going on the forums. If we want to play with others we go to Chams  |
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over a year ago
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even as a single male i gave some serious thought about why i would join a site like this and what i wanted from it.I wrote a long profile reflecting that for most of the decade ive been on and off here.I dont bother these days.
The site is more facebook like.It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"even as a single male i gave some serious thought about why i would join a site like this and what i wanted from it.I wrote a long profile reflecting that for most of the decade ive been on and off here.I dont bother these days.
The site is more facebook like.It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol "
very narrow minded.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of single fems "not meeting"
However this one caught my eye
A new member
Joined 2 days ago
"Currently not meeting"
Anyone find that amusing?"
Not amusing but pretty typical |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"even as a single male i gave some serious thought about why i would join a site like this and what i wanted from it.I wrote a long profile reflecting that for most of the decade ive been on and off here.I dont bother these days.
The site is more facebook like.It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol "
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers. "
In fact, when someone rejects you, remember that what they may be saying is that they'd love sex, just not with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers.
In fact, when someone rejects you, remember that what they may be saying is that they'd love sex, just not with you. "
Exactly this. |
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers.
In fact, when someone rejects you, remember that what they may be saying is that they'd love sex, just not with you.
Exactly this."
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well I never looked at it as a
Getting a feel for the site thing
I get that now
But with so many fakes ect
It just all adds to the frustration of what fab has become |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I never looked at it as a
Getting a feel for the site thing
I get that now
But with so many fakes ect
It just all adds to the frustration of what fab has become"
This is why so many people block non-verified, or non-supporters, or they go to clubs and use fab as an extension of the clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers.
In fact, when someone rejects you, remember that what they may be saying is that they'd love sex, just not with you.
Exactly this."
Perhaps I am reading a different post but where does it say the op has been rejected or turned down ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers. "
yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers.
yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting. "
Plenty of people do that, they're called target members. If we're continuing the fat camp analogy, I've lost the weight I want to lose (met some people I like to keep meeting) but want to maintain that weight and enjoy the social side of the weight watchers meeting (piss about on the forums, message existing friends and have fun with photos). Should my weight creep up again (should I have more time to meet or someone particularly catches my eye) I'll just start dieting again.
Besides, there's fuck all wrong with being an attention seeker, I am one and quite happy to be called it. |
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I'm chuckling cos I am sure the OP has learnt a lot from the replies he got - most he did not bargain on! It'll teach you - not - to ask a question for which you thought you knew (all) the answers |
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"even as a single male i gave some serious thought about why i would join a site like this and what i wanted from it.I wrote a long profile reflecting that for most of the decade ive been on and off here.I dont bother these days.
The site is more facebook like.It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol "
We are neither lonely or attention seeking and are most definitely genuine as we are honest about what we are on here for.
To be able to talk to like-minded people and then talk to them should we bump into each other at a club (pardon the pun) is not something to be denegrated.
Oh...and the pics are of us.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing.
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Jumping to conclusions is shitty isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers.
In fact, when someone rejects you, remember that what they may be saying is that they'd love sex, just not with you.
Exactly this.
Perhaps I am reading a different post but where does it say the op has been rejected or turned down ?"
No, you are reading the correct post. But, typical of this forum, it is re-directed, with the same post & paste responses, to one of half-a-dozen thread-endings |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of single fems "not meeting"
However this one caught my eye
A new member
Joined 2 days ago
"Currently not meeting"
Anyone find that amusing?"
It doesn't really matter what she puts..most will still message her asking to meet anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol
Or they want to look, chat, get to know people and have sex on their terms, and avoid those who think everyone who rejects them are either not genuine or lonely attention-seekers.
In fact, when someone rejects you, remember that what they may be saying is that they'd love sex, just not with you. "
So true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"even as a single male i gave some serious thought about why i would join a site like this and what i wanted from it.I wrote a long profile reflecting that for most of the decade ive been on and off here.I dont bother these days.
The site is more facebook like.It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol "
I put not meeting on my profile when I don't want to meet anyone new. It's called having a break and doing what I want to do,not what some men think I should be doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And I don't hide my profile because someone who is actually interested in me, and not looking for a quick or convenient fuck with whoever is online, will come back when the open for business sign goes up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bit she only joined a cpl of days ago
Hardly time to take a break!!!"
I came back and put not meeting at first. Now just meeting with people I've met previously. More than likely it's someone not wanted hounded. That doesn't want to have to hide either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting.
Plenty of people do that, they're called target members. If we're continuing the fat camp analogy, I've lost the weight I want to lose (met some people I like to keep meeting) but want to maintain that weight and enjoy the social side of the weight watchers meeting (piss about on the forums, message existing friends and have fun with photos). Should my weight creep up again (should I have more time to meet or someone particularly catches my eye) I'll just start dieting again.
Besides, there's fuck all wrong with being an attention seeker, I am one and quite happy to be called it. "
I made no judgement about attention seeking being wrong.I didnt say it was wrong at all did I ? I didnt say it was right either. It was just a statement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting.
Plenty of people do that, they're called target members. If we're continuing the fat camp analogy, I've lost the weight I want to lose (met some people I like to keep meeting) but want to maintain that weight and enjoy the social side of the weight watchers meeting (piss about on the forums, message existing friends and have fun with photos). Should my weight creep up again (should I have more time to meet or someone particularly catches my eye) I'll just start dieting again.
Besides, there's fuck all wrong with being an attention seeker, I am one and quite happy to be called it.
I made no judgement about attention seeking being wrong.I didnt say it was wrong at all did I ? I didnt say it was right either. It was just a statement. "
You didn't really need to, the inference was in the tone...subtext is often assumed when using only written language but it was certainly implied... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it some people have to ruin a conversation by being nasty and slimed with comments?"
And you can't see the irony in that after your previous post at all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We joined while our lives were a bit in turmoil, thinking it'd be a good way of drumming up interest and making connections so that when we were ready we could dive right in. Unfortunately that was just over a year ago and our lives have been something of a brazilian soap opera ever since. In the beginning I met up with a few people, with a _iew to introducing them to the mrs if I felt there was likely to be some attraction there... but pretty soon we realised that this was pointless if we weren't available to play... so we put up a notice to that effect and haven't met anyone since.
However, as we're both pretty trim and ok looking we kept on getting lovely messages from gorgeous people that we'd have to try and explain ourselves to. I think most people could tell that we're genuine but just preoccupied... but I'm sure some figured we were fake... a lot thought we were undecided when we're not... and seeing as its mostly me (mr) who's on here some might even think I'm just a bloke pretending to be a couple (although I should emphasise that we are photo verified as a couple... so hopefully that counts for something ). In the end we had a eureka moment and took down our photos, which weren't even really that great in the first place (one of my meets told me I looked much more handsome in person than on the photos  ), and are now using the least attractive photo for our avatar (couldn't find a way to turn it back into the default shadow head). Fingers crossed this stems the tide of interested people
It's a bit weird to be on a site that you know, sooner or later your gonna rage on.. but, unlike others, you're having to put on the breaks because of vanilla issues that are still playing out... but there you go... that's real life sometimes... at least we've learnt a hell of a lot about swinging and how to use this site in the meantime Soooo looking forward to being free of it all and getting stuck in
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By (user no longer on site)
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"couldn't find a way to turn it back into the default shadow head). Fingers crossed this stems the tide of interested people"
On mobile site: Home page, manage photos link, click remove profile photo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting.
Plenty of people do that, they're called target members. If we're continuing the fat camp analogy, I've lost the weight I want to lose (met some people I like to keep meeting) but want to maintain that weight and enjoy the social side of the weight watchers meeting (piss about on the forums, message existing friends and have fun with photos). Should my weight creep up again (should I have more time to meet or someone particularly catches my eye) I'll just start dieting again.
Besides, there's fuck all wrong with being an attention seeker, I am one and quite happy to be called it.
I made no judgement about attention seeking being wrong.I didnt say it was wrong at all did I ? I didnt say it was right either. It was just a statement.
You didn't really need to, the inference was in the tone...subtext is often assumed when using only written language but it was certainly implied..."
There was no tone other than one you imagine and i cant be responsible for what you "assume" im sorry but your assumption is wrong. for the record when it comes to attention seeking in this instance i wouldn't say it was wrong. When i stated "most" were attention seeking thats how i see it.It doesnt really do anything for me personally, nor harm me. Im here to meet people i like who want to meet. Those who in my _iew who arent interested in meeting i block. I dont mail them trying to get them to change their mind. I dont feel rejected. I dont know if i have made myself clear really as you could read what you like into anything maybe ? wonders of the english language. when you try to be concise and clear its misinterpreted. such is life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting.
Plenty of people do that, they're called target members. If we're continuing the fat camp analogy, I've lost the weight I want to lose (met some people I like to keep meeting) but want to maintain that weight and enjoy the social side of the weight watchers meeting (piss about on the forums, message existing friends and have fun with photos). Should my weight creep up again (should I have more time to meet or someone particularly catches my eye) I'll just start dieting again.
Besides, there's fuck all wrong with being an attention seeker, I am one and quite happy to be called it.
I made no judgement about attention seeking being wrong.I didnt say it was wrong at all did I ? I didnt say it was right either. It was just a statement.
You didn't really need to, the inference was in the tone...subtext is often assumed when using only written language but it was certainly implied...
There was no tone other than one you imagine and i cant be responsible for what you "assume" im sorry but your assumption is wrong. for the record when it comes to attention seeking in this instance i wouldn't say it was wrong. When i stated "most" were attention seeking thats how i see it.It doesnt really do anything for me personally, nor harm me. Im here to meet people i like who want to meet. Those who in my _iew who arent interested in meeting i block. I dont mail them trying to get them to change their mind. I dont feel rejected. I dont know if i have made myself clear really as you could read what you like into anything maybe ? wonders of the english language. when you try to be concise and clear its misinterpreted. such is life "
Attention seeking tends to get bandied around on here as if it's the ultimate insult, which I'm sure you well know, so as a choice of words your intention seemed quite clear and concise indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"couldn't find a way to turn it back into the default shadow head). Fingers crossed this stems the tide of interested people
On mobile site: Home page, manage photos link, click remove profile photo! "
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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago
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Maybe people do meet but dont feel the need to broadcast the gory details all over their profile. Might have select fuck buddies, might look for people themselves rather than put up with the 'fancy a fuck' brigade. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yep think ill go join weight watchers and say im currently not dieting.
Plenty of people do that, they're called target members. If we're continuing the fat camp analogy, I've lost the weight I want to lose (met some people I like to keep meeting) but want to maintain that weight and enjoy the social side of the weight watchers meeting (piss about on the forums, message existing friends and have fun with photos). Should my weight creep up again (should I have more time to meet or someone particularly catches my eye) I'll just start dieting again.
Besides, there's fuck all wrong with being an attention seeker, I am one and quite happy to be called it.
I made no judgement about attention seeking being wrong.I didnt say it was wrong at all did I ? I didnt say it was right either. It was just a statement.
You didn't really need to, the inference was in the tone...subtext is often assumed when using only written language but it was certainly implied...
There was no tone other than one you imagine and i cant be responsible for what you "assume" im sorry but your assumption is wrong. for the record when it comes to attention seeking in this instance i wouldn't say it was wrong. When i stated "most" were attention seeking thats how i see it.It doesnt really do anything for me personally, nor harm me. Im here to meet people i like who want to meet. Those who in my _iew who arent interested in meeting i block. I dont mail them trying to get them to change their mind. I dont feel rejected. I dont know if i have made myself clear really as you could read what you like into anything maybe ? wonders of the english language. when you try to be concise and clear its misinterpreted. such is life
Attention seeking tends to get bandied around on here as if it's the ultimate insult, which I'm sure you well know, so as a choice of words your intention seemed quite clear and concise indeed. "
Haha ok. I agree you know what i meant better than i did.
I dont really know that attention seeking gets bandied around as if its the "ultimate insult" I only really interact with a handful of site members and I rarely ever visit the forums or post because of this very thing. I mean i can think of far worse things to insult people with for a start.
I was trying to be polite by letting you know you had assumed wrongly but you wont seem to accept that, or my clarification. so cheerio , enjoy your day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are a lot of single fems "not meeting"
However this one caught my eye
A new member
Joined 2 days ago
"Currently not meeting"
Anyone find that amusing?"
Maybe she has been here before, has rejoined and knows that some men on here will jump on any new female profile as they _iew them as fresh meet.
What ever her reasons it's her profile to run how she likes. Meeting isn't mandatory believe it or not!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some people are here to meet and have fun , and some like the idea but aren't ready , and perhaps never will be .
It's a bit like a shop which sells what the owner considers to be a plethora of wonderful goods . When a potential customer wanders in , and walks round looking at the goods on offer , he hopes they will find something they wish to purchase . But if they don't , and walk out without buying anything , he is somewhat perplexed - what's wrong with his wonderful goods ?
Maybe nothing at all . Perhaps they were just browsing and maybe they will be back one day .
And maybe he just didn't have what they were looking for . And perhaps they may have just been passing a bit of time ...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I set up my singles profile here, I stated i wasn't meeting, simply to catch my footing and to renew contact with others i knew from my old couples profile. Currently not meeting due to personal reasons but still on to have a laugh with people I've gotten to know. As stated on here many times people use this site for numerous reasons so don't judge them just because their reasons aren't the same as your own |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I am not meeting. I am a huge attention seeker
But I don't waste one second of anyone's time on here. I don't message people nor do I encourage people to message me.
I do my thing and if people don't like me being here, I don't give a flying fuck. Any issue they have, THEY have created, not me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people are here to meet and have fun , and some like the idea but aren't ready , and perhaps never will be .
It's a bit like a shop which sells what the owner considers to be a plethora of wonderful goods . When a potential customer wanders in , and walks round looking at the goods on offer , he hopes they will find something they wish to purchase . But if they don't , and walk out without buying anything , he is somewhat perplexed - what's wrong with his wonderful goods ?
Maybe nothing at all . Perhaps they were just browsing and maybe they will be back one day .
And maybe he just didn't have what they were looking for . And perhaps they may have just been passing a bit of time ...... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"even as a single male i gave some serious thought about why i would join a site like this and what i wanted from it.I wrote a long profile reflecting that for most of the decade ive been on and off here.I dont bother these days.
The site is more facebook like.It might be harsh but most of the "not currently meeting" types are lonely or attention seeking in my opinion and not genuine people looking to swing. I instantly block them i dont care how hot the photos are they stole from facebook lol "
I do so love this place as it gives me my feelings without even needing to think about it , thank you I'm relieved today that I am only lonely , attention seeking and not genuine |
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