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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've dom'ed a few but struggle to get my head round it - the people I've chatted to suggest it's something innate - but my own thoughts are that, as you say, it's formed over time...
Just curious  "
I would imagine it depends on the person. |
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over a year ago
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Born and made. I think you need to be naturally someone who likes to please, takes comfort in rules and structure and finds it all a bit horny.
Then from there a sub can be formed.
However I don't really know other subs so that may well just be me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Born and made. I think you need to be naturally someone who likes to please, takes comfort in rules and structure and finds it all a bit horny.
Then from there a sub can be formed.
However I don't really know other subs so that may well just be me"
That's thought provoking thank you.   x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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female half is sub and she has always said she had known it was a part of her personality and she was that way inclined, she had always wanted to be able to show that part of her.
Sounds cheesy this but give the sub a freedom to grow and watch them flourish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"female half is sub and she has always said she had known it was a part of her personality and she was that way inclined, she had always wanted to be able to show that part of her.
Sounds cheesy this but give the sub a freedom to grow and watch them flourish. "
Not cheesy. It's true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people switch, not sure what to make of them. When we don't understand something it can be hard to ever understand without experiencing it yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of people switch, not sure what to make of them. When we don't understand something it can be hard to ever understand without experiencing it yourself."
What don't you understand - perhaps I can try and explain some of it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a blend ....
If a natural submissive is brought up to be a Dom there will be a tenderness there.....
Our environments and and what is socially acceptable controls some of who we naturally are.....yes a BLEND X |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I'm naturally submissive in meaningful relationships... I meet as an equal via fab and would never sub to someone I met so casually on here as it takes time and trust to develop.
My current lover is also my dominant. Its developed over the time we have spent together. I am submissive in the bedroom to him, and also in some other aspects of our lives together (but we do not live together)
I think it is something innate in my that makes me submissive, but also that develops and blooms in the right supportive relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people switch, not sure what to make of them. When we don't understand something it can be hard to ever understand without experiencing it yourself.
What don't you understand - perhaps I can try and explain some of it?"
Thanks.
Not sure what i don't understand really. I don't think about it much but i guess a see people as either liking something sexually or not. I don't like submitting at all so don't get how some dominant people can, although i know it will make sense or else it wouldn't happen. It doesn't bother me not to know, just this topic got me thinking about this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Born and made. I think you need to be naturally someone who likes to please, takes comfort in rules and structure and finds it all a bit horny.
Then from there a sub can be formed.
However I don't really know other subs so that may well just be me"
I think that's me to a tee. Although I've never ventured down the owned path yet it's something I wouldn't rule out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some men I've met didn't realise they had a sub side until a few ideas and ehhhmm situations were put their way! "
I think a lot have a sub side
There are certain things I love that most would consider submissive but theres no way I'd ever class myself as sub, I just enjoy certain things, but then I'm not dominant either but I think some of the things I enjoy would be seen as Dom |
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