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By *randmrsfreaky OP Couple
over a year ago
alfreton near chesterfield |
Just recieved a friend request from a new couple, i messaged them to say that we dont add people unless we have messaged or chatted, i sent this as some friendly advice,
They messaged me back saying they couldnt understand why this would upset me so much as they were just trying to break the ice and stated that it was unbelievable.
Well i clicked to message back and they have blocked me, well i thought blocked me from what? a 1 line profile and a shadow.
unbelievable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We won't/don't accept friends requests until after we've met. We happily swap facial pictures but we've had a couple of times where people have got the hump because we won't just accept an invite from out of the blue. We've found this works for us and will stick with it however many people we have to upset along the way. |
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"Yep, takes all sorts - I do like to get that block in first though! Z
yes that did upset me a bit, i was too busy reading the forum posts"
lol - we do the same as you though - exchange at least one message before sending a friends invite! Don't let it bug you. Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had the same problem. I've even been blocked by people I've never met, emailed or spoke to. Dont know why. Weird.
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That may be from people that have put a block on all single guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we been blocked by some one we never met or even looked at their profile and we cant understand why. the way we look at it these things happen mabey they didnt like the fact for a while we didnt want to know single men up till the other day who knows. does it bother us not a bit. dont let it bother you they have the problem not yourself so take no notice what asses do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had the same problem. I've even been blocked by people I've never met, emailed or spoke to. Dont know why. Weird.
That may be from people that have put a block on all single guys"
No. Its a different block. When guys get blocked, it say 'your sex'. |
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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago
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"We won't/don't accept friends requests until after we've met. We happily swap facial pictures but we've had a couple of times where people have got the hump because we won't just accept an invite from out of the blue. We've found this works for us and will stick with it however many people we have to upset along the way. "
We have to agree with you as we don't accept friends invites till we have met. |
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"I have had the same problem. I've even been blocked by people I've never met, emailed or spoke to. Dont know why. Weird.
That may be from people that have put a block on all single guys
No. Its a different block. When guys get blocked, it say 'your sex'."
Fair enoug.... but why is it a problem? |
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Ahhh bless em , all these people that that throw blocks around like confeti . Ive never felt motivated to block anyone for any reason , just move on . Clearly its the only sense of power they get in their lives .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its weird peopl;e block others here with out even knowing them i find it strange ... only would think you would block if got loads of mail from a person who was nasty or not wishing to see singles if your looking for couples ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahhh bless em , all these people that that throw blocks around like confeti . Ive never felt motivated to block anyone for any reason , just move on . Clearly its the only sense of power they get in their lives . "
Not really,some use it to stop messaging the same person that has said no at a later date and ive seen profiles that ask people to block them if they're not interested,so its not always about a power kick at all |
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we dont accept friends invites unless we have swapped some messages first. I for one think its incredibly rude! I know we have pics on our profile, but our face pics are on our private pics (as is the case with most peeps I think)and I dont want random strangers seeing who we are. To me its as rude as walking up to a stranger and saying "show us your tits!!" I says that we dont acept friends invites on our profile, so a freinds invite off someone we dont know tells me two things, they are rude, and they havnt read the profile. We're not going to want to play with them, so we just delete it, we only block if they get stroppy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had the same problem. I've even been blocked by people I've never met, emailed or spoke to. Dont know why. Weird.
That may be from people that have put a block on all single guys
No. Its a different block. When guys get blocked, it say 'your sex'.
Fair enoug.... but why is it a problem?"
Its not me with the problem!! I was agreeing with what the said. I wont accept every invite to be a friend if we've not chatted or met.
The latter part of my first reply was more puzzling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t really care if people block us, doesn’t make them assholes either, it just means they’re using a facility put in place by the site the way they choose, there are many reasons why people may block you, they could even be neighbours or relatives or your children mat attend the same school and recognised you by your pictures, but at the end of the day why worry about people that you’re never going to meet blocking you. |
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"Ahhh bless em , all these people that that throw blocks around like confeti . Ive never felt motivated to block anyone for any reason , just move on . Clearly its the only sense of power they get in their lives .
Not really,some use it to stop messaging the same person that has said no at a later date and ive seen profiles that ask people to block them if they're not interested,so its not always about a power kick at all "
if people didnt get so unnecessarily uptite about getting a message from someone who may have previously mailed them , we wouldnt need to block for that either . people do change their profile pics and pic locations so it should be understandable that if you are attracted to the look of them before, you may well be again . especially as most profiles dont display faces . how up their own asses are some people on here? hence power kick for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just thinking about it ? maybe if a couple see other halfs been perving a profile and thay get jelouse ? maybe thats why block some .... so thay cant mail ,,, not sure people are strange at times. |
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"people block people because they want to and have no respect for people on here"
Utter rubbish!
So the site admin provides every user with a button to show lack of respect to other users? Twaddle!
People block people because they:
a) don't want them to make contact
b) don't want to make contact with them
c) don't want them looking at their profile
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahhh bless em , all these people that that throw blocks around like confeti . Ive never felt motivated to block anyone for any reason , just move on . Clearly its the only sense of power they get in their lives .
Not really,some use it to stop messaging the same person that has said no at a later date and ive seen profiles that ask people to block them if they're not interested,so its not always about a power kick at all
if people didnt get so unnecessarily uptite about getting a message from someone who may have previously mailed them , we wouldnt need to block for that either . people do change their profile pics and pic locations so it should be understandable that if you are attracted to the look of them before, you may well be again . especially as most profiles dont display faces . how up their own asses are some people on here? hence power kick for sure."
well you can stick with your opinion of people up their own arses and ill go with people having a choice about using an option the site has provided for them to use,along with people using it for no other reason than to stop themsleves from re-messaging the same person time and time again
Personally I have no problems if someone blocks me,I don't think they're up their arses or on a power trip its up to them how they use the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"people block people because they want to and have no respect for people on here
Utter rubbish!
So the site admin provides every user with a button to show lack of respect to other users? Twaddle!
People block people because they:
a) don't want them to make contact
b) don't want to make contact with them
c) don't want them looking at their profile
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I could add about 10 other things why ,, lol and one would be control .. people like to control and have it over others too. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"then maybe that person should just ask them not to contact them respect that way then"
why? if people are so sensitive and worry about being blocked, maybe swinging isn't for them...
they may find that rejection in other forms may be too painful. |
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".... how up their own asses are some people on here? hence power kick for sure."
Or you could look at it this way....
How up their own arse are people who complain about other people using the block button to block them... How dare they block you!
Remember: the block facility is a feature provided for all users by the site. |
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"people block people because they want to and have no respect for people on here
Utter rubbish!
So the site admin provides every user with a button to show lack of respect to other users? Twaddle!
People block people because they:
a) don't want them to make contact
b) don't want to make contact with them
c) don't want them looking at their profile
I could add about 10 other things why ,, lol and one would be control .. people like to control and have it over others too."
Why should someone I don't want to contact me have the control of whether they do or don't?
I can't control who else they message, I can't cpntrol when they log on, when they go in the chatroom, how many messages they send.... but why shouldn't I have some degree of control about who messages me?
Do people have to have their enjoyment of the site spoilt because some poor overly sensitive souls can't handle being blocked?
What's the big deal about being blocked anyway... they are just saving you the time and effort of trying to contact them... is that such a bad thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahhh bless em , all these people that that throw blocks around like confeti . Ive never felt motivated to block anyone for any reason , just move on . Clearly its the only sense of power they get in their lives . "
I joined this site back in 2009 and ended up deleting my profile about 8 weeks ago due to the comments I was receiving regarding my preferences.
Having taken a breather I decided to give the site another try. I now reply to nearly all new messages unless they are from people who are way off the mark regarding preferences. If I reply with a "thanks but no thanks" or a "thanks but you need to take the time to read my profile" I also block without exception, as I don't want to receive the same nasty comments which have come my way in the past....
I can understand that some people are upset when they are blocked but life for me on this site is so much nicer with certain folks tucked up out of harms way in my block list, this is certainly not a power trip!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could add about 10 other things why ,, lol and one would be control .. people like to control and have it over others too.
Why should someone I don't want to contact me have the control of whether they do or don't?
I can't control who else they message, I can't cpntrol when they log on, when they go in the chatroom, how many messages they send.... but why shouldn't I have some degree of control about who messages me?
Do people have to have their enjoyment of the site spoilt because some poor overly sensitive souls can't handle being blocked?
What's the big deal about being blocked anyway... they are just saving you the time and effort of trying to contact them... is that such a bad thing?"
I am not saying people should not have the control over there own profiles here and do as thay like .. but some its just anouther power trip. Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whoa!!! There are some sensitive people on this site!!  Someone blocks you and it's seen as disrespectful, power tripping, control, up their own arse?!! Well I never!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whoa!!! There are some sensitive people on this site!! Someone blocks you and it's seen as disrespectful, power tripping, control, up their own arse?!! Well I never!!
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I may start a block counselling group  .............second thoughts maybe not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"then maybe that person should just ask them not to contact them respect that way then
why? if people are so sensitive and worry about being blocked, maybe swinging isn't for them...
they may find that rejection in other forms may be too painful."
You posted while I was faffing with my phone!  . Exactly my sentiments! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whoa!!! There are some sensitive people on this site!! Someone blocks you and it's seen as disrespectful, power tripping, control, up their own arse?!! Well I never!!
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well so far just had to block one. lol But maybe over time if get some nuters mailing i may have too, I know its there for good resons blocking and everyone very diffrent here. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?"
being normal is a defo for being blocked in my book..
if I wanted normal... would go on the pull and a pint in Wetherspoons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?"
some are left not knowing why? when done nothing to someone and it all should be about getting on having fun meeting new pepole not getting on each others tits and hating each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?
being normal is a defo for being blocked in my book..
if I wanted normal... would go on the pull and a pint in Wetherspoons"
i have never been to a wetherspoons you saying thay are boring ,, lol |
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?some are left not knowing why? when done nothing to someone and it all should be about getting on having fun meeting new pepole not getting on each others tits and hating each other."
Have you stopped to think they got blocked to stop them getting on someone elses tits?
Where does hating come into it?
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?
being normal is a defo for being blocked in my book..
if I wanted normal... would go on the pull and a pint in Wetherspoonsi have never been to a wetherspoons you saying thay are boring ,, lol"
and you think I have I ain't been normal since they cut my umbilical cord and I grabbed the midwife's tits and gave the bulge in the doctors pants the once over........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?some are left not knowing why? when done nothing to someone and it all should be about getting on having fun meeting new pepole not getting on each others tits and hating each other.
Have you stopped to think they got blocked to stop them getting on someone elses tits?
Where does hating come into it?
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people can be hurtfull .... and when some have done very little and get blocked. Some have said to me about this .. been very up set about it i say to them look at the bigger pic its just a site its not your life move on. As if some feel thay get to you .... thay get off on it ,,, and it make there day. |
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people can be hurtfull .... and when some have done very little and get blocked. Some have said to me about this .. been very up set about it i say to them look at the bigger pic its just a site its not your life move on. As if some feel thay get to you .... thay get off on it ,,, and it make there day. "
Why are they upset though? What harm has it done them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?
being normal is a defo for being blocked in my book..
if I wanted normal... would go on the pull and a pint in Wetherspoonsi have never been to a wetherspoons you saying thay are boring ,, lol
and you think I have I ain't been normal since they cut my umbilical cord and I grabbed the midwife's tits and gave the bulge in the doctors pants the once over........"
I just looked at your profile your right .. hope that was ok to look jo |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?some are left not knowing why? when done nothing to someone and it all should be about getting on having fun meeting new pepole not getting on each others tits and hating each other."
Don't you understand it had nothing to do about hating for goodness sake! If a married man contacts me: instant block. I don't hate them just not interested!
I really DON'T get why people feel so traumatised being blocked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people can be hurtfull .... and when some have done very little and get blocked. Some have said to me about this .. been very up set about it i say to them look at the bigger pic its just a site its not your life move on. As if some feel thay get to you .... thay get off on it ,,, and it make there day.
Why are they upset though? What harm has it done them?"
Because thay never see themselfs as a person who needed to be blocked i know there are good resons why some need too here when things get nasty and people are not what your looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have just realised that some people take this all a bit too seriously.
I was at the back of the Que when intelligence was being given out tho.. "
i dont think so your a sharp as sharp lolAnd yes people do and its just a site. Theres a big world out there alot more things to get upset about then this. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"Some do nothing to be blocked and its just not nice when normal nice people.
What harm has it done them? What harm does being blocked do to these 'normal nice people'?some are left not knowing why? when done nothing to someone and it all should be about getting on having fun meeting new pepole not getting on each others tits and hating each other."
i normally tell people thanks but no as they didnt read my profile and them delete and block them. I tell them so maybe at some point they learn to read a profile before mailing them. So i give a very big hint at why. If they choose to ignore the hint that is their choice |
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Well if they get upset by being blocked, I seriously suggest they either get a grip on reality and climb down off the ivory tall thing or get the anti-depressants ready for when they get their messages deleted or get knocked back.
I rarely block people and in over 2 years on this site I have a blocked list of 10 people: 8 I just got fed-up with their persistent pestering and mardy-arsed messages and the other 2 are just wankers.
I have been blocked by plenty more than I have ever blocked.
I have been blocked for sending a no thanks – big deal, they are doing me a favour by making sure they don’t contact me again.
I have been blocked because I deleted a message without replying - again big deal, they are doing me a favour by making sure they don’t contact me again.
I have been blocked by people who didn’t like my reply to them in the forum – big deal, if they are that sensitive they won’t be the type of person I am interested in and so they are also doing me a favour.
I have been blocked by people who gave no reason - so what, saves me contacting them when they already know they are not interested.
I have been blocked by people who are mates with someone else who doesn’t like me or my posting style – so what, I am not loosing sleep over anyone like that.
I have been blocked by people who have sent a nasty message to make sure I couldn’t reply – yeah it is annoying for about 30 seconds and then it just reminds me they have the emotional intelligence of Kev “it’s so not fair” and Perry and it makes me grateful I am not them.
What harm does being blocked do you… feck all!
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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people can be hurtfull .... and when some have done very little and get blocked. Some have said to me about this .. been very up set about it i say to them look at the bigger pic its just a site its not your life move on. As if some feel thay get to you .... thay get off on it ,,, and it make there day.
Why are they upset though? What harm has it done them?Because thay never see themselfs as a person who needed to be blocked i know there are good resons why some need too here when things get nasty and people are not what your looking for."
i block people when they do not read my profile. I am looking for people who read my profile before mailing me. That is why i block lots of people. I normally tell them first that they didnt read my profile. Delete and block. My choice. Doesnt upset me if i am blocked. Get over it for heavens sake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I confess to blocking someone who i had not chatted to or had a message from. I recognised him as my bosses husband and i didnt want to get into any sort of situation, so i just blocked him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I confess to blocking someone who i had not chatted to or had a message from. I recognised him as my bosses husband and i didnt want to get into any sort of situation, so i just blocked him"
you had a good reson too .. I would have.
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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"Awww you must be gutted (as if)
i am i really wanted to perv over thier sillouette"
You're lucky - if someone blocks you because you refuse to accept their friend request as strangers, would you want to meet them?? |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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I have been blocked by people who have sent a nasty message to make sure I couldn’t reply – yeah it is annoying for about 30 seconds and then it just reminds me they have the emotional intelligence of Kev “it’s so not fair” and Perry and it makes me grateful I am not them.
What harm does being blocked do you… feck all!
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Lol, funny - I admit this has happened to me also, and am sure a fair few. It tells me the people that employ this tactic, in a bad to have the final say (like that puts money in the bank) really have no backbone or they'd stay to defend their _iew point with conviction. ie, cowards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read this, then had to re read it..
Seriously can not see why people moan about being blocked. My block list is huge..
Reason is this.. Its my choice...Simples.. :D
If I dont think someone is my type or not what I am looking for then I block them, saves me having to think 2 months down the line.. hold on, have we spoken before.
Those I like I use the hotlist.. And the odd few get added to my friends list.
Katie. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember a block is only one way.
If a person blocks you, and you do not block them back, a gutless twat can lift the block, send you an abusive message, and hide behind the block so that you cannot reply.
Therefore, remember to block back!  |
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