ReHelp me please . So I have been here on and off for almost 10 years I have been her as a married couple , then a single , then couple again ( but more play mates ) I have been out on the club and party scene and had an amazing time . The people I have met have helped my grow in conference . So this is now my delema . I am looking to date I met a nice guy on POF after are date I found him on here ??cool I was thinking straight away this could work so for the last 8 weeks we have meet up and text non stop . To day it came out that he wants me to stop swinging . I feel that this is my hobby and really enjoy it . Now don't get me wrong I could stop but i am a little worried what if I quit and then like any addict I slip back . I have never cheated on anyone and I know he wouldn't that . And then there is that this has only been 8 week dose he really have the right to ask this .1 more . There are elements of his life that I am not happy , I know it's childish but I want to say if I have to give up fabs I want you to give up the thing you do that pisses me off
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I'd sack the relationship.
You are both already unhappy with elements of you potential partners lives, things will only get worse.
If you cant "live and let live" now, there is no future for this relationship.  |
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"ReHelp me please . So I have been here on and off for almost 10 years I have been her as a married couple , then a single , then couple again ( but more play mates ) I have been out on the club and party scene and had an amazing time . The people I have met have helped my grow in conference . So this is now my delema . I am looking to date I met a nice guy on POF after are date I found him on here ??cool I was thinking straight away this could work so for the last 8 weeks we have meet up and text non stop . To day it came out that he wants me to stop swinging . I feel that this is my hobby and really enjoy it . Now don't get me wrong I could stop but i am a little worried what if I quit and then like any addict I slip back . I have never cheated on anyone and I know he wouldn't that . And then there is that this has only been 8 week dose he really have the right to ask this .1 more . There are elements of his life that I am not happy , I know it's childish but I want to say if I have to give up fabs I want you to give up the thing you do that pisses me off
Gggggghrrrrrrrr help give me advice please "
I think he has a right to ask you if he too is hoping for a long term thing and equally you have a right to refuse. Relationships are about negotiation and I think you would be being fair if you said I will consider giving up swinging if you give up whatever it is you're unhappy about him doing. But if you doubt that you could give up now before you've even attempted I would say if it's a deal breaker for him it's best to find out now and tell him it's not possible for you. Good luck.
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