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After a meet... do you
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Send them straight out, thanks very much.. ..
Or socialise after???
Just wondering as we get told by a lot of men that they are happy to do the in, play and straight out again, but that not many people do that..
I can understand that singles may spend longer together but couples.. surely the time after is for you and your partner.
We really do only have single guys( normally a few at a time) so its not a couples with couples situation.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never kick em out, most of our meets take place at ours and people are always invited to stay over, that doesn't suit everyone but having run a guest house for the last 10 years I guess I am used to having people stay over so it's a bit easier for us in that regard. I miss the guests staying lol (it was exclusively for swingers visiting local clubs so always like minded people who became friends not just customers) |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I just open the car door and push them out... sometimes if they are lucky I am at a traffic light.
Don't get many meets me...
You let your meets inside your car
I just wind the window down "
fuck slowing down, they suck as I drive... I have 3 wives at home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends.
Some I say get dressed and show them the door: usually after a CFNM session. With others we usually chat and cuddle putting the world to right, get up shower, have coffee before they depart or they drive me home. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"All depends.
Some I say get dressed and show them the door: usually after a CFNM session. With others we usually chat and cuddle putting the world to right, get up shower, have coffee before they depart or they drive me home."
whats a CFNM session ??? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just open the car door and push them out... sometimes if they are lucky I am at a traffic light.
Don't get many meets me... "
This made me LOL.....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All depends.
Some I say get dressed and show them the door: usually after a CFNM session. With others we usually chat and cuddle putting the world to right, get up shower, have coffee before they depart or they drive me home."
I can imagine that would be a bit different.. as its different sort of play session. Time after is often needed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree, you know when you've had enough and your shagged out. Kettle on, brew, talk a bit then off home till next time. I never stay over. Feels like i'm invading their 'together time' . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well i like to meet first in a bar or on the boat have 1 or 2 drinks get to know them after have fun for hours ,, somtimes thay stay over or go but never ask them too ... its up to them ..I love It when togther after sleeping in a big bed after rest we can again , even shower together. lol jo xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Something else has occured to me while reading this..
I am guessing a lot of couples mostly meet for couple of hour long play sessions.
Now we never meet for drinks and stuff, although do always talk on the phone before meeting. I could not imagine having hours of playtime with someone though..
katie. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something else has occured to me while reading this..
I am guessing a lot of couples mostly meet for couple of hour long play sessions.
Now we never meet for drinks and stuff, although do always talk on the phone before meeting. I could not imagine having hours of playtime with someone though..
katie. x" we meet couples and singles we like both and i love 2 men all for me its heaven xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" we meet couples and singles we like both and i love 2 men all for me its heaven xx"
Yes two or men is very good.. we dont meet couples for the reason we dont do full swaps...
What I meant was the length of meets.. the longest we meet for is an hour. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" we meet couples and singles we like both and i love 2 men all for me its heaven xx
Yes two or men is very good.. we dont meet couples for the reason we dont do full swaps...
What I meant was the length of meets.. the longest we meet for is an hour. lol" really i spend a hour just kissing getting ready for fourplay lol I know its each to there own if you feel thats right for you and happy with hour its fine i am sure xx jo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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See that will be it.. I dont do foreplay and would never kiss a playmate.. :D
its about the experience for us rather than the sexual content..
But as you say each to thier own.. it works for us. |
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When play has come to an end we normally have a nice cup of tea in bed together, then if they're going home we usually have a drink downstairs after we've dressed. Sometimes friends stay over and we normally swap for 'sleeping' in separate rooms, fortunately we have two double beds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to be very discrete when doing home meets so after we’ve all had our fun we normally bury them under the patio cannot get much more discrete than that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We like the fun after the guest has gone so normally they go home after the fun and then we have more fun "
That is why we like them to leave... although its even more important to us when master is not there in person and watching via cam.
Katie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to wind down with our playmates, usually have a few nibbles, cheese and biccies, etc. maybe have another drink or two.
We never rush, and if ever our playmates decided to go straight away, we would think we'd done something wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok Master speaking this time as Katie has been allowed her say ( I do let her sometimes )
I think that what some people on here do is just the exact same as dating, going for drinks, a meal, back for a kiss and cuddle, sex, sleep over and breakfast in the morning, I/we could never do this, we enjoy the sex side of swinging but to be honest would rather spend time before and after enjoying each others company ( well I enjoy and Katie does as she is told ), Im not saying there is a right or wrong way to swing, I just personally dont want to date or have Katie date other people after all I would rather take Katie for drinks a meal, or anything else social, I certainly would not do this with people we were just meeting for sex..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the circumstances; if its a hotel play, i dont stay overnight as ive invariably got work the following day and i much prefer to go home, if i allow someone round to mine, well my regular and i have a very intertwined cuddle and chat for a while, maybe a cuppa and a smoke too |
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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago
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Things come to a natural finish.. Although we may tend to leave the last dance till latet
Then a trashy BK or McD then a two hour drive home
Bath, hair wash, then a nice cuddle and fall asleep in each others arms |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something else has occured to me while reading this..
I am guessing a lot of couples mostly meet for couple of hour long play sessions.
Now we never meet for drinks and stuff, although do always talk on the phone before meeting. I could not imagine having hours of playtime with someone though..
katie. x"
well ya guess wrong Katie, it goes on much longer than that, and there are lots of fun and games to be had, besides getting to know peeps a bit as humans like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i personally dont like guys who meet, cum and run off after
All because its swinging i dont feel sex has to be clinical, i like spending time after with the person, i like guys who are secure in swinging enough to have a cuddle and chat after without thinking a ring on the finger is the next step lol
i know everyones different and i suppose its different if your a couple as you have each other for that
but i just think swing does not have to be cold sex and that its ok to kiss, cuddle and spend time with your play mates while it still being no strings sex |
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depends on how i feel at the time, if its late and i just need a quick release the yeah - meet, fuck, leave is fine by me
however i do like to chat as we 'recover' lol and for a few special people the offer of a bed for the night is always there as its always nice to wake up next to someone and have some fun before work |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Something else has occured to me while reading this..
I am guessing a lot of couples mostly meet for couple of hour long play sessions
katie. x
well ya guess wrong Katie, it goes on much longer than that, and there are lots of fun and games to be had, besides getting to know peeps a bit as humans like."
I Said I'm guessing most couples meet for a couple of hours... I just like my time after with master and that is our choice... certainly isn't about if we are insecure, its just sex with others and I have no desire for personal time with playmates.
AND I would never spend the night with another man. It's just how we like it and so do our meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Katie yours is about control most of us here like swinging as it gives us freedom of doing other things meeting people ..... Dom sub role is very diffrent i know as been doing some of that over the years with play mates.I love doing lots of diffrent things thats what we like. I have been married over 25 years and really happy it just add some spice to our lifes ,,, I am my own person and not a caged animal thats how i would feel if i could not be myself. JO XX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No mine is not about control as when I play I am Masters wife, not his slave.. or rarely.. ( basically because its to hard for people to understand)
Swinging is our added fun, we just like to enjoy things as we do. I just for me personally would not want the intimacy with another man... However I have no problem with Master kissing another women as most women do need that.
I am always myself.. and am definately not caged. I used to swing with my ex hubby and we did it different to how Master and I do now..
As meets that we have had will say, we are very chatty during and before, but after is our time. For us we just dont do the social meet then play. Although we have and do meet people socially if not playing with them.
What we were saying is we would not take a meet out for a meal etc.. or have them cuddle up after.
Actually if its a BDSM related meet then it does tend to involve them staying longer purely because its needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am having a go at understanding things katie .... you must love him very much and feel he is all you need and enjoy what you do together I was married to john 15 years before we started swinging it just opened a new world to me and i felt so free. John say if you love someone set them free to come back ..if she fly away you know things was not right ... was not saying you was caged but i did think yours dom sub thing ?? is it ? and i see that as power thing and control ,,, not always in a bad way but the way you like it ? jo xxxx |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Something else has occured to me while reading this..
I am guessing a lot of couples mostly meet for couple of hour long play sessions.
Now we never meet for drinks and stuff, although do always talk on the phone before meeting. I could not imagine having hours of playtime with someone though..
katie. x
well ya guess wrong Katie, it goes on much longer than that, and there are lots of fun and games to be had, besides getting to know peeps a bit as humans like."
Agreed, we don't have quickie meets, we like the meets to last for hours...obviously with little breaks inbetween play.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I am having a go at understanding things katie .... you must love him very much and feel he is all you need and enjoy what you do together I was married to john 15 years before we started swinging it just opened a new world to me and i felt so free. John say if you love someone set them free to come back ..if she fly away you know things was not right ... was not saying you was caged but i did think yours dom sub thing ?? is it ? and i see that as power thing and control ,,, not always in a bad way but the way you like it ? jo xxxx"
It isn't about control, it is about what you both want out of swinging.
A sub and dom thing doesn't mean you will be sub and dom outside of the bedroom, swinging is normally a joint decision with agreed bounderies.
For us, the same as Katie, we want playmates for fun, we don't want them as friends were we all socialise in the vanilla world. We like to have fun and then say cya until next time ( if it is a rpeeat meet ) we don't want or need any extra than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer the "fun" side to things along with the "friendship".
Its a good job we dont all like the same thing ..
I for one could NEVER call a man "master" be it in the bedroom or out of it.
But thats just me.
As i say, horses for courses |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think its lovely we all do our own thing ,, no ones the same and its each to there own ,,, and nice to find out what others get from swinging may it be sub dom just good old sex or what ever i love reading it here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer the "fun" side to things along with the "friendship".
Its a good job we dont all like the same thing ..
I for one could NEVER call a man "master" be it in the bedroom or out of it.
But thats just me.
As i say, horses for courses " I would only say it in play ,,, i am my own master ..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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It is all about what works personally.. It was just a curious little thing that popped into my head ...
You would be amazed at the questions I sometimes think of.. :D
If someone had asked me before I met Master if I would submit to any man, they would have been told "me submit, no chance"...
I wouldnt to any other either.. :D Hence the swinging is just fun for us.. something we both enjoy.. and both get a lot out of.
Variety is the spice of life...
As long as it works for you, then that is all that matters.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wipe my cock on the curtain and go, is normally how I play it. "
You wiped it on my curtain then I would be most upset..as it would mean I missed a drop.. lol
Katie. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think its lovely we all do our own thing ,, no ones the same and its each to there own ,,, and nice to find out what others get from swinging may it be sub dom just good old sex or what ever i love reading it here."
So is this why my copy/paste messages dont get any response :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is all about what works personally.. It was just a curious little thing that popped into my head ...
You would be amazed at the questions I sometimes think of.. :D
If someone had asked me before I met Master if I would submit to any man, they would have been told "me submit, no chance"...
I wouldnt to any other either.. :D Hence the swinging is just fun for us.. something we both enjoy.. and both get a lot out of.
Variety is the spice of life...
As long as it works for you, then that is all that matters.
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Very true |
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