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Jealousy - do you suffer with it?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.
I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom. |
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We are very careful to consider everyone involved in our meets to try and makes sure it doesn't happen. It certainly never has between us because we know each other so well and always consider each other's feelings.
However having been 'in the scene' for a little while now we have seen jealousy plenty of times and experienced it with other couples.
Humans and sex is going to involve jealousy somewhere along the line unfortunately.
You'd think being swingers it wouldn't happen lol. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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No, quite the opposite ... I love seeing people work hard in life and achieve... they inspire me.
and I like to read about people who have achieved a great swinging experience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, quite the opposite ... I love seeing people work hard in life and achieve... they inspire me.
and I like to read about people who have achieved a great swinging experience"
 completely agree. |
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"No, quite the opposite ... I love seeing people work hard in life and achieve... they inspire me.
and I like to read about people who have achieved a great swinging experience"
We all have our own paths to personal success.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I would get jealous here but I do get the odd pang of jealousy over my fb as she's a lapdancer so I know there are guys offering her all the time. But I just remember I'm the guy she picked to fuck so I just  and carry on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can... but its rarely over things you would expect.
I often wonder if its jealousy at all..and when I do suffer with it, there is normally something negative that has happened along with it..
I think the most jealous I got actually resulted in one of our hottest 3 sums ever... So its not always a bad thing.. I felt jealous as hell.. yet it was amazing..
I sometimes think I get envious rather than jealous..I can and do blame it on the fact I actually have green eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealous, no, not at all.
My Fab Friends are people who I really like. I want them to have fun, enjoy themselves and take opportunities when they come around.
I wish my Fab Friends could meet more people and give me more ideas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy is very destructive,the effects of it in swinging are cringe worthy to witness
I have a good time,I want my friends to have a good time too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to be very jealous in my relationship but now I really dont have one so jealously doesn't arise.
However if I cared for someone I would not be prepared to share.. jealousy would kill me .  "
Cinnamon you gorgeous chick.....I'm jealous of your chicken bag |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't get jealous if poly is discussed beforehand openly and each person is ok with it then I just go with the flow and enjoy it for what it is.
If the person I'm seeing prefers it to remain one on one then I respect their wishes on that.
As long as everyone's happy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to admit that after a meet I get the... Im not good enough for repeats... Nothing can be done some people just have that flare of jealousy seep through when they connect with someone sexually... It is hard to have a swinging (game face) at times. |
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"Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.
I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom. "
I get sort of winsome and 'what if....?' when I see people post threads about fun times in adult clubs and such as it's something I've never done and probably unlikely to do (their location being so far and my free time so limited) but as for sex....not in the slightest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think there's a difference between jealousy, and reaction. Not every reaction is due to jealousy. Although it's an easy card to pull."
Actually , that's a very good point. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.
I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom.
I get sort of winsome and 'what if....?' when I see people post threads about fun times in adult clubs and such as it's something I've never done and probably unlikely to do (their location being so far and my free time so limited) but as for sex....not in the slightest. "
You'll get to a club one day! There's plenty of life left in your cock yet !  |
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"Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.
I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom.
I get sort of winsome and 'what if....?'
when I see people post threads about
fun times in adult clubs and such as it's
something I've never done and
probably unlikely to do (their location
being so far and my free time so
limited) but as for sex....not in the
slightest.
You'll get to a club one day! There's plenty of life left in your cock yet ! 8-
)"
Is there? Why do I keep getting messages that say "hey droopy! Wanna buy some mega-hyper-ultra hard stiffening tablet cream?" then?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you get jealous ? "
No.
And in real life that's my main downfall in relationships (real life).
Girlfriends in the past have equated that to me not giving a fuck.
Thing is.
My parents have been married nearly 30 years. They met as kids.
My dad gets a ridiculous amount of attention and the way they handle it has rubbed off on me.
Jealousy is just not even in my head and my most recent ex was an outrageous flirt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy depends on circumstances I think, I was with a guy I swear tried to play me with it, with scottie I love him getting attention.... We all have it in us but it does depend on the person involved ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On here no jealousy... Away from here a little.... Isn't jealousy a strange way of showing you care? X"
It depends how you _iew life.
I don't think that being jealous means I care about someone. It's more caring, to me, to enjoy my partners enjoying life rather than being envious that they've got something I haven't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do whenever Ginger has a solo meet but I man up as I introduced her into this lifestyle and I don't own her. She does what she wants to and I take pleasure in the fact that she always comes home and with a smile on her face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that."
It's inevitable that some (mainly women) get jealous. I always keep an open mind regards meets etc.
I'm in this for fun and we've had many a good meet, but I also bear in mind people could have hidden agendas and are not in it only for the fun, so my wits are always well and truly kept about me - as per
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I have never really understood jealousy. It goes back to my mother getting jealous and angry when my dad received a Christmas card from an ex. I just couldn't see her point of _iew and still don't.
So o don't get jealous whan my wife or anyone else important to me is having fun. I feel good that they are having a great time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I often think, what if he falls in love with the woman he is kissing. It's like a torturous feeling that turns me on to see. "
Yep , I get that. I guess that, in that situation, it can be used to your advantage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, the green eyed monster takes over my soul regularly. I try not to let it creep out of my mouth though!"
I'm with you. I get incredibly jealous. Stupid, as I know our marriage is secure, and this is all about fun and a bit of spice.
But.... Still there occasionally. |
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When we started out going to Swingers Clubs we were both really nervous, excited and didn't know how we would feel seeing each other with someone else. When a guy played with Beth the first time we both talked about it afterwards and we were ok with it, for us it was more a concern that we were both ok with what was happening rather than jealousy. Now we know the kind of people we like and are much more relaxed and happy to go with the flow!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that."
The problem with that is that you don't know what is said and discussed behind closed doors.. So to some what may seem to look like jealousy, could in fact be a reaction to something that has previously been spoken about/lied about or whatever. Nothing is ever black and white. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that.
The problem with that is that you don't know what is said and discussed behind closed doors.. So to some what may seem to look like jealousy, could in fact be a reaction to something that has previously been spoken about/lied about or whatever. Nothing is ever black and white. "
very true, so always best to keep an open mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been known to get jealous when my partner has had some fun in a club whilst ive been away, but after talking and being in their arms we have had the best sex ever and now have decided as long as we are honest and talk then we can have lots of fun without the jealousy x |
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Doesn't affect us at all, after all it's just sex, not love. At first we wondered if the sight of the other one fucking someone else would be too much, but we both agreed after the first time that it was exciting rather than anything else. We didn't have any problems with separate room swaps or sleeping swapped either. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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I'm a bit odd, swinging wise, no I don't suffer from the green eyed monster.
However in everyday life occasionally it will poke it's ugly head up and usually for the most silly things.
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Actually, I can get a little jealous at times. But only when I've seen him really make a woman scream in pleasure, I'm just sat there watching and I'm wishing it was me instead!
If he does he hides it well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope no way not in the slightest do I get jealous.
I don't like that at Dogging meets the girls like to have all the men to themselves so you have to move on. I'd share, And 2 of my fuck buddies have "bi Swinging wife's" the gilrs wont play with me as I'm seem as a threat. Its just sex!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is always someone better with more than you
Appreciate your assets be they physical or financial
Enjoy yourself and be free to enjoy others
Jealousy is a cancer
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"There is always someone better with more than you
Appreciate your assets be they physical or financial
Enjoy yourself and be free to enjoy others
Jealousy is a cancer
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make the most of what you have got, and not worry about what others might or might not be getting |
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male half here - when another guy has some wonderful technique producing great effects and you don't know what it is - but the "jealosy pang" has receded as you find most folk forthcoming and happy to share ideas with someone who is genuinely interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Jealousy is a primordial human instinct, originally essential to the continuation of the species.
It's human nature to guard what we consider ours.
Ill-advised for swingers, though, I suppose....
Xxx |
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"Jealousy is a primordial human instinct, originally essential to the continuation of the species.
It's human nature to guard what we consider ours.
Ill-advised for swingers, though, I suppose....
Xxx"
So do you suffer from it then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jealousy is a primordial human instinct, originally essential to the continuation of the species.
It's human nature to guard what we consider ours.
Ill-advised for swingers, though, I suppose....
Xxx
So do you suffer from it then?"
Of course. It just has to be mastered like everything else.xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealous, no, not at all.
My Fab Friends are people who I really like. I want them to have fun, enjoy themselves and take opportunities when they come around.
I wish my Fab Friends could meet more people and give me more ideas "
My thoughts exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jealous, no, not at all.
My Fab Friends are people who I really like. I want them to have fun, enjoy themselves and take opportunities when they come around.
I wish my Fab Friends could meet more people and give me more ideas
My thoughts exactly "
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