Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal? |
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I would leave it alone. You don't want to be damaging any other poor women do you. As for the all women get wet,I suggest some tissue to daub them with,less lubrication will help. |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?"
There's no reason any of those things should happen.
If you're damaging someone to the point that they need surgery just from normal sex, you really, really, really, REALLY need to review your technique. |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?
There's no reason any of those things should happen.
If you're damaging someone to the point that they need surgery just from normal sex, you really, really, really, REALLY need to review your technique."
Yes I guess ur right. But how, now it's in my head? |
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"I would leave it alone. You don't want to be damaging any other poor women do you. As for the all women get wet,I suggest some tissue to daub them with,less lubrication will help. "
No lubricant during intercourse. Tissue I agree but a bit embarrassing  |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?
There's no reason any of those things should happen.
If you're damaging someone to the point that they need surgery just from normal sex, you really, really, really, REALLY need to review your technique."
I'm gobsmacked. How on earth does someone get damaged from consensual anal?
All sounds like each bad experience you've had comes from YOU not warming them up first in that department.
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?
There's no reason any of those things should happen.
If you're damaging someone to the point that they need surgery just from normal sex, you really, really, really, REALLY need to review your technique.
I'm gobsmacked. How on earth does someone get damaged from consensual anal?
All sounds like each bad experience you've had comes from YOU not warming them up first in that department.
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Maybe so. Always stimulate the area and well lubed for it. Take it slow and easy. What else can I do? |
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Maybe try reviewing before you go again. That way you'll be totally clued up on what your partner wants/needs/expects.
Certainly don't do it again until you are far more knowledgeable on good techniques. There is no need for mess, anal should never be painful if done well and there is certainly something wrong if you cause serious injury.
Sounds to me like this was all for your pleasure and not for his/hers. A very selfish attitude that should really be addressed before you even consider doing it again. |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?
There's no reason any of those things should happen.
If you're damaging someone to the point that they need surgery just from normal sex, you really, really, really, REALLY need to review your technique.
I'm gobsmacked. How on earth does someone get damaged from consensual anal?
All sounds like each bad experience you've had comes from YOU not warming them up first in that department.
Maybe so. Always stimulate the area and well lubed for it. Take it slow and easy. What else can I do?"
Stimulate how?! The only time I've had messy anal was a 9 inch ex who went too quick too fast....
The current fb and I adore anal and he's thicker than my wrist and a good 8 inches and we've not encountered any problems at all.
I just don't understand the damage aspect. |
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"Sounds to me like this was all for your pleasure and not for his/hers. A very selfish attitude that should really be addressed before you even consider doing it again."
Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that |
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"Maybe try reviewing before you go again. That way you'll be totally clued up on what your partner wants/needs/expects.
Certainly don't do it again until you are far more knowledgeable on good techniques. There is no need for mess, anal should never be painful if done well and there is certainly something wrong if you cause serious injury.
Sounds to me like this was all for your pleasure and not for his/hers. A very selfish attitude that should really be addressed before you even consider doing it again."
Totally consensual and not just for me at all. How dare you call me selfish. |
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that "
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen. |
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen."
It wasn't regular anal. |
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen."
He never said it was regular. He said he tried it three times and never said was with same person. if anything there is a lack of information but surprise surprise doesn't stop people talking to/judging him likes he's tw@t. |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
lube xx
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?"
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen.
It wasn't regular anal. "
My advice. Speak to people who you are already in contact with. They will be open minded and not a judgemental arse. Hopefully then you might get some help  |
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen.
He never said it was regular. He said he tried it three times and never said was with same person. if anything there is a lack of information but surprise surprise doesn't stop people talking to/judging him likes he's tw@t."
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"It wasn't regular anal."
Well then, if it wasn't just anal sex and was something else, nobody can really give you any advice unless you tell them what you were trying to do. |
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At first I thought the op was secretly bragging about his cock size...
Now he says it wasn't regular anal? ?
What else are you not telling us?
So do my, buggery,bum fucking has been practised forever!! & I have rarely heard of surgery being required as a result..
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Was this just "feeling really horny, let's do anal" last minute, spontaneous anal?
It sounds like.... I have introduced a few who were adamant they would never do it, to anal.
But talking about it means you don't just do it last min, cause your horny...
Failing to prepare and all that....
And more than lube, I have found time is the most important, I'm personally of the opinion that if you haven't already had two fingers inside, then it's too early.
Never had really messy, yes minor, but usually due to some left over water from douching & you never notice till after.
As for minor surgery.... What??
Sometimes you can get some abrasion injuries, but if time and lube have been used liberally, then a few days break and the soreness will of gone. |
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"At first I thought the op was secretly bragging about his cock size...
Now he says it wasn't regular anal? ?
What else are you not telling us?
So do my, buggery,bum fucking has been practised forever!! & I have rarely heard of surgery being required as a result..
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how can it be regular. I've tried it 3 times with 3 different female's. Thats it. I've taken all criticism constructively. |
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"At first I thought the op was secretly bragging about his cock size...
Now he says it wasn't regular anal? ?
What else are you not telling us?
So do my, buggery,bum fucking has been practised forever!! & I have rarely heard of surgery being required as a result..
how can it be regular. I've tried it 3 times with 3 different female's. Thats it. I've taken all criticism constructively."
'Regular' as in 'not abnormal'.
Regular anal sex is like, just putting your penis in someone elses anus.
More unusual anal sex would be things like fisting or large object insertion.
If you caused someone to require surgery by just inserting your penis in their anus and moving it backwards and fowards, then you were almost certainly being far too violent and you need to rethink that approach. Either that or you have the biggest cock on the planet. |
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"Was this just "feeling really horny, let's do anal" last minute, spontaneous anal?
It sounds like.... I have introduced a few who were adamant they would never do it, to anal.
But talking about it means you don't just do it last min, cause your horny...
Failing to prepare and all that....
And more than lube, I have found time is the most important, I'm personally of the opinion that if you haven't already had two fingers inside, then it's too early.
Never had really messy, yes minor, but usually due to some left over water from douching & you never notice till after.
As for minor surgery.... What??
Sometimes you can get some abrasion injuries, but if time and lube have been used liberally, then a few days break and the soreness will of gone."
I suppose it was a little spontaneous (never set intentionally to have anal) but never just put it up there either. Always stimulated with fingers and vibe and plenty of lube. |
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"At first I thought the op was secretly bragging about his cock size...
Now he says it wasn't regular anal? ?
What else are you not telling us?
So do my, buggery,bum fucking has been practised forever!! & I have rarely heard of surgery being required as a result..
how can it be regular. I've tried it 3 times with 3 different female's. Thats it. I've taken all criticism constructively.
'Regular' as in 'not abnormal'.
Regular anal sex is like, just putting your penis in someone elses anus.
More unusual anal sex would be things like fisting or large object insertion.
If you caused someone to require surgery by just inserting your penis in their anus and moving it backwards and fowards, then you were almost certainly being far too violent and you need to rethink that approach. Either that or you have the biggest cock on the planet."
Far from it. Don't think I'll be approaching it again for a while. |
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen."
That isn't always true .... i had anal sex with a guy i knew well, we took it slowly, used plenty of lube etc and i still ended up damaged, had to go docs and he said it is actually fairly common even when taking it slowly and using plenty of lube etc !
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen.
That isn't always true .... i had anal sex with a guy i knew well, we took it slowly, used plenty of lube etc and i still ended up damaged, had to go docs and he said it is actually fairly common even when taking it slowly and using plenty of lube etc !
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"Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that
To be fair, it's very hard to damage someone to the point of requiring surgery through regular anal sex. You have to be doing something very extreme or very violent really for that to happen.
That isn't always true .... i had anal sex with a guy i knew well, we took it slowly, used plenty of lube etc and i still ended up damaged, had to go docs and he said it is actually fairly common even when taking it slowly and using plenty of lube etc !
Thank you again. "
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I was damaged recently. Nothing extreme; just lots of it with a succession of partners.
No one was violent but I suppose there's a limit to what one bum can take. I haven't required surgery thankfully. Just a couple of weeks without.  |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?"
So your the reason women have been walking funny
Not sure how people are getting damaged , I have done anal with a good few women some whom had never done it before. Just dip it in and be gentle lol Unless they have done it before you will have to just dip it in and take it first few times, then start to go for longer.
If you think your going to do these ladys up the bum like a pornstar you might want to let them know first
1. Too messy and made her cry: She just doesnt do anal my friend or your clearly going in hard 
2 very very messy: Dont do spur of the minute anal as shit could get messy. At least if its half planned she can make sure its all clear and clean (i dont have to spell it out do i ? ) 
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery: What on earth did you do to the poor lady  As said in previous posts maybe going in a little too hard.
As for them getting wet you should be loving it
Lasting for ages either get your stamina up or stop wanking  |
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I'm not fussed about anal, I'll do it if she really wants me to, but I will be incredibly gentle and attentive to her reactions. I'd hate the thought of causing an injury that required medical intervention, this is about mutual fun for me |
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"I'm not fussed about anal, I'll do it if she really wants me to, but I will be incredibly gentle and attentive to her reactions. I'd hate the thought of causing an injury that required medical intervention, this is about mutual fun for me "
Trust me it was very mutual. I don't want to hurt any female. |
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"Sounds to me like this was all for your pleasure and not for his/hers. A very selfish attitude that should really be addressed before you even consider doing it again.
Wow what a lovely,supportive reply to someone asking for help. You should be a therapist with words of judgement like that "
This isn't therapy, and what I said was a genuine suggestion. Good sex is about communication, and for good anal it's even more important. |
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"Maybe try reviewing before you go again. That way you'll be totally clued up on what your partner wants/needs/expects.
Certainly don't do it again until you are far more knowledgeable on good techniques. There is no need for mess, anal should never be painful if done well and there is certainly something wrong if you cause serious injury.
Sounds to me like this was all for your pleasure and not for his/hers. A very selfish attitude that should really be addressed before you even consider doing it again.
Totally consensual and not just for me at all. How dare you call me selfish. "
I dare because you asked in a public forum and that is the impression you gave. If it wasn't and you care elaborate on you initial post in a way which removes that impression then I'll retract it.
Also I didn't suggest it wasn't consensual. |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?
There's no reason any of those things should happen.
If you're damaging someone to the point that they need surgery just from normal sex, you really, really, really, REALLY need to review your technique.
Yes I guess ur right. But how, now it's in my head?"
You know that point where you were pushing and it didn't seem like it wanted to go in so you just pushed harder till it shot inside and she started screaming and there was all the blood?
Yeah don't do that. |
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"Had a couple of bad experiences with Anal and now not really interested in doing it.
1. Too messy and made her cry
2 very very messy
3 Damaged her anal passage to the point she needed minor surgery.
Thing is when having intercouese female's seem to get very wet to the point I can't feel nothing so I last for ages sometimes they just have to finish me off cus we're both f##ked.
Question is. Will I ever get over my demons with anal?
There's no reason any of those things should happen.
If you're damaging someone to the point that they need surgery just from normal sex, you really, really, really, REALLY need to review your technique.
Yes I guess ur right. But how, now it's in my head?
You know that point where you were pushing and it didn't seem like it wanted to go in so you just pushed harder till it shot inside and she started screaming and there was all the blood?
Yeah don't do that."
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