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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've become very friendly with a girl for over 3 months now. I'm torn to either delete my account or introduce her to this site. i'm pretty sure she wont like it on here . should i or shouldn't i, is the question. what do you reckon. should i drop a few hints or just delete my account. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You say you been seeing her for over 3 months yet you been on here only 3 months... Maybe you should have got to know her better before joining a swing site?
If you like her that much delete your profile as you say you dont think she would like it on here and maybe in the future ask her what she thinks about swinging? |
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It depends on why you are here and what you want from a relationship.
Is the swinging lifestyle and integral part of who you are? Are your values and beliefs about relationships and sex built on the ethos of swinging and you desire a partner who holds the same values.... or is it a stop gap between traditional relationships? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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3 months is not a long time to have been seeing someone. can you class a person as a swinger if they havnt met anyone on here yet? i can take it or leave it being on here. i like the site but im glad we dont pay for it or i would be off. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"well if you have feelings for this person you must tell her, or at least close your account."
your right there. if i was with a partner and they were on here and i didnt know. i would like to be told so at least i can share it with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Delete your profile, absolutely don't even think about it just do it.
Then ................
Find the right time to "mention your friends that are on here" see what her reaction is, without supporting them tell her how you understand why they do it, that they talk about a better social life without a pressure feeling to do more.
See what her reaction is, perhaps she will want to know more perhaps she will trash the very thought of it.
You have nothing to lose, a relationship is far more desirable and important than a bit of fun in swinging and perhaps you will get both.
If she finds out you already have a profile on here you could lose a lot more even if she likes the idea of joining, approach it as "newbies" together. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Only you can answer that one, although less than an hour ago you were looking for glory holes  "
right again, i came across an account that had one. i was wondering if there was anymore. lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be honest with yourself and her, give her the choice . in effect you havent been honest for the last 3 months. What if the boot were on the other foot, How would you feel ???"
answered above.read my posts please. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Delete your profile, absolutely don't even think about it just do it.
Then ................
Find the right time to "mention your friends that are on here" see what her reaction is, without supporting them tell her how you understand why they do it, that they talk about a better social life without a pressure feeling to do more.
See what her reaction is, perhaps she will want to know more perhaps she will trash the very thought of it.
You have nothing to lose, a relationship is far more desirable and important than a bit of fun in swinging and perhaps you will get both.
If she finds out you already have a profile on here you could lose a lot more even if she likes the idea of joining, approach it as "newbies" together."
I like your answer. very thoughtful. I think it might have been a post from the female side. if not its still nice. thanks. some other posts were being a bit catty. meow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not seen anyone being catty, just seems a tad strange that someone would join a swinging web site to liven up their sex life at the same time as starting up a new relationship with someone, normally people would be at it like rabbits and far to busy to join such sites until the honeymoon period wore off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not seen anyone being catty, just seems a tad strange that someone would join a swinging web site to liven up their sex life at the same time as starting up a new relationship with someone, normally people would be at it like rabbits and far to busy to join such sites until the honeymoon period wore off "
I agree, Sasha certainly didn't want to join a swinging site until the sex between us had become a little mundane hence we have been together for 2 minutes longer than we have been members here   |
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"... i can take it or leave it being on here. i like the site but im glad we dont pay for it or i would be off. "
And yet you are torn between keeping your account or leaving for the girl.
Based on what you have said in the thread... and that's all any of us have to go in... (and I mean this very genuinely and not in a catty way)... ditch the girl! If she isn't worth deleting an account on a site you wouldn't pay for and can take it or leave it .... then what does that really suggest about your feelings for her. |
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