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"I read the Op and all I see is 'I'll let the man suck me off if it means I can fuck his missus. ' Sorry OP if I sound a bit snarky but we get loads of offers similar to what you describe and they always seem to focus on all the things the allegedly bisexual man wants to do with blondie. Had 5 this morning alone..." Yeah we get this all the time, they miss the point of what we want out of a meet. We like everyone involved and enjoying themselves, not just putting up with something to get to meet us. | |||
"I read the Op and all I see is 'I'll let the man suck me off if it means I can fuck his missus. ' Sorry OP if I sound a bit snarky but we get loads of offers similar to what you describe and they always seem to focus on all the things the allegedly bisexual man wants to do with blondie. Had 5 this morning alone..."  | |||
"I've a similar thing from the reverse perspective I'm not after a relationship with a women (i.e. gay by nature), but really want to experience play with a woman in a group situation. I'm curious and willing, turned on by it. So im up for bisexual erotic experiences, but don't necessarily identify as being bisexual. I suppose its something along the lines of 'I eat vegetables, but I'm not a vegetarian' or 'Sleeping in a garage, doesn't make you a car'. I do like the term "bi-situational". " Wish you were closer | |||
"What is wrong with just being Bi? People try to deny it, and I can't see why. A heterosexual person wouldn't deny their straightness just because they had only had oral sex before. You either are or aren't and if a penis does not turn you off, you are bi. " We disagree, with the you are or you aren't statement! Neither of us fancies anyone if the same sex, we wouldn't date them or have a relationship with them. That is what bisexual means to us. I don't look at naked women or pics of their pussy and get turned on, however, in the moment, it is fun and we do do it because it adds to theirs and our own pleasure. It's purely and simply a sex act, nothing more to us. Everyone has their own definitions but respect that rather than make sweeping statements. | |||
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"The label for me is Bi-curious or Bi-sexual. A Bi-curious label on a profile gives us a little bit of an indication that Bi-fun may be mutually available. If a profile says straight there is no indication of Bi-sexuality so generally those blokes who just want to get in mrs N's pants will probably have to go elsewhere as she likes a bit of Bi fun and knows I do too. The same goes for the females too. If it simply says straight on another females profile she thinks that there will be no chemistry between them and it's not worth contacting them. We'd advise people just to put Bi-curious if they'd want to meet us and we'll understand what they mean "Well said...... | |||
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"I could never touch another penis is a sexual context. I know I am straight. How can I not be bi if I can suck a cock and have fun doing it. I wish I could but the idea of it leaves me cold. Degrees is one thing and I fully understand how it can help explain your prefences...but that is what they are. Its the use of these phrases to almost deny people's sexuality that seems disingenuous to me. " That's the thing I suppose - the difference between the act and whether you let it define you. I.e. not that you would, but if you did perform a bisexual or homosexual act you would still identify as heterosexual. I suppose check boxes are way too limited a way to define a persons make up - and that's why we will fill out the about us box. | |||
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"I believe the term bi-playful should be an option. I have a similar view to yourself, not attracted to men but in a mmf situation have played with the male half after he initiated orally playing with me first and found it enjoyable. Wouldn't meet men separately but in a group dynamic found it highly arousing. " I'm the same (but with women, obviously). I have to go with straight because that feels the closest to me, but more options would be helpful for me. | |||
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"Fucking labels...... How about just kinky?" Bi sexuality is Kinky? That's ramping it up a bit.  | |||
"I believe the term bi-playful should be an option. I have a similar view to yourself, not attracted to men but in a mmf situation have played with the male half after he initiated orally playing with me first and found it enjoyable. Wouldn't meet men separately but in a group dynamic found it highly arousing. I'm the same (but with women, obviously). I have to go with straight because that feels the closest to me, but more options would be helpful for me." Not such a bone of contention with ladies. If a lady puts bi.... (whatever), therr I'd no stigma attached by men to it. In fact it makes them more attractive to them. If ladies, all of a sudden, fancied Bi Guys, then you can bet a vast majority of men's profiles would change status overnight. Mine wouldn't though  | |||
"I've a similar thing from the reverse perspective I'm not after a relationship with a women (i.e. gay by nature), but really want to experience play with a woman in a group situation. I'm curious and willing, turned on by it. So im up for bisexual erotic experiences, but don't necessarily identify as being bisexual. I suppose its something along the lines of 'I eat vegetables, but I'm not a vegetarian' or 'Sleeping in a garage, doesn't make you a car'. I do like the term "bi-situational". Wish you were closer "ME TOO !! | |||
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"I believe the term bi-playful should be an option. I have a similar view to yourself, not attracted to men but in a mmf situation have played with the male half after he initiated orally playing with me first and found it enjoyable. Wouldn't meet men separately but in a group dynamic found it highly arousing. I'm the same (but with women, obviously). I have to go with straight because that feels the closest to me, but more options would be helpful for me. Not such a bone of contention with ladies. If a lady puts bi.... (whatever), therr I'd no stigma attached by men to it. In fact it makes them more attractive to them. If ladies, all of a sudden, fancied Bi Guys, then you can bet a vast majority of men's profiles would change status overnight. Mine wouldn't though "Absolutely, and it feels strange to me. No judgement of those who feel this way but I genuinely do not get how a woman can feel more or less attracted to a man who is bi than if that same man was straight. I'm a woman, so both can be attracted to me, and it doesn't change the way they are with me. | |||
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"What is wrong with just being Bi? People try to deny it, and I can't see why. A heterosexual person wouldn't deny their straightness just because they had only had oral sex before. You either are or aren't and if a penis does not turn you off, you are bi. " Tend to agree with this view - if you can be sexually aroused or take pleasure from sex with someone of the same sex you are bi - and there is nothing wrong with that. Where is the logic in indulging in bi sex but refusing to call it bi. Personally we are both turned off by male bisexuality but are happy to play with bi men providing our own male heterosexual boundaries are respected. | |||
"In another post this is exactly what I described but couldn't find the words for. I have recently changed my profile to bisexual because, although straight, in the heat of the moment it is natural that all bodies and entwined and aroused irrespective of gender. I like the terms "bi-playful" and "bi-situational" - they kind of sum it up. Gary" I agree with this, I do not find men sexually attractive on their own, and I have tried it, but in a threesome or group situation sometimes it feels right and I go with the flow. Sexuality is not a is/is not state, I suggest that people look up a thing called "The Kinsey Scale". I feel that I fall into the 1 catagory. | |||
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"Absolutely, and it feels strange to me. No judgement of those who feel this way but I genuinely do not get how a woman can feel more or less attracted to a man who is bi than if that same man was straight. I'm a woman, so both can be attracted to me, and it doesn't change the way they are with me. " I will not play with bi men. It impacts on things that are important to me - such as giving blood (not arguing the point, the scottish blood transfusion service stipulate no donations within 12 months of sleeping with men who sleep with other men) and also the thought of 2 guys getting it on leaves me cold, so I choose not to put myself in the situation where it could come up or cross my mind (I like sharing fantasy and previous exploits) Does it make me a hypocrite? Possibly. Do I care? Not one bit - I am here for my own sexual pleasure - not to meet anyone who offers, and likewise if someone doesn't like the fact I am bi, then they can pass me by. I do think honesty is important though - I have spoken to many "straight" guys on here, who then admit to being bi-curious, bi-playful, bi-selfish or all out bi. | |||
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"Fucking labels...... How about just kinky?" Personally i like to call it Cum Sexual. If it makes you cum then wahey . If it dont wanay . Pan bi gay straight all boils down to 1 thing . Does it make you cum ? This is a Rheto xxxxx ..... it don't need an answer !! | |||
"Hi Yes, I can go with this too. My profile states straight but if you read on it says bi curious with the right couple...so yes...in a 3 some or moresome situation but just not attracted to men in any other way. " Ditto to that | |||
"We use the term 'try-sexual' if its in the moment and feels right we'll 'try' it . I (Mr W) still have 'straight' on our profile as I dont see men as sexual in any way shape or form, I have experienced a few bi moments in a mmf threesome and with another couple, and enjoyed them . We have talked about them afterwards and as Mrs W is openly bi, she just calls it a 'go with the flow' moment lol , its not about labels or box ticking, its all about enjoyment and having an open mind, thats what Fab and being swingers has taught us ! " He is bi then. Simples | |||
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"I'm simply bisexual in that I enjoy sex with both men and women. I don't find romantic interest in men, I do find them sexually attractive in a sexual way but find women more attractive and alluring in an overall way. For me bisexual just means that if I like you I'll enjoy sexual pleasure with you regardless of your gender. Exactly how and what depends on what we want, like and are willing todo. More how we get on than a checklist. For me it's all bisexual needs to be. To me bi curious means I think I might like it and want to try but haven't done so enough to be sure. I think it was my 5th m:m when I left thinking "yup, I loved that". " | |||
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