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having feelings for a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i met a wonderful man the other week and he was a perfect gentleman but the trouble is now that ive got feelings for him that i shouldnt have so can anybody help please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are some her that may think your out of your head falling for a meet.But if you think about it you just shared the most intimate thing two people can share.

If feelings get involved then thats the risk we take.

Just be smart about the next move you make especially as you could be the only one with on the emotional side. If you are lucky and it's mutual sit back and enjoy the ride , if you are alone get out of there.Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met a wonderful man the other week and he was a perfect gentleman but the trouble is now that ive got feelings for him that i shouldnt have so can anybody help please"

Feelings are feelings, why shouldn't you have them? I know it's nsa but sometimes our feelings don't get that message. Accept that you have them and be clever in how you discover if he has them too. Don't rush though!

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By *ohjaneCouple over a year ago

south staffs

I don't know about anyone else, but I could not go to bed with a person unless I feel something for them. It is mostly lust, but then sometimes I get a bit more into them, and again, sometimes I admit it. I try to explain to that person that my husband knows me and the way I feel / react, and that I do get over it again.

Whatever I do / feel / want, I try to be honest about it.

Let us hope your guy won't be scared and run a mile.

Good luck

Jane x

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By *lderguy4funMan over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

well it worked 4 me as i met a lady on here two weeks ago and we gon on so well in and out of the bedroom we see each other every weekend and and one day in week so we are just seeing each other and haveing lots of sexy fun we just clicked and are getting on like a house on fire so just go with it ,xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i think i need to sit him down and try to talk to him about how i feel, then its up to him, i will just hope it happens

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Hope you talk to him before he sees this thread!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does this mean we will have to rename this site ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i think i need to sit him down and try to talk to him about how i feel, then its up to him, i will just hope it happens"

Sit him down and talk to him ? Noooooooooodon't do that. really .....don't do that xxx Good luck though xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i think i need to sit him down and try to talk to him about how i feel, then its up to him, i will just hope it happens

Sit him down and talk to him ? Noooooooooodon't do that. really .....don't do that xxx Good luck though xx"

always a difficult one this .....get in your head first off that this is a swingers site and hes a bloke !!! they dont have the same emotions as us girlies ....mind u in 6 years of meeting guys on swingers sites ive always kept my emotions in check !!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"i think i need to sit him down and try to talk to him about how i feel, then its up to him, i will just hope it happens

Sit him down and talk to him ? Noooooooooodon't do that. really .....don't do that xxx Good luck though xx

its difficult not to get attatched to someone uve been meeting regularly its nice when they make u feel like the only woman in their world... then you leave and go about ur daily business till next time .

But when feelings change to love then thats diffrent so i think its best to be honest with him and let him know how you feel then its upto him if he wants then same or not and take it from there .good luck and i hope it all works out for you xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a really special guy who I have met a few times and I love being with him and waking up with him, but then we go home and have all the boring life stuff happen and when we meet up again its just the sexy nice bits. I think we have the best of both worlds. But I wish you all the best in the world with your friend and I hope it all works out the way you would like it to!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before you speak to him I would think about how your going to feel if he doesnt feel the same for you - cause if your feelings are really deep his reply might hurt.

Good luck though xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met a guy once that i could have quite happily fell for but i would never have told him, i dont think its fair on someone you have met on a swingers site for NSA sex to land that on them, i met him 5 times and after the last time i mailed him to tell him i didnt want to meet him anymore because i could feel myself falling for him more every time we met

i just felt it was the right thing to do to save me getting hurt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Correct me if I am wrong but doesnt this post go against the rules of this site .

This is not my opinion but something I was told by another member when I first joined this site.

Exact words were ' This is not a dating site and you should not be lookin for a LTR '

I still dont know why they gave me that advice .

Maybe its my profile ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met one of my playmates on another site three years ago. I'm the only person he's met. We speak every day. The longest we've not spoken is two weeks last October when he was on holiday but he phoned from the airport when leaving and on his return.

He's been there when I've been ill as I have for him, we socialise often. Yesterday he came and bled my radiators and hung my lounge and dining room curtains before playing.

He looked hurt in the past when he realised I see other people: I now don't say.

We like each other, are obviously part of each others lives but we're both mindful of where we met. It felt very "domestic" yesterday, him doing chores while I did lunch.

NSA doesn't mean you don't have feelings. Mine have built up over three years. We're both intelligent people, we know what's going on between us but we've not voiced it, and I'm not sure what will happen.

The beauty is neither of us puts any pressure on the other so we enjoy what we have and I still get to play with other kinky men!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Correct me if I am wrong but doesnt this post go against the rules of this site .

This is not my opinion but something I was told by another member when I first joined this site.

Exact words were ' This is not a dating site and you should not be lookin for a LTR '

I still dont know why they gave me that advice .

Maybe its my profile ?"

There are no "rules" where humans with emotions are concerned! No one joins a site like this looking for love but it happens!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Correct me if I am wrong but doesnt this post go against the rules of this site .

This is not my opinion but something I was told by another member when I first joined this site.

Exact words were ' This is not a dating site and you should not be lookin for a LTR '

I still dont know why they gave me that advice .

Maybe its my profile ?"

where exactly are the rules that say you cannot fal for people

its true that the majority of meets on here are for NSA sex but there are many couples on here that meet for sex. lets face it with the amount of people that use this site its inevitable that some of them are going to fall in love and start dating and i think thats lovely

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I always find this an interesting subject...well i find some of the replies interesting anyway. To the OP, say what you have to say but you have to be prepared for rejection, if you can handle the fact a sit down talk can go either way, then you will be fine, take no notice of cynics, do what you feel, there is no handbook to life and you only live once and most of all good luck xxxx

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

If you BOTH feel the same... go for it. Grab happiness and love with all 4 hands.

Honesty is key..

good luck x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Correct me if I am wrong but doesnt this post go against the rules of this site .

This is not my opinion but something I was told by another member when I first joined this site.

Exact words were ' This is not a dating site and you should not be lookin for a LTR '

I still dont know why they gave me that advice .

Maybe its my profile ?

where exactly are the rules that say you cannot fal for people

ok i need to read my posts before i press submit

what i meant to say is that there are many couples on here that met through this site or other swinging sites

i was (briefly!) in a relationship with someone i met off here and it was great while it lasted lol

femme is right though, you need to be prepared for him to say he doesnt feel the same way and for him to possibly not want to meet once he knows your feelings for him as it mayb over step a line for him

whatever you decide to do i wish you luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you BOTH feel the same... go for it. Grab happiness and love with all 4 hands.

Honesty is key..

good luck x"

Great advice.. Honesty is key.

I met my partner on Fab just over a year ago, was not looking for a relasionsip, but it just kinda happened & am the happiest I have ever been.

somethings can be found in the funniest of places

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab and sites like this are candy shop for alot you take your pick and yes easy to think your in love or theres somthing you feel .... but take care as there maybe others too. I meet some men from this site who have FB S lovers thay think thay are the only ones but thay are one of a number ... Fingers crossed your man friend will be open and truthfull as getting hurt is never nice.jo xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i think you can tell if someone feels the same about you, ive had a couple of guys want more than just sex from me and i could see it coming a mile away

you know if someones just wanting sex from you or if they are developing feeling for you just by the way they act

If you dont feel he thinks the same way i personally wouldnt say anyting till if gave me a sign that he did feel the same way, if indeed he ever did

but then thats a lie because i just wouldnt say anything full stop but you know what i mean lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Before talking to him….. have a serious chat with yourself.

Deep feelings or fleeting infatuation?

Why do you think he aroused the feelings you have?

Why is he different from the others?

Is it him or is it really about another need you have?

Is recreational sex what you really want deep down from meeting men on this site? Or is it a substitute for something else?

Did he appear to be showing you some sort of kindness which others haven’t? – remember he probably shows that to everyone he meets and is just the way he is.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I wonder how it turned out?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and me! I hope it turned out the way she wanted it to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thing u gotta ask urself is......is it lust? or is it more?

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By *hirefunguyMan over a year ago

Moray & Glasgow

Well - if you meet some one on a regular basis - feelings can and do grow into something quite strong. You cant control how you feel.... and usually it feels great!! lol

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By *obblybitsCouple over a year ago

huddersfield

plenty of people hear are perfect gentleman but you have known him for such a little time. are you sure you want to sit him down after two weeks.

you may scare him away.

I know feelings do come in to it but people can be nice well very nice but still set out to swing and have fun. if you do feel you can not meet him feeling the way you do you may have to leave it and move on or tell him like you said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would be careful about your actions right now.

I assume this guy uses this site so could be reading this and if the feelings aren't reciprocated, you may lose a good meet...unless you are willing to take that risk?

i will tell you that it wasnt so long ago that a lady did exactly the same thing as you, used the forum to help her decide on such a decision and buoyed along, told the gent her feelings...he did not feel the same and she was hurt.

not everyone on here will treat you like a lady, i would suggest that unless they prescribe to that, you don't meet them...that way, when a gem comes along you can appreciate him for what he is...a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

feeliings are feelings. Just go with your heart. Be realistic . Take care. Be careful

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"feeliings are feelings. Just go with your heart. Be realistic . Take care. Be careful

Be realistic is about the most sensible advice.... someone meets a guy once, for a couples of hours, via a swinging site and all of a sudden a bunch of other people are giving advice to talk to him about the feelings she has for him ... it's no wonder so many guys worry about meeting women more than once

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"feeliings are feelings. Just go with your heart. Be realistic . Take care. Be careful

...can I get a 'like' button please?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

this is exactly what happened to Rubie and I, we met through this site and now live together. Take the risk, live by and regret the chances you took, not the ones you didn't.

meeting, falling in love with, and living with a swinging partner, most blokes wet dream.....

we had our one year anniversary to the say at secrets for sharing last weekend. what a night that was.

we still swing, and really enjoy life,

in fact since 4 o'clock this morning we have fucked 3 times, now she has gone to work, I'll get a photo text in an hour of me dripping out of her !!!

(is this too much information???)

I know true romance... a modern day fairytale......

nike swinging...JUST DO IT !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"feeliings are feelings. Just go with your heart. Be realistic . Take care. Be careful

I believe it is possible to have love at first sight.

Been there, done that, got the T shirt.

However, it has only happened once in my life time so far.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would love to know what you decided to do - did you tell him ? xx

Hope it worked out for you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met a wonderful man the other week and he was a perfect gentleman but the trouble is now that ive got feelings for him that i shouldnt have so can anybody help please"
.... Yes speak to him before you post on the boards oops to late

* creeps round forum * DX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met a wonderful man the other week and he was a perfect gentleman but the trouble is now that ive got feelings for him that i shouldnt have so can anybody help please"

Wait, wait, wait, exposing your feelings too early could leave you open to exploitation. Get to know him better first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be nice to know it all worked out ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes we get things all out of proportion. If we meet someone and share a great evening, everything is fantastic in the bedroom etc etc, it can lead us to believe that it will always be like that. I always suffer from post holiday blues, or post night blues, if Ive had a great time, im sometimes a bit weepy the next day, but a day or so after and im ok and looking forward to the next adventure in my life.

I sometimes think that is the danger for single females on a site like this. Men dont seem to suffer from falling in love as easily as some women do. I wouldnt talk to him, if he asks to meet up again then go with it and have a great time. If its meant to be it will happen. I think its silly to profess to undying love after a few meets with someone on a swinging site, after all its just fantasy really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"feeliings are feelings. Just go with your heart. Be realistic . Take care. Be careful

I believe it is possible to have love at first sight.

Been there, done that, got the T shirt.

However, it has only happened once in my life time so far.

Same here...well, with my husband. The first time I saw him I knew he was hooked. He fell in love with me there and then. How could he not?!!

When the look died 24 years later - knew it was time to pack me bags!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes we get things all out of proportion. If we meet someone and share a great evening, everything is fantastic in the bedroom etc etc, it can lead us to believe that it will always be like that. I always suffer from post holiday blues, or post night blues, if Ive had a great time, im sometimes a bit weepy the next day, but a day or so after and im ok and looking forward to the next adventure in my life.

Maybe it's just me...but I always find your posts negative towards single women!

Personally I don't think the single women on this site are looking for love, that's what Match.com is for. Some will get confused, but so will some of the single men - you see them a couple of times and they get face ache when they want to meet and you say you have other plans!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really dont have any problems with single women whatsoever, I think certain ladies who regularly post on these forums seem to have got their heads together and are very sassy confident sexy women.

However, I also see posts from ladies who have said that they have met men on here and now they're a couple, posts similar to this one about having feelings, posts from single women saying that they want a lot of attention if they meet couples as the married lady gets "him" all of the time, and I really do wonder about those kind of posts and whether certain ladies are really just on here for sex, or whether its because of loneliness.

Dont get me wrong, I completely understand if its the latter. For me you see I dont have any feelings for any guy I swing with, I dont care if they are great at sex or not, because they are just a fantasy to me, its the whole scenario that excites me. Im not so sure it is the same for everyone.

I am sorry if anyone feels im being negative towards them, but I do think that people need to treat swinging and open their eyes to what it really is, otherwise they could get very hurt and that would be awful.

Men seem to be able to have sex and feel absolutely nothing but sheer lust, not many women are like that, its really hard at times I know. How would the OP feel if she saw a verification on that guys profile from another single woman. You have to keep yourself almost very hard faced and try and turn off certain emotions and see this for what it is.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Before talking to him….. have a serious chat with yourself.

Deep feelings or fleeting infatuation?

Why do you think he aroused the feelings you have?

Why is he different from the others?

Is it him or is it really about another need you have?

Is recreational sex what you really want deep down from meeting men on this site? Or is it a substitute for something else?

Did he appear to be showing you some sort of kindness which others haven’t? – remember he probably shows that to everyone he meets and is just the way he is.

Still talking sense then?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really dont have any problems with single women whatsoever, I think certain ladies who regularly post on these forums seem to have got their heads together and are very sassy confident sexy women.

Oh I understand all that: and I think most women on here have it sorted: you'll always get the ones that mistake lust for love: that's not unique to swinging sites, but as I said, maybe it's just me, but there always seem to be a snide little dig in your posts towards single women, as if you feel threatened in some way.

Oh well, hey ho!

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

are they engaged yet?

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Maybe no news, in this case, is not good news.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well thats not true, why would I feel threatened by single women when I dont meet single women for sex, so the only contact I have really with single women on the scene is on the forums or at a social - Im merely commenting on posts that I have seen and I dont agree that women should see the sex with any men on this site as anything more than just sex. All we are to these men are living breathing blow up dolls, a sex toy, nothing else, some women dont want to really believe that, that want to believe that they are the one special woman, and the guys will tell us anything just to get that shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I put the quote in the wrong place and so my post is in light grey - sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are as many men, if not more considering the ratios, that use this site in the hope of finding something more than sex as there are women.

it would be naive and incorrect to assume otherwise...men aren't robots.

there are those folk that can enjoy sex recreationally and those that don't..it is not a gender bias issue.

the difference is possibly only in the way this is illustrated in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just wonder sometimes whether people are really honest about what they expect from this site. I personally wouldnt want to start a brand new relationship on a swinging site. I do believe in love at first sight and it can happen, but if you have regular meets with a guy, 3 yrs someone mentioned, and yet no talk of taking it further, then in my eyes it isnt ever gonna happen. Ive been accused of feeling threatened by single women just cos i dont agree with posts like this one. This site is for nsa, its not love story and people need to stop hoping they will find true love. For a few it will happen but for the majority it wont. Theres too much temptation for men on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Affairs of the heart is very unpredictable.

Hence I made the decision not to play with anyone that is in a significant relationship to avoid any complications.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just wonder sometimes whether people are really honest about what they expect from this site. I personally wouldnt want to start a brand new relationship on a swinging site.

I do believe in love at first sight and it can happen, but if you have regular meets with a guy, 3 yrs someone mentioned, and yet no talk of taking it further, then in my eyes it isnt ever gonna happen.

Ive been accused of feeling threatened by single women just cos i dont agree with posts like this one. This site is for nsa, its not love story and people need to stop hoping they will find true love. For a few it will happen but for the majority it wont. Theres too much temptation for men on here. "

Yes, but isn't that nsa is all about? Able to have fun with someone without wanting it to go further?!!

I personally don't like to have a lot of playmates - I like to play with a select few. I don't want to marry any of them, I don't love any of them, but I like them all - they really are friends with benefits.

I have a life outside of swinging and I date outside of swinging - I don't want to date a swinger if that makes sense.

This is fun for now, when I get tired of it - and I will, surprised I'm still doing it after three years as I have a short attention span - I hope to find settle down again.

The question is - for the first 43 years of my life I'd only been with my husband. From 47 to date...well, I've been with a few more - can I stick with one man?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really dont have any problems with single women whatsoever, I think certain ladies who regularly post on these forums seem to have got their heads together and are very sassy confident sexy women.

Oh well, hey ho! "

should I get me popcorn?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really dont have any problems with single women whatsoever, I think certain ladies who regularly post on these forums seem to have got their heads together and are very sassy confident sexy women.

Oh well, hey ho!

should I get me popcorn?"

Shout me when they get to the marriage bit .

And no crying lol

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By *mumaWoman over a year ago

Livingston

never mind the popcorn, snuggle under my quilt and have a glass of wine - we could be here a while!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"never mind the popcorn, snuggle under my quilt and have a glass of wine - we could be here a while!!!!

Is it a big quilt , I am sure many will want to join after seeing that 'rear _iew' lol

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By *mumaWoman over a year ago

Livingston

come on under - the more the merrier...

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By *andsomgeorgeMan over a year ago

Rugby

"never mind the popcorn, snuggle under my quilt and have a glass of wine - we could be here a while!!!!

Is it a big quilt , I am sure many will want to join after seeing that 'rear _iew' lol

Absolutely spot on Gold on Black. Three's never a crowd - it's just getting started. May I join in FMUMA I promise not to let all the cold air in?

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By *ombshellWoman over a year ago

islington

have to say that after 7 years of swinging, relationships formed on sex sites do not last very long, with the odd exception of course...u only have to look in the chatrooms and watch single profiles turn into couples then a few weeks later back into singles... us swingers dont seem to make good relationship holders ...lol xx

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By *mumaWoman over a year ago

Livingston

"never mind the popcorn, snuggle under my quilt and have a glass of wine - we could be here a while!!!!

Is it a big quilt , I am sure many will want to join after seeing that 'rear _iew' lol

Absolutely spot on Gold on Black. Three's never a crowd - it's just getting started. May I join in FMUMA I promise not to let all the cold air in?

hey, 3 or more is a party!!!!! bring it on or should that be in???

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By *andsomgeorgeMan over a year ago

Rugby

"never mind the popcorn, snuggle under my quilt and have a glass of wine - we could be here a while!!!!

Is it a big quilt , I am sure many will want to join after seeing that 'rear _iew' lol

Absolutely spot on Gold on Black. Three's never a crowd - it's just getting started. May I join in FMUMA I promise not to let all the cold air in?

hey, 3 or more is a party!!!!! bring it on or should that be in???

Definitely in, no doubt. Thank you

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I just wonder sometimes whether people are really honest about what they expect from this site. I personally wouldnt want to start a brand new relationship on a swinging site.

Yes, but isn't that nsa is all about? Able to have fun with someone without wanting it to go further?!!

I have a life outside of swinging and I date outside of swinging - I don't want to date a swinger if that makes sense.

This is fun for now, when I get tired of it - and I will, surprised I'm still doing it after three years as I have a short attention span - I hope to find settle down again.

The question is - for the first 43 years of my life I'd only been with my husband. From 47 to date...well, I've been with a few more - can I stick with one man?!!

Your post interested me as am similar. I see you date outside swinging but if your dating a man do you then still swing? I certainly dont as that to me is cheating and I wont do that to a man. If I am dating then I dont swing. I now would rather swing than date as also have been with one man for all my adult life and dont think I want to be with one man again for the rest of my life. I need to ladies too much to give it all up for love with one man. I would love to settle down but dont know how on earth it would work and dont see it every really happeneing for many many reasons. Swinging works well for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just wonder sometimes whether people are really honest about what they expect from this site. I personally wouldnt want to start a brand new relationship on a swinging site.

Yes, but isn't that nsa is all about? Able to have fun with someone without wanting it to go further?!!

I have a life outside of swinging and I date outside of swinging - I don't want to date a swinger if that makes sense.

This is fun for now, when I get tired of it - and I will, surprised I'm still doing it after three years as I have a short attention span - I hope to find settle down again.

The question is - for the first 43 years of my life I'd only been with my husband. From 47 to date...well, I've been with a few more - can I stick with one man?!!

When I say "date" I mean going for dinner, theatre etc...I don't sleep with them.

If I were dating, with the _iew of having a more permanent relationship I wouldn't be swinging as I agree with you, I would see it as cheating.

Like you I too wonder though if I could settle down with one man: I want to, but at the moment I'm enjoying my oh so compliant sub playmates. When - and there will be a when - I've had enough, I'll just have to see.

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

It does seem you have the same opinion.

I really would love to meet the man of my dreams and be happy but I cant see it ever happeneing really as swinging works for me.

I occasionally look on the dating side and then meet someone and think o god this sint for me.

I like sex too much now and not sure how to have normal dates now. I am too saucy and seductive so would get myself into trouble too much probably lol.

Swinign has worked for me for about 4 and half years now. Diary getting full now mmmm

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By *andsomgeorgeMan over a year ago

Rugby

"It does seem you have the same opinion.

I really would love to meet the man of my dreams and be happy but I cant see it ever happeneing really as swinging works for me.

I occasionally look on the dating side and then meet someone and think o god this sint for me.

I like sex too much now and not sure how to have normal dates now. I am too saucy and seductive so would get myself into trouble too much probably lol.

Swinign has worked for me for about 4 and half years now. Diary getting full now mmmm"

Do you really think men you meet from dating sites are going to complain? I doubt it very much

Good luck though - I hope you find your happy medium.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It does seem you have the same opinion.

I really would love to meet the man of my dreams and be happy but I cant see it ever happeneing really as swinging works for me.

I occasionally look on the dating side and then meet someone and think o god this sint for me.

I like sex too much now and not sure how to have normal dates now. I am too saucy and seductive so would get myself into trouble too much probably lol.

Swinign has worked for me for about 4 and half years now. Diary getting full now mmmm"

I've found that: making "inappropriate" comments to dates!

Some poor bloke at dinner said he was going to ask for a doggy bag...my response, oooh dogging not for me!

Oh well...

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By *andsomgeorgeMan over a year ago

Rugby

Wow, I'm surprised. I appreciate I'm here too so not putting myself in their place. Maybe I've always been a little bit of a dirt bag? And all my male friends too...

But I don't know any men who who would have done anything other than 'act' shocked at worst to make it look like they weren't too clear on what you meant.

Can understand your reluctance in that case. Just as well that any references to ATM would have sailed straight over their heads then...

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

I could play Devils Advocate and say that a single woman meeting a single man isnt exactly 'swinging' anyway. Have had single guys say as much to me. Also had some ask for advice about single fems who are def too attached.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I could play Devils Advocate and say that a single woman meeting a single man isnt exactly 'swinging' anyway. Have had single guys say as much to me. Also had some ask for advice about single fems who are def too attached.

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Ture i never see it like that before ? I would meet men just for sex when i was young was i really a swinger at 16 .. lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and I could be a pedant and say that being gay doesn't mean your homosexual either, it could mean you're happy...!!

it's just a label..no-one has rights of ownership over it, it's also not one that too many folk are proud to take ownership of outside the site either (in fact, I hear of more singles that are open about it than I do couples).

And I have had more guys on here become attached to me than I have had about them...in fact, the emotions connection I've had towards a man met through here currently stands at....zero!

People build emotions...not just single fems

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have had a few dates and found myself being my normal naughty self and had to remind me that this is a date and not swinging and discussing sex isnt a good idea when on a date. Tends to give the wrong impression.lol

I was onc chatting with my landlord and he knows I am single and he asked with my limited time I keep myself happy, my natural reply was very quick and said" o I meet people and have good sex". Suddenly thought ,o dear, that wasnt the best thing to say and clamped my mouth shut. Luckily he swings too,he told me about 3 seconds after that,so all was fine in the end.

But I am forever saying the wrong thing on normal dates and find it very hard to not be naughty,saucy and seductive.

Gets myself into too much trouble lol.

Sticking with swinging when I know I can open my mouth and be honest without digging myself a hole when offering to suck their cock lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course I could be really sceptical and say that in some cases men are eager to become attached to a single female because this will get them more action, access to more couples, entry to swinging clubs on couples night, its cheaper if you're an attached man that a single guy and more party invites etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of course I could be really sceptical and say that in some cases men are eager to become attached to a single female because this will get them more action, access to more couples, entry to swinging clubs on couples night, its cheaper if you're an attached man that a single guy and more party invites etc

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Thats why at swinging clubs on couples nights you feel there singles there ... thay get to club and dump the woman I had two crying on me sat night at chams men off playing just dumped them woman i felt right sorry for them ,, jo xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah thats really nasty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It does seem you have the same opinion.

I really would love to meet the man of my dreams and be happy but I cant see it ever happeneing really as swinging works for me.

I occasionally look on the dating side and then meet someone and think o god this sint for me.

I like sex too much now and not sure how to have normal dates now. I am too saucy and seductive so would get myself into trouble too much probably lol.

Swinign has worked for me for about 4 and half years now. Diary getting full now mmmm

Do you really think men you meet from dating sites are going to complain? I doubt it very much

Good luck though - I hope you find your happy medium."

Ie...sally of the telly ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...and there are those, and there are also single women looking for similar.

there are men that just want you to leave the site though and let you know within 3 messages that they are looking for 'more'.

my point being, i don't know why these arguments ever have to become gender bias...either sex is culpable

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

I can only speak from experience. I have met a number of men who have wanted to meet me again and again and have asked me if I would be a fb with them. My answer has been no as dont want to only play with them as greedy but ultimately the meet has been great for them but only ok or good for me.

I would only be a couple if I was in a relationship with a person. I have recent met up with the same guy for 5 consecutive meets with him although am still very much a single fem and him a single male.

Neither want to declare undying love tho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats why at swinging clubs on couples nights you feel there singles there ... thay get to club and dump the woman I had two crying on me sat night at chams men off playing just dumped them woman i felt right sorry for them ,, jo xxx"

The guys like that are scum. Although I have never been to a club (not really my scene to be honest) then I would have thought that they would have a least been gentlemen, swingers club or not.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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Thats why at swinging clubs on couples nights you feel there singles there ... thay get to club and dump the woman I had two crying on me sat night at chams men off playing just dumped them woman i felt right sorry for them ,, jo xxx"

Well all I can say about the crying women..... get a grip!

Their fault for taking the knobheads and their fault for feeling all emotional and sorry for themselves.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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lol morning Polo xx

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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"lol morning Polo xx"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol morning Polo xx

Shows how much attention you paying to the thread lol

Have I missed anything ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...and there are those, and there are also single women looking for similar.

there are men that just want you to leave the site though and let you know within 3 messages that they are looking for 'more'.

my point being, i don't know why these arguments ever have to become gender bias...either sex is culpable"

I quite agree!!

I've hidden my verifications after countless "oh you've been busy" snide comments from men.

I've been contacted by men who have "looking for more" on their profiles - I avoid those.

As I've said, I've been seeing one playmate for three years, but when I looked at it, I have several playmates I see regularly that I've known for three years.

I like all of them, wouldn't keep seeing them otherwise, doesn't mean I want to make babies and buy soft furnishings with them!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol morning Polo xx

Well one said she never been to a club before she sat there just looking lost and sad other ladys looked like she could have killed him if she got her hands on him i told her to go find him . lol and i would even go with her but she left the club with out him in the end. At times woman are just porns in a game i feel to get there way. jo x"
men to get there way ,, lol x

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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"lol morning Polo xx

Utter rubbish!

They were not dragged to the club door, were they?

They had their own reasons for going, did they not?

They are capable of talking to the person they are going with and laying down sdome expectations are they not?

They are capable of going up to the guy and saying "this is not what we agreed" are they not?

As for the crying.... FFS... where do I start with that one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol morning Polo xx

Utter rubbish!

They were not dragged to the club door, were they?

They had their own reasons for going, did they not?

They are capable of talking to the person they are going with and laying down sdome expectations are they not?

They are capable of going up to the guy and saying "this is not what we agreed" are they not?

As for the crying.... FFS... where do I start with that one.

"
well i felt sorry for them ...... thats just me ...... and yes thay should have been strong and done what there men was asking them to do. But both did not wish to play , its up to them . Seen its before and will again i am sure . jo x

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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"lol morning Polo xx

Utter rubbish!

They were not dragged to the club door, were they?

They had their own reasons for going, did they not?

They are capable of talking to the person they are going with and laying down sdome expectations are they not?

They are capable of going up to the guy and saying "this is not what we agreed" are they not?

As for the crying.... FFS... where do I start with that one.

well i felt sorry for them ...... thats just me ...... and yes thay should have been strong and done what there men was asking them to do. But both did not wish to play , its up to them . Seen its before and will again i am sure . jo x"

I am sure you will see it again... there seems to be an endless supply of stupid bints waiting to cry "victim" when they are half (if not more) of the problem.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"lol morning Polo xx

Sorry I don't agree with that.

Women are on here for sex, just like the men and the couples. Even if no one likes the description but I am going to say it anyway... we are all using someone for sex and being used.

Those women were not duped into handing over their life savings with the promise of marraige.

I thought clubs were for sharing too, unless they had an exclusive agreement and a pact that they went home together, then you can hardly say the men are using the women as porns.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol morning Polo xx

Sorry I don't agree with that.

Women are on here for sex, just like the men and the couples. Even if no one likes the description but I am going to say it anyway... we are all using someone for sex and being used.

Those women were not duped into handing over their life savings with the promise of marraige.

I thought clubs were for sharing too, unless they had an exclusive agreement and a pact that they went home together, then you can hardly say the men are using the women as porns."
Thay was not married not sure what there set up was one said was not aloud as not english Indion not sure. I found that strange and going to a swing club. I did feel thay was there just to get the men in .... as i say seen it before . I know thay are not on swing sites as asked them. So felt it was the men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol morning Polo xx

Sorry I don't agree with that.

Women are on here for sex, just like the men and the couples. Even if no one likes the description but I am going to say it anyway... we are all using someone for sex and being used.

Those women were not duped into handing over their life savings with the promise of marraige.

I thought clubs were for sharing too, unless they had an exclusive agreement and a pact that they went home together, then you can hardly say the men are using the women as porns."

Spellcheck

*pawns*

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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" Women are on here for sex..."

Some days I am not too sure about that one.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"lol morning Polo xx

Sorry I don't agree with that.

Women are on here for sex, just like the men and the couples. Even if no one likes the description but I am going to say it anyway... we are all using someone for sex and being used.

Those women were not duped into handing over their life savings with the promise of marraige.

I thought clubs were for sharing too, unless they had an exclusive agreement and a pact that they went home together, then you can hardly say the men are using the women as porns.

Spellcheck

*pawns*

Excuse my mistake. I hate it when I do typoes or spelling mistakes and normally correct myself with a new post..... but, I have noticed you have started correcting peoples spelling/typing errors, don't be surprised if people get annoyed with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I have noticed you have started correcting peoples spelling/typing errors, don't be surprised if people get annoyed with it."

I was annoyed with it from yesterday: and he wasn't correcting mine!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hoo givs a fooook abowt speling enywhey

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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" Women are on here for sex...

Some days I am not too sure about that one."

Snap , on another site we use a woman was disgusted so much about a mail she had recieved that she started a thread about it. Lots of other women agreed with the outrage, and a few men who looked like they wanted to get onside did too.

The mail was something along the lines of " do you fancy meeting to have sex" Who would have imagined you would get mail like that on an adult site

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

" Women are on here for sex...

Some days I am not too sure about that one.

The mail was something along the lines of " do you fancy meeting to have sex" Who would have imagined you would get mail like that on an adult site

The few men agreeing to get onside is amusing.

Irony can be so ironic at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol morning Polo xx

Utter rubbish!

They were not dragged to the club door, were they?

They had their own reasons for going, did they not?

They are capable of talking to the person they are going with and laying down sdome expectations are they not?

They are capable of going up to the guy and saying "this is not what we agreed" are they not?

As for the crying.... FFS... where do I start with that one.

what also seems ridonculous is that these women are in the club....where, usually, the men far outweigh the women in numbers. I would be thinking "thank god"..and swiftly moving on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol morning Polo xx

Sorry I don't agree with that.

Women are on here for sex, just like the men and the couples. Even if no one likes the description but I am going to say it anyway... we are all using someone for sex and being used.

Those women were not duped into handing over their life savings with the promise of marraige.

I thought clubs were for sharing too, unless they had an exclusive agreement and a pact that they went home together, then you can hardly say the men are using the women as porns.

Spellcheck

*pawns*

If its getting me noticed that is the whole idea lol

Point taken and I wont be making that mistake

again .

However If we all played by the rules then we would not be here correcting each other .

Finally, what does it say about society if people will get annoyed for correcting a mistake that has clearly been made , I was only trying to be helpful.

No offence intended .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Finally, what does it say about society if people will get annoyed for correcting a mistake that has clearly been made , I was only trying to be helpful.

No offence intended .

You need the Rosetta Stone to translate half the posts on here. Do you really want to spend time correcting all the posts?!!

Do you want the people you're obviously trying to impress to block you for being being a pedant?!!

Just my take on things of course!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If its getting me noticed that is the whole idea lol

I think you mean either “it is” getting you noticed or “ it’s” getting you noticed!

Only trying to be helpful, no offence intended!

Seriously, people come on here for a bit of light relief, they do not need their spelling corrected. You may think you are being helpful, but to the person you are correcting it can be humiliating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for your take sassy.

'However If we all played by the rules then we would not be here correcting each other '

I think this issue has now been exhausted and we should all move on.

All light hearted fun .

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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If its getting me noticed that is the whole idea lol

Point taken and I wont be making that mistake

again .

However If we all played by the rules then we would not be here correcting each other .

Finally, what does it say about society if people will get annoyed for correcting a mistake that has clearly been made , I was only trying to be helpful.

No offence intended .

It is probably getting you noticed, but could be for the wrong reasons......I think this is one of them.

It isn't against the rules to not being able to spell properly and pointing out spelling mistakes could put people off posting at all......

I am sure you don't want your "helpful" correction of spelling to be mistaken for trying to belittle people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The rules I am referring to are not of people knowing how to spell .Humans make mistakes .

You started this Rugby, a couple of nights ago and I just ended it with a cheeky spelling correction .

All in good spirit lol .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The rules I am referring to are not of people knowing how to spell .Humans make mistakes .

You started this Rugby, a couple of nights ago and I just ended it with a cheeky spelling correction .

All in good spirit lol . I cant spell to well but if you read my profile you will see why , And dont please say spell checking the best way i have had loads all sorts even the ones i chat into dont work. jo xxx

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"The rules I am referring to are not of people knowing how to spell .Humans make mistakes .

You started this Rugby, a couple of nights ago and I just ended it with a cheeky spelling correction .

All in good spirit lol .

I started what?

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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"Finally, what does it say about society if people will get annoyed for correcting a mistake that has clearly been made , I was only trying to be helpful.

No offence intended .

You need the Rosetta Stone to translate half the posts on here. Do you really want to spend time correcting all the posts?!!

Do you want the people you're obviously trying to impress to block you for being being a pedant?!!

Just my take on things of course!"

Too many beings........ oh shit he's got me at it now

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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I started what?"

I said you wanna be startin' somethin'

You got to be startin' somethin'

I said you wanna be startin' somethin'

You got to be startin' somethin'

It's too high to get over (yeah, yeah)

. Sorry, it's Friday and I've just had my forst cup of coffee.... EVER!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

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*first*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Finally, what does it say about society if people will get annoyed for correcting a mistake that has clearly been made , I was only trying to be helpful.

No offence intended .

You need the Rosetta Stone to translate half the posts on here. Do you really want to spend time correcting all the posts?!!

Do you want the people you're obviously trying to impress to block you for being being a pedant?!!

Just my take on things of course!

Too many beings........ oh shit he's got me at it now

I only spotted the one Polo lmao .

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am on the now(cola) hard stuff arent I

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"The rules I am referring to are not of people knowing how to spell .Humans make mistakes .

You started this Rugby, a couple of nights ago and I just ended it with a cheeky spelling correction .

All in good spirit lol .

I started what?"

I think I have found out what I "started"

Is it because I asked you not to try and get around peoples blocks by enquiring on the forums as to why?

If it is me you want to get back at, why are you picking at other peoples spelling?

If you don't like any of the rules or the fact that a mod has reminded people of the rules rather than banned them, then you can send feedback through the CONTACT button.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets get this right I did not ask .

I will be looking out for more spelling mistakes from you by the looks of it lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only joking and point taken . It wont happen again .

Can you stop telling me off now

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Lets get this right I did not ask .

I will be looking out for more spelling mistakes from you by the looks of it lmao

Lets get this right.......being pedantic isn't a defence.

I promise never to remind you of any rules ever again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're not Carol Vorderman are you?

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Only joking and point taken . It wont happen again .

Can you stop telling me off now

Ah yes, the "I was only joking" defence.

*hopes this gets me onside*

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By *llielonglegsCouple over a year ago

winsford

I met my John on another site 6 yrs ago. Best thing i ever did. We have a 5 yr old daughter and are getting married somewhere hot and funky next yr. Plus we still swing as a couple!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah thats really nice, love can conquer all, and if a couple are meant to be together they will be, regardless of where they met

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