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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any suggestions on how to deal with this?
I (Rogue) have been suffering with this whenever we get with other people. At home, with Blondie, it's never a problem, but pretty much every time we hook up with other couples it's like 'hello Mr floppy' and it's really getting me down.
It's not just with the NSA one off meets but also with a couple we met at a club and have gotten to know very well.
Have tried a cocktail ring to help maintain and whilst results were amazing when we tested it at home, when I used it at the club it made very little difference.
Any tips? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Check with the doctor to make sure it's not a physical issue. Perhaps have a soft swing visit to a club where neither of you do full swing. Takes the pressure off.
Don't worry it happens to lots of guys at some point. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To a degree I have the same issue! For me it's something I'm aware of because an ex gave me a hard time over not rising on demand.
If I have a meet over several hours, he eventually kicks in and the lady knows about it. I over think and try not too.
Posting this might not win me any favours, but you're not alone!
You have more than a cock, use those qualities until he's ready! A quick Des visit will also rule out anything else!
Relax and enjoy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like maybe the pressure to 'perform' is getting to you?
As SS said above, try a social / soft swing approach to a club visit, less pressure may result in more fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a man meet me with a man friend of mine who naturally was nervous. I felt it was down to me to put him at ease so I paid him a lot of attention and let him know he wasn't there to perform for us. It did help. |
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You are not comfortable in that situation. I am similar and never played in clubs or had group sex as a result.
Why not just watch for a while. Have a few meets where you are not intending...or allowed...to join in. You may find yourself getting excited.
If not, then it could well be separate room or just settle for soft play.
Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Should have mentioned that I do suffer from anxiety issues in general for which I take meds.
The soft swing doesn't work. Have tried that and the only difference was that only blondie was disappointed. 
Fortunately there are other ways to play, that I am apparently quite good at ( a survey was taken!  ) but sometimes you just want to fuck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had this once and I can only put it down to nerves/pressure.
It was with my ex wife who I had no problems getting hard with when together. Then after splitting, for the next couple years I still wanted to fuck her but she didnt, which made me want her more, then for a few weeks she started coming out bathroom naked etc driving me crazy, but still not letting me touch. Then she suddenly asked for sex, so on entering the bedroom to find her lying there naked was like a lottery win, so i got on bed kissing, playing with breasts, hands all over her, then gave her oral until she came, she then went on all fours showing me her wet pussy ready for doggy, I was so ready and as I tried entering it went soft  . Took what felt like ages to get hard. Then when I did I didn't last long lol, however was given a chance later and was back to normal and for the few weeks after with her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Perhaps performance and size comparison come to mind? Even though I would think you are more than adequate with both, but to do so in front of others may be at the root of it? Possibly a reason so many single men fail to turn up for a meet, so you are not alone.
Perhaps the only way to help is to try to relax which is easier said than done! Perhaps organise a meet where all parties are aware of the situation, although this could work against you, but without any definite agreement to play. Just a relaxed informal evening and see how things go? If you all end up playing, so much the better, if not you have had a pleasant evening anyway. Meet them again, you should be more relaxed and perhaps able to play without any anxiety.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a stage fright issue the other day in a club with the hottest girl in the place.
She put a condom on me before I was hard and wanted to suck me. Nothing was happening and I couldn't feel a thing.
I simply asked if we could start without one on, hands only, and I'd go down on her. Seeing her amazing body and beautiful face enjoying what I was doing and her hands touching me, I was soon hard.
Condom duly popped on, oral and full sex were then not a problem.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any suggestions on how to deal with this?
I (Rogue) have been suffering with this whenever we get with other people. At home, with Blondie, it's never a problem, but pretty much every time we hook up with other couples it's like 'hello Mr floppy' and it's really getting me down.
It's not just with the NSA one off meets but also with a couple we met at a club and have gotten to know very well.
Have tried a cocktail ring to help maintain and whilst results were amazing when we tested it at home, when I used it at the club it made very little difference.
Any tips? "
are you ready for swinging, mentally i mean x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any suggestions on how to deal with this?
I (Rogue) have been suffering with this whenever we get with other people. At home, with Blondie, it's never a problem, but pretty much every time we hook up with other couples it's like 'hello Mr floppy' and it's really getting me down.
It's not just with the NSA one off meets but also with a couple we met at a club and have gotten to know very well.
Have tried a cocktail ring to help maintain and whilst results were amazing when we tested it at home, when I used it at the club it made very little difference.
Any tips? "
I have suffered with it before. Over thinking and expecting the worst is the problem. Just do other things till your mind is off it and you'll be standing to attention before youve realised it. Either that or start off with your mrs till youre hard then swap. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any suggestions on how to deal with this?
I (Rogue) have been suffering with this whenever we get with other people. At home, with Blondie, it's never a problem, but pretty much every time we hook up with other couples it's like 'hello Mr floppy' and it's really getting me down.
It's not just with the NSA one off meets but also with a couple we met at a club and have gotten to know very well.
Have tried a cocktail ring to help maintain and whilst results were amazing when we tested it at home, when I used it at the club it made very little difference.
Any tips? "
Spend some time learning your lines. If you can, rehearse them in front of a mirror or other people. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I used to find rehearsing my material, timing it, practising on my best pal and his partner, working in a few bits that look like ad-libs and then checking the news that day and venue on arrival for any last minute bits of material to give my stuff that feel of the now worked pretty well. I never got stage fright or anything.  |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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The only 'stage fright' I occasionally suffer from is the inability to pee, when another guy walks in and stands right beside me at the urinal....think its all to do with no longer feeling relaxed....bloody annoying though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens to me from time to time, I find it is a mental issue for me and sometimes my brain just doesn't want to pay ball. The problem is the more it happens, the worse it gets. I discovered you can actually get an online check up from Lloyds pharmacy and have the prescribe viagra for collection from the pharmacy which saves embarrassment. I used this for a little while and it helped me get my mojo back as it filled me with confidence and reminded me how fun it is to have sex! |
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