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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm very sure on who I find acceptable and attractive on here, including those I find to attractive but of late we have had a few guys that assume that when we refuse them its Mr saying no because they are young, hung and gym fit...
Why do people seem to jump to that conclusion.. reality is Mr doesn't care as long as they treat us with respect and can give me a good time with or without him joining in...
The other one that bugs me is the assumption that he isn't enough for me and that's why we are looking for other men...
Nope we look for couples and other guys as if we are looking for guys we are looking to fulfil things that we csnt do by ourselves....
What assumptions do you find can be annoying and mildly insulting . Have also had women that have actually turned around and told me that Mr must be bored of me or why else would he want other women too.  |
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Men or couples assuming I will meet them when my profile clearly says I only meet women. Re-thinking the profile pic though? (not a look at me thing, just it instigated a random rude message, so not what I need as soon as I get back from work) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.
Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.
Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.
Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.
Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!"
Sorry I Did giggle at these ...
So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.
Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.
Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!
Sorry I Did giggle at these ...
So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then "
Only if your Mr is bored with you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.
Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.
Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!
Sorry I Did giggle at these ...
So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then
Only if your Mr is bored with you "
( ps just spat my iced wine spritzer out now ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.
Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.
Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!
Sorry I Did giggle at these ...
So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then
Only if your Mr is bored with you
( ps just spat my iced wine spritzer out now ) "
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something
Surely the same for women yes?"
much less so, it is usually assumed they have children at home, concerns over their safety ....
the guys: married and cheating  |
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I find that people who make assumptions are pretty much always in the wrong..
I have met loads people here who go `Oh I thought` this or that and are then surprised to be wrong?
Knowing,basing opinion on fact rather than gossip or assumption,much smarter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Assuming because we don't meet BI men it's because we are homophobic.
Assuming because we have answered your message it's a binding contract to meet you. No matter how innocuous the reply. |
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Assuming that because their message has been replied to, they're gonna get laid. Also, people who think that because they are free on a particular day at a certain time, we should be too. Obviously those people don't have jobs or kids. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something
Surely the same for women yes?
No at least that's the impression I've got from reading various threads.
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Forgot to add that this always bugs me. Single women or couples are never asked to justify why they can't accommodate, so why should men have to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What assumptions do you find can be annoying and mildly insulting . "
Men who assume I'm cheating.
Men who assume I'll put on a show for them with their straight girlfriend.
Men who assume I'm submissive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something"
Worst of all...
I can but wont..... choice..
They should have can accommodate can't accommodate.. choose not to accommodate..
My choice is its my place to retire at the end of a hard week.. if i take my swinging life there where do i go next |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something
Surely the same for women yes?
No at least that's the impression I've got from reading various threads.
Forgot to add that this always bugs me. Single women or couples are never asked to justify why they can't accommodate, so why should men have to."
to be honest, when guys ask for advice on the forums about why they cant get meets, I check their profile and see that they cant accom..alot of the time their status's often give the indication that they are after a quick fuck..and lets just say its never really about a meet to engage with..possibly a breakfast in bed type thing unlikely to be on the cards even if it was offered.
One of the nice aspects of swinging is the occasional regular...its a bit nice to be able to have that on equal terms and not always having to accom.
As we are a really large group(men),being able to prove that you are indeed single will naturally shift balance towards those that can accom on the majority of occasions.
At times various people wont care, lots still have fun..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who assume I'll meet them after a few messages
People who think I'm going to meet them just because they're local
And assumptions that my profile text should be ignored !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who assume I'll meet them after a few messages
People who think I'm going to meet them just because they're local
And assumptions that my profile text should be ignored !!!"
didnt read the profile..fancy a fuck..and this is'nt even a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People assuming we must just play with anyone , since we have had so many meets .
Far from it , we turn down way more than you may think .
Every time we put a meet up we get up to 80 requests , and at most accept 8 for a dogging meet . Of which maybe 2 or 3 actually turn up !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Assumptions that because we dont have public pictures of Mr Iconic on our profile that he is ugly
The assumption that if a guy enjoys going down on a woman, that he is not talented at penetrative sex or he has a small cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men or couples assuming I will meet them when my profile clearly says I only meet women. Re-thinking the profile pic though? (not a look at me thing, just it instigated a random rude message, so not what I need as soon as I get back from work)"
Then why have you ticked the "looking for men" option so that you pop up in all the men's searches for women looking for men?
Attention seeking? |
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"people who are invited to comment on a situation are being judgemental"
This!
Plus if you don't tell your parents/kids/postman/hairdresser/personal trainer/Tesco delivery driver/fellow commuters/clients you're a swinger you're ashamed. |
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"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something
Worst of all...
I can but wont..... choice..
They should have can accommodate can't accommodate.. choose not to accommodate..
My choice is its my place to retire at the end of a hard week.. if i take my swinging life there where do i go next "
This attitude is why I no longer meet men who can't accommodate. I invite few people into my home. I was seeing someone for years, meeting at mine. We had arranged a meet but my daughter was coming home from uni. I said we'd meet at his to which he replied he didn't invite people he'd met off the net into his home it wasn't a knocking shop!
He was unceremoniously ejected from my home: he didn't get saying that whilst lying in my bed wouldn't bode well for him!
I don't think anyone should have to justify their choice of accommodating or not, I simply don't invite into my home anyone who wouldn't have me in theirs. |
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"Men or couples assuming I will meet them when my profile clearly says I only meet women. Re-thinking the profile pic though? (not a look at me thing, just it instigated a random rude message, so not what I need as soon as I get back from work)
Then why have you ticked the "looking for men" option so that you pop up in all the men's searches for women looking for men?
Attention seeking?"
That's a bit of an assumption ... and very rude, if you don't mind me saying ... why would I need attention, justify yourself then ..... or do you just get away with bandying throw away comments around in public - thanks for the information, by the way, had not noticed I had neglected to change this. Thank goodness some people have enough time on their hands. |
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I think we've only had assumptions based on the fact that I'm not attracted to black or Asian men...
If people still message and get a polite "No thank you", we've had a few who then make it clear that they HAVE in fact read our profile and just chose to ignore it.
But they always assume they're talking to Bradley and think that it must purely be HIM stopping us meeting them, and come out with things like "What's the matter, scared she'll like it and won't want to come back to you? Why won't you let her fuck a real man?", etc, etc.
Even when I sign my messages, they think I'm lying. 
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