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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When i have had hotel meets the guy has paid most times.
Often it is cus they are working away from home so claim it back on expenses 
The only time i have paid half for hotels is when i have gone to a social or a munch with a guy and stayed in a hotel.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me i prefer to pay my way i usually pay all for hotel but bonus if they wana pay half.... Either way i dont mind.... I wud never expect the other person to pay all.... If both parties cant agree that im paying all then we split the bill xx |
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I'm in a hotel in Bristol on Sunday and work are paying so it's a bonus. Anyone want to join me they're welcome. If neither party can accommodate and a hotel is the option then I think it's fair to go halves. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
It depends who is staying at the hotel.
I very rarely do hotel meets but as I don't stay in them after the meet, don't believe I should be paying. However, if it is a mutual decision to meet in a hotel and neither of us stay, then I happily pay half.
The times I have had hotel meets, the couple have paid for the room as they have been staying over... |
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By *irthyMan
over a year ago
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Modern lifestyle and modern manners usually results in a share or contribution if attending a GB. On one on ones both parties after the same thing and in most cases the lady expects not an iota of chivalry but just good downright rude behaviour. Will always open the door for them though !!! |
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I would always say halves. Depending on circumstances:
If me and Bradley were going to be using it for the night, we would pay.
If they were using it for the night and were staying there regardless of meeting, we wouldn't expect to contribute anything to it.
If both are using it for fun and nobody is staying, it should be halved.
Although if we invited them to our home and they declined and insisted on a hotel, I must admit that we would expect them to pay...as we have offered to accommodate and it is their choice to go elsewhere at extra cost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If away with work, then work pays, if in Dundee then I accom or go to theres if they accom , but anywhere else I would pay the hotel, regardless of who asked whom.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a man who doesn't accommodate asks to meet me I say no thank you,as I don't either. If he then says hotel? I reply that sorry I don't pay for hotels. If he then says I do then he's more than welcome to. Assuming we get on and want to meet that is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't worry what others do, simply come to an agreement with your meet.
I personally cannot afford such things and sadly have to rely on the generosity of others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Myself and friend with benefits have been taking it in turns to pay when opportunities to meet up come around. don't mind paying out as I enjoy our time together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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True. In general he pays for the food and drink that's being a gentleman but otherwise it suits either to pay. Although next time is a home meet so that's a freebie. |
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"Can anyone please help here is it unreasonable to pay halfs for a hotel or should the fella pay ???? "
If a girl expects me to foot the bill, she won't be getting anything, I'm not that desperate.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my thoughts on it is if the hotel is booked for that meet each person should contribute regardless of who's staying over, if a guy has traveled over an hour to get there so would rather stay than travel back why should he pay the lot just because the women can only get a sitter for a few hours and has to go home (that's just an example) the room is book for that meet so both should pay towards it
I get quite a few messages from guys staying in hotels with work in my area, I wouldn't pay towards it then as he's there anyway and his employer will pick up the tab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Halves each really. That's how I did it. I paid for a meal and most of the drinks. My choice. She paid for a round. Hotel cost was split. We both stayed over and was not on business expenses. We talked and agreed on this beforehand. She can accommodate and I'm going to hers next meet. We thought a hotel for the first meet was a bit naughtier.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm old school.....I see nothing wrong with the man paying.
Having said that, it is a nice gesture for the lady to offer, but even then, the man should pay..... 
Just my opinion of course.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a man who doesn't accommodate asks to meet me I say no thank you,as I don't either. If he then says hotel? I reply that sorry I don't pay for hotels. If he then says I do then he's more than welcome to. Assuming we get on and want to meet that is. "
Not knocking you as it must work but why don't you pay for hotels ?
I will always offer half. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time  |
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"In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time "
Thats good, others have done things similar before when they couldnt pay half and i didnt want to force them to pay if they couldnt afford it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time
Thats good, others have done things similar before when they couldnt pay half and i didnt want to force them to pay if they couldnt afford it."
I make sure I have enough money with me for my half. Also, enough to get home too if needs be |
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"In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time
Thats good, others have done things similar before when they couldnt pay half and i didnt want to force them to pay if they couldnt afford it.
I make sure I have enough money with me for my half. Also, enough to get home too if needs be "
Thats good then pays to be organised xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time
Thats good, others have done things similar before when they couldnt pay half and i didnt want to force them to pay if they couldnt afford it.
I make sure I have enough money with me for my half. Also, enough to get home too if needs be
Thats good then pays to be organised xx"
Im never organised lol |
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"In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time
Thats good, others have done things similar before when they couldnt pay half and i didnt want to force them to pay if they couldnt afford it.
I make sure I have enough money with me for my half. Also, enough to get home too if needs be
Thats good then pays to be organised xx
Im never organised lol"
Nothing wrong with that xx Always me that sorts the hotel bookings out anyway then the other person just needs to turn up lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time
Thats good, others have done things similar before when they couldnt pay half and i didnt want to force them to pay if they couldnt afford it.
I make sure I have enough money with me for my half. Also, enough to get home too if needs be
Thats good then pays to be organised xx
Im never organised lol
Nothing wrong with that xx Always me that sorts the hotel bookings out anyway then the other person just needs to turn up lol xx"
Lol |
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"In the past on meets I have offered to pay half and always the man has refused to accept it. I usually bring something to eat if we get peckish, took huge muffins one time
Thats good, others have done things similar before when they couldnt pay half and i didnt want to force them to pay if they couldnt afford it.
I make sure I have enough money with me for my half. Also, enough to get home too if needs be
Thats good then pays to be organised xx
Im never organised lol
Nothing wrong with that xx Always me that sorts the hotel bookings out anyway then the other person just needs to turn up lol xx
Lol"
Lol works really well and takes the pressure off the other person so they can just enjoy themselves xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them .. |
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them .."
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all "
Prefer clubs.
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all
Prefer clubs.
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Not all clubs want single guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all "
If I arrange to meet I meet I can't understand how people say they will then won't |
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all If I arrange to meet I meet I can't understand how people say they will then won't "
Neither do i, i turn up she didnt when i asked why she just laughed and said she had a headache then promptly cut contact with me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all
Prefer clubs.
Not all clubs want single guys."
I
Only go on singles nights lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all
Prefer clubs.
Not all clubs want single guys."
all club's want single guys it's guys who keep them afloat most of the time |
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all
Prefer clubs.
Not all clubs want single guys.
all club's want single guys it's guys who keep them afloat most of the time "
Might have to try them again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always getting asked to meet in hotels and I tell them no.as I can't pay half they always say they don't expect me to pay....but I.just don't feel right accepting so wont meet them ..
At least you say you wont meet them had the odd meet that doesnt turn up at all
Prefer clubs.
Not all clubs want single guys.
all club's want single guys it's guys who keep them afloat most of the time "
They just charge them more , allow less in and only on specific nights and in some cases only allow those that are verified , but yes all clubs want single guys. |
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