We had a message from a couple a fair distance away from us and we looked and mailed them back saying politely not for us thanks.
In return came a mail asking us why we had said no.
Truthfully four reasons. Size, distance, profile presentation and their orientations didn't fit what we are looking for. We discussed it and thought well no we are not mailing in return as it could get complicated and why do we need to justify our decisions so we took the easy option, the block.
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"We had a message from a couple a fair distance away from us and we looked and mailed them back saying politely not for us thanks.
In return came a mail asking us why we had said no.
Truthfully four reasons. Size, distance, profile presentation and their orientations didn't fit what we are looking for. We discussed it and thought well no we are not mailing in return as it could get complicated and why do we need to justify our decisions so we took the easy option, the block.
Would you have done the same?"
if tis just distance we reply with a if youre ever our way kind of thing - other than that we say not for us - once reply only any comeback is ignored |
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"We had a message from a couple a fair distance away from us and we looked and mailed them back saying politely not for us thanks.
In return came a mail asking us why we had said no.
Truthfully four reasons. Size, distance, profile presentation and their orientations didn't fit what we are looking for. We discussed it and thought well no we are not mailing in return as it could get complicated and why do we need to justify our decisions so we took the easy option, the block.
Would you have done the same?"
Yes we would. If I offered someone a slice of cake that they refused asking why would be rude.....same goes here in my eyes. |
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By *ookinky2Couple
over a year ago
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I think we would quote distance and orientation in our refusal. We'd keep away from the more subjective aspects (size etc) and hope that would be enough. Never had to block a couple yet... |
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"We had a message from a couple a fair distance away from us and we looked and mailed them back saying politely not for us thanks.
In return came a mail asking us why we had said no.
Truthfully four reasons. Size, distance, profile presentation and their orientations didn't fit what we are looking for. We discussed it and thought well no we are not mailing in return as it could get complicated and why do we need to justify our decisions so we took the easy option, the block.
Would you have done the same?"
If they ask 'why' then I text to explain my reasons very matter of factly.
And hope it stops them asking the next person. |
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"We had a message from a couple a fair distance away from us and we looked and mailed them back saying politely not for us thanks.
In return came a mail asking us why we had said no.
Truthfully four reasons. Size, distance, profile presentation and their orientations didn't fit what we are looking for. We discussed it and thought well no we are not mailing in return as it could get complicated and why do we need to justify our decisions so we took the easy option, the block.
Would you have done the same?
If they ask 'why' then I text to explain my reasons very matter of factly.
And hope it stops them asking the next person."
Unfortunately this usually provokes the "you're too fat/old/ugly for us anyway response  |
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"We had a message from a couple a fair distance away from us and we looked and mailed them back saying politely not for us thanks.
In return came a mail asking us why we had said no.
Truthfully four reasons. Size, distance, profile presentation and their orientations didn't fit what we are looking for. We discussed it and thought well no we are not mailing in return as it could get complicated and why do we need to justify our decisions so we took the easy option, the block.
Would you have done the same?
If they ask 'why' then I text to explain my reasons very matter of factly.
And hope it stops them asking the next person.
Unfortunately this usually provokes the "you're too fat/old/ugly for us anyway response "
I have a thick skin. |
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