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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is aimed really at the males, when you invite a man into your MMF are you adamant you 'get on' with that bloke...
I know a load of couples say approach us 'both' and all that but are you looking for a 'bromance' or a new buddy, its not like you're gonna talk football as your spitroasting the missus..the main focus is sex!!..and I'm aware sometimes you meet socially and want to get on..but as long as the guy plays his part what's the problem, chances are you won't see most of them again ???
Kind of pushes me away from couples as I'm not a 'mans man' hate football, drinking and all that shite so I dont get on with a lot of men ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not looking for a bromance but especially with the type of meets we look for there has to be some respect and trust established although ultimately Ginger makes the final decision |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It isnt about finding a new mate you can talk about blikey things with (including what a great fuck your missus is!), its about finding someone you're comfortable seeing shag the woman you love!
Too many single guys miss this point, they start talking about meeting straight away when we've barely said hello. I know talk isnt everyones cup of tea, but we BOTH have to be comfortable with any guy we allow to join us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It isnt about finding a new mate you can talk about blikey things with (including what a great fuck your missus is!), its about finding someone you're comfortable seeing shag the woman you love!
Too many single guys miss this point, they start talking about meeting straight away when we've barely said hello. I know talk isnt everyones cup of tea, but we BOTH have to be comfortable with any guy we allow to join us."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It isnt about finding a new mate you can talk about blikey things with (including what a great fuck your missus is!), its about finding someone you're comfortable seeing shag the woman you love!
Too many single guys miss this point, they start talking about meeting straight away when we've barely said hello. I know talk isnt everyones cup of tea, but we BOTH have to be comfortable with any guy we allow to join us."
Totally agree with this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people... |
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"It isnt about finding a new mate you can talk about blikey things with (including what a great fuck your missus is!), its about finding someone you're comfortable seeing shag the woman you love!
Too many single guys miss this point, they start talking about meeting straight away when we've barely said hello. I know talk isn't everyone's cup of tea, but we BOTH have to be comfortable with any guy we allow to join us."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It isnt about finding a new mate you can talk about blikey things with (including what a great fuck your missus is!), its about finding someone you're comfortable seeing shag the woman you love!
Too many single guys miss this point, they start talking about meeting straight away when we've barely said hello. I know talk isn't everyone's cup of tea, but we BOTH have to be comfortable with any guy we allow to join us.
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But this is just 'common sense' |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people..."
You made assumptions in your OP.
That you wouldn't be seeing them again and that the chat would be about 'man stuff' like football.
Possibly wrong on both counts.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people...
You made assumptions in your OP.
That you wouldn't be seeing them again and that the chat would be about 'man stuff' like football.
Possibly wrong on both counts.
A"
Just an assumption from experience of what 98% of men I know are interested in.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people..."
How do you quantify how much? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a bit more than just a friendly chat while you buy a paper and a pack of fags though! There has to be trust, and for trust you need to get to know someone a little.
Maybe some people can just see a third as purely a toy and will happily get it on at the nearest possible convenience. Just not how everyone works, thats all. We need a 'spark' before it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It isnt about finding a new mate you can talk about blikey things with (including what a great fuck your missus is!), its about finding someone you're comfortable seeing shag the woman you love!
Too many single guys miss this point, they start talking about meeting straight away when we've barely said hello. I know talk isn't everyone's cup of tea, but we BOTH have to be comfortable with any guy we allow to join us.
But this is just 'common sense'"
It's not common sense based on a lot of the messages we get. And it does speak to the point. You have to get on enough for the man to be comfortable enough letting you fuck his partner. I (Marc) don't want to talk football with you, but I also don't respond well to men who send messages that are rude or dismissive. I guess beyond that the level on "getting on" depends on the individual couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people...
How do you quantify how much?"
The question has probably made me realise I dont think I do actually get the 'couple' side of it, that's why I've not ventured there, I think I'd feel totally awkward. I know its my view , right or wrong but I'd feel as though I had to 'impress' a man to fuck his wife...and yes like I say I know that's not how many many people see it..but everyone's view is different.. |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people..."
You just don't get it do you? A couple are two people, not one. You just want to stick your disk in one of them with the minimum of effort.
It may work with some coypkes, but I suspect not with most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is aimed really at the males, when you invite a man into your MMF are you adamant you 'get on' with that bloke...
I know a load of couples say approach us 'both' and all that but are you looking for a 'bromance' or a new buddy, its not like you're gonna talk football as your spitroasting the missus..the main focus is sex!!..and I'm aware sometimes you meet socially and want to get on..but as long as the guy plays his part what's the problem, chances are you won't see most of them again ???
Kind of pushes me away from couples as I'm not a 'mans man' hate football, drinking and all that shite so I dont get on with a lot of men ??"
We look for a guy that we're both going to get on with - since we're all going to be having sex with each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people...
How do you quantify how much?
The question has probably made me realise I dont think I do actually get the 'couple' side of it, that's why I've not ventured there, I think I'd feel totally awkward. I know its my view , right or wrong but I'd feel as though I had to 'impress' a man to fuck his wife...and yes like I say I know that's not how many many people see it..but everyone's view is different.."
You don't have to 'impress' my partner to put your penis in me. You have to 'impress' me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people...
You just don't get it do you? A couple are two people, not one. You just want to stick your disk in one of them with the minimum of effort.
It may work with some coypkes, but I suspect not with most."
If you read the whole thread I actually said I dont get it.
And I wouldn't just stick my 'disk' in anyone.) |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people...
You made assumptions in your OP.
That you wouldn't be seeing them again and that the chat would be about 'man stuff' like football.
Possibly wrong on both counts.
A
Just an assumption from experience of what 98% of men I know are interested in.."
Evidently we know different men.
Your OP comes across that so long as a guy has a functioning cock that that's all that matters.
If that were the case then there'd be far less guys complaining on here.
It isn't though.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I feel this thread will pivot on the original post, however I hope people take the time to read that I have actually realised that I dont think I actually do 'get' the couples side..I know its a very complex situation compared to singles as you are entering into a tight respectful relationship, I understand couples dont just want a cock to fuck...but I was merely questioning how 'vital' it was to get on...and get on to what extent?? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I feel this thread will pivot on the original post, however I hope people take the time to read that I have actually realised that I dont think I actually do 'get' the couples side..I know its a very complex situation compared to singles as you are entering into a tight respectful relationship, I understand couples dont just want a cock to fuck...but I was merely questioning how 'vital' it was to get on...and get on to what extent??"
I appreciate you don't get it. Nothing wrong with that - many don't.
But trust me. For many it's vital and to a great extent.
Couples don't 'need' extra company to enjoy a good sex life. Adding an extra guy is optional and as such finding the right guy is important.
Single guys who do get it will understand that they're not just an extra cock and that 'getting on' with both is key for all involved.
Of course some couples do just want extra cocks - with no chat, no social element and no banter.
So there's someone for everyone in theory.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel this thread will pivot on the original post, however I hope people take the time to read that I have actually realised that I dont think I actually do 'get' the couples side..I know its a very complex situation compared to singles as you are entering into a tight respectful relationship, I understand couples dont just want a cock to fuck...but I was merely questioning how 'vital' it was to get on...and get on to what extent??
I appreciate you don't get it. Nothing wrong with that - many don't.
But trust me. For many it's vital and to a great extent.
Couples don't 'need' extra company to enjoy a good sex life. Adding an extra guy is optional and as such finding the right guy is important.
Single guys who do get it will understand that they're not just an extra cock and that 'getting on' with both is key for all involved.
Of course some couples do just want extra cocks - with no chat, no social element and no banter.
So there's someone for everyone in theory.
A"
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We only play in clubs so our encounters are brief, to the point and exciting. Although personality prompts us to invite someone to join us it isn't at the top of the list - however for repeat sessions we only play with people we connect with so in this case, yes, we both need to get on with the man to get it on. |
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"Ok..let's clear it up...I KNOW you have to 'get on' that's not the question the question was how much..
I get on with my local shopkeeper we're not friends but we 'get on' and if he wanted me to fuck his hot wife then I'm sure we wouldn't be talking about what we have in common...
If you're an outgoing educated person you'll tend to 'get on' with most people...
You made assumptions in your OP.
That you wouldn't be seeing them again and that the chat would be about 'man stuff' like football.
Possibly wrong on both counts.
A
Just an assumption from experience of what 98% of men I know are interested in.."
Interesting thread, working my way through it - first comment - I love football and can talk about it in detail until the cows come home, my bf is not into it so much though - am I a man? |
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"We only play in clubs so our encounters are brief, to the point and exciting. Although personality prompts us to invite someone to join us it isn't at the top of the list - however for repeat sessions we only play with people we connect with so in this case, yes, we both need to get on with the man to get it on."
Totally agree - men I meet, I dont want any type of relationship with them - aside from a chat about football, because I already have that. However, I have developed some close relationships with men and women on here with shared interests outside of fabs and swinging or just a general rapport. Men I meet with my bf is a very different dynamic to women I meet on my own. Also agree with the OP in that meeting couples is a tricky one, that is why I dont do it, as a single fem ... |
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