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Is being fussy bad?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with personal choice fella.
trouble is alot of single men get bashed constantly by women and couples for taking rejection badly. Yet when the shoe is on the other foot........ |
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Fussy is good.
I have very high standards. Manners, respect and an amount of attraction are vital if you want to get anywhere.
If you get abuse because you turned them down then you definitely made the right decision and had a lucky escape!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am very picky. If there is no connection and i am not horny there is nothing else. Good thing about the site is there are plenty to choose from . Nothing at all wrong with being fussy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fussy is good.
I have very high standards. Manners, respect and an amount of attraction are vital if you want to get anywhere.
If you get abuse because you turned them down then you definitely made the right decision and had a lucky escape!!"
being fussy is good...get all the good meets instead of the shit ones ha ha |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
On the grounds that I don't call it fussy if somebody won't eat food they dont like I don't call it fussy if someone won't have sex with a person they find unattractive.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it?  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
You carry on being fussy  you're not a performing seal and we always have to have an attraction before playing - makes it more hot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've turned down quite a number of women and couples recently. They message regardless of my profile quite blatantly stating that I'm in a relationship and not looking to meet anyone. The amount of abuse I've had has been ridiculous.
It's hardly my fault the morons can't read. Block, report and move on. |
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No I think being fussy is a good thing. If I suspect I've been propositioned by someone who will fuck anyone and anything, it is better off-putting ; giveaways being those who are offering lifts and hotels and a 'meet tonight' when they don't even know what I look like is a warning sign!
I'd much rather someone actually wanted to meet me rather than the nearest available warm hole. |
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Why is having a preference seen as being fussy?
I genuinely don't understand - I make decisions every moment about what I prefer from clothes to food to music - never view it as fussy.
Surely when it comes to rubbing your intimate areas together having a preference is your right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a number of women and couples recently. They message regardless of my profile quite blatantly stating that I'm in a relationship and not looking to meet anyone. The amount of abuse I've had has been ridiculous.
It's hardly my fault the morons can't read. Block, report and move on."
Fancy a fuck ?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx"
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
You have done nothing wrong by letting someone down because you are not sexually attracted to them. ( providing that you did so with tact), it is just a personal choice and she wasn't for you. If you let her down gently anf she still gave you abuse report, copy and paste message back onto report then block and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck.. "
Quite right to want to fuck some one you are attracted to. I am and have only had abuse once, just ignored it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not too fussy about looks, but I cannot stand rudeness and downright stupidity. One of the hottest women I ever had a relationship with I had to break off after 3 weeks as she appeared to have the intelligence of a 12yo. For two of those weeks I tried to convince myself her looks were worth it 
Often I find myself wanting to correct people's grammar on here, hate the use of "youse" or incorrect use of their/there. As soon as I see that in a profile I cringe and move on. I'll be the first to admit I'm no English teacher, but lazy grammar is a huge turnoff for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck.. "
The good luck thing comes across as patronising and insincere - better to ignore those that don't interest us I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck..
The good luck thing comes across as patronising and insincere - better to ignore those that don't interest us I think"
Really? Oops i always put good luck, never mean it as patronising though. Maybe have to rethink that one? |
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck..
The good luck thing comes across as patronising and insincere - better to ignore those that don't interest us I think"
It doesn't come across as patronising or insincere. |
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck.. "
To me that sounds a little abrupt,I know it's to the point,but can it not be phased a little nicer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a number of women and couples recently. They message regardless of my profile quite blatantly stating that I'm in a relationship and not looking to meet anyone. The amount of abuse I've had has been ridiculous.
It's hardly my fault the morons can't read. Block, report and move on.
Fancy a fuck ? "
Thank you for your enquiry. However, at this time my penis is the property if one very special lady and not for public use.
please feel free to check back at a later date as I'm an ass and get dumped frequently!
Regards
Tom's customer service department. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck..
The good luck thing comes across as patronising and insincere - better to ignore those that don't interest us I think
Really? Oops i always put good luck, never mean it as patronising though. Maybe have to rethink that one?"
We just don't engage with people we're not going to meet or interested in, in any way.
Telling them 'no' then wishing them 'luck', could give them the impression you think they're so gross, they'll need luck?
None of us are really care
whether a stranger is successful RE getting meets on here, hence the good luck thing being insincere and misplaced |
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I do think 'good luck' can perhaps be read in the wrong tone and if someone is feeling defensive they might take it as 'good luck, you're going to need it'  so I tend to put 'happy swinging' or 'good luck with your search'. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck.. "
That's not rude or insensitive. Some people just can't handle rejection no matter how its worded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt meet someone i wasnt attracted to either but i'm wondering how you told her? Maybe she kicked off because you wern't very sensitive about it? xx
All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck..
The good luck thing comes across as patronising and insincere - better to ignore those that don't interest us I think
It doesn't come across as patronising or insincere."
It does.
You're okay getting those replies?
We've never had them but I don't think I'd be jumping for joy at the senders deep concern that I find we're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say being fussy is bad, for me anyway. Makes it very hard for me to find people because I only want men 6ft or above with dark hair, thick bushy eyebrows, very handsome, good body, penis over 8" with decent girth and big balls. |
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All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck..
Telling them 'no' then wishing them 'luck', could give them the impression you think they're so gross, they'll need luck? "
Too much being read into a 'no thanks there's no attraction' rejection message. It's your choice to whom you say 'yes please' not being fussy at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
best to be choosy yes. Ive said no to guys, politely that is and so far had no abuse, had the odd question as to why, and thats a bit awkward to answer. Abuse isnt necessary on here, we are all adults. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All I said was sorry I'm not interested, good luck..
Telling them 'no' then wishing them 'luck', could give them the impression you think they're so gross, they'll need luck?
Too much being read into a 'no thanks there's no attraction' rejection message. It's your choice to whom you say 'yes please' not being fussy at all "
I agree that people can read too much into rejection messages, and comeback with abuse/interrogation's as to why.
That's why we ignore those that don't interest us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's important to keep standards.. We have to turn people down everyday.. But I hate it and try to be kind and use other excuses. You keep your standards.. I'm sure you did it kindly and not 'eww, I couldn't even touch you'..! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
Other than that , of course it's good to be fussy , couples and single girls have to be as there simply aren't enough hours in the day to say yes to all requests !
And she would have soon realised you weren't into her if you had met her .
I hope you let her down gently |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that.
There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
Other than that , of course it's good to be fussy , couples and single girls have to be as there simply aren't enough hours in the day to say yes to all requests !
And she would have soon realised you weren't into her if you had met her .
I hope you let her down gently "
Yeah I did, I'm always polite,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fussy is good imo.
I turned down a couple about a month back after they sent me face pics.
It was a polite no thanks,and they took it quite well.
We can't like everyone,and if I wouldn't have sex with someone normally,I won't do just cos we're on a swinging site... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
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I am seeing this more and more now on here and its not an attractive trait |
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There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
I am seeing this more and more now on here and its not an attractive trait"
I agree! I mean who is this 'anything',is it someone like me,any other woman that has posted here,do you have to be a certain type to be called 'anything'?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
I am seeing this more and more now on here and its not an attractive trait
I agree! I mean who is this 'anything',is it someone like me,any other woman that has posted here,do you have to be a certain type to be called 'anything'?!"
Meaning that me being fussy and guys just fucking anyone... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's important to keep standards.. We have to turn people down everyday.. But I hate it and try to be kind and use other excuses. You keep your standards.. I'm sure you did it kindly and not 'eww, I couldn't even touch you'..!"
Yes standards are a big thing I don't get how people can just sleep with anyone...... I have to be attracted or I don't even get turned on  |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
I am seeing this more and more now on here and its not an attractive trait
I agree! I mean who is this 'anything',is it someone like me,any other woman that has posted here,do you have to be a certain type to be called 'anything'?!"
ha ha
I messaged a man who i liked and was up for anything possible, he would do what i said
lets just say when i mentioned strap on fun and walking around a club with a collar on his cock he wasnt into anything then
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No I am defo fussy!!! I would not just drop my pants for someone who I was not attracted too! God one couple sent us one message then invited us to there's & only if we did bareback hmm yeah nah got every right to be picky woman can be more fussy anyway sorry I know all guy's would not just stick it anywhere BUT u get me girls lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Very fussy if that provokes people to be butthurt then diddums!
We have had messages saying that she should just close her eyes and not look at the person! Uh no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
Fussy is good, I'm fussy, actually I'm probably too fussy lol |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
Fussy is good, I'm fussy, actually I'm probably too fussy lol |
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There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
I am seeing this more and more now on here and its not an attractive trait
I agree! I mean who is this 'anything',is it someone like me,any other woman that has posted here,do you have to be a certain type to be called 'anything'?!
ha ha
I messaged a man who i liked and was up for anything possible, he would do what i said
lets just say when i mentioned strap on fun and walking around a club with a collar on his cock he wasnt into anything then
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pish mate some people have standards!!! I challenge you to even get semi over some chick around my way!!!! Lol x"
lol yes I prob would get hard over them, sounds like a good challange |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
Good, I like to see men that are fussy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No I think being fussy is a good thing. If I suspect I've been propositioned by someone who will fuck anyone and anything, it is better off-putting ; giveaways being those who are offering lifts and hotels and a 'meet tonight' when they don't even know what I look like is a warning sign!
I'd much rather someone actually wanted to meet me rather than the nearest available warm hole. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Late Friday or Saturday night I sometimes get messages from couples wanting to meet them now. Always have turned them down.. If they won't chat through the week I'm not going to be there quick fix.
Now if I was sober that would be a different story |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
 Single men can turn ladies down? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not too fussy about looks, but I cannot stand rudeness and downright stupidity. One of the hottest women I ever had a relationship with I had to break off after 3 weeks as she appeared to have the intelligence of a 12yo. For two of those weeks I tried to convince myself her looks were worth it
Often I find myself wanting to correct people's grammar on here, hate the use of "youse" or incorrect use of their/there. As soon as I see that in a profile I cringe and move on. I'll be the first to admit I'm no English teacher, but lazy grammar is a huge turnoff for me."
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Fussy is good. I've had abuse from men and couples for saying no. A guy I know has lost a lot of friends for choosing not to meet fems and couples when they wanted. Doesn't matter who's declined, no means no and no abuse is acceptable. Hope you reported her op. |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
welcome to my world I get that off men on a weekly basis |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
Nah it's against the fab law for a man to turn down a woman. |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that.
Nah it's against the fab law for a man to turn down a woman. "
Can you mail all the guys who have turned me down and tell them that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I turn down couples constantly on here, my reasoning is simple - if I don't think I'm gonna enjoy meeting them, I don't reply. It's not me being picky, it's me knowing what I want and what I don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say being fussy is bad, for me anyway. Makes it very hard for me to find people because I only want men 6ft or above with dark hair, thick bushy eyebrows, very handsome, good body, penis over 8" with decent girth and big balls. "
It was "dark hair" that killed it for me.
Fussy...........
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turn down couples constantly on here, my reasoning is simple - if I don't think I'm gonna enjoy meeting them, I don't reply. It's not me being picky, it's me knowing what I want and what I don't."
Totally agree
I get loads of couples on here mail me, I'm not interested in meeting couples
Some get arsey but that just confirms what I already knew, I don't want to meet you |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that.
There was no need to say there are quite a few guys who would literally fuck anything .
Other than that , of course it's good to be fussy , couples and single girls have to be as there simply aren't enough hours in the day to say yes to all requests !
And she would have soon realised you weren't into her if you had met her .
I hope you let her down gently "
He didn't have to reply.
He chose to and she gave him abuse.
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"Fussy is good.
I have very high standards. Manners, respect and an amount of attraction are vital if you want to get anywhere.
If you get abuse because you turned them down then you definitely made the right decision and had a lucky escape!!"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You did the right thing.
I've turned down some couples & ladies. I don't get that many meets. But I do have my standards. lol "
Think all guys should have standards aswell as a age range! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have been to clubs sometimes and ive looked around and said - you know what i dont fancy anybody here - and used to feel bad - W said i must never feel obliged to play and standards are important to us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would you feel the need to ask this...surely its common sense, if everyone said fussy was bad would you run out and fuck anyone that asked...man up son!!
One should never question ones own judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would only want to have sec with someone I could click with and was attracted to. That said, I know plenty in clubs who will fuck anything with a pulse. I think it's a case of each to their own. We all have the choice to do who or what we want  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am very fussy. I tend to send a wink first, then if they return it or choose to message me then I know to go for it. I very rarely wink at people so that shows how fussy I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it very attractive when a bloke is choosy, if he picks any holes a goal, he no longer a challenge.
And i would rather a bloke turn me down, than fuck me for the sake of it.
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Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same. |
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"Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same. "
I wouldn't meet somebody i didn't fancy because they were a nice person, I know they may sound bad to some but I'm here for sex, I have limited time to meet so when I do I want sex not a chat with a nice person I can do that at work |
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"Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same.
I wouldn't meet somebody i didn't fancy because they were a nice person, I know they may sound bad to some but I'm here for sex, I have limited time to meet so when I do I want sex not a chat with a nice person I can do that at work "
Well must admit ur different to every other woman I've spoken to. |
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"Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same. "
true swingers also have fun just meeting....and also do not have a problem saying know without upsetting the meet....
went to two parties with playmate....both times when we got there there was no-one there that we wanted to play with...so we just played together and had an awesome time just knowing others were playing on the sofa opposite and watching what we were doing |
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"Personally I would only want to have sec with someone I could click with and was attracted to. That said, I know plenty in clubs who will fuck anything with a pulse. I think it's a case of each to their own. We all have the choice to do who or what we want "
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"Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same.
I wouldn't meet somebody i didn't fancy because they were a nice person, I know they may sound bad to some but I'm here for sex, I have limited time to meet so when I do I want sex not a chat with a nice person I can do that at work
Well must admit ur different to every other woman I've spoken to. "
Oh shit I've been rumbled I'm a single guy really
Everybody is after different I guess
I'm not saying I just meet and fuck, I like to meet for a drink first but with somebody I can hopefully take it further with, I like to meet for a drink, have a chat and a flirt, build up some sexual tension then find a room and I'm not going to do that with somebody who's pics I didn't like
I work on a seven day rolling rota so I basically get one weekend off in seven so I like to make it count |
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"I am very fussy. I tend to send a wink first, then if they return it or choose to message me then I know to go for it. I very rarely wink at people so that shows how fussy I am. "
Haha I got a wink... |
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"Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same.
I wouldn't meet somebody i didn't fancy because they were a nice person, I know they may sound bad to some but I'm here for sex, I have limited time to meet so when I do I want sex not a chat with a nice person I can do that at work
Well must admit ur different to every other woman I've spoken to.
Oh shit I've been rumbled I'm a single guy really
Everybody is after different I guess
I'm not saying I just meet and fuck, I like to meet for a drink first but with somebody I can hopefully take it further with, I like to meet for a drink, have a chat and a flirt, build up some sexual tension then find a room and I'm not going to do that with somebody who's pics I didn't like
I work on a seven day rolling rota so I basically get one weekend off in seven so I like to make it count "
I hear what ur saying. But u didn't say that earlier.
No saying that u fancy someone physically but he's a total knobhead. Then what you do? |
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"Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same.
I wouldn't meet somebody i didn't fancy because they were a nice person, I know they may sound bad to some but I'm here for sex, I have limited time to meet so when I do I want sex not a chat with a nice person I can do that at work
Well must admit ur different to every other woman I've spoken to.
Oh shit I've been rumbled I'm a single guy really
Everybody is after different I guess
I'm not saying I just meet and fuck, I like to meet for a drink first but with somebody I can hopefully take it further with, I like to meet for a drink, have a chat and a flirt, build up some sexual tension then find a room and I'm not going to do that with somebody who's pics I didn't like
I work on a seven day rolling rota so I basically get one weekend off in seven so I like to make it count
I hear what ur saying. But u didn't say that earlier.
No saying that u fancy someone physically but he's a total knobhead. Then what you do?"
Ask him not to talk |
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"Being fussy is fine. But not just on first looks. If uve chatted and feel nothing then fine but not just on first instincts. I've chatted to ladies I wouldn't normally meet, then met for a social and had a good laugh but nothing Sexually because there was nothing there. But getting to know them was great. I know its a swingers site but I can't just screw anything and hope a lot of single guys feel the same.
I wouldn't meet somebody i didn't fancy because they were a nice person, I know they may sound bad to some but I'm here for sex, I have limited time to meet so when I do I want sex not a chat with a nice person I can do that at work
Well must admit ur different to every other woman I've spoken to.
Oh shit I've been rumbled I'm a single guy really
Everybody is after different I guess
I'm not saying I just meet and fuck, I like to meet for a drink first but with somebody I can hopefully take it further with, I like to meet for a drink, have a chat and a flirt, build up some sexual tension then find a room and I'm not going to do that with somebody who's pics I didn't like
I work on a seven day rolling rota so I basically get one weekend off in seven so I like to make it count
I hear what ur saying. But u didn't say that earlier.
No saying that u fancy someone physically but he's a total knobhead. Then what you do?
Ask him not to talk "
lol. Good answer. |
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"I turned down one woman because I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever but then I had abuse off her...
Question is, is it ok to be fussy? There are quite a lot of guys who would literally fuck anything,.. But I'm not like that. "
......there's absolutely nothing wrong with been fussy. ....but don't really get why you have to post it....?.everyone has different tastes. ...body shape, age, personality. ..etc....we're all guilty of fussiness. .. |
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"I hate this term "fussy". It's not being fussy. Is just you are attracted to a certain type. It can't be helped. "
It is exactly that though...certain type only, therefore hard to please...so therefore.....fussy...ta da... |
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"I hate this term "fussy". It's not being fussy. Is just you are attracted to a certain type. It can't be helped.
It is exactly that though...certain type only, therefore hard to please...so therefore.....fussy...ta da..."
Yes. But the word fussy sounds so negative. That's why I don't like it. After all, we all have a type. Who is to say somebody is fussy. When does somebody become fussy. It's negative. |
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"I hate this term "fussy". It's not being fussy. Is just you are attracted to a certain type. It can't be helped.
It is exactly that though...certain type only, therefore hard to please...so therefore.....fussy...ta da...
Yes. But the word fussy sounds so negative. That's why I don't like it. After all, we all have a type. Who is to say somebody is fussy. When does somebody become fussy. It's negative. "
So I am negative...still gets me hot guys for meets lol |
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